Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

SURPRISE! Where Are We Going Next?

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 04:49:57 GMT

If you're a longtime, loyal listener of the show, we wish to thank you for tuning in regularly to learn the what, why, and how to connect better with your teen athlete and performer.

After 140+ episodes, most of which consisted of us bantering back and forth about all things parenting, coaching, and teen athletes, we feel we have shared our message from front to back and back to front again.

Beginning with Episode 144 we will be moving in a new direction where we depart from our usual weekly, Monday show to a focus on interviewing outstanding guests one to two times per month.

We will catalogue our other episodes so you can quickly access the specific topics you are most interested in and then will direct our attention to providing value to you Most Valuable Parents by bringing you people who are or have lived within your world as high achieving moms and dads raising amazing teens!

If you have any suggestions for guests, please send your suggestions to me (Steve Galley) on LinkedIn. Thank you!

Nate & Steve

"Stop Parenting & Start Coaching?" What in the World Does That Mean?!

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 03:55:19 GMT

"Stop Parenting & Start Coaching." Yeah, we know it's a bit provocative. Yes, we know it turns some people away. But for the high achieving parents and their teens that we work with, it makes perfect sense.

Give us a few minutes and we'll tell you exactly what it means to us and why it could just be what you need to reduce the friction in the conversations and relationships with your teen athlete or performer. Let's go MVPs!

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-Nate & Steve

Blueprint to Bluechip: A Conversation with Erin Sarles & Thomas Roe

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 05:50:30 GMT

Character architects. Decision makers. Putting the fun and joy back back into playing sports. Yeah, let's do this. In today's special guest episode we talk with Erin Sarles and Thomas Roe, the dynamic duo and cofounders of Bluechip to Blueprint. You're gonna love this one moms and dads!

Erin Sarles brings 20+ years of corporate executive expertise to the youth sports arena, where she saw firsthand—as both a professional and a mother of competitive athletes—the devastating impact of performance-based identity. As CEO and co-creator of Blueprint to Bluechip's proprietary CADI Framework (Character Over Clout, Accountability Over Excuses, Discipline Over Motivation, Integrity Over Image), Erin addresses the character crisis in youth sports with the same systematic rigor she brought to developing corporate leaders.

Thomas Roe co-founded Blueprint to Bluechip after spending decades building and repairing bodies—and witnessing the character crises that come when physical development outpaces personal development. As founder of TRoe Fitness-Sports Rehab & Recovery, Thomas has trained athletes at every level, from professionals to weekend warriors & every athlete in between. Thomas understands that sustainable success in sports requires more than physical strength.

You can get in touch with Erin and Thomas here: Let's Talk! You can also find them on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook. Search for Blueprint to Bluechip.

The Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to the Journey

01:58 The Athletic Experience and Its Impact

05:23 The Birth of Blueprint to Bluechip

07:47 Dysfunction in Youth Sports

14:19 Character Development in Sports

19:11 Becoming Character Architects

22:51 Navigating Challenges in Sports and Life

25:12 Consequences of Careless Decisions

26:24 Character Development in Sports

27:40 The Dilemma of Specialization

28:51 Supporting Your Child's Dreams

31:34 The Risks of Single-Sport Focus

35:14 Aligning Goals with Reality

38:55 The CADI Framework for Decision Making

42:35 Encouragement for Parents

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-Nate & Steve

Steve's Big Confession!

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 05:28:02 GMT

Parents, this episode is personal. Steve makes a big confession that gets right to the heart of coaching, parenting, pride, and the mindset shifts that can either help your teen grow or quietly hold them back. So...let's get right to the truth. Are you helping your teen think for themselves, or are you still stuck giving advice that no longer lands? In this episode, we unpack the difference between coaching and consulting, why human connection matters, and how better questions can create real growth at home.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Misconception of Coaching Worth

03:12 Understanding the Barriers to Coaching

06:02 The Importance of High-Level Coaching

08:27 The Distinction Between Coaching and Consulting

11:07 Encouraging Independent Thinking in Parenting

Takeaways

Why Everyone Deserves Coaching (Why Steve was Wrong!)
How pride and ignorance hinder coaching
The difference between coaching and consulting
The importance of human connection in coaching
The role of follow-up questions in effective coaching
Parenting strategies to develop kids' thinking skills

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: How Much is TOO Much?

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 01:52:17 GMT

What if your teen does not need more pressure, more reminders, or more to-do’s, but better clarity? In this conversation, we fire some easy fastballs down the middle and then unleash a curveball that's gonna make your knees wobble a bit!

Let's face what your teen is facing if their schedule is packed tighter than a dugout with 25 stinky baseball players. Le'ts also step up to the plate and learn how The Question Only Conversation can help you guide their decisions with better communication that gets built upon playing the long game with trust!

Let's go Most Valuable Parents--you got this!

The Timestamps

00:00 The Badge (& Burden) of Busyness

03:18 Balancing School, Sports, and Social Life

05:57 The Importance of Honest Conversations

08:49 Introducing the Curveball: The #4 Category

10:43 Navigating Priorities as a Parent

Takeaways

Teens can only be GREAT in 2 of these 3 areas: school, sports, social life.
Honest conversations about priorities build trust and clarity.
Adding a job can teach valuable life skills but compromises them and increases stress.
Parents should use targeted questions to guide teens' decision-making.
Clarity about priorities leads to better time management, productivity, and well-being.

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-Nate & Steve

ROB GEERTSEN: His Son's High School Transfer Story

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 01:20:30 GMT

If you’ve ever contemplated a school transfer for your high school son or daughter and asked “Should we stay… or should we go?” you’re not alone! In this episode, we interview Rob Geertsen, a proud and present father and an experienced coach. Rob tells his son Zack's high school transfer story—what they did before any paperwork, how they evaluated the new environment, and why academics and “culture fit” mattered as much or more than the athletics.

If you are mulling over whether transferring is the right thing for your son/daughter, Rob will share what requires serious consideration before making the move.

Let's go Most Valuable Parents!!!

Want to talk to Rob personally about your transfer questions? Contact him at robert.geertsen@canyonsdistrict.org. We guarantee that he will find time for you if you are genuinely interested in an honest and straightforward conversation!

The Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Zack Geertsen's HS Transfer Story

02:57 The Decision to Transfer Schools

06:57 Defining Success for Zack

11:33 Culture is Critical

14:57 Involving Zack in the Decision-Making Process

18:50 Due Diligence Before the Transfer

23:26 Exit Conversations and Integration into New Team

30:14 The Commitment of a Dedicated Parent

33:58 Navigating Challenges of Transfer Decisions

36:51 Building Relationships in a New Environment

42:24 The Reality of Making the Transfer

45:07 Advice for Parents Considering Transfers

49:25 The Risks of Transferring for the Wrong Reasons

55:06 Reflecting on the Journey and Future Aspirations

57:34 Wrapping Up with Wisdom and Humor

59:09 OUTRO Video BK 2025 FINAL.mp4

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Are You Sleeping on This?!

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 00:45:47 GMT

Here’s the truth: sleep is a system, not a character issue. So if your plan is “hope they choose better,” you’ll keep getting the same results. In this episode, we ask the questions you need to build a practical sleep system with mutual agreements. Using our Question Only Conversation approach will increase buy-in and cooperation that will help you both sleep well--like a baby (that doesn't wake up all night!).

And if you stick around to the end you'll get the 3-2-1 framework, a simple system to help you create a high performance sleep habit!!

Let's goooooooooooo................................to sleep! Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Importance of Sleep Conversations

02:47 Understanding Sleep as a Biological Need

05:24 Empowering Teens to Own Their Sleep

08:12 Effective Communication Strategies for Parents

10:07 The Question-Only Conversation Technique

12:28 Challenging the Grind Mentality

14:50 Creating a Sleep Agreement

17:45 The 321 Sleep Framework

Key Topics

-Sleep is a system, not a character issue.

-Mutual sleep agreements and conversations must happen.

-The tried and true 3-2-1 sleep framework!

-Question-only conversations to influence teen behavior.

- The impact of sleep on performance and mental health.

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Are They Getting Enough?!

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 05:48:36 GMT

Teen sleep isn’t just “discipline”—it’s biology. We unpack the teen brain, circadian shifts, recovery, and why inconsistent schedules sabotage energy and focus. We also talk school start times and the ripple effects on mental health and performance. Then we translate it into practical routines you can actually implement by sharing our Sleep Starter Pack with you. Let's go Most Valuable Parents!!!!

The Timestamps

00:00 The Importance of Sleep for Performance

03:12 Understanding Recovery and Brain Development

05:55 Equipping Teens for Better Sleep

08:43 The Impact of Sleep on Mental Health and Injury Prevention

10:57 The Role of Consistency in Sleep Patterns

13:13 Advocating for Later School Start Times

15:35 The Sleep Starter Pack: Practical Tips for Parents

Takeaways

-Equipping kids with energy is crucial for performance.

-Sleep is essential for brain development and recovery.

-Teens need 8 to 10 hours of sleep for optimal health.

-Sleep problems can lead to emotional and mental health issues.

-Inadequate sleep increases the risk of injury in teens.

-Consistency in sleep schedules is vital for teens.

-School start times should be later to benefit students.

-Parents should engage in conversations about sleep with their teens.

-Creating a sleep starter pack can help facilitate discussions.

-Understanding the biological needs of teens can improve sleep habits.

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-Nate & Steve

Are You in the Market for Relationship Insurance?

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 01:23:36 GMT

In this episode--the third in a series about playing time--we get blunt and right to the truth about the fact that parents struggle to stay neutral. Confirmation bias creeps in and rescuing becomes a habit. What follows is pressure and tension in every conversation or or coach bashing ensues. You love them so much and your intentions are pure, but why is this not working? Much of it is the proximity of you to them and the emotions swirling around in this relationship.

So we give you a better play: protect the sacred parent-teen relationship with “relationship insurance.” Learn how to communicate without escalating and how to support emotionally without performing as their designated sport coach.

As well as understanding that a neutral, outside voice is the smartest move you can make for your teen’s development—and your connection.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Challenge of Coaching Your Own Kids

02:23 Understanding Parental Bias in Youth Sports

05:10 The Impact of Emotional Proximity

07:56 The Role of Outside Voices in Mindset Coaching

10:45 Navigating Status Panic and Expectations

13:09 Building Relationship Insurance with Teens

Takeaways

-Parents often struggle with neutrality when coaching their own children.

-Confirmation bias can cloud parents' judgment regarding their child's performance.

-Rescuing behavior can undermine a teen's ability to handle challenges independently.

-Neutrality is essential for effective mindset coaching.

-Outside voices can provide valuable support and perspective for teens.

-Parents should focus on emotional support rather than performance pressure.

-The relationship between parents and teens is sacred and irreplaceable.

-Bringing in outside voices helps maintain a safe and supportive environment for teens.

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-Nate & Steve

Duct Tape, Yeah-Buts, & Anchors!!

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 03:38:22 GMT

Playing time is a pressure cooker because it pokes at every parent trigger: fairness, status, control, fear, and helplessness. And if we’re honest, it can feel personal—even when it isn’t. In today's conversation, we deliver a fantastic "reframe" to help you model a healthy response to non-preferred outcomes so your teen learns the real life skill: dealing with disappointment without losing identity, effort, or connection. You’ll learn how to spot your “yeah, buts,” reset your expectations, and have the kind of calm, clear conversation that builds trust—especially when your teen is already on edge.

Let's gooooooooooooo Most Valuable Parents!!

The Timestamps

00:00 Navigating Playing Time and Parental Pride

03:23 Understanding Control and Helplessness in Sports

06:29 Expectations and Communication with Teens

08:43 Life Lessons from Sports and Non-Preferred Outcomes

11:42 The Duct Tape Analogy: Managing Emotions

14:40 The 24-Hour Rule: Emotional Recovery

16:18 Reframing the Parent-Teen Dynamic

Takeaways

-Playing time can induce trauma for both parents and teens.

-Understanding what is within our control is crucial in handling "playing time."

-Parents should model healthy emotional responses to outcomes.

-The 24-hour rule helps in managing emotional reactions.

-Identifying 'yeah, buts' can clarify our emotional responses.

-Being an anchor for our teens is more important than rescuing them.

-Life skills are learned in sports by responding well to non-preferred outcomes.

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-Nate & Steve

Are You a "Mild Manager" or "Perturbed Prosecutor?!"

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 21:53:09 GMT

Newsflash! Life isn’t fair. Yep, we all know it! And high school sports and competition are no exception. "It's not fair!" -- the common refrain heard among parents and players and yes, even coaches! And guess what? You are probably right when you're screaming "that is NOT fair!"

But your teen athlete or performer doesn’t needs a parent who coaches them into Blaming, Complaining, Defending and Explaining. This perpetuates a victim mindset!

In this episode, we coach you through the two things you can always control: your perspective and your response. We’ll unpack why complaining feels productive (but usually backfires), how to keep connection strong when emotions run hot, and how to lead like a calm, mild manager instead of an angry, perturbed prosecutor. If you want your teen athlete to build resilience and confidence under pressure, this starts with how you handle “it's not fair!!”

The Timestamps

00:00 The Fairness Addiction

03:14 Playing Time and Parental Perspectives

05:59 The Poison of Complaining

08:45 Understanding Coaches' Decisions

11:34 Perspective and Emotional Discipline

13:30 Important Questions for Parents

16:02 The Prosecutor vs. Manager Mindset

18:59 Modeling Behavior for Teens

Takeaways

Fairness can become an addiction that affects our mindset.
Complaining about unfairness can lead to negative outcomes.
Life is inherently unfair, and we must learn to accept that.
Parents should focus on what they can control in sports.
Understanding the coach's perspective can help mitigate feelings of unfairness.
Modeling emotional discipline is crucial for parents.
Questions can help parents gain perspective on their child's situation.
It's important to avoid labeling coaches negatively without understanding their decisions.
Parents should strive to be managers rather than prosecutors in sports situations.
Maintaining a positive outlook can benefit both parents and athletes.

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Should I Just Do Nothing?!

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 23:16:42 GMT

Here’s the hard truth: the moment your teen feels evaluated, the conversation gets worse—and so does your influence. In this episode, we help you build emotional safety without lowering standards, and teach you how to stay calm when your teen isn’t. You’ll get simple, real-life ways to respond when things get tense--when you start feeling "judgy"--plus actionable steps you can use today to reduce conflict, strengthen connection, and support your teen athlete’s mindset the smart way.

Hang in there because we're going to drop The 5 Second Lane Test, a simple tool you'll want to have in your Parental Toolkit when you are about ready to make a communication error. This tool is dynamite and will help you blow up the old you and allow you to parent from a neutral position!! Let's goooooooooooo!

The Timestamps

00:00 Navigating Parenting Challenges

02:58 The Role of Non-Parental Coaches

05:51 Building a Safe Home Base

08:33 Understanding Emotional Regulation

11:29 The Importance of Neutrality

14:04 Action Steps for Parents

16:29 The Five Second Lane Test

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PARENTS: Are You "The Fixer?"

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 18:51:50 GMT

Here’s the hard truth: your teen athlete/performer might be hiding struggles because they don’t want your common reaction. You tend to activate full-blown Fixer Mode! This doesn't make you a "bad parent" but there is a better way to approach this situation and the opportunity for growth and improved connection is waiting for you.

In our bantering and discussion in this episode we call out the mistake we ALL make as parents because we love our offspring so much! We want to FIX their problems for them when sometimes they just want and need us to listen in a way that creates some safety and space to get something off their chest. Asking questions that allow them to be open and honest sets you up to coach your teen athlete/performer into creating their own solutions and building confidence. All without turning every moment into a lecture or a fix it session.

Let's gooooooooooo Most Valuable Parents!

The Timestamps

00:00 Understanding Teen Struggles

02:33 The Role of Parents as Fixers

05:30 Listening vs. Fixing: The Emotional Safety

08:13 Effective Communication Strategies

10:57 The Detective Approach to Parenting

14:00 Supporting Teen Growth and Independence

Takeaways

-Teens may hide struggles to avoid parental "fixing."

-Parents often jump into problem-solving mode too quickly.

-Emotional safety is crucial for open communication.

-Listening is more important than providing immediate solutions.

-The "curse of knowledge" can hinder effective parenting.

-Asking questions can empower teens to find their own solutions.

-Parents should adopt a "detective" approach to understand situations better.

-Fixing problems can sometimes damage the parent-teen connection.

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Are You Making this Same Mistake Other Parents are Making?!

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 13:00:00 GMT

Wanna know how to pause, find the “why” behind your reaction, and respond like a calm, high-performance coach—not a panicked or crazed bleacher creature?! Stick with us in this episode because we have some burning questions for you along with a few simple preemptive strikes you can launch before the next competition, plus some communication moves that protect connection with your high achieving teen athlete or performer, especially when emotions run red hot!

The Timestamps

00:00 The Common Parental Mistake

03:18 Understanding Emotional Reactions

05:17 The Impact of Highly Emotional Reactions on Relationships

08:00 Navigating a Coach's Substitutions and Your Teen's Mistakes

10:22 The Importance of a Big Picture Perspective

12:33 Preemptive Strike Strategies for Parents Before the Competition

Takeaways

-Reactions can create blind spots that hinder understanding.

-Parents often react without realizing the impact on their children.

-Emotional attachment can drive irrational responses.

-It's crucial to pause and reflect on a proper response vs. a knee jerk reaction.

-Understanding the 'why' behind reactions can prevent misunderstandings.

-Parents should focus on what truly matters in competitive situations.

-Preemptive strike strategies can help manage emotional responses.

-Communication is key to maintaining healthy relationships with teens.

-Parents should strive to be aware of their emotional triggers.

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You Think You Know--BLIND SPOTS!!

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 13:00:00 GMT

If you’ve ever thought, “Why isn’t what worked in business working at home?” you’re not alone. Today we unpack how successful parents can accidentally bring the wrong playbook into parenting their high achieving teen athletes and performers. You’ll leave with simple, introspective coaching questions that expose blind spots and rebuild trust with your teen athlete or performer.

The Timestamps

00:00 Exploring Imperfection and Safety in Parenting

03:11 Understanding Blind Spots in Parenting

05:29 The Complexity of Parenting and Teen Relationships

07:02 Assumptions and Their Impact on Parenting

09:51 Navigating Different Parenting Styles

11:43 Questions for Reflection and Growth in Parenting

Takeaways

-Teens have a high awareness of their flaws.

-Creating a safe space for imperfection is crucial.

-Blind spots in parenting can lead to misunderstandings.

-Understanding a teen's perspective is essential.

-Assumptions can negatively impact parent-teen relationships.

-Communication should focus on feelings, not just facts.

-Self-awareness is key in parenting.

-Parents should reflect on their motivations for corrections.

-The complexity of human relations makes parenting challenging.

-Identifying blind spots can improve relationships with teens.

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PARENTS: Can SPECIALIZATION Be a GOOD Thing?! (Part 4 of 4)

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 13:00:00 GMT

PARENTS: In Part 4 of 4 of our "specialization series" we tackle the hard questions and attempt to get you thinking about your thinking on WHEN is the time right, if it's right!

Exclusive grind with no guardrails? Mmmm, not the way to go. BUT, and this is a big BUT...specialization isn’t automatically “bad”—it can protect joy when the timing is right and the environment is supportive. We give you clear criteria to decide: Is your teen choosing this with energy? Do they have clarity and support? And just as important—do they have an identity beyond being “the athlete”? This is parenting teen athletes with a coaching mindset: connection first, performance follows.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Debate on Specialization in Sports

03:13 When Specialization Becomes Harmful

06:09 Criteria for Healthy Specialization

08:49 The Importance of Timing and Support

11:40 Identifying the Red Flags

13:47 Final Thoughts on Specialization

Takeaways

-Specialization can protect joy but can also be harmful.

-Timing is crucial; specialization should be later in teens.

-Joy in sports is essential for healthy development.

-Parents should focus on their child's happiness, not just rankings.

-Overuse injuries and burnout are risks of early specialization.

-A supportive environment can mitigate the pressures of specialization.

-Athletes should have multiple identities beyond just being a player.

-Criteria for specialization include joy, clarity, and support.

-The focus should be on the child's experience.

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PARENTS: Take Your Teen's STRENGTHS SNAPSHOT! (Part 3 of 4)

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 13:30:00 GMT

NOTE: This is Part 3 of 4 in a series on Specialization! You want your teen to succeed—and love the journey while they do it. In this episode, we uncover the secrets behind self-driven performance, fewer injuries, and the joy of playing sports for fun. It all starts with seeing your teen in a whole new way: through the lens of strengths. We’re talking about how to spot your teen’s real strengths, what to do with them, and why the “Strengths Snapshot” tool could change the game for both of you.

The Timestamps!

00:00 Identifying Teen Strengths

03:00 The Strengths Snapshot Tool

05:49 Durability and Health in Sports

08:15 Self-Initiation vs. Parental Push

11:11 Secondary Sports and Holistic Development

13:50 Guardrails for Youth Sports

16:39 Long-Term Development and Enjoyment

19:00 Rec Ball vs. Competitive Sports

21:45 Conclusion and Future Topics

Takeaways

-Identifying strengths is crucial for teen development.

-Clarity in understanding strengths leads to better outcomes.

-The Strengths Snapshot tool helps assess teen capabilities.

-Durability in sports is linked to fewer injuries and better performance.

-Self-initiation in practice is more valuable than forced participation.

-Parents should observe their teens' self-driven activities.

-Balance organized sports with free play for holistic development.

-Rec ball can be a valuable outlet for enjoyment and skill development.

-Avoid over-specialization to prevent burnout and injuries.

-Engaging in multiple sports can enhance overall athletic performance.

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3 Super Dangerous Sport Specialization Myths Parents Believe! Part 2 of 4)

Mon, 08 Dec 2025 20:57:34 GMT

If you’re like most driven parents of teen athletes, you’ve been told you’ll “miss the boat” if your kid doesn’t specialize early, that early success proves their long-term trajectory, and that more hours always mean more results. In this episode, we unpack and debunk those dangerous myths, show you what college coaches actually look for, and explain why multi-sport focused experience and unstructured play often beat year-round exclusive grind. You’ll walk away with a clearer, saner game plan to protect your teen’s body, joy, and long-term performance. Let's goooooooooooooooooo!

NOTE: This is Part 2 of 4 in a series on Specialization!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Debunking Specialization Myths in Youth Sports

09:52 Understanding Early Success vs. Long-Term Trajectory

15:02 The Value of Varied Experiences in Youth Sports

16:00 Debunking the Myth of More Hours Equals More Success

18:24 Understanding Organized Sports and Risk Management

19:07 The Reality of College Coaches' Preferences

20:51 The Importance of Unstructured Play

21:51 Recognizing Warning Signs in Young Athletes

24:43 Clarity as the Key to Athletic Commitment

Takeaways

-Specialization myths can put teens at risk.

-Early specialization leads to higher injury rates.

-Multi-sport participation promotes long-term physical and mental health.

-Parents often mistake early success for long term trajectory.

-College coaches prefer well-rounded athletes, not just specialists.

-More practice hours do not guarantee success.

-Kids need unstructured playtime for healthy development.

-Monitoring mood changes in athletes is crucial.

-Clarity of purpose in a given activity is king!

The Research:

Sports-Specialized Intensive Training and the Risk of Injury in Young AthletesJayanthi NA et al. Am J Sports Med. 2015.

Overuse Injuries and Burnout in Youth Sports: A Position Statement from the American Medical Society for Sports MedicineDiFiori JP et al. Clin J Sport Med. 2014.

Associations of Early Sport Specialization and High Training Volume With Injury Rates in NCAA Division I AthletesAhlquist S et al. Orthop J Sports Med. 2020.

Early Sport Specialization Is Not a Prerequisite for Elite Success (AOSSM Consensus)LaPrade RF et al. Orthop J Sports Med. 2016.

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Should Your Teen Athlete Specialize or Sample? (Part 1 of 4)

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 00:57:35 GMT

If you’re like most high-achieving parents, you’ve probably heard, “If your teen doesn’t choose one sport now, they’ll fall behind.” In this episode, we slow that conversation way down and begin a walk through what specialization actually is, where it helps and where it hurts.

We know this is a big deal and you're right in the thick of it. The clock is ticking on your teen's formative years. We get it--we've been there and know what you're experiencing. And we're going to address all angles of the specialization debate in a 4 part series. By the end, you’ll possess more clarity on what’s right for your son or daughter regardless of what everyone else on and off the court, field or stage is doing! Let's get started. Should your teen specialize or sample?!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Specialization Discussion (& sometime debate) Begins

02:10 Defining Specialization in Youth Sports

04:20 Cautionary Tales: The Risks of Over-Specialization

07:12 The Pressure of Performance: Parental Expectations

09:59 Focus vs. Exclusive Grind

12:51 Individual Sports & Specialization

15:26 The Impact of Burnout on Young Athletes

18:36 Awareness and the System: Navigating Youth Sports

21:27 The Importance of Recreational Sports

24:20 Finding Balance: Exposure vs. Development

27:15 Concluding Thoughts: The Path Forward for Parents

Takeaways

-Specialization in youth sports is a nuanced topic.

-Many parents may not openly admit they are pushing specialization.

-Over-specialization can lead to burnout and loss of joy.

-Parental expectations can create pressure on young athletes.

-It's important to define what specialization means.

-Rec sports provide a less stressful environment for kids.

-Burnout is a significant risk for young athletes.

-Self-awareness and awareness of the system is crucial for parents.

-Exposure to various sports can benefit long-term development.

-Finding balance between focus and variety is essential.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

Is the (High Performance) Machine Raging Against You?

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 05:04:03 GMT

Ever felt trapped in the "machine" of high performance?! Is that machine raging against you?! Today we explore the complexities of high performance in family dynamics, particularly in the context of youth sports with our ambitious, high achieving teen athletes and performers. We will discuss the risk that is present with ambition but also why you as parents should not necessarily run away from it. Communication and agreements will help you mitigate the risk--they are two critical components to help you avoid the traps in the high performance "machine." Through metaphors of ocean waves and lifeguarding, we will illustrate the need for proactive parenting and the value of regular check-ins to navigate the challenges of highly competitive environments. Let's gooooooooooooooo!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Raging Against the Machine: High Performance and Family Dynamics

03:25 Navigating the Waves: Understanding High Performance Expectations

05:56 The Silent Tension: Communication Gaps in Parenting

09:00 Preparing for the Unexpected: Conversations with Teens

11:45 Lifeguard Parenting: Being Proactive in High Performance Situations

Takeaways

-High performance creates pressure and expectations.

-Parents often unintentionally place their teen athletes in challenging situations.

-Communication gaps can lead to silent tensions in relationships.

-It's important to prepare teens for potential risks in high performance.

-Regular check-ins can help parents understand their teens' pressures.

-Expectations should be replaced with agreements for better understanding.

-Understanding the risks and underlying dynamics of high performance environments is crucial for effective parenting.

-Parents can act as lifeguards, helping their teen athletes navigate challenges.

-Being proactive can prevent kids from getting overwhelmed.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

Dr. Andrea D. Mata, PhD is Back for Part 2!

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 21:44:03 GMT

NOTE: This is Part 2 of our conversation with Andrea. Check out Episode 121 for Part 1! In this episode with Dr. Andrea Mata we knock out gentle parenting and expose it's major flaws while exploring and defining how to parent well in this Gen Z world. Andrea ("Dr. Dre") spells out the simple ways we can authoritatively parent and lead better.

If you are the ambitious parent of a go-getter teen athlete or performer, this episode is custom built for you. We hope you enjoy it--let us know what you think by commenting or sending us feedback at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. THANKS!

All the links and places to find and connect with Dr. Andrea Mata are listed after the show notes below!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Intro -- This is Part 2--listen to EP 121 for Part 1

02:31 Emotional Regulation Strategies for Teens

12:20 The Debate on Gentle Parenting

18:45 Balancing Authority and Connection in Parenting

21:41 Common Pitfalls in Parent-Teen Connections

26:08 Embracing Natural Consequences in Parenting

27:26 The Impact of 'Be Careful' on Child Development

29:37 Understanding Obsessive Compulsive Disorder in Teens

31:47 The Importance of Allowing Struggles for Growth

32:39 Connecting with Dr. Andrea Mata: Resources and Social Media

34:38 Thriving with the Stars--Charity/Dance Experience!

37:18 Ohio State Football & Michigan '24: A Diehard Fan's Perspective

43:52 Encouragement for Overwhelmed Parents

Takeaways

-Emotional regulation is essential.

-Emotional regulation skills is best taught during calm.

-Modeling behavior beats lecturing.

-Gentle parenting is not the way.

-Setting high expectations is the way!

-Listening beats lecturing!

-Natural consequences are critical.

-"Be careful" can hinder children's ability to assess risks.

-Parents can always develop new skills to improve their parenting.

Andrea's TedX Talk--From Murder to Mission: How I Found My Life's Calling

Andrea's LinkedIn

Andrea's YouTube Channel

Andrea on the Tamron Hall Show

The No. 2 Parenting Book: Practical Tips for the Pooped Out Parent

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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"MY BAD" is NOT GOOD--There's a Better Way!

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 05:04:51 GMT

"Our bad!" We should've recorded this episode years ago! All kidding aside, "my bad" stinks and we'll tell you why in today's episode where we explore the concept of apologies! Particularly focusing on the phrase "my bad" and its implications. We'll discuss the sincerity behind admitting fault and "apologizing," the importance of genuine change, and introduce "The Repair Loop" as a tool for better, more effective apologies. And it will all come down to the role of parents in modeling sincere apologies for their teens and the need for actionable change following an acknowledgment of mistakes.

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Meaning of Apologies

03:13 The Impact of Language on Apologies

06:18 The Psychology Behind 'My Bad'

09:18 The Repair Loop: A Tool for Genuine Change

12:08 Modeling Behavior for Your Teens

13:14 Real-World Examples of Apologies in Action

15:20 Focusing on Your Standards and Values

17:52 Creating Meaningful Change

Takeaways

-Apologies can often be insincere and merely lip service.

-The phrase 'my bad' is a weak apology.

-Sincerity in apologies is crucial for genuine change.

-The Repair Loop consists of acknowledging, analyzing, and acting to repair mistakes.

-Modeling proper apology behavior is important for parents.

-Teens often mimic their parents' apology styles.

-Concrete actions following an apology validate the sincerity of the statement.

-Understanding the underlying values can enhance the effectiveness of apologies.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS--Dr. Dre is in the House! (Part 1 of 2)

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 05:48:32 GMT

NOTE: This is Part 1 of 2 with Andrea.

What does it take to break cycles, beat the odds, and build something better—for yourself and your family? In this episode, we sit down with "Dr. Dre" a.k.a. Andrea D. Mata, PhD—clinical psychologist, founder of BrightSpot Families, and unapologetic straight shooter. And should I mention, funny as all get out! From growing up in a gang-ridden neighborhood on Chicago’s south side to reshaping how families fight anxiety, Dr. Dre shares the raw truth about resilience, parenting, and mental health. Get ready for no-filter wisdom! Dr. Dre is in the house!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Andrea Mata and Her Mission

02:06 Dr. Mata's Journey and Background

04:01 The Impact of Dr. Mata's TED Talk

05:17 The Unique Approach of Dr. Mata's Book

07:52 Transitioning to Sports Psychology

09:54 The Importance of Composure Training

12:52 Emotional Regulation in Sports

18:38 Managing Parental Behavior at Games

21:26 Modeling Emotional Regulation for Teens

25:42 Navigating the Conversation Flow

LOOK FOR PART 2 with Dr. Andrea Mata, Ph.D coming soon within the next few weeks! In the meantime if you're looking for more from Dr. Dre here is where you may find her (and if you really want the Coop the Poop bookmark, connect with Andrea on LinkedIn and order the book directly from her--you can also get the book minus the bookmark on Amazon ("The No. 2 Parenting Book: Practical Tips for the Pooped Out Parent":

https://andreadmata.com/

https://www.brightspotfamilies.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@drdremata

https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-mata-ph-d-278765225/

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS -- Take Them Down a Notch? Let's NOT!

Mon, 27 Oct 2025 12:01:10 GMT

If you’ve ever said, “My teen needs to be taken down a notch,” this episode is your wake-up call. We break down why that mindset crushes confidence and how a coaching approach actually develops humility, strength, and real independence. You’ll learn how to use love, challenge, and questions—not control or shame—to raise high-performing, emotionally healthy teens.

In this episode, we dive into how humiliation, even when subtle, can derail your teen’s confidence and passion. Instead, we offer some powerful questions to guide your teen’s growth through thoughtful challenges, encouragement, and conversations that fuel both their character and their performance (even if they're a bit defiant!).

The Timestamps!

00:00 Introduction to Parenting Philosophy

02:15 The Concept of Taking Down a Notch

04:48 The Emotional Cost of Humiliation

07:40 Challenging Overconfidence in Teens

10:18 Healthy Alternatives to Humiliation

12:49 Encouraging Growth and Confidence

15:14 Conclusion and Call to Action

Takeaways

-Taking your teen down a notch can be harmful.

-Humiliation has staggering emotional costs for kids.

-Parents should foster confidence in their children.

-Redirecting defiance is more effective than punishment.

-Asking questions can help teens reflect on their behavior.

-Love is a stronger motivator than fear.

-Modeling humility is essential for parents.

-Encouraging service can teach gratitude and humility.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS--Is Your Family a Playoff Team?

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 05:03:59 GMT

Think your teen’s success starts with better training or coaching? Think again. It starts at home. The strongest teen athletes and performers come from families that operate like teams, playoff teams centered around clear communication, shared accountability, and mutual respect. Today we explore practical ways to build that kind of culture: from a united front to weekly huddles and making repairs in front of our teen athletes and performers. Because if your family functions like a playoff team, your teen will thrive wherever they play.

The Timestamps!

00:00 Family as a Playoff Team

03:25 Contradiction Audit in Family Dynamics

06:16 Modeling Teamwork in Parenting

08:57 Non-Negotiables for Effective Parenting

12:05 Implementing Family Huddles and Debriefs

Takeaways

-Approaching family dynamics like a playoff team can enhance overall well-being.

-Parents must model positive behavior for their children.

-A "contradiction audit" can reveal harmful family dynamics.

-Team sports serve as a foundation for life skills.

-Parents should focus on controllables in their teen's sports.

-Weekly family huddles can strengthen teamwork.

-Modeling reconciliation teaches children valuable lessons.

Leading discussions without blame or victimhood is a must!

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS--You CAN Handle the Truth!

Mon, 13 Oct 2025 12:01:04 GMT

Parents, here’s the hard truth: growth doesn’t happen where honesty is avoided. In Episode 118, we dive deep into why facing the truth—especially the uncomfortable kind—creates the breakthrough moments your teen athlete or performer needs. You’ll quickly learn how to apply our “3 Reframing R’s”—Reflect, Refocus, and Recommit—to transform your approach from typical parental reacting to coaching with clarity and power.

Moms and dads--we believe in you and we believe you CAN handle the truth!

The Timestamps

00:00 The Importance of Truth in Growth

02:15 Keys to Confronting the Truth

07:59 Personal Stories of Truth and Growth

12:46 The Three Rs: Reflect, Refocus, Recommit

Takeaways

-When you uncover more of the truth, the faster you grow.

-All progress starts with the truth. Rinse and repeat that!

-Be curious, not judgmental, when confronting the truth.

-Specificity helps focus on facts, not feelings.

-The 3 Reframing R's: Reflect, Refocus, & Recommit are a must!

-Consistency wins in all areas of life.

-Coaching can help identify blind spots.

-Accepting the truth opens doors for growth.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS--What in the World is Linguistic Intentionality?!

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 05:52:30 GMT

PARENTS—your words carry weight. If you're coaching a high-achieving teen, "linguistic intentionality" isn't optional—it's essential. In this episode, we break down why how you say something matters just as much as what you say. The way you communicate can build confidence, resilience, and trust—or do the opposite. This one’s packed with practical insight to help you level up your parenting (ahem, coaching) game. Let’s get into it.

The Timestamps!

00:00 Understanding Linguistic Intentionality

00:37 The Importance of Words in Communication

02:52 The Story of Finn: A Teen Athlete's Struggles

03:44 E + R = O: Event, Response, Outcome

04:40 Introducing The Controllable Compass

07:47 Role-Playing: Finn's Dad's Perspective

10:42 Emotional Responses and Self-Talk

13:07 Focus Management in Conversations

Takeaways

-Linguistic intentionality is crucial for effective communication.

-Words have a significant impact on relationships.

-Self-talk influences our emotional responses.

-E + R = O: Event + Response = Outcome.

-The Controllable Compass helps focus on responses.

-Clear purpose is essential in conversations.

-Maintaining a big picture perspective is important.

-Emotional awareness aids in better communication.

-Focus management helps prioritize what matters most.

-Preparation is key for intentional conversations.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

EP 116: Get Radically Honest! LinkedIn Live Replay

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 03:44:16 GMT

Steve goes on the hot seat!! Sizzle! This week's episode is a replay of a LinkedIn LIVE session where Nate plays himself (a high performance coach) and Steve plays a high achieving parent of a teen athlete or performer. It's time for Steve to "get radically honest!"

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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EP 115: NICOLE RUNYON: Parenting Teens through the Tech Storm!

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 00:01:56 GMT

High-achieving parents! You’ve got the ambition, the goals, and the work ethic. But tech doesn’t care. Tech and social media is working against you and your best efforts, pulling your high performing teen away from purpose into danger, anxiety, and crippling identity issues.

Nicole Runyon, a licensed psychotherapist, keynote speaker, wife, mother, and author of the book: Free to Fly: The Secret to Fostering Independence in the Next Generation, joins us to share the wisdom and necessity in reclaiming your role as a parent—not with your hands off the wheel or ruling with an iron fist—but as a true leader modeling high standards and setting firm, loving boundaries!

Grab Nicole's amazing book on Amazon!

https://www.amazon.com/Free-Fly-Fostering-Independence-Generation/dp/1637633777/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3EGOODJ8EUI4E&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._fX6I-u-FL4rocER5klg1g.q_jCFmZGbRL10f_wepkc7HBOC99Hr5t6LwETUpAukwE&dib_tag=se&keywords=nicole+runyon+free+to+fly&qid=1758574177&sprefix=nicole+runyon%2Caps%2C168&sr=8-1

Like audio? Get Nicole's book here on Audible:

https://www.audible.com/pd/Free-to-Fly-Audiobook/B0FNNRVJCT?source_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp

Nicole is most active on Linkedin. Find and follow her there: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolerunyonlmsw/

The Timestamps

00:00 Intro to Nicole Runyon

04:52 Nicole's Massive Shift!

09:18 The Role of Therapy & Parental Influence

11:25 Modeling Behavior

18:01 Navigating Discomfort & Resilience

22:17 Real-Life Examples of Parenting Challenges

29:30 Technology's Impact on Parenting& Boundaries

31:56 The Dangers of Roblox

33:05 Establishing Tech Boundaries for Families

40:19 Age-Specific Recommendations for Device Use

45:11 Addressing Parental Denial & Resistance

48:36 Building Connection with Resistant Teens

52:12 Self-Awareness in Parenting

58:50 Encouragement for Parents

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-Nate & Steve

EP 114: What Differeniates Nate & Steve from Parent Coaches?!

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 22:10:01 GMT

PARENTS: Please join us at a special LINKEDIN Live event just for you. "RADICALLY HONEST" are the words we'll be wrestling with! 30 minutes, short and sweet, 100% complimentary, and you, a Most Valuable Parent will be one of the stars! Click the link below to register!

RADICALLY HONEST, September 22nd @ 7:00 pm MST

Hey parents—what if the very thing you’re trying to fix in your teen isn’t actually the problem? In this episode, Steve and I dive into a powerful shift: moving from parenting strategies that control to coaching strategies that connect. We share how coaching the person, not the problem, can unlock massive growth—for your teen and for you.

Every breakthrough starts with honesty—and in this episode, we show you why. We break down how our nique hybrid coaching model transforms family dynamics, fosters connection, and gets measurable results. Whether your teen is an athlete, performer, or just trying to find their path, this is where real growth begins...with you!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Understanding the Unique Approach to Parenting Coaching

03:13 The Power of Elevating Parents

05:59 The Importance of Honesty and Clarity

08:47 The Hybrid Coaching Model

11:41 Measurable Growth and Family Dynamics

14:03 Join us on our September 22nd LinkedIn LIVE!

Takeaways

-We're not here to fix problems.

-All progress starts with the truth--RADICAL HONESTY required!

-We coach the parent and the teen athlete/performer, not the problem.

-When you focus on getting better, everything gets better.

-Our hybrid coaching model unleashes the multiplier effect.

-A proven method gives us coaching confidence.

-You can make it happen if you're willing to get to the truth.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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LinkedIn LIVE September 22nd, 2025

-Nate & Steve

EP 113: PARENTS--Let's Get RADICALLY HONEST!

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 21:16:43 GMT

PARENTS--Let’s get radical! Let's get honest! We might as well get RADICALLY HONEST!! Traditional parenting often breaks down when your teen starts to compete or perform at a higher level. What they need isn't more control, it's a shift from your best parenting to skilled coaching. We dive into what radical honesty really means, how to reset communication, and why your own growth as a parent is the key to unlocking theirs. It’s not about pushing harder—it’s about connecting deeper. Let's go MVP's!!

You're cordially invited to join us on a LinkedIn LIVE on Monday, September 22nd at 7-7:30 pm MST. It will be informative, interactive, and it's 100% free (really). And did I mention it will be a lot of fun?! See you there! NATE & STEVE: LINKEDIN LIVE--The RADICALLY HONEST Conversation for crazy busy high achieving parents of high performing teen athletes!

The Timestamps

00:00 The Need for Coaching Beyond Youth

03:20 Parental Growth and Connection

06:16 The Impact of Expectations on Performance

08:35 The Importance of Radical Honesty

10:48 Transitioning from Parenting to Coaching

12:45 Invitation to the PRIME your MIND for PARENTS LinkedIn LIVE

Takeaways

-Coaching is essential for both teens and parents.

-Parents often stop seeking coaching as they grow older.

-The demands of parenting require continuous personal growth.

-Parental growth can significantly impact teen performance.

-Controlling the controllables is crucial for parents.

-Teens often struggle with external expectations.

-Radical honesty is the foundation for growth.

-Shifting from parenting to coaching reduces conflict.

-Parents should seek coaching to better support their teens.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

EP 112: PARENTS: We'll Fight You Over THIS!

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 22:03:34 GMT

"Nobody needs coaching" (say it in a bit of a whiny voice for added effect). While that is a common "hot take" out there in the coaching space, we 100% go against the grain on that statement. Those are fightin' words to us!

After 55ish combined years of coaching, parenting, and marital (mostly) bliss...we strongly contend that while everyone may not want a coach or aspire to be coached, Everyone Needs a Coach!! Tune in to this short but hard punching episode where we will present the arguments against the "nobody needs coaching" statement and throw a few haymakers in presenting our case for the necessity of coaching.

Are you ready for coaching?!

Takeaways

-Everyone needs a coach to help them grow.

-Individual athletes often have coaches to address blind spots.

-A great coach acts as your externalized prefrontal cortex.

-Coaching accelerates the rate of improvement. Go further, faster with coaching!

-Parents should shift from parenting to coaching their teens.

-Coaching is not just for professional athletes; it's for everyone.

-Coaching helps in elevating all areas of life consistently.

-EVERYONE NEEDS A COACH.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

EP 111: PARENTS--We Want You to Get M.A.D.!

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 00:50:21 GMT

Parenting is the hardest job and there's not a close second. So what if you just decided to focus on getting "M.A.D.?!" We do what we do because we want to be M.A.D. 24/7/365 if at all possible. Tune in to find out why being a M.A.D. parent will help you to help your high performing teen to soar! If you model this yourself as a high achieving mom or dad, your teen is likely to become a M.A.D.M.A.N. or M.A.D.W.O.M.A.N. too!

The Timestamps

00:00 Exploring the Why Behind Our Actions

02:58 The Impact of Mentorship on Youth

05:46 The Joy of Coaching and Making a Difference

10:58 Creating a Unique Coaching Model

Takeaways

-Understanding our motivations can lead to personal growth.

-Every child needs coaches and mentors outside of their parents.

-Coaching is about making a difference in lives.

-The joy of coaching comes from seeing others succeed.

-Life lessons learned through sports are invaluable.

-Authentic connections in coaching enhance learning.

-Parents can elevate their coaching skills for better outcomes.

-The be mad philosophy emphasizes making a difference.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

EP 110: PARENTS -- Are You In Alignment?

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 04:31:08 GMT

Raising high-achieving teens is not about pushing harder—it’s about aligning better. We reveal how you can use coaching strategies that keep your teen motivated, connected, and resilient—even when the inevitable, emotional potholes appear. And teens face dozens of emotional potholes in an average school day. It's easy for them to get out of alignment quickly which in turn can create alignment problems with you as a parent.

We've faced this pothole/alignment issue as dads, coaches, and teachers. Let's take this whole pothole thing head on and explore some practical solutions that you can implement with your teen right away!

The Timestamps

00:00 Understanding Alignment in Relationships

03:03 Emotional Potholes and Their Impact

06:00 Navigating Values and Goals

08:17 The Importance of Check-Ins

11:07 Closing Thoughts on Alignment

Takeaways

-Alignment is crucial in relationships, not just for cars.

-Teens face bigger and faster emotional swings than parents.

-Parents and teens often share the same goals but can misalign.

-Emotional potholes knock teens out of their alignment.

-Values play a significant role in maintaining alignment with goals.

-Regular check-ins can help assess emotional states.

-Parents should focus on relationship value over achievement.

-Strong connection helps teens get back on track faster.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

EP 109: PARENTS--Are You Confident Enough to Help Your Teens?

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 04:37:02 GMT

If you’ve ever felt your heart race while watching your teen compete or perform, you’re not alone. We’ve been there—sitting in the stands, palms sweaty, wondering if I’ve done enough to prepare them for this moment. We've also been a little shaky at times before an crucial conversation or uncomfortable situation.

Confidence as a parent isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we intentionally build. In this episode,we use the metaphor of a pre-flight checklist to shifting from "parenting" to “coaching.” You’ll discover how to prepare for high-pressure moments so you can show up calm, ready, and modeling confidence your teen can mirror. Let's go Most Valuable Parents!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Confidence Question

02:31 Building Confidence Through Evidence

05:13 The Role of Systems in Parenting

08:02 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching

11:21 Preparing for High-Pressure Moments

Takeaways

-Confidence comes from doing and having evidence of success.

-Build a "pre-flight checklist" to prepare for parenting challenges.

-Shifting from parenting to coaching can enhance confidence in both parents and teens.

-High performance habits can help parents feel more confident in their roles.

-It's important for parents to recognize their own high-pressure moments.

-Asking great questions can help parents coach teens effectively.

-Confidence needs to be continuously cultivated.

-Parents should model preparation for high-pressure situations to their kids.

-Feeling nervous while watching kids perform is common and can be managed.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

EP 108: PARENTAL INFLUENCE -- A High Stakes Job!

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 04:04:56 GMT

What is the most important relationship? We've got our answer. Do you have your answer? We won't really fight you over this, but we absolutely, positively believe it is the parent-teen relationship. And...parenting a teen athlete or performer isn’t just another stage of life—it’s a high-stakes job with an expiration date!

Let's get real about what it takes to win in this short window of time that you get with your high achieving teen. If you're tired of your traditional parenting tactics that fall flat, you’re going to want to hear how coaching can change everything—especially implementing the high performance habit of influence.

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Most Important Relationship in the World

03:26 Identity Development in Adolescence

06:18 Modeling Behavior and Future Relationships

09:15 The Role of Influence in Parenting

12:14 Emotional Regulation and Vulnerability

13:47 Growth Mindset and Parental Growth

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We also are posting valuable content on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-galley/

-Nate & Steve

EP 107: PARENTS: Talk Less, Smile More!

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 22:37:55 GMT

When your high achieving teen starts tuning you out, it’s a warning sign—not a "drive off the cliff" moment. It’s a chance to upgrade your approach. A welcome chance to shift from parenting to coaching.

In this commuter-friendly--"I'm too busy to listen to long form podcasts"--conversation, we explore how a traditional parenting strategy fails miserably—and how coaching habits rooted in connection, curiosity, and courage can unlock your teen’s highest potential.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Power of Listening in Parenting

07:49 Influence and Expectations in Child Development

11:22 Finding Balance: Communication and Connection

Takeaways

-Talk less, smile more is a powerful approach to connecting.

-Listening > lecturing.

-Influence decreases as parents talk more!

-Fewer words and better timing can enhance communication.

-Letting teens sit in uncomfortable emotions can be beneficial.

-Asking good questions leads to deeper conversations.

-Parents should avoid giving unsolicited advice.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Ditch the Old Playbook!

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 05:02:45 GMT

PARENTS: Is your playbook outdated? Discover how questions—not commands—empower your teen athlete. You’ve worked hard to give your teen every opportunity for success—but is your parenting actually helping them thrive or holding them back? In today’s episode, we dive into why shifting from advice-giver to question-asker could be the most powerful move you make.

Timestamps

00:00 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching

02:52 Relationship Building is Where It's At!

04:25 Understanding the Role of Expectations

07:27 The Power of Questions in Parenting

Takeaways

-Realizing the old parenting playbook isn't effective is crucial.

-The relationship with teens is paramount for effective parenting.

-Understanding expectations can alleviate pressure on teens.

-All progress starts with the truth in relationships.

-Asking questions fosters autonomy in teens.

-Communication should shift from advice-giving to inquiry.

-Empowering teens through questions is essential for their development.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

"Organization on the Go" with Zoya Lehrer of ORGO

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 04:30:20 GMT

Parents! CHAOS alert! Ever feel like you're drowning in the chaotic shuffling of schedules, calendars, practices, carpools, uniforms, and GPS instructions?! Well, you probably are! Let's throw you a rescue donut (and maybe a chocolate one, too) and help you create some clarity and control. Want to know how you can turn your family scheduling chaos into "organization on the go?" OK, we've got something for you that you'll wish you had yesterday!

In this week's episode, Zoya Lehrer, co-founder of Orgo--the shared calendar app for crazy busy sports parents--shares the origin story of this amazing app. While on her journey as a supermom managing the messiness of scheduling and organization with three very athletic and active daughters, she and her hubby, and her girls were NOT feeling the joy. They were feeling the pain! The Lehrer family eventually reached a point where the chaos--and we're talking CHAOS in all caps--was as Zoya puts it: untenable!! So she decided to leave the fin-tech corporate world and is now on a mission to help parents just like her, and YOU, to calm the chaos.

Tune in to hear Zoya discuss the fascinating and essential concept of "time literacy," and why we as moms and dads (along with our kids) MUST understand it!

This is a must listen for your crazy busy parents smack dab in the middle of those precious, youth sports and teenage years!!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Chaos of Family Sports Scheduling

09:28 Understanding Time Literacy

19:14 The Emotional Toll of Parenting Kids in Sports

28:39 Building a Support Team at ORGO

37:55 Navigating the Balance of Activities & Choices

37:06 Family Values and Measuring Success

39:45 The ORGO Approach to Family Organization

47:12 Finding Calm in the Chaos of Parenting Your Young Athletes & Performers

49:39 Getting Started with ORGO--Let's Keep it Simple for You

Hey there Most Valuable Parents!

-Nate & Steve

Parenting Gold Nuggets: SIMON TIMMS of All In Counseling

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 05:16:56 GMT

Hey there high achieving moms and dads! Are you ready to fill your parenting and coaching pan with some gold nuggets?! Simon Timms is in the house and he's got 30 years of parenting wisdom to share. As an experienced father, husband, and licensed therapist Simon knows the ins, outs, ups, and downs of communicating and connecting with teens, especially when the stakes are high and the going is tough! You're going to love this one!

The Timestamps!

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges

00:57 Simon Timms: Background and Experience

07:57 Understanding Teen Pushback

10:49 The Importance of Validation in Parenting

16:42 Navigating Expectations and Communication

22:13 Addressing Negative Core Beliefs in Teens

27:01 The Role of Non-Parental Adults in Helping our Teens

28:26 Building Resilience in our Teens

31:07 Understanding Insecurities in Parenting

33:01 Radical Acceptance and Self-Awareness

35:36 Mindfulness and Self-Care Practices

39:04 The Role of Martial Arts in Self-Discipline

44:07 Creating a Safe Haven for Teens

47:31 Transitioning from Parenting to Coaching

52:17 Recognizing When to Seek Therapy

Hey there Most Valuable Parents!

-Nate & Steve

RECRUITING made SIMPLE! DAVID HITZ of Athlete Narrative

Mon, 30 Jun 2025 15:02:44 GMT

Whooa parents! Here's a must listen if you want to simplify the complexities of the recruiting process for your young athlete! David Hitz and Athlete Narrative to your rescue!! Let's get real and learn the importance and best practices of personal branding, your role as a Most Valuable Parent, and how technology can become your athlete's trusted guide in recruitment.

Tune is as we engage with David and discuss the common mistakes parents and athletes are making in their efforts to reach out to coaches and colleges! Listen to some success stories that inspire hope for your young athlete! And to make it all even more amazing, learn how EXTREMELY affordable this is for YOU and the masses! Athlete Narrative is changing the recruiting game one athlete at a time!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Introduction to Athlete Narrative

04:05 Simplifying the Recruiting Process

08:36 The Importance of Finding Opportunities

11:36 The Numbers Game in Recruiting

13:02 Affordable Solutions for Families

13:51 When to Start the Recruiting Process

15:11 Parental Involvement in Branding

17:17 Signing Up for Athlete Narrative

19:26 Building Your Radar Page

21:15 Emailing Coaches Effectively

22:43 Navigating the Conversation: Technical Challenges and Solutions

23:33 Exploring Personal Branding and NIL in Sports

23:54 The Role of Coaches in Athlete Recruitment

24:53 Simplifying the Recruitment Process for Coaches

26:50 Common Mistakes Parents Make in Recruitment

28:08 The Evolution of Recruitment Strategies

30:46 Affordable Solutions for Aspiring Athletes

33:29 The Importance of Hope in Recruitment

38:07 Success Stories: Real Impact of the Service

42:43 Connecting with Athlete Narrative: Final Thoughts

Hey there Most Valuable Parents!

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: What is YOUR WHY?!

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 00:56:33 GMT

We’re asking a powerful question: Is "it" optional or essential? What is "it?" Tune it to find out as we explore how the concept of "NECESSITY" can help you lead your teen more effectively, especially if they’re navigating high-stakes performance in sports or the performing arts. You’ll leave with tools that shift your mindset from transactional to transformational and from parenting...to coaching!

We’re diving into the deep end of the pool to get a bit uncomfortable. Yep, in the deep water we'll find out how the high performance habit of necessity creates clarity and most importantly, a deeper, better connection with your teen. This episode will challenge and encourage you to rethink what it means to be a high-performing parent.

The Timestamps

00:00 Is "it" Optional or Essential?

02:33 Understanding Purpose in Parenting

05:22 Exploring the 'Why' By Going Several Levels Deep

08:25 The Importance of Self-Reflection

11:19 Transformational vs. Transactional Parenting

14:08 The Golden Circle--Simon Sinek

16:40 Practical Exercises for Parents

19:20 Engaging with Your Teen

Takeaways

-What is really essential?

-Understanding your purpose as a parent is crucial.

-Courage is needed to confront personal shortcomings.

-Focusing on progress (the gain) is important.

-The 'why' behind parenting choices shapes actions.

-Transformational parenting builds deeper connections.

-Transactional parenting can create pressure on children.

-Going several "levels deep with 'why' questions leads to deeper insights.

-Engaging with your child's perspective is valuable.

-Self-awareness enhances parenting effectiveness.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: How Do You GENERATE Energy?

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 05:02:15 GMT

If you're serious about high performance—not just for your teen, but for yourself as a parent, this conversation may be your wake-up call. We dive head first into the real reason our communication and connection with our teens often falls flat: low energy. There are some simple and strategic ways to turn this around!

Walk with us in this discussion on how we can better generate energy. That's right. We have the power (pun fully intended) to create energy rather than viewing it as a supply we have no control over. We touch on the four pillars that affect how you show up—sleep, nutrition, exercise, and mental wellness—and how you can take simple steps to bring your best energy every day. Let's go moms and dads. We can win at work and at home!

The Timestamps!

00:00 "Leftovers" and Parenting Dynamics

02:27 Energy Management for Parents

05:00 The 4 Energy Pillars

08:11 Practical Strategies for Generating Energy

10:58 The Energy Connection

14:04 Showing up Better

16:55 Energy Audits and Self-Management

19:36 Simple Strategies for Parents

22:30 Awareness of our Energy Levels

Takeaways

-Leftovers can be a metaphor for the energy parents have left to give their teens.

-Energy management is crucial for effective parenting and leadership.

-The four pillars of energy are sleep, nutrition, exercise, and mental wellness.

-Simple strategies can help parents manage their energy better.

-"Release tension and set intention" to prep for better interactions.

-Awareness of energy levels is key to improvement.

-Small tweaks can lead to significant changes in energy production.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Let's DEMONSTRATE Courage!

Mon, 09 Jun 2025 20:40:46 GMT

If you're a high-performing parent trying to raise a high-performing teen, you know this already—it takes courage. Not always the “run-into-the-fire” kind, but the quiet, everyday kind: letting go of control, staying consistent, and having the hard conversations. In our milestone 100th episode, we celebrate YOU—the brave moms and dads who courageously shift from parenting to coaching on your quest to create magical relationships with your teens!

Sure, we're pumped we've published content for you every Monday for 100 weeks, but what we're most excited about is you and teaming with you to elevate your performance.

Here are a few questions to further help you level up your bravery as a parent:

How can you demonstrate quiet courage on a consistent basis?
What do courageous parents do that others don’t?
What does "brave parenting" look like to you?

Gold Nugget Timestamps

00:00 The Courage to Let Go

02:39 Celebrating Parenting and Milestones

05:51 The Journey to 100 Episodes

08:35 Understanding Courage in Parenting

11:36 Courage in Everyday Actions

14:27 Defining Courage: What It Is and Isn't

16:14 The Impact of Small Acts of Courage

19:03 Questions to Foster Courage in Parenting

21:55 Demonstrating Courage Together

Takeaways

-Courage in parenting involves letting go of control as children grow.

-Happy BELATED Mother's Day and Happy Father's Day!

-Our journey to 100 episodes required commitment and courage.

-Courage is often found in small, consistent actions.

-Asking for help is a courageous act, especially for single parents.

-The parent-child relationship is argubly the most important one in society.

-Parents should reflect on their actions and how you can step up more.

-Defining what brave parenting looks like is a coaching supermove.

-Recognizing and counting wins as a parent helps build confidence.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

-Nate & Steve

EP 99: PARENTS: Are You Willing to Go First?!

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 13:37:45 GMT

Going first can be scary! But, your teen is watching. If you’ve ever wished your teen would just change their attitude, their habits, or their mindset—this episode flips that desire on its head. We unpack the powerful metaphor of the "first penguin" and challenge you to step up and model the behaviors you want to see from your teen athlete or performer. From emotional resilience to authenticity, this episode dives deep into why going first isn't just brave—it's necessary.

Are you ready to be the first penguin? Let's gooooooooooo!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The First Penguin Dilemma

02:16 Modeling Behavior as Parents

05:02 The Importance of Authenticity

08:04 Going First in Emotional Regulation

10:54 The Shift to Coaching from Parenting

14:05 The 2 Big Coaching Stoppers

16:36 Powerful First Penguin Questions

Takeaways

-The first penguin metaphor illustrates the fear of being first in challenging situations.

-Parents must model emotional resilience for their teens.

-Teens are adept at detecting inauthenticity in adults.

-Modeling behavior is crucial for teaching teens about habits and attitudes.

-Parents should be conscious of their actions--you are always being observed by your teens.

-Going first as a parent can lead to meaningful conversations about struggles and growth.

-Parents should seek coaching and show their willingness to learn to set an example for their teens.

-Overcoming personal barriers to change is essential for effective parenting.

-Asking for feedback can help you identify areas for improvement.

-It all starts with parents modeling changes.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Are You Clear or Confused?

Mon, 26 May 2025 12:01:19 GMT

Parents, what is the #1 High Performance Habit? Where does it all start? it’s time to swap confusion for clarity. Ah, clarity! In this powerful episode, we unpack the King of the High Performance Habits: CLARITY. This isn’t just a concept—it’s a parenting and coaching superpower and one you've gotta get right if you want to improve your own performance and that of your teen. Let's get crystal clear on this. Ready? Let's gooooooooo!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Understanding How our Own Uncertainty Affects Teen Growth

02:43 Clarity-- Is it a Destination?

04:59 Questions for Parents to Foster Clarity

07:35 Practical Tips for Achieving Clarity

10:03 Seeking Clarity as a Family

13:06 The Journey of Clarity and Continuous Improvement

Gold Nuggets

Uncertainty as parents can limit a teen's growth.

Clarity is essential for high performance.

Parents should identify their core values, vision and roles.

Clarity is a continuous process, not a destination.

Creating family clarity fosters better relationships.

Regular check-ins on clarity are beneficial.

Clarity leads to increased happiness and confidence.

Engaging in family discussions about values creates clarity.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

-Nate & Steve

Leadership Lessons with Legendary COACH JIM JOHNSON

Mon, 19 May 2025 23:00:18 GMT

Discover how leadership, love, and trust transformed an autistic teen’s life, and how it can change yours and your most important relationships! Parents, this episode is a Can't Miss, Don't Miss opportunity! Coach Jim Johnson doesn’t just talk about winning, he talks about leading with heart and he walks that walk in his own life!

Coach's story of the miracle that took place on February 15th, 2006 in Rochester, New York is nothing short of stunning. On that night Jason McElwain ("J-Mac"), a young autistic team manager made sports history. And J-Mac's story is more than inspirational—it’s a lesson in what happens when we lead with love, build trust, and coach instead of control. This conversation will move you to connect more deeply with your teen, which is not always an easy task!

Let’s be real: parenting a teen athlete or performer can feel like walking a tightrope. But what if the key isn’t more discipline—it’s more coaching? What if you became a better leader? Beyond the J-Mac story, Coach Johnson shares the 7 leadership principles that he has developed over his legendary career. He continues sharing this wisdom today in his books, his motivational keynote speeches, his podcast, and his everyday conversations with people everywhere.

Let's go!! It is time for LESSONS with the incomparable Coach Jim Johnson.

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Journey of Coach Jim Johnson

11:24 The J-Mac Miracle Story

18:27 Leadership Lessons from Coaching

19:27 Embracing Vulnerability in Leadership

20:27 The Power of Team Unity

21:53 A Memorable Senior Night

23:40 Jason's Journey to the Spotlight

26:13 The Essence of Teamwork

28:15 Overcoming Challenges and Building Momentum

31:25 Proud Moments in Coaching

33:17 Fostering Connection Over Performance Pressure

36:56 The Art of Questioning in Leadership

44:31 Building Relationships with Parents

47:26 The Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast

51:28 Building Skills and Team Philosophy

51:59 The Seven Keys to Leadership

53:12 Clarifying Vision and Personal Mission

54:33 Building Trust in Leadership

56:23 Creating an Edge and Effective Communication

01:00:27 Leading by Example

01:01:51 The Importance of Servant Leadership

01:02:41 Influential Leadership Books and Their Impact

01:05:16 Key Skills for Emerging Leaders

01:09:16 Advice for Parents of Struggling Athletes

Want more from Coach Jim Johnson? Here are a few places you can find him:

coachjimjohnson.com

The Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast

Please SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our YouTube channel is: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

And check out what we're up to at createtransformbecome.com. There you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

EP 96: Parents: Cancel This Contract Now!

Tue, 13 May 2025 00:00:23 GMT

Silent contracts filled with expectations usually lead to disappointment and communication breakdowns. This is gonna lead to some "A words!" You know, we could probably name this episode "The A Words!"

What "A" words you ask? Agreements (oh yeah, much better!) and Awareness (ok, now we're talking!). In this episode we're going to discuss how to use Awareness so you can cancel those bad silent contracts and more toward creating powerful Agreements!

Let's go parents! Let's stop parenting and start coaching!!

The Takeaways

Silent contracts can create misunderstandings in relationships.
Assumptions often lead to negative outcomes in communication.
Agreements are more sound than flimsy assumptions.
Awareness of past silent contracts can help in parenting.
Constant communication is essential for aligning expectations.
Parents should ask their teens about their perceived expectations.
Effort in communication can save time and reduce guilt when expectations are not met.
Aligning expectations with teens can empower them to succeed.
Canceling silent contracts can build trust in relationships.
Open dialogues can help clarify assumptions and expectations.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

-Nate & Steve

What Scoreboard is Your Teen Athlete Using?!

Tue, 06 May 2025 03:10:08 GMT

Parents, what scoreboard are you using to measure your teen's success—and is it hurting more than helping? And, what scoreboard are they using to measure success—and is it creating momentum or stress in their lives?

Do you ever wonder if your teen is chasing results just to keep you happy—or worse, to feel worthy? We’re digging into that "silent contract" so many families carry without talking about it. You’ll walk away with tools to separate your teen’s performance from their identity, and strategies for helping them craft a scoreboard that reflects who they really want to become.

Find the Stuff You Want!

00:00 Defining Success: Momentum vs. Stress

01:59 Reflective Questions for Parents

06:01 Understanding Silent Contracts in Success

09:59 The Importance of Identity in Success

13:54 Different Scoreboards: Aligning Definitions of Success

19:59 Opportunities in Meltdowns: Growth Mindset

23:56 The Scoreboard Course--Creating Your Own Scoreboard for Success

The Takeaways!

-The way we define success can create momentum or stress.

-Reflective questions help parents understand their own definition of success.

-"Silent contracts" can exist in relationships without being discussed.

-It's crucial for teens to separate their identity from their performance.

-Parents should encourage their kids to define success for themselves.

-Meltdowns can be opportunities for growth and understanding.

-Creating a personal scoreboard helps measure success in a meaningful way.

-Chasing results can lead to dissatisfaction and a never-ending pursuit.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

-Nate & Steve

Is Your Teen Wiser Than You Think?

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 05:52:52 GMT

Parenting teens isn’t about talking more — it’s about asking better. Discover the Question Only Tool today. Every parent wants their teen to succeed. But success doesn’t come from micromanaging — it comes from ownership. In this episode, we show you how to use The Question Only Conversation to guide your teen toward greater autonomy, confidence, and motivation — all while strengthening your bond.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Teen Wisdom

03:51 The Shift from Parenting to Coaching

07:55 Empowering Teens Through Questions

10:02 The Power of Inquiry-Based Conversations

11:53 Real-Life Examples: Jason's Track Success

15:01 Maya's Dance Audition Journey

17:58 Lessons from Phil Jackson's Coaching Style

20:58 Implementing The Question Only Conversation (QOC)

Gold Nuggets

-Teens often possess wisdom that parents may overlook.

-Shifting from parenting to coaching can enhance relationships.

-Asking questions can empower teens to express their thoughts.

-Unsolicited advice can hinder a teen's sense of autonomy.

-Question Only Conversation is a powerful tool for parents.

-Building a relationship based on respect leads to better communication.

-Teens need to feel ownership of their successes.

-Self-determination theory emphasizes autonomy, mastery, and connection.

-Effective communication can prevent breakdowns in relationships.

-Parents should act as mirrors to help teens process their experiences.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We'd be even more grateful if you would like, review, or comment or SHARE an episode from any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Get Ready for What's Coming!

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 05:14:28 GMT

"Parenting is the hardest job, and there's not a close second!" Parents--we see you and we know that quote by our very own (Nate Crandall) is true as the ocean is blue. And that is exactly why we started this podcast back in the summer of 2023. We've been here every Monday for 93 weeks discussing a perspective shift and approach that helps parents to begin coaching their athletes and performers. That crucial shift requires that your communication and connection with your teens is taken to a higher level. You can do this and we're here to help!

We're very excited to announce that we are ramping up our efforts to help you to stop parenting and start coaching. And our efforts will be seen in our every improving website, our creation of new tools and courses, our fully functional and growing YouTube channel, and our customized coaching offerings.

Thanks for helping us grow!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, or comment on any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Raise Teens Who Become Mulitpliers!

Mon, 14 Apr 2025 18:50:08 GMT

Hey parents—what if the greatest measure of your teen's success wasn’t how many points they scored, solos they nailed, or trophies they earned... but how they made everyone around them better? In this episode, we unpack the powerful concept of becoming a multiplier, and why it might be the secret ingredient your teen is missing.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Concept of Win-Win-Win & Being a Multiplier

02:50 The Ripple Effect in Team Dynamics

05:33 The Power of Multipliers in Sports

08:39 Lessons from Larry Bird and Magic Johnson

11:08 The Role of Parents in Fostering Multipliers

13:56 Real-World Examples of Multipliers

16:41 Encouraging a Multiplier Mindset in Kids

19:39 The Distinction Between MOP and MVP

22:27 Closing Thoughts on Multipliers and Impact

Takeaways

-The concept of 'win-win-win' extends beyond traditional win-win scenarios.

-Larry Bird and Magic Johnson were masters at making their teammates better.

-Cooper Flagg exemplifies the multiplier effect in sports.

-True competition is about elevating everyone's performance.

-Multipliers create a ripple effect that benefits all involved.

-Parents should model multiplier behavior for their children.

-Asking the right questions can help children recognize their impact on others.

-Identifying multipliers in various fields can inspire kids.

-The distinction between MVP and MOP highlights the value of impact over individual accolades.

-Encouraging a multiplier mindset leads to greater joy and success in teams.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Be a TEAM First Parent!

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 12:00:30 GMT

Are you the parent every coach dreads…or the one they trust? Learn how to have the team's back...in the right way. Parents: if your teen is competing at a high level, your support (or lack of) can either elevate the entire team or silently sabotage it. In this episode, Nate and Steve go deep on how to be a Team First Parent—the kind of presence every coach dreams of having support the team or performance group. You’ll walk away with real, actionable ways to help the program thrive—without crossing any lines.

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Importance of Being a Team First Parent

02:32 Navigating Parental Involvement for Your Teen's Team

05:32 The Motives Behind Parental Support

08:14 The Role of Parents in Team Dynamics

11:10 Balancing Team Support and Independence for Your Teen

13:59 Identifying Common Parental Pitfalls

16:54 The Ideal Team First Parent

19:50 Conclusion: Supporting Your Child's Journey

The BIG Takeaways

Being a Team First Parent is crucial for youth development.
Winning culture starts at home!
Parents should support without overstepping their bounds.
Clarity in motives is essential for effective parental involvement.
The team belongs to the players and coaches, not the parents.
Presence at events is important for children's morale.
Avoid being the overbearing parent or the absentee one.
Support the program as a whole!
Consistent, appropriate parental support builds trust within the team.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

"DADDY BALL!" Parents: Is This a Problem in Your House?!

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 04:17:24 GMT

Balancing parent and coach roles? Avoid the "Daddy ball" trap and create real success! Coaching your own kid can be both rewarding and challenging. You want to see them succeed, but how do you stay fair? Avoiding favoritism—or the appearance of it—is tough, and the "Daddy ball" label can quickly damage trust. In this episode, we break down how to lead with integrity, balance your roles, and create a positive experience for every player on the team. Take the "Daddy (and Mommy) ball" dive with us today! Let's go parents, let's get better so our teen athletes and performers can thrive!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Daddy Ball Dilemma

02:01 Coaching Your Own Kids: A Unique Challenge

07:43 Balancing Coaching and Parenting

14:25 Setting Expectations and Boundaries

Takeaways

'Daddy ball' can create emotional conflicts in sports.
Coaching your own kids is emotionally challenging.
It's tough to separate being a parent from being a coach.
Balancing fairness and favoritism is crucial.
Open communication is key to successful Mom & Dad coaching.
Coaching should focus on the child's experience.
Finding joy in sports for our teens is the ultimate goal.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: What if THIS Backfires?!

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 03:26:52 GMT

Does your teen shut down when you encourage them? Avoid toxic positivity and find the ‘sweet spot’ of support. Sooo, your amazing teen athlete or performer just had an "Oops!" They bombed an audition, missed the game-winning shot, or flubbed a major performance. Of course you want to lift them up, but how? If you get this wrong, you risk losing credibility—or worse, making them feel dismissed. So, let's get it right.

Join us as we dive head first into how leaving Parent Mode and entering Coach Mode can help you deliver the neutral encouragement that is genuine and steers clear of toxic positivity. As the kids like to say, "let's get real!"

Get to Your Stuff

00:00 Teaser: What If This Backfires?

02:26 The Risks of Encouragement: Pressure and Toxic Positivity

06:57 Navigating Emotions: Parent Mode to Coach Mode

10:16 Real-Life Scenarios: The "Failure"

14:30 Zip it and Listen: Processing Emotions Together

22:02 Creation Corner: The QOC Tool and a Parent Invitation

The Gold Nuggets

Encouragement can create unnecessary pressure on your teen athlete/performer.
Toxic positivity can destroy credibility.
Emotions should be viewed as neutral, not positive or negative.
Assuming you know how they feel after "failure" can be a losing game!
Listening is more effective than giving advice.
Open communication fosters emotional processing.
Tools like the QOC can transform your parent/teen relationship.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Are You Talkin' About Practice?!

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 04:24:11 GMT

Parents, how do your teens view practice? Is it a chore, an obligation, or a chance to improve? In this episode, we break down why practice isn’t just about showing up—it’s about showing up with the right mindset and appropriate rules. Using some humorous insights from the unlikely combo of Allen Iverson and Ted Lasso, we explore how values and rules shape your teen’s approach to practice and how you, as a parent, play a critical role in that process.

This episode, #88 is the last in the Values Need Rules and Rules Need Values Series. Episode 84 sets the table and 85 (Homework), 86 (Teen Parties), & 87 (Social Media) get very specific. Enjoy!

The Juicy Timestamps!

00:00 The "Practice Debate" with Allen Iverson and Ted Lasso :)

04:10 Values and Rules in the context of "Practice"

09:19 The Importance of Practice: Perspectives and Insights

14:04 Deep Practice: Quality Over Quantity

18:26 Modeling Practice: The Parent's Role

The Keepers!

Values and rules are interconnected in the context of practice.
Parents need to communicate the value of practice without being preachy.
Deep practice is more effective than long, distracted practice sessions.
Investing time in practice yields long-term benefits, akin to sweat equity.
Celebrating small wins in practice can enhance motivation for teens.
The perspective of practice as a privilege can change your performer's attitude.
Modeling good work habits as parents influences teen's views on practice.
Everything we do is training for something, shaping our future performance.

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Want Some Social Media Wisdom for Your Teen?!

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 01:12:29 GMT

PARENTS: Are your teen’s online habits helping or hurting them? Discover how to coach them toward smart social media use! In this episode (#3 of our 4 episode series of our Values & Rules series), we unpack the real life challenges you as a parent face with your teen’s online presence.

Teens live in a digital world—are they equipped to navigate it wisely? We break down how to help your teen use social media in a way that reflects their values, strengthens their confidence, and avoids common pitfalls. With real-life scenarios, helpful conversation starters, and practical tips, we’ll help you turn social media challenges into coaching moments that build trust and responsibility! Let’s dive in!

The "Get to My Fave Stuff" Timestamps

00:00 Navigating Social Media with Kids

02:49 Values & Rules in Parenting Like a Coach

05:42 Communication Filters

07:56 Real-Life Scenarios/Social Media Consequences

10:47 Building a Teen's Confidence through Social Media

13:57 Thought Provoking Questions for You

15:38 Experimenting with a Social Media Detox

The JUICE!:

Social media is here (probably to stay).
Parents should be prepared for a range of emotions regarding their children's social media use.
Establishing values and rules around social media is crucial.
Conversation starters can help parents engage with their teens about social media.
Real-life scenarios can illustrate the consequences of good and bad social media use.
Building confidence through authentic social media engagement is important.
Introspection about family values can guide social media rules.
Asking teens about their social media boundaries empowers them.
Reflecting on positive social media experiences can strengthen family bonds.
Experimenting with a social media detox is worth a shot!

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TEEN PARTY RULES: Values First!!

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 22:13:39 GMT

Worried about teen parties? Master the art of coaching your teen to confidence in pressure-packed social situations. So parents, are you ready to party? Well, are you ready to at least talk about teen parties? Are you ready and equipped to talk about parties with that teen(s) that lives in your house?!!

In today's show we discuss the challenges parents face when navigating the topic of teen parties. Let's face it, this is not easy! But, it is so important that we have open conversations about values and rules with our teens so they are prepared to handle all that comes with attending a teen party that may present comprising, awkward, and even dangerous situations. It is critical that we help empower them to make confident decisions in difficult, peer pressure-fueled social scenarios.

Of course, we have a story and the ever important practical strategies for your as a high performing parent to implement with your teens. Let's go!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Navigating Teen Parties: A Parent's Dilemma

10:11 Empowering Teens: Values and Rules in Party Situations

19:53 Building Confidence: Strategies for Handling Peer Pressure

The Good Stuff:

-Having clarity about teen party rules is crucial.

-It's normal and ok to feel uncomfortable discussing party situations with your teen.

-Values should guide the creation of party rules for teens.

-Using jingles to summarize rules can help reinforce important messages for teens.

-Peer pressure at teen parties is a real thing, prep your teen well!

-Role-playing scenarios can help teens prepare for peer pressure situations.

-Empowering teens to make their own rules can lead to alignment with family values.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

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-Nate & Steve

HOMEWORK HELL? Parents: Try THIS!

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 13:01:35 GMT

Parents: What are the homework rules for your teens? Interested in a different and effective approach to creating homework rules, backed by your values? In this episode (which is a spin-off of Episode 84 on Values & Rules), Certified High Performance Coaches™ Nate Crandall and Steve Galley dive head first into the importance of having a structured game plan for homework. You may even learn a new jingle, motto, or cheesy saying that may help you create an extremely valuable conversation around homework rules with your homework hating teen!

The Sticky Timestamps!

00:00 The Importance of a Game Plan for Homework

02:41 Creating a Positive Homework Environment

05:33 Fun Rules and Jingles for Homework

08:39 The Role of Academics in Athletic Success

11:13 Questions for High Performing Parents to Consider

14:17 Future Self and Academic Advice

Put These in Your Back Pocket!

-Most teens lack a game plan for homework.

-Most parents of teens lack a game plan for homework.

-Intrinsic motivation with homework is crucial but often unrealistic for many students.

-Rules for homework can and should be fun and engaging, not confrontational.

-Academic performance can significantly impact athletic opportunities.

-GPA is often "the silent recruiter" for scholarships.

-Homework can be weaponized as a beneficial tool for discipline and growth.

-Future self advice can provide valuable insights for students.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Your Rules Need These!!

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 13:01:16 GMT

Parents: Ever wonder why your teen pushes back on "the rules?" Shifting from rules to values can transform everything! And shifting from "parenting" to "coaching" changes your relationship with your teen! In this episode, Nate and Steve explore the importance of establishing rules that are rooted in values, how these rules can create a sense of freedom for teens (and parental units!!), and practical steps for teens and parents to identify their values. The commuter-friendly conversation also highlights two of Nate and Steve's personal rules and the values that underpin them, providing and example and insight for parents of teen athletes and performers.

Helpful Timestamps!

00:00 Why "stop parenting & start coaching" Your Teens?

02:39 The Importance of Rules and Values

03:06 Understanding Boundaries and Freedom

05:47 The Chicken and Egg of Values and Rules

06:54 Practical Steps for Creating Rules by Identifying Your Values

10:25 Nate & Steve share 2 Personal Rules & their Underlying Values

The Gold Nuggets

-Transitioning from parenting to coaching can enhance relationships.

-Understanding the interconnection between rules and values is crucial.

-Rules should be tied to values that matter to the family.

-Establishing boundaries provides freedom for teens.

-Clarity about values is essential for effective coaching of your teens.

-Personal rules reflect deeper values and commitments.

-Engaging in discussions about values can strengthen family bonds.

-Rules without values can feel hollow and restrictive.

-Practical steps can help families identify their values.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

-Nate & Steve

Celebrating Your Teen's Success: The Importance of REFUELING During the Journey

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 13:00:50 GMT

A Half Point Gift? Parents: Give this Some Thought! Refuel your teen’s motivation with a powerful mid-season celebration! Let's face it, despite commitment and effort, sometimes our teens (and us too) are running on fumes! Parental Units--what can we do? Well, what about a "half point gift?" What in the wide world of parenting is that, you say? You're going to find out as we highlight strategy #24 from the book "SAY IT NOW: 33 creative ways to say I LOVE YOU to the most important people in your life" by author and our friend, Sherry Belul. (link to her book is below after the Takeaways!).

This half point gift strategy is brilliant and can refuel your teen athletes and performers and they grind their way through school and performances. We're glad you're here and hope you enjoy this pit stop. Fuel up moms and dads!

The Nifty Timestamps

00:00 Running on Fumes: The Journey of Energy and Motivation

02:59 Refueling During the Journey: Celebrating Success Along the Way

05:03 The Importance of Mid-Point Celebrations

08:00 Creating Meaningful Half-Point Gifts

10:51 Practical Applications: Celebrating Growth and Progress

13:32 Rituals of Celebration: Building Joy in the Journey

The Terrific Takeaways

-Celebrating success should happen throughout the journey, not just at the end.

-Refueling during long processes is crucial to avoid burnout.

-Halfway celebrations can help maintain motivation and energy.

-Acknowledging milestones prevents feelings of discouragement and stress.

-Celebrations can be simple and meaningful, and don't have to be material.

-Creating rituals of acknowledgment can enhance family dynamics.

-Celebrating halfway points can lead to more finished projects .

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New episodes drop every Monday.

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-Nate & Steve

Praise, Inspire & Encourage Your Teen -- Open a P.I.E. Shop!!

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 19:33:49 GMT

PARENTS: Are you feeding your teens enough P.I.E.? Learn how praise, inspiration & encouragement fuel success! Let's dive into the importance of delivering timely and authentic recognition, fostering a culture of appreciation (thank you to Shannon Waller of the Team Success podcast!), and finding ways to praise even in challenging situations. And then let's wrap it up with some practical application gems from one of the G.O.A.T.s of all time: Mr. Dale Carnegie himself!

The All Important Timestamps!

00:00 The P.I.E. Shop Concept

02:33 The Importance of PIE: Praise, Inspire, Encourage

05:24 Delivering Authentic Recognition

08:05 Finding Praise in Challenging Situations

10:50 Fostering a Culture of Appreciation

13:35 Dale Carnegie's Principles of Praise

16:23 Inspiring Potential in Teens

18:27 Encouraging Genuine Communication

The Juicy Takeaways

Everybody needs a slice of pie.
Deliver authentic, timely recognition for maximum impact.
Foster a culture of appreciation among team members.
Specificity wins when it comes to delivery and praise.
Make the fault seem easy to correct.
Get them to talk about themselves.
You will usually find what you're looking for.
Help them to see their potential.
Go open up your own pie shop. You got this!

Here's the EP 10 link we promised: https://youtu.be/1zu09CJXdWA

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the usual other places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

-Nate & Steve

PARENTING TEENS: Lessons from Ironman that really help!

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 13:01:53 GMT

Parents: do you have what it takes?! Apply Steve’s 5 Ironman lessons to master the hardest job: parenting teens! In today's conversation you'll enjoy exploring the challenges of parenting as Steve and Nate draw parallels to the mental toughness required in endurance sports like the 140.6 mile Ironman triathlon. They discuss the importance of self-talk, synergy and harmony with others, building a support team, and...finishing! You may never swim 2.4 miles, hop on bike and ride 112 miles, and then hop off and grind out a 26.2 mile marathon, but guess what? As a parent of a teen athlete or performer, you're taking on something much, much tougher than Ironman! AND moms and dads...YOU DO HAVE WHAT IT TAKES! Let's go dive in the water and have some fun with this!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Do You Have What It Takes?

01:43 The Ironman Journey: A Test of Mental Toughness

09:23 Lessons from Ironman: Parenting Parallels

19:08 Building a Supportive Team

22:57 The Power of Finishing Strong

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-Nate & Steve

PHONE BOUNDARIES: Stop Phubbing & Start Connecting!

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 05:41:54 GMT

Are you a "phubber?!" How do you get your teens on board with putting your and their cell phone down during conversations? Let's chat about improving your parent/teen connection! We probably all will admit we get distracted by our phones during conversations. We probably also admit that it hinders our connection and focus with the ones we love the most!

So...what are some effective ways to bring reason and common sense into the mix and how can we kick "phubbing" to the curb?! We get into this most important discussion about phone boundaries in Episode #80.

Let's goooooooooooo moms and dads!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Getting Teens On Board w/ Phone Boundaries

02:58 The Impact of Cell Phones on Family Dynamics

06:01 Understanding FOMO and Its Effects

09:06 Creating a Personal Plan for Phone Use

11:54 Empowering Teens to Help YOU with Phone Boundaries

14:59 Playing the Long Game

New episodes drop every Monday.

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-Nate & Steve

CELL PHONE FASTING: Can You Do It?!

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 04:54:35 GMT

Is a Cell Phone Fast Realistic? Disconnect to Reconnect with strategies to limit tech and boost mental health. Let's dive into the idea of phone fasting—yes, actually taking a break from our phones—and we’re not holding back on whether it’s realistic. We share how phone use impacts mental health, strains family dynamics, and even pulls us away from the people who matter most. We’ll ask the questions that will help you create practical strategies for reducing tech dependency, building systems to manage phone usage, and reclaiming meaningful connections in a world that’s constantly buzzing. Let’s face it—disconnecting is tough, but we’re here to show you how to make it possible for you and your family.

The Timestamps!

00:00 Phone Fasting

02:52 Exploring the Challenges of Disconnecting

05:55 Understanding the Impact of Phone Use

08:40 Creating Systems for Phone Management

11:36 Finding Peace in Disconnection

14:11 Making Phone Fasting Realistic

16:56 Small Steps Towards Change

New episodes drop every Monday.

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-Nate & Steve

BOREDOM is a CHOICE: Help Teens Transform It!!

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 00:00:12 GMT

Parents: Turn 'I'm bored' into 'I created this!' Inspire creativity in your teen athletes & performers now with the simple parenting hack revealed in this episode! In today's conversation, we explore the concept of boredom and how it can be transformed into an opportunity for creativity and purpose.

PARENTS: Are you missing out on this opportunity?!

Let's find out as we discuss the importance of recognizing boredom as a choice and how you as a parent (and your teen) can create meaning in mundane tasks. You in your unique role as a parent can be the one to guide your teen athlete or performer to manage boredom effectively and to find joy in everyday activities. Our practical examples and thought-provoking questions will encourage you to shift your mindset and embrace boredom as a chance to create and serve others.

The juicy timestamps!

00:00 The Opportunity in Boredom

03:04 Creating Meaning and Purpose

06:09 Transforming Mundane Tasks into Joyful Activities

09:00 Empowering Teens to Manage Boredom

12:06 Questions to Cultivate Purpose and Meaning

New episodes drop every Monday.

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-Nate & Steve

PARENTING SKILLS: Stop Dreaming, Start Doing!

Tue, 31 Dec 2024 05:11:22 GMT

The Land of Wishes is holding you back. Develop skill to elevate your parenting of your teen athlete and performer. Oh, how we know it's fun to hang out in The Land of Wishes!! But, you're better than that and you're striving to raise your Parental Unit game. Let us help! In this episode we unveil one of the best ways to take action and exit The Land of Wishes and step into the world of Making Things Happen. Thanks for being here and enjoy the show!

The Timestamps are here!

00:00 Loitering in the Land of Wishes

03:00 The Comfort of Goals and Aspirations

06:02 Skills as the Bridge to Reality

09:13 Communication: The Key to Parenting Success

12:10 Designing Environments for Success

14:58 Focusing on One Skill at a Time

17:56 Encouragement for Parents to Act--Let's Gooooooo!

Gold Nuggets:

Loitering in the land of wishes can hinder progress.
Comfortable aspirations can lead to stagnation.
Goals should be accompanied by actionable skills.
Communication is crucial for effective parenting.
Skills are the bridge to achieving goals.
Motivation can stem from skill development.
Focusing on one skill at a time is effective.
Designing environments can enhance success.
Parents should model self-management for their kids.
Encouragement is key for parents to take action.

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique podcast resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

-Nate & Steve

PARENT & PARENTING FLAWS!!

Tue, 24 Dec 2024 03:16:20 GMT

Showing your flaws builds trust! Learn how owning mistakes teaches teens resilience & strengthens connections. PARENTS: What is your plan when your parenting flaws are on display?

In today's conversation, Nate Crandall and Steve Galley, Certified High Performance Coaches and co hosts of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, explore the complexities of parenting, particularly the challenges of acknowledging and embracing one's flaws.

The juicy stuff timestamped!!

00:00 Embracing Flaws and Hypocrisy

03:04 The Role of Humor in Acknowledging Mistakes

05:39 Parenting Challenges and Emotional Responses

08:39 Modeling Behavior and Values for Teens

11:10 Learning from Mistakes and Family Traditions

14:06 Owning Imperfections and Growth Mindset

18:19 Why the Hypocritical Hall of Fame isn't a Terrible Thing If...

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New episodes drop every Monday.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique podcast resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And...if you love the show, we would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along waith sharing it with a few Parental Unit friends who would love it too. And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Do You Have a PCR in Your Home?!

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 04:59:00 GMT

Hello there Moms & Dads! Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!! We're downright festive about families and parents and teens and trying to elevate our performance within those 3 Very Important People groups. We're glad you're here. In this episode we're going to share with you some age-old wisdom in the form of 3 letters: P...C...and R.

PCR is all about fostering strong relationships with our teens. Today we'll discuss personal experiences that highlight the importance of being present with loved ones, the role of community in enhancing our lives, and how establishing rhythms can create a sense of stability and connection. Have you figured out what PCR means yet? Of course, you have!

Some key insights to look for in this episode:

-PCR stands for Presence, Community, and Rhythm.

-Being present is crucial for meaningful relationships.

-Community enhances our sense of belonging and purpose.

-Rhythm in life provides stability and predictability.

-Mindfulness can help us realize when we are not present.

-Engaging in community activities fosters deeper connections.

-Establishing routines can improve family dynamics.

-Quiet time is essential for mental clarity and presence.

-Regular family activities strengthen bonds and communication.

-Creating a PCR environment empowers children to thrive!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and those other places).

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PARENTS: Are You Using Your 3 Gifts?!

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 04:26:23 GMT

Welcome back or welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We are excited you are joining us to explore The 3 Gifts all parents have within their control and need to be used, or may we say regifted, to your teen athletes or performers.

In this short but powerful episode we're going to reveal The 3 Gifts and encourage you to think about your thinking by posing some very good questions to ask yourself. In doing so, we think you'll find value with the following takeaways:

-High-quality interactions with children can enhance the use of time.

-Recognizing and utilizing personal talents is crucial for effective parenting.

-Creating memorable experiences is more valuable than material gifts.

-Asking children about their desired experiences can strengthen family bonds.

-Shared experiences often hold more value than expensive vacations.

-Parents should consider providing options for new experiences with their kids.

-Creating positive memories should be a priority in family interactions.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube ).

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PARENTS: Have You Discovered the Antidote to Envy & Comparison?

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 16:54:32 GMT

Welcome Parental Units to Episode 73 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We appreciate you for taking the time to level up! Today we tackle the nasty, awful thief that is stealing joy and happiness the world over! That's right, we are going to unveil the antidote to the venom found in Comparison and her ridiculously joke of a cousin, Envy. You are familiar with these two poisons and know their modus operandi. They are out to destroy you and create misery in your life!

But, we can all tool up and send these destroyers to the scrap heap if you consistently administer the antidote of...GRATITUDE! You can win the comparison/envy game AND up your parenting skills along the way! Let's goooooooo moms and dads, you can do this !

Here is some gold you can mine in this episode:

--"Obsessive Comparison Disorder" (OCD) affects mental and emotional health.

--Envy fuels unhealthy comparison and jealousy.

--Gratitude is THE powerful antidote to envy and comparison.

--Practicing gratitude can lead to optimism and positive thinking.

--Writing down things to be grateful for enhances emotional well-being.

--Family gratitude practices can strengthen bonds and promote positivity.

--Limiting social media can reduce feelings of envy and comparison.

--Focusing on effort rather than results fosters a healthier mindset.

--Modeling gratitude as parents equips children with essential life skills.

PARENTS: Are You Doing Gratitude Right?!

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 05:21:39 GMT

Hi Parental Units! Welcome to a Turkey Week edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!!

We are THANKFUL to those of you who have been with us since the start of this over a year ago AND to those who have just found us. This podcast is for parents of teen athletes and performers who are engaged in the hardest job on planet earth: parenting!

In EP 72 we explore the concept of gratitude, particularly in the context of parenting and personal relationships with your teens. We hit on the importance of genuine gratitude, by discussing what a developmental psychologist (Dr. Janae Nelson) labels as "shallow gratitude."

What does shallow gratitude mean to you? And, how could it be sending the wrong message to your teens if it is how you are modeling and practicing gratitude (we know you're not!!)?

Some helpful insights from EP 72 to grab onto:

-Gratitude can be practiced at different levels.

-Shallow gratitude lacks a connection to the giver.

-Expressing gratitude to children reinforces positive behavior.

-Handwritten notes create deeper connections.

-Gratitude helps combat stress .

-Face-to-face gratitude can lead to stronger relationships.

Moms & Dads: Let's. Get. Grateful. And, let's get grateful at a very high level!!

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PARENTS: Is THIS Making Your Job Harder?!

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 06:12:04 GMT

Oh, moms and dads, you already know how difficult your job is as a parent. We like to say here on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast that "it is the hardest job and there's not a close second." Yep, it's tough.

So...do we actually make it EVEN harder (why would we ever do that?!!!!!) by using ________? Fill in the blank with the nasty word we wrestled with in Episode 70. Yep, the "S" word. No, not that "S" word but this "S word": sarcasm. Hello, darkness my old friend! If you just discovered us and haven't listened to Episode 70, now would be a good time to do that!

Speed us up to 1.5 or 1.75 and get your fill of The Ten Reasons Why You Should Never Use Sarcasm. We've made this horrific mistake as coaches and parents and we want to to treasure your connections and communication with your teen athlete or performer.

Some gems from EP 71 to consider:

--Sarcasm is a very risky form of communication

--The more important the person, the connection, and the situation, the more it is critical that you do NOT use sarcasm.

--Parents often make their jobs harder through ineffective communication.

--Sarcasm can undermine trust and create confusion in relationships.

--Using sarcasm can damage a your teen's self-esteem.

--Sarcasm can lead to increased stress and anxiety for both parents and children.

--A "negativity culture" can develop from habitual sarcasm.

--Motivation in teens can decrease due to sarcastic remarks.

--Sarcasm can stifle creativity and risk-taking in children.

--Power imbalances in relationships can be reinforced by sarcasm.

--Increasing awareness of sarcasm's impact is crucial for improvement.

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PARENTS: Are you Ready to Dance with the Stars?

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 19:41:28 GMT

Hello Super Moms & Dads! Welcome to a MISSION CRITICAL edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!! And if you're wondering if it has to do with the dynamic and often delicate dance of communication, you are right...AGAIN! (Parents are always right, right?!)

In EP 70 we specifically dive into a crucial communication subject that can get a little blurred, messy, and unfortunately hurtful. We're going to focus on the differences between sarcasm and clever wit. It's a bit tricky! In fact, it's more than that when it comes to sarcasm. We believe it is quite "risky" especially in high-stakes situations. While clever wit can be funny and uplifting, sarcasm is a big, fat, dud. It always fizzles and we want the good kind of fireworks to erupt in your parent/teen convos!

Some helpful insights from EP 70 to grab onto:

-Communication is a dynamic dance involving both speaker and listener.

-Sarcasm can often be misinterpreted and is risky in communication.

-Clever wit is more about uplifting and connecting than mocking.

-Tone and delivery significantly affect how messages are perceived.

-Building strong relationships allows for more playful communication.

-Understanding the mood of the audience is crucial for effective humor.

-Intent behind words is key to positive communication.

-Clever wit can lighten the mood and foster connection.

-Engaging the brain before engaging the mouth can prevent misunderstandings!

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Coach/Parent Communication Secrets Revealed w/ Coach Chad Sims!

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 22:30:36 GMT

Parents--Halloween is over but you are in for a real treat today!!

In this edition of The Stop Parenting & Stop Coaching Podcast, we are overjoyed to have the mighty Chad Sims, head boys basketball coach at Davis High School (UT) as our guest today!

Chad does a lot of things in his communication system that many coaches do, but he does ONE THING that NOT very many HS coaches do. Chad shares his innovative approach to engaging parents that incorporates a very personal, transparent, in-person conversation. His approach helps everyone involved and has contributed to him creating a team culture that embodies trust and respect that extends beyond the court, the season, and a player's short career. Chad's strategy also helps build teams that win (A LOT) on and off the court!

Listen in as Chad discusses the challenges and successes of navigating coach-parent-player dynamics, the role of honesty in coaching, and the impact of effective communication on young athletes' development and team success!

Terrific Takeaways

-Why you don't want a "Davis vs. Davis" scenario & how you can stop this!

-Building trust with parents can lead to a more cohesive team environment.

-Honesty is crucial in discussions about player roles and expectations.

-Creating a culture of respect helps in managing parent-player dynamics.

-Coaches should be transparent about their philosophies to avoid misunderstandings.

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What if Being a Great Parent is Easier than we Thought?

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 21:41:13 GMT

Welcome Parental Units to Episode 68 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We appreciate you for taking the time to up your parenting game! Today we wrestle with the 2 words that describe GREAT parenting. You already know them AND (hint, hint) they are not mutually exclusive--they are a mix of seeming contraries. You can be BOTH and if you are, your parenting skills are next level! Congrats!

Back to The TWO WORDS. We reference from the work of the great brain himself, Dr. Daniel Amen. What do you think they are? Fill in the letter blanks:

F_ _ _ AND K _ _ _. Got 'em?

Here are some teasers and gems you'll encounter in this episode:

--Being a great parent can be easier than we think.

--The key to GREAT parenting is being both firm and kind.

--Expectations should be communicated clearly to children.

--Discipline is essential for teaching responsibility.

--Recognizing children's achievements builds trust and respect.

--Consistency in parenting creates a safe environment.

--Adapting to each child's needs is crucial for effective parenting.

--Parents should manage their stress to be more kind.

--Firmness without kindness can lead to resentment.

--Firm and kind parenting will elevate your performer's or teen athlete's performance.

What Do I Do When They Don't Need Me Anymore?!

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 19:02:03 GMT

Hey Parents--here's hoping your racking up some W's with your teen athlete and performer! But what if it feels like you're not needed anymore? How can we continue or start a new winning streak?

In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we will dial in on exactly why we hurt as parents when "we're not needed anymore" and even better, we'll zero in on the thinking shift that can get you back in the "NEEDED" game!

Here are a few juicy ideas we'll bat around in today's show:

--The feeling of being needed is addictive for parents.

--As young children grow into teens, their need for parents changes.

--It's crucial for parents to understand that their children will always need them, just in different ways.

--Letting go of the need to be directly involved can be challenging for parents.

--Asking the right questions can foster better communication with teens.

--Encouraging leadership and problem-solving skills in your teen is essential.

Let's gooooooooo moms and dads!

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Are You Subconsciously Avoiding Challenge?!

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 20:46:13 GMT

In today's edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we will explore the concept of challenge avoidance, particularly how subconscious beliefs can lead us to shy away from challenges. Yikes! Let's don't shrink!! We want to face and embrace challenge, don't we?!

Absolutely (I mean, you did choose parenthood!!), so let's discuss the "the challenge continuum" from childhood to adulthood, and how reframing challenges as opportunities can foster confidence and growth in our teen athletes and performers.

Let's embrace challenges as parents and model this behavior for our kids, because hey, challenge is inevitable!

Some teasers and a few of bright the shining gems in this episode:

We perceive 11 million pieces of information every second, but are only consciously aware of 40 to 120.
Subconscious avoidance of challenges can lead to negative outcomes in relationships and personal growth.
Children are naturally inclined to embrace challenges, but adults often shy away due to fear of judgment.
Modeling behavior as parents is crucial in teaching children how to face challenges.
Reframing challenges as opportunities can shift perspective and build confidence.
Negative self-talk can indicate limiting beliefs that hinder challenge acceptance.
Self-awareness is key to understanding one's avoidance of challenges.
Asking questions can guide children to see challenges as opportunities for growth.
The way we perceive challenges can significantly impact our self-esteem and willingness to engage.
Parents should reflect on their own challenge avoidance to better support their children.

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How Do I Turn This Thing Around?

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 03:38:40 GMT

Welcome

Have you or your teen athlete or performer ever been in a nasty, discouraging slump? We'll take your answer to be a YES even if we can't hear you. But trust us parents, we CAN hear you loud and clear. Slumps happen. It's no fun to watch your teen wallow in misery during a slump even when we know this is part of life, sports, and performing arts!

Today's episode is all about SLUMP BUSTING (and possibly launching some preemptive strikes to avoid those pesky slumps!). We hope you enjoy what we're serving up today and as always, we appreciate you and thank you for listening! Enjoy!

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Fun Banter

02:41 Understanding Slumps and Slump Busting

05:20 The Role of Non-Parental Adults in Slump Busting

08:23 Practical Tips for Overcoming Slumps

11:20 Preventing Slumps Through Daily Habits

13:50 Focus Management and Positive Reinforcement

18:05 Podcast Vid Outro (2).mp4

Parents: How Do We Create Our Own Luck?

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 14:01:54 GMT

Hey Parents--here's hoping your lucky streak continues! If you didn't check out Episode 63: "Do Your Teens Feel Unlucky?", we suggest you give that a listen before you digest this one.

In that episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we tackled the concept of luck based on some ideas from a book titled: "Conscious Luck: 8 Secrets to Change Your Fortune."

Here are a few lucky horseshoes we'll toss around in today's show:

Luck is the advantage gained by taking bold action and executing the correct course of action.
"Luck-worthy" goals are those that inspire motivation and stretch your thinking.
Mindset plays a crucial role in taking consistent bold action and creating luck--what would happen if you were able to "create your own luck" rather than standing around merely "hoping" to get "lucky?!"
The coaching approach to parenting can help teens identify and take bold action towards their "luck-worthy" goals.

Let's get lucky!!!

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Parents: Do Your Teens Feel Unlucky?

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 13:50:08 GMT

Hey Parents--it's your lucky day!! Oh that was a bad dad joke but please do stick around and maybe your luck, or our luck, will change!

In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we tackle the fascinating subject of luck based on a few concepts we have gleaned from the following book that believe it or not, impact you AND your teens: "Conscious Luck: 8 Secrets to Change Your Fortune" by Gay Hendricks (he wrote The Big Leap--highly recommended!!) and Carol Kline.

Stay tuned as we hit the following big ideas, keys, or four leaf clovers:

Luck is a perspective that we have on events.
Labels like 'lucky' or 'unlucky' can limit our ability to see the potential gifts in a situation.
Guilt can be a barrier to feeling lucky and deserving good things.
Helping teenagers shift their thinking and beliefs can improve their perception of luck.
Neutral thinking and considering the potential gifts in every situation can lead to a more positive perspective on luck.

And all of this leads us into Episode 64 next week where we discuss how we can create our own luck. Juicy stuff!

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Would You Rather Juggle Chainsaws or Bowling Pins?!

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 12:01:35 GMT

NOTE: This is a do-over from a previously published episode of the same title and subject. Due to some faulty recording and technical issues, that upload was awful and did not meet our high audio quality standards. So here we go again. Please enjoy the cleaner, new, and improved version!

Welcome back or welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Are you a juggler? Now for you non-jugglers before you answer no, ask yourself "Am I a parent?" If you answered "Yes!" then guess what? You ARE a juggler!

And if you're the parent of a teen athlete or performer you are doing your best acrobatics as you juggle family, school, sports, and performance activities for the kids you love so much.

So let's dive into the circus of juggling the chainsaws and bowling pins of parenting life! We'll then work our way up a Ladder and then climb back down before we fall off. Eventually we really just want to put down the chainsaws, bowling pins, and ladders so we can pick up The Wheel. The Wheel is really where juggling can end and a smooth ride begins.

The Wheel is all about prioritization, clarity, and confidence, baby! And if you're a parent, you know those are things you sometimes feel are in short supply. Let's shift that!

Thanks for listening!

Enjoy!

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Parents: Should You Let Your Kids Win?

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 18:29:05 GMT

Today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we entertain the very fun and intriguing question of whether you should let your kids win when competing with them as parent/kid, parent/teen, and for Steve, grandpa (Pops!)/young grandson!

This like many other parenting, uh coaching decision is very kid/teen specific and requires some thought on your part.

We may not have all of the answers on this but we do have some fun stories and some compelling questions to make you think! We thank for being here and we hope you'll gain some value!

Should you let your kids beat you? Should you let your kids win?! Something good to think about as you level up your parenting game by coaching more and parenting less. Let's goooo!

Enjoy!

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Have You Fallen in Love with the Storybook Ending?!

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 14:22:17 GMT

Thanks for joining us on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We're Nate & Steve and we get pretty nerdy and jiggy about helping parents to help their teen athletes and performers to thrive!

In today's show we talk about the storybook endings we are not only attracted to but sometimes fall in love with. And along the way we're going to talk Olympics since it is the summer of 2024 and the world's best are competing in France. Yeah, we're talking the stuff of dreams and we'll even throw in some Rocky Balboa, some good ole Wide World of Sports history--you know, the "thrill of victory and the agony of defeat!"

If you love to dream, compete, and experience the full range of emotions that come with playing and performing, there is something in this episode for you!

And, if you discover that something that is valuable to you, will you please share with the other sports or stage mom/dads you know?! Thank you so much for being here.

Enjoy!

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How Much Freedom Should I Give My Teens?

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 13:18:25 GMT

Parents--we're talking teenage freedom on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast today!

Specifically, how much do you give your teens. Oh man, this is a tough question when it comes to your kids. It perhaps is easy to answer it for other parents but not so much for yourself, but let's tackle it now!

And while we're at it let's do the following:

Look at a case study from The Andy Griffith Show back in the black and white days of TV.
Ask ourselves "How do we hold our kids to standards? and... "How do we balance this with the friend part?"
Compare and contrast authoritative and authoritarian parenting, uh coaching. A very interesting discussion indeed. Which do you think you are? Which do you think you should be?

Great food for thought as you seek to up your parenting game by coaching more. Let's goooo!

And before we go, we'll bring back the ever popular Flagrant Foul segment. We think you'll enjoy it and hopefully gain some valuable insights from it!

Enjoy!

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Are Your Expectations Getting in the Way?

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 12:01:50 GMT

Thanks for joining us on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Are you great at guessing, assuming, and mind reading when it comes to the relationship with your teen athlete or performer? Well, we confess we've traveled down that dead end path that leads to monumental letdowns and disappointments.

Are your "expectations" getting in the way of elevating your relationship and more importantly, is there a better way? Yes, there is! We hope you enjoy this episode and extract some serious value as we dive into why "agreements" are a much better alternative to assumption-filled "expectations!" And, beyond the "why" we'll give you some tips direct from our work in progress Parent Tool we call The Agreement Generator!

Enjoy!

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Wanna Be the Ideal Sports Parent? Do This!!

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 13:54:25 GMT

Super Moms & Dads-we know that being a parent is the hardest job every and you're doing your best! Your son or daughter often finds themselves smack dab in the middle of preseason preparations. But, do you?

We're going to get you thinking about how you can be the ideal sports parent today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! It's your preseason now--how will you prep yourself to be that amazing performance parent that coaches appreciate and rave about?

We're gonna focus on some important "Do's" that automatically help you avoid some disastrous "Don'ts!"

Time is a wasting--let's go parents! Let's get ready for the upcoming season!

Enjoy!

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Your Attitude is Contagious--Is Yours Worth Catching?!

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 12:58:03 GMT

Parents--we're talking attitude and optimism today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!

You've no doubt heard the ole adage: Your attitude is contagious--is yours worth catching?! Well, is it? I sure hope so because as a parent you are on stage 24/7 and you're kids are very likely to replicate what you do.

We're going to dive into modeling, inquiry, and even "neural synchronization!"

Yep, Nate goes into full Nerd Mode and teaches about this fascinating brain truth!

And for dessert, we'll introduce you to The Negativity Diet. So long South Beach, Atkins, or whatever diets you've latched onto before. This is no fad, this is a diet you'll love to incorporate every day the rest of your life!

Enjoy!

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Tragedy into Triumph: Bouncing Back From Injury & Setbacks!

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 13:17:04 GMT

Moms/Dads--Did injury (or setback) ever rear its ugly head back in the day during your playing or performing career? It likely did and you'd probably agree, it sucked! So what did you do about it? Did you turn tragedy into triumph? We trust that you did and hope you'll help your teen athlete or performer do the same if they are sidelined by an unfortunate injury.

We're talking all things injury and bouncing back strong on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast today!

Let's help our kids turn into The Rubber Band Man or Woman and turn tragedy into triumph!

Enjoy!

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Izi Chinchay of PUSHtheGOAL Soccer & more!

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 13:26:46 GMT

Izi Chinchay (a name you won't soon forget) is our guest today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Izi is a coach, leader, role model, podcaster, and a newlywed too (at the time of this recording she was counting down the weeks to her wedding). We're big fans and excited to have her on the show!

Soccer mom and dad alert!! You are in the right place today. You are gonna soak up the wisdom, and may I say, next level energy, fire, and competitive spirit of this amazing lady!

Izi has an important story to tell and we are 100% confident that it will inspire you (and your teens) to elevate your parenting game so you can best equip, encourage, and empower your athletes and performers!

There's a little bit of everything in this episode for all moms and dads whether you're supporting your teens on the pitch, the court, or the stage. Sit back and generate some insight as we draw out wisdom and knowledge from the courageous, the resilient, the determined, the one and only Izi Chinchay!! Click here to find her on Instagram!

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And, if you like to WATCH rather than LISTEN, we are now on VIDEO with each of our future episodes (starting with Episode 50 ). You can find now watch us on YouTube on the Nate & Steve Channel (@CreateTransformBecome) click HERE: The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! New episodes drop every Monday.

If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building!

And as always moms & dads--we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your superstar teen! You are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. We believe in you! -Nate & Steve

Parents: Should You Drop the Shield?! (The Good Life series 4 of 4)

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 14:02:14 GMT

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Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! You must be a Most Valuable Parent! Of course you are!

In this 4 episode series we will be rolling around in and climbing up and down the not so secret, secret to lasting happiness. Thanks for joining us as we dive into the transformative content from the bestselling book: The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Marc Schulz and Robert J. Waldinger. These guys know happiness! After all, they have been engaged in a study spanning almost 85 years and examining 700+ individuals and families. Now that's what you call an exhaustive study!!

So in this episode we tackle the use of Parental Shields! Here's a question to get you thinking...

How do you protect your teens while also not shielding them from the very experiences that will help them learn, grow, and develop?

We hope you'll find value and dive deep into your parental thoughts as we discuss the life changing (for the good!) findings from the world’s longest happiness study. And as always, we specifically tailor our content for the amazing, striving, and resilient parents of teen athletes and performers. We want nothing more than to inspire and educate MVPs like yourself to elevate your performance, deepen family bonds, and become a role model for your teen’s success and well-being. Let's goooooooooooooooooooo!

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And, if you like to WATCH rather than LISTEN, we are now on VIDEO with each of our future episodes (starting with Episode 50 . You can find now watch us on YouTube on the Nate & Steve Channel (@CreateTransformBecome) click HERE: The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! New episodes drop every Monday.

If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building!

Parents--Will Yours Stand the Test of Time? (The Good Life series 3 of 4)

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 16:24:31 GMT

NOTE: Our show is now a video podcast and we're on YouTube!! Click here to watch!

Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! You must be a Most Valuable Parent! Of course you are!

Here's where we're going today...

How can we build relationships with our teens (& anyone else!) that can truly stand the test of time?

Will yours stand the test of time? "Will my 'what', you ask?" (Actually you did NOT ask that because having listened to Eps 50 & 51 you already know we're laser focused on RELATIONSHIPS! (standing O 4 U).

Let's go, the clock is ticking!

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Parents--How Do We Reclaim Our Kids?! (The Good Life series 2 of 4)

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 12:01:54 GMT

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Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! You must be a Most Valuable Parent! Of course you are!

Ever feel like the distractions and busyness of life robs you of quality time with your teens?

What meaningful traditions do you have in your family? How do you create more with your teens?

Practices, phones, friends, all the fun and sometimes boring stuff of life claims our teens by diverting our focus and chewing up the clock. Well, let's reclaim them and create space for the magical relationships we all desire. We hit this issue hard in this episode and along the way have some fun.

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Parents: Is There a "Happiness SECRET?!" (The Good Life series 1 of 4)

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 06:10:21 GMT

Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! You must be a Most Valuable Parent! Of course you are!

In our next four episode series we will be revealing the not so secret, secret to lasting happiness as we dive into the transformative content from the bestselling book: The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Marc Schulz and Robert J. Waldinger. These guys know happiness. After all, they have been engaged in a study spanning almost 85 years and examining 700+ individuals and families. Now that's what you call an exhaustive study!!

Who wouldn't want to know the secret to happiness?! Imagine how tapping into this secret can not only transform your connection to your teen athlete or performer but with any and every other human you know (dogs, too! cats? we're not sure!).

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And, if you like to WATCH rather than LISTEN, we are now going VIDEO with each of our future episodes. Starting with Episode 50 (this one!) you can find now watch us on YouTube on the Nate & Steve Channel (@CreateTransformBecome) click HERE: The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! New episodes drop every Monday.

If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building!

MINDSET SERIES (6 of 6): Let's Get INTENTIONal!

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 12:02:06 GMT

MINDSET SERIES (6 of 6): Let's Ignite INTENTION!

Moms & Dads! Today we continue our 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we finish strong with INTENTION! We've walked the path from HONESTY to FOCUS to BELIEF to RESPONSE to OPTIMISM in the past 5 episodes. If you haven't listened to them, we encourage you to do so (start on Episode 44--"Let's Get Radically Honest!")

Here are a couple of teasers for today's episode:

What do fresh shelled peas have to do with parenting your teen performers?
Are you fueling yourself like a donkey or a Kentucky Derby thoroughbred?!
Let's go moms & dads, let's get unabashedly INTENTIONal and be the leaders your teens need you to be!

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Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Hit the follow button wherever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday. If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building!

Moms/Dads--we're cheering you on this week as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your superstar teen! You are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. We believe in you! -Nate & Steve

MINDSET SERIES (5 of 6): Let OPTIMISM Rule!

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 19:41:48 GMT

MINDSET SERIES (5 of 6): Let OPTIMISM Rule!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we step up to OPTIMISM. This is next on the pathway after drilling down on HONESTY, FOCUS, & BELIEF, RESPONSE in the past 4 episodes. If you haven't listened to them, we encourage you to do so (start on Episode 44--"Let's Get Radically Honest!")

Here is just one teaser (ok, 3) for today's episode:

what was your favorite lunchbox?
what would you do if fertilizer was falling from the sky?
what is the Monty Python song that drips of OPTIMISM?!

Let's go moms & dads, let's unholster OPTIMISM and transform it into one of your superpowers!!

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MINDSET SERIES (4 of 6): Your RESPONSE is Everything!

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 12:01:51 GMT

MINDSET SERIES (4 of 6): Your RESPONSE is Everything!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we progress to RESPONSE. This is a logical step after hitting HONESTY, FOCUS, & BELIEF in the last 3 episodes. If you haven't listened to them, we encourage you to do so (start on Episode 44)

Here are some teasers for today's episode:

what does a remote control have to do with mindset?
the revisitation of E + R = O framework (Event + RESPONSE = Outcome)
3rd grade memories and responses
why everyone should read Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
what is the difference between values and beliefs?

Seriously now, let's RESPOND as high performing parents do and model the way for our teens! Enjoy!

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MINDSET SERIES (3 of 6): You'll Always Follow Through on What U BELIEVE!

Tue, 28 May 2024 22:30:52 GMT

MINDSET SERIES (3 of 6): You'll Always Follow Through on What U Believe!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we build upon HONESTY and FOCUS as we climb up the mindset ladder.

Here are some teasers:

You can't outperform your self-image!
How do you help your teen identify "bad" beliefs!
Do you prefer pink elephants or purple zebras?!

Seriously now, let's dial in on BELIEF as parents and show the way for our kids! Enjoy!

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MINDSET SERIES (2 of 6): Let's FOCUS!

Tue, 21 May 2024 18:22:41 GMT

MINDSET SERIES (2 of 6): Let's FOCUS!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we take a step beyond HONESTY and dive into the most important commodity known as FOCUS.

Here is a teaser:

What are the How's & Why's of using a telescope and microscope?
Did you ever burn ants with a magnifying glass?
How do I improve my FOCUS skill?

Seriously now, let's dial in on FOCUS as parents and show the way for our kids! Enjoy!

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MINDSET SERIES (1 of 6): Let's get radically HONEST!

Mon, 13 May 2024 12:01:32 GMT

Moms & Dads! Today we begin a 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we lay the foundation with

We are going to challenge you as parents to get radically (think BMX bike tricks, or not!) honest, the first step in building an unbeatable mindset--you simply cannot skip it and expect to come off conqueror!

Here are a few of teaser questions:

What does being "radically honest" mean for you and what would that look like in your relationship with your teen athlete or performer?
How honest are you with yourself and your strengths and areas for growth?
What would change if you approached every situation with complete honesty?

Honestly, let's get radically honest so we can shine as parents and lead the way for our kids!

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Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday. If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building!

Parent Alert! Giannis Delivers a Life Lesson for the Ages!

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 14:58:33 GMT

Giannis Antetokounmpo (say that 5 times fast!), the all star forward and one time MVP of the National Basketball Association's Milwaukee Bucks is currently experiencing painful playoff adversity in more ways than one. At publishing time of this episode (April 29, 2024) he is hobbled by a late season injury that has kept him out of the series with the Indiana Pacers which has also contributed to them facing first round elimination for the second consecutive year. Ugh! So let's rewind a bit...

Back on April 26, 2023. The Eastern Conference #1 seeded Milwaukee Bucks had just been eliminated from the playoffs in the first round by the #8 seed, the Miami Heat. By most observers, this was an unexpectedly quick end to the Bucks' season.

In this short episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we discuss NBA superstar Giannis Antetokounmpo's answer to the following question in a post game press conference following the disappointing defeat: "Do you view this season as a failure?"

We are downright giddy of the widespread broadcast of this press conference question. We are likewise jazzed that it was asked of a well respected, well grounded, not to mention immensely talented, professional athlete such as Giannis.

The question and answer provides a golden opportunity for you as a parent to really think about your own thinking relative to "failure" and "success." What is your definition of success? We believe this question and your answers can open the door of discovery as you intentionally engage in meaningful discussions with your spouse and teens concerning your definitions of "failure" and "success." Enjoy!

----Watch the Giannis Antetokounmpo press conference here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZwlAzr44ys

----Watch the Inside in the NBA crew explore the Giannis press conference here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qI6vsaZZDJc

-Nate & Steve

P.S. We also introduce The Scoreboard Course for parents of teen athletes and performers which is undergoing a few tweaks before we launch it along with our new revamped website: createtransformbecome.com.

P.P.S. f you love this podcast and find it helpful, would you please indulge us and leave us a 5 star review and share this episode with a parent friend who would enjoy it too? THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT as our passion project gains traction and the createtransformbecome community continues to blossom!

SLOW down to SPEED Up!!

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 17:12:38 GMT

Moms/Dads--Halt...Stop. If you have not listened to Episode 41 on The 3 R's of Productivity, please throw it into Reverse and go listen to it first.

And then...

dial in to today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we do a semi-simulated coaching session of a fictitious (and totally plausible) Parental Unit who is proudly wearing The Badge of Busyness!

Enjoy!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday.

3 R's 4 Parent Productivity

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 16:00:37 GMT

Moms/Dads--we know you're soooooper BUSY! And we know you're often proud of it--haha! We get it and applaud your never ending efforts to excel and doing your best to help your teen athlete or performer excel! Bravo!

Question: Should we proudly display the Badge of Busyness? We're not saying it's a terrible thing, but...and this is a big but...is there anything we can do as high performing parents of high performing teens to alleviate this incessant BUSYNESS that is both a blessing and a curse?! It turns out there is, you can, and probably already are!! But let's check in on this anyway.

We're going to get busy (sorry, we are dads) explore in today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast (and next week we'll be role playing an abbreviated coaching session with a parent who wears the Badge of Busyness!) We also destroy the age old, worn out, and deeply flawed title of "time management!"

Let's go--we're excited to challenge your thinking today about going fast and we're also jazzed to chat about The 3 R's. C'mon, we're coaching and psychology nuts so we gotta throw in a Consonant List every once in awhile!

Enjoy!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday.

PARENT: "What's This Gonna Cost Me?"

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 12:01:09 GMT

We're weighing costs and benefits and outcomes today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Let's address some very important questions that you as parents need to ask yourselves as you make decisions about support, incentives, and rewards with the intent of raising your teen's performance and creating a great life experience for them. And, as you decide on what type of support you provide, what are the ramifications besides the obvious (and not so obvious) price tags?! Here are a few teaser questions to ponder:

--Do I pay or reward for performance such as stats, ratings, scores, or rankings?

--Do I incentivize outcomes?

--Have I considered the ramifications for everyone involved (team/group, teammates/peers, coaches/leaders)?

--How do I really know or learn what to reinforce or incentivize?

And...there's more! We'll also dive into the following critical concepts:

1) The reality that teens are very susceptible to feeling as if they are a burden on their very supportive parents.

2) How can you create transformation rather than going through the motions of making mere transactions in your parent/teen athlete--performer relationship.

3) Have I sufficiently pondered whether my actions and support are "costs" or "investments?" What do I truly value and how does that translate to my support of my teen athlete/performer?

Let's goooooooooooo moms and dads--let's up your game!

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Hey there SUPERSTAR Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday. If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building!

"Bracket Watching!" Should You or Shouldn't You, Parents/Teen Performers?!

Mon, 01 Apr 2024 14:35:38 GMT

This episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. is no joke (really)! Happy April 1st everyone!

Today we explore a very intriguing question from one of our teen listeners (ha-this isn't just for parents!) who competes as a high school wrestler:

Should I or shouldn't I "bracket watch?" What a great question! And what a timely question too as most of the world (even if you don't like basketball) is aware of the fun and frenzied "bracket watching" that goes on during the winding up of the college basketball season as several dozen teams engage single elimination tourney bracket craziness known as March Madness (even though it always ends in early April--so there's that!). So let's tip this thing off and play--here are a few things we'll address in today's discussion:

--What is "bracket watching?"

--Will "bracket watching" help me perform better? Will it harm my performance?

--What is the best approach to help me focus in a tournament or competition scenario?

We hope you love this episode and find it useful! And while you're here, would you please share it and/or this episode with your parent friends (or teen athlete) who reside with teen athletes/performers. \

We do this for you and cannot do it without you. Please drop us a 5 star review on your favorite pod platform if you feel we are deserving of such glowing comments--it will help our podcast become available to more parents!

We also LOVE the feedback and/or questions you send to us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. We drop new ones every MONDAY!

Moms/Dads--we want you to elevate your parenting (and so do your kids!). You CAN do this if you "Stop Parenting & Start Coaching" your superstar teen! Let's goooooo! -Nate & Steve

Parents--Trash The Blamethrower!

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 12:00:20 GMT

Welcome to a fiery episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we encourage you, ourselves, and all Parental Units on earth to toss those ever so destructive Blamethrowers into the trash heap!

We're not gonna lie--today's subject makes us squirm a little and may make you a bit uncomfy as well! That's why it's soooooo necessary and so important for each of us to address head on. We aim to help you avoid being "trapped in blame!"

So, here's our path today. We will build on the "Figure it out and get better" & The Expectancy Test concepts from Episode 37 "So, You're Saying There's a Chance" by discussing the destructive nature of casting blame! Here are a few questions we encourage you to entertain:

--How do we deal effectively with uncontrollable situations (that are true) where mistakes are inevitable?!

--Where is a better place for my focus?

--What is the best perspective to help me avoid picking up The Blamethrower?

--How do you really want to show up for your kids before, during, and after their performances?

And, that's not all!

We finish up with some gems on how to deal with friends, other parents, or even your spouse who play the blame game! If you "figure this out and get better" you'll be modeling a great life skill to your teen athlete and performer! WIN-WIN, baby!

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We LOVE feedback and/or questions! Send us yours to createtransformbecome@gmail.com. We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. We drop new ones every MONDAY!

Moms/Dads--you are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. Have a great week of parenting, uh we mean, coaching!! -Nate & Steve

So You're Saying There's A Chance?!

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 17:45:29 GMT

Thank you for joining us as we attempt to counter a crazy delusion that exists in some parental circles on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! This episode is built around an illuminating observation and quote from an NBA veteran and father, Jamal Crawford.

Listen in to hear him describe a chronic problem in the AAU youth basketball circuit than can help you grow as a parent and in turn help your teen to successfully navigate their performance world. It matters not if your son or daughter plays basketball, a musical instrument, or sings like an angel--there is much to learn here in this discussion.

How can you avoid The Delusion Zone and show up as your best parental self? Well, let's start right here with these two gems...

Become informed and set realistic expectations!

Determine whose dream is being pursued!

In this episode we introduce the raw material of The Expectancy Test, a new thinking tool we're creating! It is comprised of a few powerful questions you can ask yourself as a parent to help you to help your teen athlete or performer pursue their dreams and perform their best! Let's goooooooooooo!

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Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday. If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building!

Stops Signs, "The Ladder" & "I Don't Know"

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 15:13:17 GMT

In today's this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we are going to talk stop signs, ladders and the common "I Don't Know" answer. We dive in first by chatting about those red, octagon-shaped street signs and "The Ladder of Learning!"

What is The Ladder of Learning? You're going to find out (or remember it) in this episode. We all climb it throughout our life and it's important that we understand where our teen athletes and performers are at on The Ladder. Understanding the 4 related "rungs" of competence, incompetence and consciousness is way more important than that physical ladder hanging in your garage.

When your kids say "I don't know" you can immediately up your parenting game as you seamlessly encourage them to "think about their thinking" because you really know and understand The Ladder of Learning! Oh, this is the good stuff! It is your time to shine parents! And when you shine, you empower your teen athlete and performer to do the same!

Hey--while you're here, would you please share our show or this episode with a parent friend who could benefit as well. We do this for you and cannot do it without you. We would love a 5 star review from you if we are deserving of such!

We also LOVE your feedback and/or questions you send to us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. We drop new ones every MONDAY!

Moms/Dads--we want you to elevate your parenting. You CAN do this if you "Stop Parenting & Start Coaching" your superstar teen! You are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. Let's goooooooo! -Nate & Steve

Parents--Get Curious, Not Furious!

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 14:18:05 GMT

Parents...

Ever run into Stubborn Walls in your daily battles with a not so cooperative teen?

Ever tried to connect with Stubborn Ones?

Ever been in the proverbial "I'm Right You're Wrong" power struggle with your teen (or anyone else!)?

In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explore how you can learn to lead with humility in conversations with teens who are not so easy to connect with. Some questions we take on include:

--What is your role as a parent in your teen's journey?

--How can you can connect with your teens while not destroying boundaries or letting them run wild!

--Are you ready to hear something you do not want to hear?

--What's something "simple and consistent" that you could do daily that will create mutual respect and understanding?

Most Valuable Parents--we hope this episode will help you gain some helpful insights to help you confidently approach and guide conversations with your Stubborn One(s)!

If you love this episode, please share it with a friend and if you love it as much as a full fledged dance party with Furious George & The Monster Groove, we'd love it if you gave us a 5 star review and/or leave a helpful review so others may more easily find us as we continue to grow--thanks!

And please remember, we're cheering you on moms and dads--you're doing better than you think! - Nate & Steve

The Parental Pull of Gravity!

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 15:55:55 GMT

Moms and Dads--Ever feel like you're spinning out of control? How do you stay firmly in orbit in your role as a Parental Unit?!

Prepare to launch yourself (sorry for the dad joke) into the nerd zone in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. We'll do our very best to land on the following questions (sorry, that was a bad one!):

--Why is it critical you UNDERSTAND the gravity of your role as a parent?

--Why is being INTENTIONAL in your interactions and conversations so important?

--What do your teens WANT (& NEED) to hear from you?

--What is the danger of being TRAPPED by your past mistakes?

--W.I.N. -- What's Important NOW?

When you get this all of this right, your teen athlete and performer will be freed up to perform their very best and will do so knowing that you are firmly in your orbit and in their corner!

Speaking of corners, we wrap up today's episode's by splashing down (oh boy) into Creation Corner where we invite you to thoughtfully and carefully answer the most "important question: the W.I.N. question!!

1) List "the W.I.N." for you as a parent

2) Discuss your "W.I.N." answer(s) with your spouse, a friend, or a random stranger at the grocery store!

We hope you love this episode and find it useful! And while you're here, would you please share it and/or this episode with a parent friend (or two or three) who could benefit from it as well. We do this for you and cannot do it without you. We would love a 5 star review from you if we are deserving of such!

Moms/Dads--we want you to elevate your parenting (and so do your kids!). You CAN do this if you "Stop Parenting & Start Coaching" your superstar teen! Let's goooooo! -Nate & Steve

Parents! Ever Parked Like a Banana?

Mon, 19 Feb 2024 17:17:05 GMT

CLICKBAIT WARNING! What do guinea pigs and perpendicular parking have to do with parenting a teenaged athlete or performer?! Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?!

and...

Have you ever parked like a banana? Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh?!

OK, let's unpeel this banana and straighten up those guinea pigs between the lines or in other words, let's figure out how this one weird little perpendicular parking trick will help you to strengthen your connections with your teen and elevate your parental communication skills!

Listen in to the latest episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast and we'll make sense of this nonsense!

Final thought, Parental Units--you are doing better than you think and your kids are counting on you. Believe in them. Respect them. Guide them. Trust them. Transform your relationship with them, TODAY.

Catch you next week with another episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching* Podcast. We drop every Monday. -Nate & Steve

P.S. We believe in your parenting (and your perpendicular parking, too)!

Yikes! That Would Be Really Awkward & Scary!

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 13:01:02 GMT

What in the wide world of sports is "positional intimidation" and how does it effect your teen athlete or performer? And what is "pupification?!" Ok, the second term was created purely in jest but the first term is real and almost every teen will find themself facing it at some point in their playing or performing journey. Perspective and preparation will help them lower the stress and apprehension that often accompanies this scary situation! What situation? We're talking about your teen approaching an "intimidating" coach, director, advisor, teacher, or leader. Yikes! This can be difficult, but it doesn't have to be. Let's skill up!

In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we do not dance around this tough situation for teens and parents. Let's find out when and how to approach these crazy, intimidating coaches by focusing on a few important things:

Why getting to the truth is critical
Methods for getting to the truth by conversing with your coach
Questions to consider that really work
A gold mine role playing tip for parents and teens
Why timing can help dial down the pressure and ramp up growth

Very Important Parents--we hope you have gained some helpful insights to help you confidently guide your teen to confidently approach their coach! We hope you will discuss those insights with your spouse or partner and most importantly, with your teen athlete or performer!

If you love this episode, please share it with a friend and if you love it as much as a fluffy puppy, we'd love it if you gave us a 5 star review and/or leave a helpful review so others may more easily find us as we continue to grow--thanks!

And please remember, we're cheering you on moms and dads--you're doing better than you think! - Nate & Steve

What if My Coach DOESN'T Hate Me?

Tue, 06 Feb 2024 00:07:02 GMT

Last week in Episode #30 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explored the "My Coach Hates Me" situation and in today's episode (#31) we stick our hands in the same hornet's nest, but now from a coach's perspective.

In fact, speaking on "perspective", our goal is to encourage you as a Most Valuable Parent to entertain the idea of creating a perspective shift in this difficult situation. By doing so, you position yourself to help your teen to learn the best way(s) to turn this not very fun situation into a positive experience. We all have blind spots (performers/parents/coaches) and becoming aware of those blind spots and then viewing things in a fresh, different, (and calm) manner can pay big dividends now and in the long term. Let's all experience a grand perspective shift!

Thanks for being here--we hope you gain something valuable from this time we spend together!! We LOVE the feedback and/or questions you send us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. We drop new ones every MONDAY! What's on your parenting mind? Send it to us today! -Nate & Steve

My Coach Hates Me! What Now, Parents?

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 13:00:32 GMT

"My coach hates me!" Is this a thing? Oh, it's a thing and it's not fun for player or parent (or coach, either). Ouch, this one hurts!

"My coach hates me!" is a common refrain from performing teens the world over! So parents, how do we handle this difficult situation? How would you (or do you) deal with this fragile moment that borders on opportunity for learning and a full on train wreck?!

We don't claim to have all of the answers but we do have some gems for you today on navigating the whole "My coach hates me" thing. On The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast today we bust into a spontaneous role play between parent (Nate) and teen (Steve) which we think and believe will be useful for you and your talented teen. Our goal? To help you as a parent up your game in this situation so that you can help your son or daughter to learn and grow through an appropriate perspective shift. This is an prime example of a parent (Nate) who "stops parenting" and "starts coaching" and will create much better results than you hopping on The Misery Train or diving into Fix It Right Now gear. You can do this (the "start coaching" thing)!

Are you ready for some excellent inquiry, gold nugget references to some titans in the personal development world (and their excellent work!), and some tasty apple turnovers, too?! Let's go! Enjoy!

Parents! Don't Miss the Starting Gun!

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 23:35:25 GMT

The opening line for today's show was about sunshine but we must tell you it was sooooooo cold in the studio today--downright frigid! But, we warmed up quickly creating this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast for you. We hope you love it and find it useful.

What do BHAG's, Pink Floyd, Steve Chandler, qualifying for the Boston Marathon and "moving futures" have to do with your parenting and coaching? Listen in to find out as we explore all of the above and specifically the following:

--the importance of managing expectations by using a moving future

-- learning to use a balanced goal approach to model chasing your own goals and dreams

--why it is important for us as parents to have BHAG's and then adjust and adapt appropriately as we pursue them?

--what is a real life example of chasing a BHAG?

--what are some practical applications of the balanced goal approach?

And, we'll wrap it all up in Creation Corner where we will challenge you to thoughtfully and carefully answer these two important questions:

--What will you create with your remaining time?

--Who do you have to be to inspire your teen athlete or performer?

It is your time to shine parents and as you do, you will be modeling great behavior for your teen athletes/performers. Let's do this (whatever you're BHAG is!)

And while you're here, would you please share it and/or this episode with a parent friend who could benefit as well. We do this for you and cannot do it without you. We would love a 5 star review from you if we are deserving of such!

Parents--What if You Don't Feel Like "Trusting the Process?"

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 15:38:09 GMT

In the high performance coaching pool that we swim in, the phrase "trust the process" is mentioned every 3.8 seconds (ok, maybe an exaggeration there!). But...what if we get stuck on or in our feelings and "trusting the process" is not very attractive in the moment? Motivation is easy uh well, when it's easy! :) But what about when it's not?

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we continue our BHAG (big, hairy audacious goal--thank you Jim Collins), resolutions, and generally "go make things happen" 2024 conversation that we began in Episode 26 ("You Don't Need No Stinkin' Resolutions!"). We hit on the balanced goal approach, which is our way of describing the overall strategy of "trusting the process," as we strive to achieve our short and long term goals. Here are just a few of the gold nuggets you'll find here today:

--What is the real battle in taking the balanced goal approach?

--Why should we model this behavior as a parent (rather than just telling them)?

--Why is discipline more important than motivation and how to win the battles within the moment?

--How do we accelerate progress?

--The Nick Booth jump hook story!

--What are the common pitfalls we face when trying to trust the process?

--What is the "sweet spot" when trying to stretch yourself in attacking a goal?!

--And to finish up, a Parental Unit challenge is issued (besides the ongoing challenge for you to share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with 3 of your friends--if you love it, of course, and if you are benefitting from it! The challenge: What can you do TODAY to upgrade your relationship with your teen athlete or performer?

Trust the Process and make it happen moment by moment!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday.

The TRANSFORMING Stress Series: Parents, Are You Falling into this Trap?!

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 13:01:22 GMT

Welcome back to The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast! And a hearty welcome to any new listeners--thanks for being here!

In the third and final episode of The TRANSFORMING Stress Series, we hit on an absolutely critical subject! The all important, absolutely necessary process of creating your definition of success (for you and helping your teen athlete or performer to create their own).

Here's a look at what you'll find in this episode:

- The "story of humanity" or the quest we perpetually chase

- The traps we continually fall into as athletes and parents

- How can you transform the stress associated with these pesky traps?

- What can you do as a superstar parent to create alignment with your teen relative

- A summary of all three episodes in The TRANSFORMING Stress Series and an exciting challenge for you Most Valuable Parents!

If you love what you are LEARNING & LISTENING to here, please share it and/or this episode with a parent friend who could benefit as well. We do this for you and cannot do it without you. We would as they say, love, love, love a 5 star review from you if we are deserving! We are constantly working on our game to create a world-class podcast! New episodes drop every Monday.

We also LOVE the feedback or questions sent to us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. Let's hear from YOU!! Keep them coming! We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode.

Moms/Dads--we've got your back as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your superstar teen! By leveling up your parent game, your teen athlete or performer is much more likely to follow your lead and elevate their performance. Let's goooooooo! -Nate & Steve

Parents--You Don't Need No Stinking Resolutions!

Mon, 01 Jan 2024 13:00:56 GMT

It's January 1. Do you know where your resolutions are? Hopefully in the garbage! Wait, what? Did we just say that?! Uh, yeah we did. Btw, thanks for joining us for the first episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast in 2024! It's time to bang your pots and pans and light off some fireworks! Happy New Year!!

It's also time to:

--exercise more often

--lose that unwanted weight

--read 1 book a week

--eat clean

--start a new hobby

--get out of debt

--share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with 2,024 of your friends

C'mon, that sounds like another New Year's resolutions list. Yaaaawwwn. You're gonna fall off the wagon and we can predict approximately when that will happen (you gotta listen in to find out). It's sooner than you think. Ugh.

On a serious note moms & dads--if you are all fired up for 2024 and have your New Year's resolutions posted, please don't tear them up or burn them! But, we do encourage you to open your mind for a few minutes and lean in or listen in to our discussion on goals, "resolve", and a perhaps a better way to approach a brand stinkin' new year as a parent who wants to get better.

Join us for an intriguing conversation on why it may be a really good thing to challenge the traditional notion that January 1 is prime time for resolutions! We think you'll enjoy having your thinking challenged and we hope you love what we have dialed up for you in Creation Corner.

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Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday.

We would super love it if you gave us a 5 star review along with a brief comment on what you are gaining from our show. Much thanks!

Programming note: we will wrap up The TRANSFORMING Stress Series with a firecracker when we explore the extremely important "__________________." Tune in to Episode 27 to find out what goes in the blank!

Moms/Dads--we're cheering you on this week and THIS BRAND NEW YEAR as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your superstar teen! You are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. Let's goooooooo! -Nate & Steve

The TRANSFORMING Stress Series: Parents--Switching Lenses to Shift Perspective!

Tue, 26 Dec 2023 06:32:07 GMT

Greetings to any new listeners and welcome back to those who've been onboard with us at The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast!

In the second episode of The TRANSFORMING Stress Series, we bring some glass cleaner and wipe the egocentrism off our parental eyeglasses! This one is all about seeing things from your teen's perspective.

Here is a quick peek at what you'll find inside this episode:

--Would you ever deprive a two year-old of a nap in an effort to prepare him or her to for elementary school? Huh?!

--Hair, cars, and music...the good stuff!

--Grades, grades, grades...oh boy, here we go again!

--Sleep and HS start times...don't get us started on this one!

And. we finish up with some great questions to ask your teens to help you switch lenses and shift your perspective! What an opportunity you have to grow and strengthen your relationship with these! Nourish those conversations!

We also LOVE the feedback or questions sent to us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. Let's hear from YOU!! We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode.

And, speaking of upcoming episodes, we will soon wrap up The TRANSFORMING Stress Series with a bang as we explore the extremely critical "__________________." Tune in to find out what that is!

The TRANSFORMING Stress Series: Parents, You Lead the Way!

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 13:00:33 GMT

Welcome to the Transforming Stress Series on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! In the first of three empowering episodes, we delve into the crucial topic of stress transformation.

You, the Very Important Parent, play a crucial role in modeling leading the way for your teen athlete or performer. Your teen is watching you and how you deal with the big "S" word. Stress. YIKES! And, we know it's tough. Often it is harder for you as a parent to watch your teen in a pressure cooker situation than it is for them to perform! You know what we're talking about here!

A common phrase in the personal development/mental health/sport psychology worlds is "stress management." We push back against that phrase in this episode. We confidently and resolutely view stress as something that cannot be eliminated. We view ever present stress as a wonderful opportunity for transformation rather than management! We hope you enjoy the stories from Steve as young athlete and Nate as a sports dad as we illustrate what it means to transform stress into something amazing and helpful.

Speaking of that, how do you change or transform stress into a positive force for good? How do we model appropriate stress transformation for our teens? Here is a great place to start. Answer this gem from Nate: What do you really want for you teen out of their performance experiences? Your honest answer will be insightful and will likely help you shape your behavior in a way that will help your teen to transform stress in effective ways. You got this moms and dads!

Thanks for listening! We hope to have your ears and attention in the next episode as well where we continue our discussion of transforming stress with an emphasis on the mighty role of "perspective."

If you love The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, please follow us and share with two or three of your Parental Unit tribe! We'd also love a 5 star review on Apple or Spotify--it will help us grow and improve! And if you're into the whole socials thing you can follow us at createtransformbecome on Instagram and Facebook. Until next time, GO PARENTS! -Nate & Steve

Parents--So What's Next?!

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 13:00:21 GMT

Thanks for tuning in to this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast.

When a "season" or career ends we often wonder: "so, what's next?"

We are so thankful to one of our listeners for asking us to address this common and challenging situation that most if not all parents of athletes and performers face: the inevitable end of your son or daughter's high school career. As both coaches and as fathers, we have had a front row seat for this experience with our own teens and hundreds of players. It is not an easy situation to deal with and just one of many reasons why "parenting is the hardest job and there's not a close second" (our favorite parenting line of all time)!

Let's tackle this situation together moms and dads! How do we approach this emotionally challenging time where we are watching something so amazing coming to an end? How do we help our teen prepare for this ending? So many good questions to consider--here are some more to ponder:

--As parents, what are the different components of this situation that should be addressed?

--If my teen may or will receive the opportunity to play or perform beyond high school, how do we as parents discuss or prepare for such?

--What does "success" look like for my teen?

--What does my teen want?

--Is this about me or my teen?

--How do I as a parent handle "the end?"

When answering the many questions that fall into the "So, What's Next?" category, the critical fundamentals of connection and communication are KEYS to your success, moms and dads! Btw, we absolutely love how using The QOC Tool would be helpful in this situation. Listen to Episodes 14 & 15 for the deets!

Very Important Parents--we hope you have gained some helpful insights! We hope you are now poised to discuss those insights with your spouse or partner and most importantly, with your teen athlete or performer!

If you love this episode, please share it with a friend--thanks! And please remember, we're cheering you on moms and dads--you're doing better than you think! - Nate & Steve

Parents--Let's Take a Trip to the "E.R.!"

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 12:00:41 GMT

Relax parents, it's not a medical emergency, it's an Emotional Regulation Expedition! That's right, on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we're taking a trip to the 'E.R.' !

As a parent of a teen athlete or performer you know emotions are intertwined into your parent/teen world. Emotions show up in your thoughts, conversations, and for sure in your teen's competitions and performances. We cannot and should not necessarily avoid being emotional, but we can and should learn how to appropriately regulate our emotions to set a great example for our teens. You got this mom, you can do this dad!

Emotional regulation is a skill, so we are going to ask some tough questions that can help you, as the MVP adults in the room, to develop this important parenting skill. When you regulate your emotions, your superstar teens learn how to regulate theirs. Wow, is this valuable! Wow, will this improve your parent/teen relationship! When this happens, your teen is freed up to perform their best! Win-win!

Here are a few of the questions we'll dive into in this episode:

-Why should we NOT suppress emotion?

-Why we should we embrace rather than ignore emotions?

-As a parent what is the best way to teach E.R. to my teen athlete or performer?

-As a parent, where do I start in developing this skill?

-What is the "next level" (Nate's words) or "oblique" approach to working together with our teens to improve our E.R.? (Note: Steve knows what "oblique" means (and we know you do as well) but his sarcasm fools Nate, so you're gonna get the definition anyway! 😊

-Which emotions should we encourage?

Well, we're feeling a little emotional! We are so grateful to you for listening in to The Stop Parenting & Stop Parenting Podcast! Without you, there is no show. Thanks for following us on Instagram at @createtransformbecome and on Facebook (Create Transform Become). And, if you are benefitting from our podcast, please share it with your friends who would love it too! -Nate & Steve

#parentingteens #highperformance

The Asterisk Filled Coaching* Episode for Parents

Tue, 28 Nov 2023 06:02:18 GMT

Just curious Most Valuable Parents--do you say asterICK or asterISK? Ok, that's not really important, but what IS important is understanding the coaching* we are talking about in today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching* Podcast. We are not talking about your typical sport or performance coaching.* Football, voice, lacrosse, dance, etc. Nope, not that!

When we tipped off with the "what makes a great coach"* question, we were talking about a whole different kind of coaching.* When we say that a better way to equip, empower, and encourage your teen athlete or performer is to "stop parenting & start coaching"*, we place an asterisk on the word coaching.* Yeah, just like that!

*Wanna know the coaching* deserving or the mighty asterisk? Well, listen to this episode to learn about this other kind of coaching* that can benefit your teen athlete or performer! Btw, we're BIG fans of this kind of coaching!*

Gratitude moment....

We cannot thank our growing audience enough! You are fantastic parents who share our dream of helping your kids to learn, grow, struggle, and triumph! If you are gaining insights to help you stop parenting and start coaching* your teen, please share this episode with another parent or two, or three who would benefit as well. Sharing is caring!

Final thought, Parent Units--you are doing better than you think and your kids are counting on you. Believe in them. Respect them. Guide them. Trust them. Transform your relationship with them, TODAY. Catch you next week with another episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching* Podcast. -Nate & Steve

P.S. No asterisks were harmed* in the making of this episode.

*just overused

Why Parents Should "Coach" Their Teens!

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 22:01:18 GMT

Welcome to an unofficial "air quote" episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. We immediately dive into our description and explanation of what it really means to "stop parenting" and "start coaching! This powerful, mind shifting concept is the pinnacle of our Parenting Success Pyramid. This is where we hop on the Fun Bus--let's gooooooo MVPs (Most Valuable Parents)!

Moms and dads you are engaging in one of the most difficult responsibilities and opportunities you ever undertake in life: parenting your teen athlete or performer. This is a beautiful, messy, and complicated dance between "parenting" and "coaching!" If you ever feel off balance or like you're stepping on your partner's toes, you are not alone. We all can use a dance lesson now and then! Btw, Nate and I are TERRIBLE dancers!

The key to creating a better relationship with your teen lies in a fundamental shift from parenting to coaching. The tricks and transactions used on young children are inconsistent in gaining cooperation from teens. The more you lead with respect and COACH your teen, the greater the transformation experienced.

We know you are doing your best to get it right. And, if the truth is told, you are likely doing waaaaaaaaaaaaaay better than you think. And, imagine for a moment what can happen if you add to your skill set so your son or daughter is empowered to elevate their performance while simultaneously experiencing less stress and MORE JOY!? Do it! We can help! You will begin transforming the relationship with your teen faster than a 17 year-old can give you a one word answer!

Come as you are! We invite you to explore what we are creating at createtransformbecome.com. We are building a one stop shop for parents of teen athletes and performers. We are building courses, thinking and communication tools, coaching opportunities, this podcast (yay!), and more for YOU! And, speaking of our podcast, if you love what you are learning here, please share it and/or this episode with a parent friend who could benefit as well. We do this for you and cannot do it without you. We'd love a 5 star review from you if we are deserving (we are working on our game, too!).

Best wishes this week as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your superstar teen! You got this and we got your back. -Nate & Steve

Parenting Skill Series Wrap Up! Encouraging Your Teen!

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 01:43:35 GMT

Hello high performing parents! Welcome back or welcome to, for new listeners, to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! In this third episode of a Parenting Skill Series we dive into the last of the 3 E's in our Triple E Toolkit! It's always a good time to ENCOURAGE our teen athletes and performers. Note: If you haven't checked out Episodes 17 (Equip) and 18 (Empower) we think you'll love them too. The 3 E's play well together--they make a fantastic team!

While it may seem so easy to just "encourage," the path to next level parenting is to begins with becoming keenly aware of the best ways to encourage your teen. Encouragement comes in many forms and let's face it, "encouragement" from a parental perspective may not be received by our teens as "encouragement." Every parent knows that no two teens are exactly alike and no two siblings are the same either! So let's examine some important questions to help you get on the same page with your superstars:

--What encouragement is most beneficial for your teen?

--When was the last discussion you had about what kind of encouragement will help them thrive?

--How can you mix up your encouragement?

--How can you become the encouraging parent who helps fuel your teen and frees them up to perform their best?

--How can can you be an encouragement superstar during the inevitable highs and lows your teen athlete or performer will face?

Lets' gooooooooooo Very Important Parents--encouragement from you carries major weight! It's time to up your game and please know you can count on us to ENCOURAGE you on your most important journey in this most important relationship. You got this!

Finally, THANK YOU for listening! We do this for you! And, if you love what we're creating here on this podcast, we would so appreciative if you shared this episode or podcast with your parenting friends who would love it too! We're also a big fan of 5 star reviews (if we are living up to such welcome praise). We're on a mission to help thousands of parents to help help thousands of their teens by encouraging them to Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Parenting Skill Series Continues! Empower Your Teen for Success!

Mon, 06 Nov 2023 15:05:33 GMT

Hi there and THANK YOU for joining us here on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! In this episode, we are excited to unveil the second "E" in The Triple E Toolkit. If you haven't listened to Episode 17 where we examine the first "E" (equip!), we strongly encourage you to check it out first (although it isn't absolutely necessary to do so). Moms and dads, your relationship with your teen athlete/performer is powerfully transformed when you empower them. Empowering your teen requires you to allow him or her to determine what success looks like for them and how hard they are willing to work to achieve it. Focus and confidence will soar for both you and your superstar when you level up this skill! This is a fun one to add to your tool belt, parents! If you love what you hear on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast please share it with your Very Important Parent friends and if you have a moment, we would be so appreciative if you left us a 5 star review on your favorite podcast platform! You're doing better than you think parents--keep going, your kids are counting on you. Believe in yourself and believe in them! We're cheering you on! --Nate & Steve

Parenting Skill Series Alert! Equipping Your Teen for Success!

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 20:44:41 GMT

Let's go Most Valuable Parents! Thanks for tuning in to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we encourage you to think creatively about your approach to parenting, uh coaching, your amazing sons and daughters. Let's skill up and help your dynamic teen athlete or performer to shine!

Today we kick off a series just for you (well, really it's for the teens!). In this first of 3 episodes we pull the first tool in our Triple E Toolkit out of the, we guess, kit. The first E is: EQUIP! This crucial tool has multiple applications for you as Parental Units and multiple implications for your teen who is just itching to explore their limits and perform their best. Pick up this "E" and let's go to work!

Note: The Triple E Toolkit is available to you for FREE (yay--we love free stuff!) at our ever growing and evolving website: createtransformbecome.com. Go grab it today (look for the "Download Free Tools" button) and skill up so your teens can elevate their games!

Thanks for listening in and if you loved what you hear from us, please share this episode with another parent or two or three who would love to hear it too! THANK YOU and we're cheering you on as you tackle the hardest job (responsibility, blessing, calling, etc.) in the world: Parenting! -Nate & Steve

Parent Package Delivered! The Triple E Toolkit is Here!

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 17:18:35 GMT

Hello parents! Do you want your teen athlete and performer to be happy and shine on the stage, court, or field? Of course you do and so do we! Wait--what if there were specific tools that can help you make this happen? Good news! There are! In this most useful episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we introduce The Triple E Toolkit for parents. For you!

A remarkable shift happens when parents intentionally choose to improve their skills rather than assuming skill development is solely for their teen athlete or performer. The 3 E's in The Triple E Toolkit, namely Equip, Empower, and Encourage will help you build new capabilities and confidence in your relationship with your teen.

These transformational skills will turn you into a high performing coach! Learn to do more than recognize the struggle, honor it by leveling up your game. Help your son or daughter to Excel (another E!), perform their best, and Enjoy (we're not gonna say it) a thriving relationship with you. Let's tool up together and become skilled High Performing Parents, um Coaches!

Btw, you can get The Triple E Toolkit on our website: createtransformbecome.com. It's complimentary--we want all parents to add it to their parental and coaching workbench!

Thanks for listening and if you love our message, please share this episode with two or three of your parent friends! --Nate & Steve

Yo Parents--What in the world is a QOC?

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 18:00:36 GMT

Greetings MVPs (most valuable parents)! We have a question for you! What in the world is a QOC?

Well, let's waste no precious time here. A "QOC" is a "Questions Only Conversation!" This game changer will transform your conversations with your teen athlete or performer (and your spouse, partner, friend, co-worker, random stranger, and probably your boss, although we don't know your boss so we cannot confirm if a QOC fits their agenda right now)!

Two fundamentals of great relationships are trust and communication and you'll create a double whammy of both by utilizing The QOC Tool! It's not magic but we won't be surprised if you experience magical results with your teen by using The QOC Tool.

And by the way, The QOC is one of the free thinking and parenting tools available in our growing arsenal for parents of athletes and performers at createtransformbecome.com. Check us out there and up your parenting game!

Thanks for listening and if you love our message and are receiving value from our podcast, please, please, please leave us a 5 star review and some comments describing what you love about it as well as sharing this episode with a few of your parenting friends. Thanks for being part of our community. Thanks for listening. Thanks for helping us to help thousands of teens by helping thousands of Most Valuable Parents! TEAMwork WORKS! -Nate & Steve

Bridging the Parent/Teen Gap with The Communication Ring!

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 16:45:51 GMT

Welcome VIPs (very important parents) to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we tackle the hardest job ever: parenting!

Parents--you're doing your best and racking up parenting wins, but you also feel at times that you're losing the communication game. Join the club! As perfectly imperfect parents ourselves we understand the importance of creating healthy lines of communication between us and our teens.

Today we share an incredible tool that can transform your family dynamic—"The, may we say mighty, Communication Ring!" It is just one of a growing cache of coaching tools we are making available to you for free at our evolving website: createtransformbecome.com.

Hop on board with us and unleash a wave of energy and enthusiasm into your family life! Equip yourself with strategies to navigate the challenging teenage years by fostering love, trust, and open dialogue. You got this VIPs and we got you!! -Nate & Steve

The Power of Coaching Changes Everything (even Parenting!)

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 17:29:58 GMT

In this short and insightful episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we explore the foundational power and profound impact of coaching.

Parenting your teen athletes and performers is really, really hard! This is one of several reasons we discuss in making our case for you as a parent to seek high level coaching. Elevating your own game will equip you with the tools and skills to foster a championship level relationship with your teen.

This is the foundational level of our framework: The Parenting Success Pyramid-which assists you, the perpetually busy, sometimes stressed, and always well-intentioned parent to stop parenting & start coaching your teen to greater peace of mind and success on the court, field, or stage. Coaching is the foundational level of The Pyramid (Listen to Episode 13 for an overview of our Parenting Success Pyramid model). Coaching just plain works! If you can't tell, we highly recommend it! :)

If you love listening to The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast please share this episode with a parenting friend or colleague and post a 5 star review! THANK YOU! And, please join us in our upcoming episodes as we will enthusiastically share more of The Parent Success Pyramid! -Nate & Steve

The Parenting Success Pyramid

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 14:37:43 GMT

Don't you, like every parent, want your teen to perform their best? Of course you do! How can you help your teen experience the empowering freedom and support that can alleviate much of the intense pressure they feel to perform and to please you?Where's the map for all of this?!

Well, here's the good news! We have THE map! We wish we had it in our possession years ago and you'll learn today how it was born out of necessity. In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we proudly introduce The Parenting Success Pyramid. This amazing system has four fundamental components: receiving coaching, creating meaningful relationships, developing the right skillset, and finally "coaching" rather than "parenting" your teen athlete or performer.

And there's more! Within The Parenting Success Pyramid are built-in tools designed for and tested on real parents just like you! You will soon find these free tools on our website (createtransformbecome.com) along with our first course, The Scoreboard Course, as we continue to build our stockpile of resources to help you and your teen!

Thanks for listening and sharing this podcast (& a 5 star glowing online review) with your parenting friends! Let's goooooo! You can do this parents! -Nate & Steve

The Magical Mel Schmitz & Imperfect Parenting!

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 15:36:54 GMT

SHOW NOTE: Our gratitude for Mel Schmitz is overflowing! Mel was so accommodating by recording with us while on holiday in Malaysia.

We are so pleased to share our interview with the incomparable Mel Schmitz on this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. Mel is an Educational Psychologist at the International School of Stuttgart in Germany. She has served there for over 15 years and is also known as the "Teacher of Happiness!" Among her many talents (she's a mother of two wonderful kids, enough said!), Mel is a immensely talented author who creates unique nonsensical rhymes about her parenting adventures! She will make you giggle while she makes you think. Pure brilliance!

Here's a sneak peak of the wisdom Mel drops in this episode:

The best answer is a useful question! Even better if it is a sticky one! Get curious with your kids and ask them great questions.
We are not defined by our past parenting mistakes!
Make yourself a student and enter your teen's world to create connection and mutual respect. Respect is a great anger!
Lessons learned from my wise mother during "the talk" at age 13.
Parenting is about deep self work not some hack or tip. And, it's not about you (parents), it's about your kid!
Contentment and self-regulation is needed within ourselves as parents before we model it to our kids.

If you want more of Mel and we know you will, please connect with her on LinkedIn and visit her website where you can get a full dose of her amazing nonsensical parenting rhymes!

Thank you for listening and if you love this episode of The Stop Parenting & Stop Coaching Podcast as much as we do, please share it with your parenting friends! And as Mel says "You've got this, you're not a screwup, build that connection with your kid, start small, but start!" -Nate & Steve

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melschmitz/

https://www.melschmitz.com/

Check out the free Oreka app (look for the unicycle logo) on the App store

Performance Conversations for Parents: How we Praise our Teen Performers

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 12:28:20 GMT

Have you ever posted a celebration moment of your teen's performance on social media? If so (and even if not!) you will be intrigued by the provocative discussion in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast.

Proud parents (rightfully so!), we challenge you to think about your thinking and begin evaluating your intentions when it comes to how you dish out praise.

Breaking News: Parenting is the toughest job ever! As parents of teen athletes and performers, you are walking a tightrope of balancing expectations, setting standards, and responding to the outcomes of their performances. That's a heavy load and is NOT easy! And, we all make mistakes here. No worries--we got your back!

So what are we to do? Let's start with some thought provoking questions and finish up with actionable advice to help you up your parenting game so that your teens can up their games! Here are a few teasers:

-Are we shouting praise and whispering criticism?

-Is what I'm doing, saying, or posting beneficial for my teen?

-How is my teen perceiving my praise and social media posts?

-How does the concept of "growth mindset" relate to how we praise our kids?

Parents, we believe in you! You can do this!

THANK YOU for supporting us! Please share this episode with your friends who are parents of teen athletes and performers. And, if you love us as much as we love you we'd be so grateful if you left us some glowing comments and a 5 star review wherever you are subscribed to this podcast. Thanks again! -Nate & Steve

References:

Georgetown University McCourt School of Public Policy Center for Families and Children: https://ccf.georgetown.edu/2022/03/24/research-update-childrens-anxiety-and-depression-on-the-rise/

Canadian Journal of School Psychology: Rogers MA, Theule J, Ryan BA, Adams GR, Keating L. Parental Involvement and Children's School Achievement: Evidence for Mediating Processes. Canadian Journal of School Psychology. 2009;24(1):34-57.

Performance Conversations for Parents: "It's NOT about YOU!"

Mon, 04 Sep 2023 17:00:12 GMT

We have some game day gold for you in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. Get your foam fingers and take your seats as we venture into the parent section at a high school football game! Are you ready to listen to the crack of shoulder pads as we tackle the sensitive elephant in the...stands? We are! Let's goooooo!

Have you ever sat by that parent who can't help but yell out instruction and put on a free coaching clinic? We have a critical question and some high performance coaching for that parent and it probably is not what you'd think! Listen in to learn this critical curiosity question that can help you best execute the only role available to you as a parent in the stands! Honest answers to this question as a parent spectator will help you: 1) improve your relationship with your teen performer, and 2) liberate your teen to enjoy their performance much more, not to mention most likely perform better, too! A real Win-Win, baby!

But wait, there's more! We'll also explore the fine line between great parenting and performance coaching including some practical "what" and "how" to do stuff.

Sit back, enjoy, and as always, we sincerely thank you for listening! If you LOVE this podcast almost as much as you LOVE your kids, please leave us a 5 star review and share it with your performance parenting friends--thanks!! -Nate & Steve

Hey Parents--Let's Control the "Controllables!"

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 13:00:15 GMT

Thanks for tuning into The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with us, high performance coaches Nate Crandall and Steve Galley! We know parenting teen athletes and performers can be like hacking your way through a dense jungle of confusing vines. It's an adventure for sure! We get it and we got you. Welcome the to the jungle, baby, you're gonna...win!

In this episode, the critical importance of shifting our focus towards the things we can genuinely control is our target. Parents who learn this skill and model it well for their teens will impact them for good and for life.

When you can let go of things outside of your control it's like wielding a sharp machete to hack your way through the vines of frustration to discover blued sky! Let's dive into "controlling the controllables" and find that peaceful vista!

Thanks for listening and supporting us. If you have any show questions, suggestions, or general feedback, we'd love to hear from you. Please message us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. Have a transformational parenting day!! -Nate & Steve

More with Karen Summerville "The Parent GPS™"

Mon, 21 Aug 2023 11:00:22 GMT

Episode 7: She's back! More awesomness with Karen Summerville!

Get ready, parents! In Episode 7 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching podcast, we're diving back into our fascinating conversation with the remarkable Karen Summerville—The Parent GPS™!

If you missed Episode 6 (Part 1) we highly encourage you to listen to it now!

In Part 2, Karen will have you smiling and thinking about how you can help your children discover their constellations of gifts. Here are a few teasers from this episode:

--Piano recitals in baseball uniforms, a "great ending of a soccer career," cello playing, and our favorite: running past first base in a diaper!

--The common parental mistake we make when living vicariously through our children. Hmmm...

--How do you help kids explore their constellation of gifts and try new things when they have already discovered something they're good at?

--"All my son wants to do is (play) video games!" Karen has a very "interesting" take on this common exclamation she hears from many parents during her speaking engagements.

--What is the best way to compliment our children? How can we be helpful rather than harmful?

--"We're all just walking on this earth." Wow, what a story!

--What would current Karen tell her younger mother self? Boom!

We thank you so much for listening and if you loved this episode, please share it with your parenting friends! -Nate & Steve

Please sign up for Karen's free newsletter and connect with her at her website or through the social media platforms listed below:

Website: karensummerville.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karensummerville/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentgps/

Need a parent GPS? OK, meet "The Parent GPS™" Karen Summerville!

Mon, 14 Aug 2023 17:05:58 GMT

This episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching podcast is a home run! Join high performance coaches Nate and Steve as they dive into a riveting conversation with the one and only Karen Summerville. Karen is a wife, super mom of two boys, and a former litigation lawyer turned career coach. Her life now has taken a new direction and what a blessing that is for parents and children! A talented speaker and writer, Karen is helping parents to help their children discover their own constellation of gifts!

When you hear Karen tell her story, including the raising of two very active sons (whose intense love of baseball eventually landed them both in the pros), you'll learn why she is The Parent GPS™. Full of wonderful lessons for all parents, this episode is a must listen and must share! Step up to the plate with us today and you will walk away with some bona fide, actionable strategies to up your parenting game!

Thank you for listening and if you loved listening to this as much as we loved recording it, please leave us a 5 star review and some glowing comments--thanks for listening! -Nate & Steve

Note: This episode is Part 1 of 2--there is more parenting wisdom and more stories to come with Karen in Episode 7 next week where Karen unveils more wisdom in guiding parents to help their kids discover their constellation of gifts.

Find and connect with Karen in the following places:

Website: karensummerville.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karensummerville/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentgps/

Getting to know Nate & Steve!

Mon, 07 Aug 2023 20:00:26 GMT

Your requests to learn more about both of us have been honored!

In this episode you'll get to know A LOT about your CreateTransformBecome founders! We hope you enjoy listening to this as much as we enjoyed recording it! Let the fun begin!

Thank you for your support--we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your teen athletes and performers! --Steve (SG) and Nate (Crandy)

And, we'd love to hear your feedback and any questions or ideas you may have for upcoming episodes. Please send us a message at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. THANKS!

They DO value your opinion!

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:52:29 GMT

Discover (or remember) an awesome truth in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching podcast. We invite you to listen in as we dive into the fascinating world of teens and parental opinions. Ever felt like your teen athlete or performer doesn't care what you think? Well, think again! In this episode, we'll explore how your talented teens secretly treasure your viewpoints, despite appearances that may say otherwise. Parenting teen athletes and performers can be tricky, but understanding they crave your feedback is a game-changer! Tune in as we highlight the importance of your input on their sports, friends, and lives. You can bridge the gap and connect with your teens like never before! Thanks for teaming up with us for this eye-opening conversation! -Nate & Steve

What's your #1 job as a parent?

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 19:40:16 GMT

Hey there, podcast listener fam! We've got a juicy topic lined up for you in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching podcast: "What's your #1 job as a parent?" Whoa--that's a tough question to answer and break down! Clarity is the name of the game here. Getting clear about your answer to this question is key to creating meaningful connection with your teen athletes and performers. We are excited for you to unlock your parenting superpowers. Let’s get started now–we appreciate you listening in! -Nate & Steve

Why is Parenting so hard?

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 23:32:45 GMT

Parenting is the hardest job and there is not a close second. Truth! We said it and we believe it. The way to transformation is paved with honesty. In this episode you'll discover some surprising reasons why parenting is the ultimate challenge. Learning about them will help you revolutionize the way you think about your parenting! Parents--let's begin creating your new and improved mindset and help you empower your teen athletes and performers. We can do this. YOU can do this! Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast We thank you for listening! -Nate & Steve

Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

Mon, 10 Jul 2023 20:05:35 GMT

Welcome parents of teen athletes and performers! In our debut episode, we dive right into what it means to "Stop Parenting and Start Coaching!"

We challenge the traditional perspective of parent/teen connection and interaction. Your teen has a sports/performance coach(es). Approaching your parent/teen relationship like a high performance coach allows you to connect and empower your teen in unique and powerful ways. Yes, we want to help you discover how to "Stop Parenting and Start Coaching!" In doing so, you will fulfill your critical role as a parent. YOU are the BEST life coach your teen could have!

Thank you for joining us on this exciting and most important journey! -Nate & Steve