Open to Feedback

Ep 26 | Fa La La La F*ck This

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 20:51:22 GMT

Oh, the holidays — a time for joy, togetherness, and, apparently, absolute chaos. In this festive yet fiery episode, Bri and Britt bring you some of the wildest holiday drama to grace the internet. Take a deep breath, because no matter how weird your family gets, it’s probably not this bad.

The episode kicks off with a story that will make you rethink those experimental holiday potluck dishes. One woman’s "creative" contributions to Christmas dinner are so horrifying, they’re basically culinary terrorism. Hint: some traditions are tastier if you leave them alone.

Next up, Bri and Britt unpack a tale of thoughtfulness gone so wrong. A woman’s heartfelt, personal gifts for her partner’s family earn her an unexpected title: stalker. Because nothing says “Happy Holidays” like being dragged for actually caring.

And for the grand finale? A jaw-dropping story about a partner who decides that annual Christmas vacation in Florida is more important than sticking around for the birth of his child. Yes, you read that right. Baby? What baby? Apparently, “Family Time” doesn’t include the one he helped create.

So, grab your cocoa, spike it if you must, and get ready to laugh, cringe, and feel a lot better about your own holiday shenanigans. We’re here to remind you: it’s not you, it’s them.

Happy Holidays, ya filthy animals.

Ep 25 | Negging and How to Handle Those That Do It

Wed, 11 Dec 2024 15:15:44 GMT

We have a doozy for ya! Negging. What is is, what it sounds like and how to handle those that do it. Bri and Britt share their personal experiences with it and dive into stories of the unfortunate souls that also encounter this cruel act.

Ep 24 | Letting Go When You Wanna Freakin' Lose It

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 12:01:30 GMT

Buckle up, because this week Brianna and Britt are diving into the stress spiral that hits when life’s out of your control. From election drama to dealing with their own bodies (thanks, biology), the hosts open up about what’s been making them feel this close to losing it.

Then, it’s Reddit to the rescue as they unpack stories of folks navigating anxiety. There’s one about calming down when your brain says, "Not today," another about finding the balance between controlling what you can and letting go of the rest, and a case of analysis paralysis so bad, even Reddit can’t decide.

It’s a mix of relatable meltdowns and advice for anyone who’s ever yelled, “WHY ME?!” into the void. Tune in, take a breath, and let’s figure out how to chill… or at least laugh about it.

Ep 23 | Squabble Squabble - Turkey Day Troubles

Wed, 20 Nov 2024 12:00:38 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt share their personal mix of excitement and dread about the holiday season. Then, they dig into some wild Thanksgiving tales from Reddit, featuring:

A woman whose Sister-in-Law invites herself (and others!) to Thanksgiving while being downright mean to the host’s dogs.
A girlfriend left wondering if her boyfriend of 10 months actually ditched her for Turkey Day.
A young woman who “ruined Thanksgiving” on purpose after her boyfriend’s mom kept calling her by his ex’s name—intentionally.
A guy questioning if he’s the bad guy for leaving Thanksgiving early when no one saved him any food.

Listen in for holiday drama, laughs, and maybe a little catharsis.

Ep 22 | Tips for Reclaiming Self-Worth, Ditching Romanticization of Toxic Relationships, and Radical Self Honesty

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 11:01:30 GMT

In this episode of Open to Feedback, Brianna and Britt delve into the multifaceted topic of self-worth, exploring its significance in personal growth and relationships. They discuss the challenges and clunkiness of developing self-worth, the importance of self-care practices, and the impact of your environment on your self-esteem. The conversation emphasizes the necessity of honesty, both with oneself and in relationships, and the power of self-talk in shaping one's self-perception. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey of self-acceptance and the importance of community and connection in fostering a healthy sense of self-worth. They discuss the impact of self-worth on romantic choices and the romanticization of misaligned relationships. The conversation also delves into the struggles of feeling worthless and the importance of emotional expression and connection in healing. They emphasize the need for self-awareness and the courage to confront one's own patterns to foster personal growth and healing.

Links:

Reddit story #1 (solid comment section and resources)

Reddit story #4 (also a solid comment section) What to do if I am worthless?

Ep 21 | Husbands Who Bamboozle & Spicing it up to Save the Relationship

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 15:27:04 GMT

This week, Bri and Britt catch up over new career paths and weekend trips before diving into the stories that make you say "What the f?!" They have two (perhaps all three) stories from Redditors who have been bamboozled by their husbands. One, whose husband persuades her to flash construction workers then gets angry at her for it. Another who says he hates the life they created together. And, finally, a pregnant woman who discovers her husband is on Tinder. Buckle up. It's a doozy.

Ep 20 | Self-Abandonment, Casual S*x, & Self-Worth

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 11:01:26 GMT

In this episode, Britt and Brianna delve into the concept of self abandonment, exploring its roots in childhood experiences and its impact on adult relationships. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and the journey of personal growth. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, they highlight the challenges of navigating relationships while maintaining authenticity and self-respect. In this conversation, They discuss how self-abandonment manifests in various forms, including procrastination and avoidance of personal needs, and emphasize the importance of self-worth and authentic communication in overcoming these challenges. They also touch on the detrimental effects of shame and the necessity of self-discovery in fostering healthier relationships and personal growth.

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Ep 19 | Spooky Szn Tales and Dating Horror Stories

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 14:00:40 GMT

Welcome to our Spooky Szn episode! Brianna and Britt start out telling their own slightly spooky stories of ghosts and hauntings before diving into a collection of dating stories that will make you gasp. They have a Reddit story from a man who's date was a literal nightmare. Next they tell a story from a woman who's date was very creepily concerned with her ordering alcohol on the date. Followed by a female stalker and a date intercepted by police.

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Ep 18 | New Hinge features, Paying a lawyer with s*x and Dangerous nudes requests

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 11:01:17 GMT

In this episode Bri and Britt discuss the new Hinge feature. Will this help with constant scrolling and matching? The dive into a story from a woman who pays a lawyer with... her body. Is this wrong? They also get really worried about a Redditor who's boyfriend asks her for very specific nudes. Is she in danger? And finally, Bri and Britt disagree with a Reddit thread where Redditors determine that the OP is the asshole. But they don't think he is. Are they wrong?!

Ep 17 | The Beauty of Accountability

Wed, 09 Oct 2024 00:03:30 GMT

Brianna and Britt discuss the importance of accountability whilst both being plagued with illness. Between coughs and internet shut-downs, they share their recent experiences with work challenges, navigating sickness, and the impact of accountability in their lives. The conversation delves into the dynamics of accountability in relationships, the challenges of emotional regulation, and the significance of self-awareness. They emphasize the need for open communication and intentionality in fostering healthy relationships, while also reflecting on their personal journeys and the lessons learned along the way.

Ep 16 | Defensiveness & DARVO

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 14:53:02 GMT

Join Brianna and Britt as they share their personal life updates, including experiences with grief, the challenges of maintaining mental health amidst all of life’s ups and downs, and the busy-ness of summertime. They then dive into the themes of defensiveness and accountability in relationships, exploring the manipulative tactic known as DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim, and Offender). Through real-life examples, they highlight the impact of defensiveness on communication and emotional intimacy, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and accountability in fostering healthy relationships. The conversation concludes with reflections on deception and the complexities of navigating emotional dynamics in partnerships.

Ep 15 | Ruining Weddings, Ex Meetups, & Queefing

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 15:22:28 GMT

In this WTF Episode, Brianna and Britt talk about a wide range of topics, including meeting up to have conversations with an ex (did Britt do it?), a reddit story about a man who ruins his cousins wedding with a horrible speech (was it deserved?), and queefing (do men understand?). All that and more in this weeks episode of randomness.

Ep 14 | Navigating Grief

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 12:48:47 GMT

In this episode of Open to Feedback, Brianna and Britt delve into the profound topic of grief and explore the vulnerability of Brianna's personal experience following the loss of her grandmother. They explore the multifaceted nature of grief, discussing how it can feel like waves that ebb and flow, and the societal challenges surrounding the expression of grief. The conversation highlights the importance of coping mechanisms, support systems, and the role of rituals in processing loss. Through shared stories and insights (both personal and from Reddit), they aim to create a safe space for discussing grief and its complexities, emphasizing that it's okay to feel a range of emotions during this difficult time.

Ep 13 | Being Triggered and Gap Shit

Wed, 04 Sep 2024 15:48:10 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt dive into the world of triggers and trauma responses. They break down the difference between triggers (those moments that spark a strong emotional reaction) and trauma responses (the ways we react to past traumatic events). You’ll hear them share personal stories and tips on how to recognize and manage triggers, support your nervous system, and create a little space between the trigger and your automatic reaction.

They also chat about emotional fitness, self-regulation, and how to stay grounded after being triggered—whether it’s through breathing exercises, validating your feelings, or using affirmations. Plus, they highlight the importance of self-kindness and reaching out to a therapist or a trusted friend when you need support. It’s a compassionate, real conversation with plenty of practical advice for navigating tough moments!

Ep 12 | WTF has been going on

Wed, 28 Aug 2024 15:03:09 GMT

Brianna and Britt catch up on what’s been going on in their lives during their month-long break from recording. They talk about backpacking trips, losing a loved one, and the end of a relationship. They reflect on how important honesty and integrity are in relationships, and trusting your gut. They also dive into the challenges of dating, especially the pressure to feel safe and secure quickly. They emphasize taking your time, staying light, and enjoying the process of getting to know someone. They also talk about setting boundaries, listening to your own needs, and the struggle of dealing with someone who isn’t honest. They explore finding a partner who values growth and compatibility over big declarations of love, touching on self-awareness, communication, and the ups and downs of modern dating.

Summer Self Care

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 14:19:45 GMT

Hi guys! Brianna and Britt are taking a two to three week break from posting episodes. Summer is in full swing, and on top of busy schedules, a lot has come up personally for both hosts that is taking up more mental and emotional energy than usual. We are taking space for self care and care of our loved ones.

See you soon!

Ep 11 | Conflict & Conscious Communication

Wed, 07 Aug 2024 11:01:34 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt dive into conscious communication and handling conflicts in relationships. They talk about being self-aware and emotionally fit when having tough conversations. Instead of calling every relationship toxic, they suggest working on conflict resolution. They share personal stories and give tips like calming down before a tough talk and tackling problems together. The chat highlights open communication and mature conflict resolution, stressing accountability, curiosity, intentionality, empathy, and humility in disagreements. They also touch on active listening, setting boundaries, and respecting different views. Weekly check-ins and creating a safe space for deep talks are also recommended. The episode wraps up with a nod to the Gottman and Team methods for effective communication.

Ep 10 | Green Flags

Wed, 31 Jul 2024 18:10:43 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt discuss green flags in relationships. They share their personal experiences and talk about the importance of clear communication, vulnerability, and emotional availability. They also highlight the significance of consistency, attentiveness, and intentionality. The hosts emphasize the need to be cautious and mindful when interpreting green flags, as they can sometimes be misinterpreted as red flags. They also discuss the importance of boundaries, pacing, and the ability to own up to personal faults and failings. Overall, the episode explores the qualities and behaviors that indicate a healthy and promising relationship. They dive into Reddit stories, focusing first on first dates and early stages of dating, exploring the importance of genuine interest, respect, and good communication. They also touch on the significance of a healthy relationship with parents and the potential red flags that can arise from it. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the difference between green flags and good qualities in a partnership, and the hosts discuss whether green flags are only something one may note at the start of a relationship, or if they continue to be a measure to use as relationships evolve.

Ep 9 | WTF?! v3.0

Wed, 24 Jul 2024 16:46:28 GMT

Join us for Episode 9 as Britt and Brianna dive into another juicy WTF episode. In this episode, Britt and Brianna open up by talking about what’s going on in their lives including birthdays, the importance of intimate connections, and exciting relationship updates. Then, they dive into some Reddit stories with today being a Britt pick episode. The first Reddit story is about a mother-in-law crossing boundaries by cooking for the kids without permission and the mother of the children getting up in arms about it… but not communicating her boundaries? In another Reddit story, a man’s younger girlfriend almost burned down his house due to sheer ignorance. The hosts provide their perspectives and engage in a lively discussion. Britt and Brianna then dive into an 'Am I the Asshole' subreddit story wherein they discuss the situation and provide their opinions on who is ACTUALLY the asshole around a man who sold his late wife's cake recipe to a bakery, causing tension with his children. The final scenario focuses on a teenager whose mother and siblings are pressuring his father to reconcile with his estranged and abusive father. Brianna and Britt provide insightful commentary and offer support to those in difficult situations. Enjoy!

Ep 8 | Breadcrumbing

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 14:22:46 GMT

Are you being breadcrumbed?! What does breadcrumbing even mean? In this episode, Brianna and Britt dive into the concept of breadcrumbing in relationships, sharing personal stories and exploring various behaviors associated with it. They emphasize the importance of understanding your own needs and boundaries without getting caught up in analyzing the other person's behavior. Clear communication and mutual respect in relationships are highlighted as key factors.

One story from a Reddit user is trying to decipher if she is being breadcrumbed and if a man she was dating just wanted s*x from her. Another is trying to figure out how to communicate with someone who is breadcrumbing her. Brianna and Britt get tripped up over a reddit submission from someone who is trying to spin breadcrumbing as a 'good thing.' The final story is from a man who is trying to warn other men about being breadcrumbed by women he calls "attention wh*res."

Ep 7 | First Date Guide

Wed, 10 Jul 2024 12:34:54 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt dive into their recent dating adventures and personal growth. They spill the tea on first dates, sharing stories that are both awkward and hilarious. You'll hear about their take on setting boundaries and staying true to yourself while navigating the dating scene. They chat about everything from first date etiquette and being present (put that phone away!) to the perks of keeping dates short and sweet. Plus, they remind us all to be kind to everyone, including wait staff and bartenders. The episode wraps up with a laugh-out-loud story about a first date fart mishap.

Brianna and Britt also explore whether a bad first kiss can ruin a budding romance, the dos and don'ts of dating multiple people, and some of the weirdest questions they've been asked on first dates. They emphasize the importance of clear communication and setting boundaries early on. This conversation is a fun and relatable take on the ups and downs of dating.

Link for Vagal Nerve Toning:

YouTube Vagal Nerve Toning

Ep 6 | Love Bombing

Wed, 03 Jul 2024 17:35:21 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt dive into the concept of love bombing and how it can be mistaken for genuine connection. They share personal experiences and insights on navigating the early stages of relationships, emphasizing the importance of pacing, setting boundaries, and assessing the proportionality of expressions of love and affection. They also discuss the significance of rupture and repair in building a healthy, balanced relationship.

Brianna and Britt provide practical tips for recognizing and dealing with love bombing or manipulation. Key takeaways include:

Pay attention to whether compliments and gestures match the level of familiarity and time spent together.
Don't let intense feelings of love and affection lead to big decisions early on.
Take your time and let the relationship develop slowly to ensure a solid foundation.
Trust your instincts and recognize red flags.
Seek support and feedback from others to gain perspective.

Overall, it's important to prioritize your well-being and make choices that align with your values and boundaries.

Ep 5 | WTF!? v2.0

Wed, 26 Jun 2024 16:09:24 GMT

TW: P*dophilia

In this episode, Brianna and Britt dive into some wild stories that left them saying, "what the heck?" They kick things off with a tale about a girlfriend who tried to get pregnant without her partner's consent, discussing the manipulative and toxic nature of her actions. Next, they cover a story about a woman who discovered her boyfriend, who claimed to be a doctor, was actually working as … very much not a doctor. They stress the importance of honesty in relationships and the need to address lies and deceit.

Throughout the episode, Brianna and Britt explore various Reddit stories that highlight shocking and disturbing behavior. They talk about lying in relationships, testing trust, and dealing with the aftermath of discovering a partner's deceit. They also touch on the difficult task of explaining a parent's p*dophilic tendencies to their children. The hosts share their perspectives, offering support and advice to those who shared their stories.

Ep 4 | Firing a Therapist

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 21:03:09 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt open up the conversation by chatting about their recent experiences and adventures, including gardening, dating, and being out and about. They then explore the topic of firing a therapist and the challenges that often come with it. They share their personal experiences and offer insights on how to navigate the process of ending a therapeutic relationship. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness, clear communication, and setting boundaries when it comes to finding the right therapist. In this part of the conversation, Brianna and Britt discuss experiences of giving feedback to therapists and the importance of feeling safe and seen in therapy. In this conversation, Brianna and Britt discuss two stories of individuals who had negative experiences with their therapists and wanted to fire them, but weren’t sure how to navigate that. The hosts discuss ways to go about firing a therapist and the importance of doing so. Join them to glean insight on this topic.

Ep 3 | WTF?! v1.0

Wed, 12 Jun 2024 14:20:08 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt have a candid conversation about wild stories they came across regarding personal growth, therapy, and relationships. They discuss various topics, including their current emotional states, technology mishaps, and random stories. They also share two Reddit stories that left them saying 'what the fuck?!' One story involves a controlling boyfriend who doesn't want his girlfriend to attend college, while the other story is about a girlfriend who wants her boyfriend to send her weekly photos of his poop (really!). In this conversation, They also share their own stories about embarrassing moments and the complexities of past relationships before exploring stories around the desire for petty revenge. Overall, the conversation is a bit random with some dabbles of silliness. Enjoy!

Ep 2 | Boundaries

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 16:56:28 GMT

In this episode, Brianna and Britt discuss the importance of setting boundaries in relationships, including those with family, friends, colleagues, and employers. They share personal experiences and insights on how to establish boundaries in a healthy and loving manner. The discussion emphasizes the significance of identifying one's needs and communicating them effectively, rather than using boundaries as a manipulation tactic, which often happens unconsciously and unintentionally. Brianna and Britt also address the challenge of setting boundaries with emotionally unavailable parents and offer advice on navigating these relationships. Through personal stories and practical advice, they illustrate how to approach boundary-setting in various situations. This conversation aims to inspire you to consider both the challenges and rewards of establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in your own life.

Ep 1 | Hiring a Therapist

Wed, 29 May 2024 01:42:49 GMT

Welcome to the first episode of Open to Feedback! In this episode, Brianna and Britt discuss the ins and outs of beginning therapy and finding the right therapist. They explore the importance of finding a therapist who aligns with your needs and makes you feel safe. They also cover different therapy approaches and emphasize that everyone has unique requirements, even when it comes to their therapist.Join them as they share stories of therapists who were not a good fit, how they realized this, what has worked for them in their therapeutic relationships, and tips and resources for finding a compatible therapist.