In this solo episode, Matt breaks down the entire Oracle Rumble 50 — the early confidence, the brutal climbs, blowing up at mile 13, surviving hours in the desert heat, and dragging a broken body across the finish line nearly 15 hours later.

He shares: • Why under-training was a huge mistake • The mental lows that almost made him quit • How pain, ego, and grit collide in ultra endurance • And the real lesson about respecting hard goals

This isn’t a highlight reel — it’s the real cost of doing hard things, and why preparation matters.

In this in-person episode of The New School Dad, Matt Bank sits down with Zach Shipley — married, 29, no kids yet — to talk about preparing for fatherhood before pregnancy, birth, and sleepless nights. They dive into building a strong marriage first, leading at home without being a burden, reducing your wife’s mental load, and learning to handle conflict like a team.

Zach opens up about growing up with divorced parents, how that shaped his view of marriage, and why intentional preparation matters more than “figuring it out later.” This is a conversation for men who want to become great dads on purpose — not by accident.

If you’re married, thinking about kids, or want to lead your family better starting now, this one’s for you.

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First-ever in-person episode of The New School Dad—recorded live in Tucson, Arizona during Tribal Training weekend ahead of the Oracle Rumble 50-Miler. Jason Parker (dad of two boys, 3 and 5 months) breaks down what “New School Dad” means to him: lead with action, drop the rigid roles, and get in the arena with your wife and kids. We talk split-parent childhood lessons, building a cohesive family, raising brothers with structure (without the lazy “boys will be boys”), and why he’s building Cycle Stride Training as a real safety net for his family. Practical, honest, and packed with mindset.

What started as concern that his oldest son, Brooks, was “getting soft” turns into a powerful reframe after an unexpected ER visit, IVs, CT scans, and a moment that stopped Matt in his tracks.

The realization?

Your kids aren’t least tough because they’re weak — they’re least tough with you because they feel the safest.

This episode is about kid toughness, parental expectations, letting go of ego, and understanding what it truly means when your child shows vulnerability at home. If you’ve ever wondered why your kid seems tougher everywhere else but melts down around you, this one will hit home.

These are the good days. Stay present. Stay in motion.

Phil shares his definition of “New School Dad,” the pressure he felt moving his family back to the U.S., and the moment in Walmart where he questioned if he could even provide. He opens up about the grind of restaurant leadership, the mental load of never being fully “off,” and the fear of missing his daughter’s childhood. From losing 50+ pounds to pushing through open-water panic, Phil explains how discipline, agency, and doing hard things shaped him — and why he invested $15K into ENAK to create urgency and build a life he could control.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between security and calling, this conversation will hit home.

“Can I go shower?”
“Is it okay if I work out?”
“Do you mind if I…?”

But what if that question isn’t kindness—what if it’s outsourcing leadership?

In this episode, Matt breaks down a trap he fell into himself: permission-seeking at home. Using a real morning routine with his kids, he explains how constantly asking your wife to decide for you adds to her mental load, turns her into the project manager of the house, and slowly erodes leadership in your marriage.

You’ll learn:

• Why “passive leadership” feels respectful but isn’t

• How asking creates more stress instead of less

• What leadership at home actually sounds like

• How to move from boy mode to man mode without becoming a dictator

This isn’t about barking orders or ignoring your wife. It’s about initiative, foresight, responsibility, and owning the outcome—while still listening and adjusting.

From permission-seeking to ownership.
From boy mode to man mode.
This is what New School Dad leadership looks like.

Seven days post-procedure, Matt walks through why he and his wife made the decision, the generational difference between “old school” and “new school” thinking, and what responsibility actually looks like when your family is complete. From three C-sections to hormone-free birth control, this episode reframes the conversation as less about masculinity and more about stepping up.

Matt also breaks down the full experience—what happens before, during, and after the procedure—including what he wish he had known going in, mistakes he made (take the Valium), and what recovery really felt like when it didn’t go exactly by the book.

This episode is equal parts informative, reflective, and uncomfortable—in the best way. If you’re a dad thinking about the next chapter of family life, this one’s for you.

With 25 days left before a 50-mile ultramarathon in the Arizona desert, Matt realizes how quickly “I’ve got time” can turn into being behind. After coming off the NYC Marathon, easing off training, and then getting hit with a full-house flu over the holidays, his carefully thought-out plan fell apart—because life happened.

This episode is a reminder that momentum matters. You don’t need to go hard all the time, but you can’t afford to stop completely. Whether it’s running, work, parenting, or simply showing up for your family, staying in motion is what keeps you ready when things inevitably go sideways.

If you’ve ever told yourself you’ll “get back to it later,” this episode is your nudge to stay ready—so you don’t have to get ready.

Inspired by the book Hunt, Gather, Parent, Matt reflects on how American parenting often creates pressure to keep kids busy—and how other cultures simply invite children into everyday life. From making sourdough pancakes and homemade tortillas to packing boxes for an upcoming move, this episode explores what happens when kids are part of the process instead of something to manage around.

Yes, everything takes longer. Yes, it can be frustrating. But it’s also more fun, more memorable, and ultimately more grounding—for both parents and kids.

If you’re feeling rushed, overwhelmed, or caught between “getting things done” and being present with your family, this episode is a reminder to slow down, build in buffer, and do life together.

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In this episode of The New School Dad Podcast, Matt Bank sits down with Logan Turner—endurance athlete, father of three girls, and the creator of Life Momentum—for a deeply honest conversation about modern fatherhood.

Logan shares what it truly means to be a “New School Dad,” how endurance sports can strengthen (not steal from) family life, and why serving your spouse and kids first actually creates more freedom, not less. He opens up about parenting a child with special needs, integrating his daughter Nora into his running journey, balancing a demanding career, and building a creative outlet without sacrificing what matters most.

This episode is for dads who want to grow—physically, mentally, professionally—without losing themselves or their families along the way.

Key themes:

• New School Dad vs. Old School Dad

• Endurance without resentment

• Parenting a child with special needs

• Marriage, communication, and partnership

• Balancing work, passion, and presence

The Bank family was down bad with the flu over the holidays. Listen in on how Matt led his family out of the darkness but then was able to receive the support he needed later on.

Takeaways

Matt Dalton emphasizes the importance of being emotionally present for his children.

He reflects on his own childhood and the desire to create stability for his kids.

The conversation highlights the challenges of balancing work and family life as a father.

Dalton shares his experiences of coaching his children's sports teams.

He discusses the significance of creating roots in a community for his family.

The importance of being involved in children's lives is a recurring theme.

Dalton acknowledges the struggle of being distracted by technology while parenting.

He emphasizes the need for fathers to talk about emotions with their kids.

The conversation touches on the idea of 'new school dads' and their approach to parenting.

Dalton expresses gratitude for the supportive community of fathers he has found.

I talk through a simple but real goal for 2026: generating $5,000 from The New School Dad — not for the money, but for validation, clarity, and direction. From there, I unpack a mindset shift that’s changing everything for me: focusing on true fans over total listeners and building from the inside out instead of chasing scale too early.

We also get into:

• Why over-complicating growth kills momentum

• The trap of chasing strangers instead of serving your core

• Skill-building vs. perfection (short-form clips, consistency, reps)

• A real-time parenting win that proves progress actually compounds

This is an honest look at patience, preparation, and why progress over perfection applies to business, fatherhood, and life.

If you’re building something on the side, trying to improve as a dad, or learning to trust the long game — this one’s for you.

He talks through a moment many dads recognize: trying to “teach a lesson” when your kid is overwhelmed, the house is loud, and everyone is already running on empty. Instead of pretending it didn’t happen, Matt breaks down what went wrong, what worked the next day, and how small changes can completely shift the tone of your home.

This episode isn’t about being a perfect parent. It’s about refusing to accept that parenting is only stress — and choosing to think, adjust, and improve one moment at a time.

If you’ve ever felt like you only get the hard parts of parenting, this one’s for you.

Join me for this journey into building a business around The New School Dad. We are going to build something great together. What it looks like... I dont know. But, today is the first step.

In this episode, Matt Bank shares his experiences and insights as a new father of three. He discusses the challenges of parenting toddlers, particularly their reluctance to listen, and introduces a unique strategy he employed to encourage compliance through silence. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication and the effectiveness of unexpected approaches in parenting.

Takeaways

Being a father of three is both exciting and challenging.

Listening is a significant challenge for toddlers.

Using creative language can help in communication with kids.

Silence can be a powerful tool in parenting.

Pattern interrupts can lead to better compliance from children.

It's important to change your approach when faced with resistance.

Being present and patient is key in parenting.

Every child is different; what works for one may not work for another.

Finding humor in parenting challenges can ease stress.

Parenting is a journey filled with learning opportunities.

Takeaways

It's normal to feel unprepared for a new baby.

Readiness for a child involves mental and physical sacrifices.

Parenting requires flexibility and adaptability.

The transition from one to two kids is manageable, but three is daunting.

Personal goals may need to be adjusted after having children.

Childbirth is a significant and emotional experience.

The question of readiness is often more about sacrifice than logistics.

Every parent has their own way of adjusting to family life.

It's okay to feel scared and nervous about becoming a parent again.

Reflecting on these feelings can provide reassurance in the future.

Chapters

00:00 Anticipating Baby Bank Number Three

02:54 The Reality of Readiness

05:47 Navigating the Transition to Three Kids

10:12 Embracing the New School Dad Mindset

Takeaways

Actions speak louder than words in parenting.

Being present is the biggest way to show love.

One intentional moment a day can improve family connections.

Dads should openly share their struggles with their kids.

Kids learn resilience by watching their parents problem-solve.

Showing affection to partners teaches kids about love.

Demonstrating toughness helps kids develop perseverance.

It's important to verbalize feelings to children.

Modeling hard work instills grit in kids.

Dads can be heroes without being superheroes.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to New School Dad Podcast

00:30 The Importance of Showing, Not Telling

01:00 Showing Love Through Presence

03:05 The Impact of Being Present

06:23 Intentional Moments with Kids

07:18 Affection Towards Partners

09:09 Showing Struggles Openly

12:20 The Reality of Tough Times

15:31 Teaching Resilience Through Example

16:00 Demonstrating Toughness

20:55 The Importance of Doing Hard Things

23:42 Conclusion: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

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The Athletic Philosopher Podcast

Summary

In this episode of the New School Podcast, host Matt Bank welcomes Dr. Jordan B. Goldstein, "classically" trained PHD of Philosophy but spends more time on the trails than in a library these days. They discuss the dynamics of modern fatherhood, the challenges of being a stay-at-home dad, and the importance of patience and endurance in parenting. Jordan shares his personal journey of supporting his wife's career while raising their two children, emphasizing the need for one parent to be present during the early years. The conversation touches on the realities of parenting, the mental games fathers play, and practical advice for navigating the challenges of solo parenting. Jordan's insights on communication, authority, and the importance of play in child development provide valuable takeaways for listeners.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the New School Podcast

02:19 Meet the Goldstein Family

05:16 The Role of a New School Dad

07:47 Navigating the Stay-at-Home Dad Experience

20:43 The Reality of Parenting vs. Expectations

25:08 Mastering the Solo Parenting Challenge

35:07 The Pressure of Parenting

39:19 Effective Communication with Children

44:11 Navigating Authority and Agency

49:02 Lessons from Parenting Mistakes

51:47 Advice for New Dads

59:53 Endurance in Parenting

Takeaways

Becoming a morning person is essential for being the best dad.

Establishing rules like 'kids never wake us up' can help maintain a morning routine.

Taking care of yourself first is crucial for effective parenting.

Weekday drinking can hinder your ability to wake up early.

Start by waking up just 10-15 minutes earlier than usual.

Going to bed earlier is just as important as waking up early.

Using sleep aids can help transition to an earlier bedtime.

Find something to look forward to in the morning to motivate you.

Mental discipline is key to overcoming the desire to stay in bed.

Prioritizing self-care allows you to better support your family.

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Being a Morning Person

06:02 Overcoming Roadblocks to Morning Routines

16:14 Practical Steps to Become a Morning Person

Takeaways

The podcast focuses on fatherhood, being a husband, and personal well-being.

Matt Bank aims to document his journey as a father.

The term 'new school dad' represents a modern approach to fatherhood.

Presence and affection are key components of being a new school dad.

Matt emphasizes the importance of mental and physical fitness.

He believes in expressing love frequently to family members.

The podcast will explore various topics related to parenting and personal growth.

Matt plans to interview inspiring individuals about their parenting experiences.

He acknowledges that he is not perfect and welcomes differing opinions.

The goal is to make the most of life as a husband and father.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the New School Dad Podcast

06:57 Defining the New School Dad

14:12 The Importance of Presence and Affection

17:59 Exploring Future Topics and Interviews

Takeaways

This is the last episode of the Matt Bank Show.

Transitioning to the New School Dad podcast.

Struggled to find direction in the Matt Bank Show.

Episodes about family resonated the most with me.

The New School Dad blends old and new parenting styles.

A dedicated dad cultivates a thriving family.

Fitness and health are important for all, not just dads.

Narrowing focus can help grow an audience.

The New School Dad podcast will maintain motivation.

Open to conversations and learning from others.

Chapters

00:00 The End of an Era: Transitioning from the Matt Bank Show

02:58 Introducing the New School Dad Podcast: A New Direction

05:52 Defining the New School Dad: A Modern Approach to Fatherhood

08:52 The Importance of Niche: Finding Focus in Podcasting

12:10 Looking Ahead: The Future of the New School Dad Podcast

In this episode, Matt Bank discusses his journey of starting a run streak, inspired by a YouTube video about an ultra-marathon runner. He shares his experiences, the motivation behind running every day, and the importance of consistency in building healthy habits. Matt reflects on the impact of daily running on his life and encourages listeners to consider starting their own run streaks as a way to foster discipline and personal growth.

Takeaways

Running every day can create a strong foundation for fitness.

Inspiration can come from unexpected places, like YouTube.

Consistency in running leads to significant improvements over time.

A run streak can serve as a motivational tool for personal growth.

Daily running can be a non-negotiable part of life.

The journey of running can be documented and shared.

Weather can influence running habits and motivation.

Setting small goals can lead to larger achievements.

Community support can enhance the running experience.

Creating pillars of consistency can improve overall well-being.

Takeaways

Keith emphasizes the importance of community and family legacy.

He shares his journey through addiction and recovery.

The significance of vulnerability in parenting is highlighted.

Keith discusses the challenges of teenage rebellion.

He reflects on the impact of his upbringing on his parenting style.

The importance of building trust with children is a key theme.

Keith's experiences in recovery shaped his perspective on life.

He values the role of coaching and mentorship in the community.

Keith believes in the power of love and support in family dynamics.

The conversation underscores the journey of personal growth and redemption.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Keith Marcus

03:05 Life in a Small Town

06:06 Family Legacy and Community Impact

08:58 Growing Up and Education

11:58 Early Relationships and Family Dynamics

14:57 Rebellious Teenage Years

18:00 Struggles with Substance Abuse

21:13 Pursuing a Dream: Bull Riding

22:01 Transitioning to Endurance Sports

32:56 Facing Addiction and Seeking Help

35:50 The Struggles of Recovery

38:19 A Turning Point in Prison

39:46 Building a New Life After Prison

41:42 The Journey of Fatherhood

49:09 The Importance of Genuine Relationships

57:47 Navigating the Challenges of Parenting

01:06:32 Reflections on Growth and Change

Takeaways

I've been feeling a little bit in a slump.

I needed that jolt.

The only way through it is through it.

Go do something slightly different.

You can't just have awesomeness all the time.

I've had slumps that have lasted months.

This run was not super out of my routine.

It's a constant up and down.

The momentum carries.

Keep stacking chips, keep taking steps.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflection

01:55 The Transformative Run

10:17 Lessons from the Storm

14:25 Building Momentum and Moving Forward

Takeaways

Closing the loop means completing an activity or an action.

Intention is key to feeling accomplished in workouts and tasks.

It's important to focus on specific actions to close loops effectively.

Balancing family responsibilities with personal goals can be challenging.

Reading with intention can enhance understanding and retention.

Closing loops can alleviate the burden of unfinished tasks.

Setting specific goals helps in closing loops more effectively.

Mindfulness in daily activities leads to greater satisfaction.

Implementing closing the loop can improve overall life balance.

Sharing insights with others can deepen understanding of concepts.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Closing the Loop

07:32 The Concept of Closing the Loop

15:01 Implementing Closing the Loop in Daily Life

Takeaways

Fasting can reset both mental and physical states.

The second day of fasting can be particularly challenging.

Having an accountability buddy is crucial during a fast.

Chewing gum can help alleviate hunger pangs.

Starting a fast after lunch may be more effective than after dinner.

Breaking a fast with a protein-heavy meal is advisable.

Fasting can be a way to challenge oneself mentally.

Planning and timing are essential for a successful fast.

Fasting doesn't require extreme fitness levels to be beneficial.

The experience of fasting can lead to personal growth and resilience.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the 72 Hour Fast

05:11 Experience During the Fast

12:39 Key Learnings and Takeaways

In this episode of the Map Bank Show, Matt Bank discusses the evolving role of fathers in modern parenting, coining the term 'New School Dad.' He shares his experiences with solo dad duty, breaking down the process into four main sections: the lead up, the first 24 hours, finding your flow, and the wind down. Matt emphasizes the importance of preparation, maintaining a positive atmosphere, and the need for grace during chaotic times. He offers practical tips for navigating solo parenting while ensuring a smooth transition for both kids and the returning partner.

Takeaways

The New School Dad represents a shift in parenting roles.

Modern dads are more involved in daily family responsibilities.

Preparation is key to successful solo parenting.

The first 24 hours of solo dad duty can be chaotic.

Maintaining a positive attitude is crucial during solo parenting.

Communication with children about mom's absence is important.

Creating excitement for solo dad time can ease transitions.

Don't stress mom with negative updates during her absence.

Cleaning up before mom returns is essential for family harmony.

Being vulnerable with kids can strengthen relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the New School Dad

03:48 Solo Dad Duty: The Adventure Begins

10:47 The Lead Up: Preparing for Solo Dad Duty

11:43 The First 24 Hours: Chaos and Adjustment

19:58 Finding Your Flow: Regaining Composure

23:26 The Wind Down: Preparing for Mom's Return

Takeaways

• A clear expectation of a career can often lead to unexpected paths.
• Success is not guaranteed in any job, and it's important to recognize when to move on.
• Trusting your gut feeling is crucial when making career decisions.
• It's okay to change jobs frequently in search of fulfillment.
• Building relationships and networking can open doors to new opportunities.
• Entrepreneurial ventures can provide valuable learning experiences, even if they fail.
• Finding a job that aligns with your values can lead to greater job satisfaction.
• The importance of a supportive work environment cannot be overstated.
• Taking risks in your career can lead to rewarding outcomes.
• Your job should contribute positively to your life and well-being.

Chapters

00:00 The Journey Begins: Career Expectations vs. Reality

20:37 Lessons Learned: Navigating Career Challenges

24:36 Current Success: Building PHG and Finding Fulfillment

Takeaways

• Men often feel pressured to seek therapy, but alternatives exist.
• Community support can provide motivation and accountability.
• Journaling helps clarify thoughts and emotions.
• Open communication with partners enhances relationships.
• Silence and solitude can lead to self-discovery.
• Therapy can sometimes focus too much on negatives.
• Talking through problems can lead to self-solution.
• Engaging with a supportive community can shift focus from problems to solutions.
• Building relationships in community settings can be beneficial.
• Personal growth often requires stepping out of comfort zones.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Mental Health Perspectives

10:01 The Role of Community in Mental Well-being

16:28 The Power of Journaling

19:19 Communicating with Your Partner

21:51 Embracing Silence and Solitude

Keywords

leadership, endurance, family, personal growth, authenticity, influence, marathon, Ironman, self-improvement, relationships

Takeaways

• Actions speak louder than words.

• The journey of endurance can strengthen family bonds.

• Facing challenges can lead to personal growth.

• Leadership requires authority and authenticity.

• Pushing others can create resistance.

• It's important to focus on your own journey.

• People are more likely to follow your example than your words.

• Real change often comes from inspiration, not pressure.

• Being authentic attracts others to your path.

• The bond created through shared experiences is invaluable.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections

03:10 The Journey of Endurance and Family Dynamics

06:04 Facing Challenges and Learning from Failure

08:51 Realizations About Leadership and Influence

12:08 The Shift in Perspective and Authority

14:52 The Power of Authenticity and Leading by Example

27:57 Conclusion and Key Takeaways