But then we get married… and suddenly we’re supposed to understand our bodies, intimacy, desire, and communication with zero confusion or baggage.

Except real life doesn’t work that way.

In this episode, Jacy sits down with Angela, known online as The Christian Sexpert, to talk about faith, sexuality, purity culture, and what it looks like to build a healthier, shame-free understanding of sex within Christian marriage.

Together they explore:

• The lasting impact of purity culture

• Why curiosity about our bodies was often treated as wrong

• How shame around sex follows many people into marriage

• Why honest conversations about sexuality matter in Christian spaces

• Raising kids who understand their bodies without fear or shame

Angela shares how her background in religion and psychology led her to become a sex and intimacy coach helping Christians navigate sexuality in healthier ways.

This conversation is thoughtful, funny, and refreshingly honest. Because the truth is:

We can’t heal conversations we refuse to have.

And if you grew up in a space where sex was rarely talked about, this episode might feel like a breath of fresh air.

We also wrap up with a sweet Taste Like Sugar moment about motherhood, growing kids, and the little moments that remind us time moves faster than we think.

Pull up a chair, friend. We’re talking about the things people usually whisper about.

Connect with Angela

Website: https://www.thechristiansexpert.com/

Instagram / TikTok / Facebook: @thechristiansexpert

Podcast: Go Have Good Sex Podcast

Heather shares the heart behind Limb Love Library, how purchasing books helps donate more inclusive books to families and schools, and why teaching kids about differences early changes everything. We also talk about the broader impact of organizations like Lucky Fin Project, which works to raise awareness and celebrate individuals with limb differences.

This conversation is about more than books. It’s about visibility. It’s about community. It’s about making sure no child feels like the only one.

If you’d like to learn more or support:

📚 Heather’s book, Curious and Kind: A Story Celebrating Differences Available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Curious-Kind-Story-Celebrating-Differences/dp/B0F9KQ6P87/

📖 Limb Love Library on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/limb.love.library/

🌊 Lucky Fin Project: https://luckyfinproject.org/

More books. More awareness. More love.

After coming off the high and exhaustion of a big mental health conference and heading straight into a deeply reflective spiritual formation retreat, Jacy shows up with very little polish and a lot of real life. What starts as a “tiny episode” turns into an unfiltered reflection on a moment of rupture in her marriage, the familiar instinct to lead with logic instead of presence, and the uncomfortable awareness that growth is still very much in progress.

In this episode, Jacy talks about:

The emotional whiplash of holding big events and deep personal work at the same time

Hurting someone you love without meaning to, and sitting in the aftermath

Rupture and repair, and why conflict isn’t the failure we think it is

Fear, emotional safety, and where those fears may come from

The strange, beautiful truth that pain is rarely experienced alone

There’s no tidy resolution here. Just honest processing, naming what feels hard, and choosing to stay present anyway. Plus, a Taste Like Sugar moment that reminds us how our own pain can unexpectedly become a place of connection and comfort for someone else.

If you’re in a season where you’re aware of your growth edges, feeling tender, or realizing you still have some learning to do, you’re not alone.

Pull up a chair. This one’s for the middle of it.

Jacy shares honestly about walking through a high-stress season, preparing for a big mental health conference, navigating full schedules, and noticing how limited capacity can impact both our inner world and our closest relationships.

In the middle of the exhaustion, something gentle unfolds. A hard but healthy conversation with her husband. The unexpected gift of being seen. The realization that sometimes we’re carrying more than we even know.

This episode is part ramble, part journal entry, part reminder:

If this season feels heavy, you’re not alone. If your window of tolerance feels small, that makes sense. If you’re tired, you’re still worthy of care and connection.

No agenda. No polished takeaway. Just a quiet space to breathe, reflect, and remember that being human is allowed here.

Low capacity. Real life. Still showing up.

Bekah and I talk about nervous system regulation, finding peace in the middle of the hustle and bustle of life, and what it looks like to gently care for ourselves when life feels heavy, overwhelming, or just plain loud. We explore the small, practical ways we can come back to ourselves, build awareness around our bodies, and create space for healing, growth, and joy, even when things aren’t tidy or figured out.

This conversation is honest, grounding, and full of grace. It’s for anyone who’s tired, learning, unlearning, and doing their best to be human.

Bonus: I was so blown away that Bekah shared a special Muddle Buddies discount code with all of our fellow Muddle Buddies which is just so cool and generous of her. 🥹🤍 I have the links and info below. :)

Resources from Bekah Treverton

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📲 Follow Bekah on Instagram: @bekah_treverton

If this episode made you feel seen, less alone, or a little more regulated, I’d love for you to share it with a friend, leave a review, or send me a message.

Until next time, keep navigating the mess. You’re in good company. 🤍

I’m recording from my cozy chair, trying out video on my phone (no promises), sharing a Taste Like Sugar moment that feels like a quiet nudge to keep going—and inviting YOU into this space. If you’ve ever thought about being on Muddle Buddies but felt awkward asking… this is your official invitation. The answer is yes. Always yes.

We also touch on the very real mess happening alongside the joy (hello, possible stomach bug 😵‍💫), life in the thick of conference prep, and the reminder that God often shows up in small, unexpected ways—sometimes even through someone else’s discarded furniture.

Thanks for being here, for cheering me on, and for muddling through life with me. You’re not alone. You’re in great company. 🤍

In this honest, wide-ranging conversation, Jacy sits down with Cara to talk about parenting, grace, rage, self-compassion, faith, and what it really means to be human, especially when you’re raising kids, carrying expectations, and trying to do better than the generation before you.

Together, they explore:

• Why parenting exposes parts of ourselves we didn’t know were there
• The tension between accountability and grace
• Learning to stop “fixing” and start holding space—for others and ourselves
• How understanding our inner world impacts our relationships, our faith, and our ability to extend compassion
• Why vulnerability isn’t weakness, but connection
• And how healing ourselves ripples outward in ways we don’t always expect

This episode weaves together psychology, spirituality, real-life parenting struggles, and moments of lightness (including a Taste Like Sugar moment that will melt your heart). It’s a reminder that you are human. And you don’t have to do it alone.

Pull up a cozy chair, take a deep breath, and come sit in the messy muddle with us.

In this Unforeseen Prior Engagement episode, I’m skipping the resolutions and sharing my anti-resolutions—the things I fully plan to keep doing in 2026. Like underestimating how long everything takes, believing a warm drink can fix most problems, needing reminders for things I deeply care about, and growing slowly enough that I usually only notice it in hindsight.

If you didn’t magically become a new person when the calendar flipped, you didn’t fail January. Maybe this year doesn’t need a big reinvention or a perfectly color-coded planner. Maybe it just needs more honesty, more kindness toward yourself, and a lot less pressure to rush the process.

New year. Same human. Still learning. Still growing. Still worthy of grace. Welcome to 2026—it’s the year of buddies.

It’s New Year’s week, and Jacy is joined by her dear friend SaKoya for an unfiltered, laugh-out-loud, deeply honest conversation about what 2025 held and what they’re carrying into 2026.

From choosing a “word for the year” to navigating postpartum emotions, ADHD, marriage growth, people-pleasing, boundaries, mental health, medication, grace, and the liberating power of letting them (or, as SaKoya lovingly reframes it… f them), this episode feels like sitting on the couch with a friend who tells the truth and hands you permission to breathe.

They talk about learning who you are, releasing what no longer deserves access to you, accepting help without shame, and choosing health, connection, and honesty over perfection. There’s humor, tenderness, big feelings, and real hope for what’s ahead.

If you’re stepping into a new year feeling reflective, tender, tired, hopeful, or all of the above, this one’s for you.

🎉 New year. Same mess. You’re not alone.

In this episode, we take a few quiet minutes together to breathe, notice what we’re carrying, and make space for both the heavy and the tender parts of this season. There’s no fixing, no learning, no productivity. Just a gentle pause, some grounding breaths, and a reminder that you’re not behind and you’re not alone.

This episode includes intentional silence and reflection, so listen when it feels safe to slow down. Wherever Christmas finds you this year, I hope this space helps you feel a little more held in it.

We also get into what it means to invite Jesus into our actual stories (not the cleaned-up versions), why many of us learned to intellectualize our feelings to survive, and how practices like silence, solitude, and “coffee with Jesus” can help us reconnect with our own hearts. Along the way, there’s talk of therapy, faith, IFS parts language, the gospel ladder, and finding little “taste like sugar” moments even in hospital waiting rooms.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Living “toxically open” & the social vulnerability hangover• Shame, self-abandonment, and learning we don’t have to shrink to be loved• Differentiating God’s voice from the voice of shame: Who told you that?• Intellectualizing feelings vs. actually feeling them (hi, fellow robots)• Community, safe people, and showing up for each other in the muddle

If you’ve ever left a hangout thinking, “Was I way too much?” or wondered how God could really love the real you, this one’s for you.

I share a quick, ridiculous mess from the week, a small “Tastes Like Sugar” moment that reminded me why this community matters, and a whole lot of honest reflection about finding grace in the middle of exhaustion. If you’re stretched thin, overwhelmed, or just doing your best to take the next right step, come join me here. No pressure. No performance. Just a quiet moment to breathe, be human, and remember you’re not alone in the muddle.

Kiefer shares his story of becoming a quadriplegic after a spinal cord injury and how, 11 years later, he’s using his lived experience to speak up for accessibility, inclusion, and independence. We talk about what it’s like to move through everyday spaces like churches, apartments, gyms, outdoor trails, beaches, bathrooms, when you use a wheelchair and the world isn’t designed with mobility in mind.

We also dig into how he’s stepping into disability advocacy: pushing for more accessible outdoor spaces, dreaming about adaptive fishing and hunting opportunities, and imagining what a nonprofit for accessible recreation could look like. Along the way, we talk about language (“disabled,” “wheelchair user,” “handicapable”), asking for help, and how to support people with disabilities in ways that honor their dignity and autonomy.

In this episode, we explore:

• Life after a spinal cord injury and navigating the world as a wheelchair user
• What most people don’t realize about accessibility, ADA, and inclusive design
• Practical ways to support disabled friends without overstepping
• Why language matters when we talk about disability and identity
• How adaptive recreation (fishing, hunting, outdoor adventures) can create joy, not pity

If you care about disability advocacy, accessibility, inclusive communities, or just want to understand how to love people better in their everyday realities, this conversation is for you. And follow Kiefer on @disabled.notdefeated on Instagram. Come join the conversation!

From there, the week continued with a rip in the worst possible spot in my jeans, an almost-disastrous autocorrect text, and a handful of other “are you kidding me?” moments.

It wasn’t the worst week, just a weird one — the kind that leaves you laughing, unsettled, and grateful for people who let you tell your stories.

If you’ve had a “what is happening?” kind of week, welcome. You’re not alone.

Let’s get into it. 💛

⚠️ Content notice: Between 10:00–12:05, I briefly share a story involving the loss of a baby. Please skip that section or move through it at your own pace.

Stick around for a “Tastes Like Sugar” moment from Alex (hello, mid-century-modern joy!) and a shout to his reflective journal project, Coffee Date with Yourself.

You can find Alex and all the fun things he’s working on over on Instagram at @beilpoetry.

If this episode makes you feel a little less alone, subscribe, leave a review, or share it with a friend—we’re muddling through together. 💛

I share a quick mess (spoiler: my house and I are in a long-term relationship with chaos) and a quick sugar: a sweet reminder from my almost-five-year-old that even grown-ups sometimes need help taking a deep breath.

If you’ve been feeling buried in clutter, literal or emotional, or just need a reminder that doing “one small thing” is enough, this one’s for you.

Thank you for listening, for being here, and for making this first month so full of heart. 💛

We talk about funny family moments, what it feels like to grow up, school favorites, church memories, why playing together matters, and what helps her feel most loved.

It’s messy, sweet, unfiltered, and so very Muddle Buddies — just two buddies talking about life with open hearts and a microphone that keeps slowly sinking down mid-conversation.

If you need something light and real today, pull up a chair. You’re invited to hang out with us!

We talk ADHD energy, small-business pressure, setting boundaries (even with the good stuff), why Sabbath rest saves our sanity, and the gift of community when you’re poured out. We laugh about Hallmark movies vs. Criminal Minds, Chick-fil-A sauce stashes, and a Taylor Swift “wood” reel that brought pure, goofy joy. We also wade into friendship in the real world—how some are for a reason, a season, or a lifetime—and why letting others pour into us can be holy work.

If you need warmth, a few belly laughs, and permission to rest, pull up a chair. You’re in good company.

Find Adrianne on all the things!

@theinspiredgrain @inspirehopepod

Unforeseen Prior Engagements wasn’t originally part of the plan (shocking, I know), but life keeps interrupting my best intentions, and honestly… that feels on brand. So on the off weeks, you’ll get these mini episodes—quick check-ins where I share a mess I’m currently muddling through and a small sugar moment that made it worth it.

No big production. No perfect outline. Just a tired human with a microphone, a cup of coffee, and a suspicion that someone somewhere is double-checking whether I’m allowed to be doing this.

They’re short, honest, a little chaotic, and just enough to remind you that even when everything feels like an unforeseen prior engagement—there’s still sweetness running quietly underneath it all.