Conversations with Toi

Anxiety Flares

Fri, 26 Aug 2022 11:35:19 GMT

If you experience anxiety you know it comes in waves. I also say that are like flares. So for me being in a new environment, new people, etc can make me feel a certain way. So I am aware of myself when these times happen.

This week I had a flare at a media event and it wasn't pleasant. I do plan to go there and see if it was the location or just the people or me.

Anxiety can be debilitating but also something you learn to manage over time. I work through my anxiety and don't allow it to stop me from living this life.

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Today is also National Cherry Pop day so for that today's drink is Cherry Pop Cocktail

It's also National Get Checked Day which is an outcry for women or the women in your life to get their breast checked. It's important.

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As always we are in the preps of Fall. So by the time I come back for season 7 of the podcast we will be in a new regiment. If you aren't in the preparations for Fall beyond decorations with vitamins, etc please do that.

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Paying for Prayer

Fri, 30 Sep 2022 04:30:17 GMT

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We paying to learn how to pray now? I am knocking Dr. Juanita Bynum's hustle in the least bit. At the end of the day those who can and want to will it's just just a NO for me on all front. Prayer is simple a form of communication to God. It doesn't need a formal lesson.

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We stepping into the last quarter of the year so we are going to prepare for it in ways that honors us, our wallet, and more

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Healing Without the Apology

Fri, 03 Apr 2026 04:00:00 GMT

There’s a particular kind of heartbreak that happens when you walk into therapy carrying wounds someone else created, yet the work ahead is yours alone. Healing Without the Apology explores that quiet, complicated space where personal accountability meets unresolved hurt.

Each episode dives into what it means to rebuild yourself without closure, to take responsibility for your reactions without excusing someone else’s actions, and to grow even when the words “I’m sorry” never come.

Through honest conversations, reflective storytelling, and grounded psychological insight, this podcast guides listeners through the messy, courageous process of reclaiming their power. It’s about learning to stop waiting for someone else to make things right—and choosing to become whole on your own terms.

If you’ve ever felt the sting of being left with the emotional bill for someone else’s damage, this space is for you. Healing is still possible, even without the apology you deserved.

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Get to Know Me

Fri, 10 Jul 2020 14:01:00 GMT

Failure is inevitable. We learn so much from speaking from the place of failure but not getting stuck. In this first episode we talk about what led me to blog and start a podcast and a few tidbits I learned along the way!

Mental Health Check In

Fri, 17 Jul 2020 14:00:00 GMT

In Episode 2 we discuss the real of where I really am. We talk about mirrors in relationships; no entanglements. Also what about one way relationships? Does childhood trauma green light bad behavior?

What if they won't take the help?!

Fri, 24 Jul 2020 13:00:00 GMT

Last episode we talked about mental health but what if they won't receive help? Who is responsible for personal mental help and happiness? Who's in charge? A happy wife is a happy life but what if the wife is just miserable?

Relationships and Check-Ins

Fri, 31 Jul 2020 04:36:00 GMT

Wedding Anniversary is this weekend and the tidbits learned has been empowering. Tamar is setting the record straight and holding onto to her premise that she wants to get out under the drama of reality television. Checking in-ways to get to the real issue and manage stress

What in the World, Flood me Out...

Fri, 07 Aug 2020 17:31:41 GMT

We recap the week. We had a flood to our house this week. Life gets interesting. Home school on the horizon and helping parents through ad prep. Anniversary behavior was on a thousand.

The Devil Made Me Do it-Accountability Hour

Fri, 14 Aug 2020 04:13:52 GMT

We all have made excuses for our bad behavior one way or another. With that being said we talk about Tommcus Walker, husband of Letoya Luckett-Walker, Selah daughter of Lauryn Hill, and of our course where I have gone wrong in the past. Who should bear the brunt of our bad behavior?

One Sided Relationships

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 13:00:00 GMT

How to stop and manage guilty feelings of cutting access to others who don't mean us well. We also talk about social media stories of Lil Boosie begging for his Instagram account, Tim Norman murder for hire plot, Kanye being Kanye...

Loyal to a Fault-Being too Loyal can be harmful

Fri, 28 Aug 2020 05:25:21 GMT

We all have had times where we have had to work that job that didn't serve us. Although the job market is deplorable right now, leaving a job may not be in your best interest. I talk about the regret I felt not leaving a job sooner. Being loyal to a fault will cause a broader disrespect to yourself.

Self Improvement Month-Call a spade a spade!

Fri, 04 Sep 2020 05:49:32 GMT

September is Self Improvement Month. We all have so much to get better at in every area. Owning it and being an active participator matters. We deal with relationships and what we attract. No sugar coating-call a spade, a spade.

No more gaslighting !

Fri, 11 Sep 2020 05:08:31 GMT

Gaslighting often occurs when we trust individuals to protect the space in our lives.

We also remember September 11th may we continue to uphold those in our hearts.

Season 1 Finale. We will be back for Season 2 on Friday October 2!

New Year Soon Come

Wed, 30 Dec 2020 04:50:09 GMT

We are only a few days away from 2021. Am I the only one who is scared? Pure craziness of what lie ahead is like the land of the unknown. We discuss Christmas and the stress that unfolded. Therapy has been intense however super necessary.

Goal setting in 2021 what does that look like? A quick bonus episode as we prepare for whatever the New Year brings!

Compare or Square up?

Fri, 02 Oct 2020 04:49:42 GMT

We are Back for Season 2! We catch up on what's been happening the last two weeks. We talk about comparing ourselves to others. Its an awful way to live. Should I have squared up with ole girl or take the lesson and walk away?

Mental Health Awareness Day Being Embarrassed while Healing

Fri, 09 Oct 2020 05:09:10 GMT

A candid conversation about navigating your mental health. How do you deal when others know about your mental health issues or have used your mental health issues against you...

Storr Love

Fri, 16 Oct 2020 07:23:08 GMT

As promised I brought in my husband for a little he said/she said candid conversation on all things love and relationships. We talk about surviving Covid-19. We talk all things on relationships and learning about one another

Self Care Fails?

Fri, 23 Oct 2020 09:58:37 GMT

In a world where self-care has become a multimillion dollar market, can you fail at it? Is working from a full cup more expensive or is it more expensive not to operate at your best capacity. Self care and mental health go together!

No apologies!

Fri, 30 Oct 2020 05:44:02 GMT

As we grow and mature we find ourselves at points where what we once wanted no longer serves us. Would you apologize to the ice-cream truck that there are no more tacos at Taco Bell? No?! Stop apologizing to folks who can't bring us joy or not meant for us!

Who's in Power?

Fri, 06 Nov 2020 04:52:55 GMT

Are you exhausted with all of the back and forth of the election? The stress of it all is daunting to say the least. Self care is helping not only to feel good but to address the issues that are underlying.

Celebrating 6 years of blogging this month. We touch on not comparing yourself to others but being grateful for where Toitimeblog has been to where it is going. www.toitime.org

Lastly how do we keep the tempo of our home? Addressing your issues and having a plan in place is key1

Covid-19 Inclining Making my Anxiety Rise

Fri, 13 Nov 2020 09:21:06 GMT

I was paying attention long enough to buy toilet paper and not enough to know that a potential lock down is on the full horizon. I have had more panic attacks than a little bit

Social media round up-where do the miserable nap? Somebody grab they Pastor....John Gray out here apololizing (I spelled it correctly) again,

Celebrating 6 years of blogging and I talk about staying in my lane.

Thanksgiving Lockdown

Fri, 20 Nov 2020 06:42:20 GMT

Thanksgiving is being served with a dose of Lockdown 2.0. The way in which we here in Philadelphia will be eating smaller meals as we aren't able to get together with loved ones.

We also talk about comedian Mo'Nique who says that the real reason she calls her husband "daddy" is because he is raising her

Anxiety Triggered this week and I am not sure if it had to do with the lockdown or just normal feelings all over the place.

Thanksgiving and Therapy

Fri, 27 Nov 2020 18:38:49 GMT

Who starts Thanksgiving with Therapy? I do. It was helpful and necessary. I don't let any one shame me in needing therapy etc. So if you need it you better get it. We talk about the actual social distant day as well as the weekend plans to shop small, local, and minority owned.

Happy Thanksgiving and enjoy the weekend and time

Mean Mothers Breed Mean Mothers?

Fri, 04 Dec 2020 16:16:09 GMT

Watched Iyanla Vanzant episode with Lisa Raye and I share my thoughts. What is the concept of Proverbs 31 woman is it just to be a stay at home wife or mother? Also holiday traditions and expectations....

We extend season 2 to support others during the start of seasonal depression. We talk about therapy and how vital it is to healing.

How would you deal with abandonment from your mother?

Christmas and Holiday Memories-The Good and Bad

Fri, 11 Dec 2020 06:59:39 GMT

As we get closer to the holidays and more and more of us are missing our family I share my memories, tips, etc. to help us get through

Memories are what keeps us close to loved ones present and transitioned!

What are your favorite memories that make you smile, angry, or sad? Its okay to feel it all!

2021 What is That?

Fri, 18 Dec 2020 06:49:06 GMT

You know how crazy 2020 has been what will 2021 bring? I don't know but I hope it is coming in right. Do we burn planners and kill dreams? Nope! We do our part to be the best version of ourselves and adjust as we need to.

Also a lookback at the great things that 2020 brought since 2020 had enough negativity in it.

Merry Christmas-7 days to go we will be back January 8th with a bonus in between!

The Little Princess Interview with Renea Brown

Mon, 25 Jan 2021 19:25:14 GMT

Quintessence Theatre Presents The Little Princess by Frances Hodgson Burnett. Renea Brown plays Sara a young lady who is sent to a boarding school while her father is at war. He is pretty well off so while there he showers her with lavish gifts. One day he died and didn't leave anything for her care at the Boarding School and well that's when things goes left....

I interviewed Renea to find out what her passions were and how she began her acting career at such a young age.

Read the review of the play, https://toitime.org/quintessence-theatre-presents-the-little-princess-by-frances-hodgson-burnett/

Get tickets to view as you would like for Quintessence Theatre encore presentation, https://quintessencetheatre.secure.force.com/ticket/#/instances/a0F5w00000Y2NiCEAV

The play is available for the encore presentation From January 25--

The Winter's Tale

Thu, 18 Feb 2021 21:43:54 GMT

I interviewed Ms. Katrina Hall of Philadelphia, PA. She is an actor, director, and playwright. She is Phoenix Theatre's 2021 Virtual Artist in Residence.

Listen in as we discuss the production and the surrounding themes such as forgiveness, relationship, and how religion can sometimes influence us good or bad.

Get tickets here: http://www.thephoenixtheatrepa.com./

The play runs from Friday February 19-21st virtually!!

In Hall's adaptation of William Shakespeare's, The Winter's Tale, abandonment, loss, jealousy, and redemption all play out in their Time, across the lands of Sicilia and Bohemia. The jealous King Leontes falsely accuses his wife Hermione of infidelity with his best friend, and she dies. Leontes exiles his newborn daughter Perdita. With time at the center of this story, audiences pick back up in the story 16 years later, where audiences meet Leontes’ now grown daughter, who was raised by shepherds in her exile and falls in love with the son of Leontes’ former best friend. In Hall’s adaptation, Bohemia becomes a carnival.

“It was the play's overall oddness that initially drew me in,” said Hall about adapting this work. “The way some of the turns were just so quick and outsized in ways you don't typically see even from Shakespeare. It also inherently struck me as a woman's play, which I am generally oriented toward. The challenge of centering that aspect of it really appealed to me.”

She adds, “Among other things, The Winter's Tale is about jealousy. The way it is insidious in that it makes you believe you have clarity of vision, while the exact opposite is true. The longer it is maintained, the more progressively opaque your sight becomes. Here, in the King of Sicily's case, to tragically deadly results. For me, it is also about not only forgiveness, but what, if any, are its limits.

Enjoy the interview. I will also review the show on the blog https://www.toitime.org

AAPI Solidarity Fundraiser with Linda Kuo

Fri, 28 May 2021 21:17:50 GMT

There's a time for talk and there's a time for action, AAPI Solidarity Fundraiser is doing both. This Sunday at the Peridance Center from 10:30am -4:30 you can sign up and take classes at $10 per class. There are amazing teachers:

Yuka Kameda teaching Tap

Kevin Suzuki teaching Japanese Folklore

Sun Kim teaching Popping

Pauline Casino teaching Choreography

Afterwards there is a community discussion to bring an action plan together from 4:30-5:30 and that portion is free to the community and those who participated in the dance classes

This is a pre-registration event meaning no walk ins. You must also wear your mask.

The event is a fundraiser for APEX for Youth, underserved Asian and Immigrant youth from low income families.

Tickets can be found here: https://dancers-unlimited.square.site/product/aapi2021/77?category_id=18&cp=true&q=false&sa=false&sbp=false

Special thanks to Linda for taking tine to talk to me as well as Peridance Center for the use of space, etc.

Find more information on Dancers United's Instagram page: https://instagram.com/dunyc.hi?utm_medium=copy_link

Falls and Melees

Fri, 08 Jan 2021 03:15:24 GMT

What an entire week?! Welcome 2021 or something like that. We talk about falling and what grace comes from that. Of course with a New Year, everyone is doing all kinds of new diets, fads, or putting in new systems-what about sleep?!

We talk about the melee that took place at the Capital-I got thoughts

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Personal Responsibility

Fri, 15 Jan 2021 14:36:10 GMT

So many times we aren't able to see that we have an issue. When we do it's up to us to take personal responsibility for our actions. Let's keep it real, adulting sucks but must be done.

Social media round up-y'all knees strong enough for the Buss it challenge? I personally didn't get my Meg Thee Stallion knees for Christmas so that's a NO for me. Also New "IT" couple Lory Harvey and Michael B Jordan-what say you?

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Short Week Long Week Loops

Fri, 22 Jan 2021 13:05:44 GMT

What a week. It was the longest shortest week. However it was full of amazing history. We have a new President and in the first time in history we have a woman, a Black woman, and an Asian American woman in office. For all of the little girls who dream big dreams-its their time to shine

Catching up with the week with self care tips and this weeks joys and pitfalls. Learning to apply the lessons of Dr. Martin Luther King's legacy. Honoring him in our actions beyond social media post.

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Grab you a glass of wine and have a great weekend and next week!

10 Years...Philly Jawn

Fri, 29 Jan 2021 13:23:48 GMT

When I moved from my small town of Lancaster to Philly I didn't think I would last 2 weeks let alone 10 years. Here we are showing up for myself, exploring life, raising a family, and becoming whole!

Cheers to 10 years and many more adventures!

Also check out the podcast featuring my husband as we talk mental health it will make more sense as you listen to both: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conversations-with-toi/id1523002422?i=1000494949128

Also check out the recent bonus episode with Renea Brown: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conversations-with-toi/id1523002422?i=1000506538063

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Difficult Folks We All Got Them

Fri, 05 Feb 2021 15:09:39 GMT

Who doesn't know a difficult person? We have them all around us. From being contentious to down right rude the world needs a spirit lift. We talk about how to navigate around them

We also discuss therapy for the week. What were the easy parts and how navigating towards your healthiest mindset can be an asset to everyone.

Grown grown-that point in my your life where you no longer deal with folks excuse of bad behavior. I'm in the stage of putting folks out of my presence to preserve peace.

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Also Happy Birthday to former guest, Marques, my husband listen to his episode here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conversations-with-toi/id1523002422?i=1000494949128

Common Sense Lack Week-Gorilla Glue and Foolery Week

Fri, 12 Feb 2021 13:51:20 GMT

We had to talk about the Gorilla Glue incident as well as Trey Songz. I am married not blind. However we do talk about adulting and the 3 things that got me through this hectic week. We all need some practical things that we can do in addition to therapy.

Happy Love Week. This week is full of emotions. Some couples fight more this week too. So don't think everyone is as in love as they post their trinkets.

Here is the Episode of my husband and I if you're finding your mate is dealing with mental health issues. The constant nagging and dissatisfaction in their life is coming off as complaining and misplaced anger. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conversations-with-toi/id1523002422?i=1000494949128

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Motherhood and Ego

Fri, 19 Feb 2021 05:52:07 GMT

Its amazing for those who have a desire to experience motherhood to hold that baby for the first time. Unchecked trauma can creep almost instantly. Having to be told by a child that your delivery is of off putting can be hard to swallow.

Parenthood comes with a lot of gut checks and laying the ego down to give a child what they really need

Blac Chyna's mom goes on a rampage calling her all kinds of names and dragging her. Aren't parents supposed to protect? Can moms be jealous of their daughters or children in general-the answer to both is absolutely both! to see the dragging (strong language-watch UnwinewithTashaK on YouTube)

Boosie needs to lay low and mind the business that pays him...

Self care is important, what were this week's helps?

Did you miss this week's bonus episode? Who am I with two episodes this week? Watch it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conversations-with-toi/id1523002422?i=1000509733668

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Who's Making the Decisions Around Here?

Fri, 26 Feb 2021 04:35:23 GMT

First comes love than marriage, than the baby in the baby carriage or something like that.

What happens when the love of your love wants to stop having kids and you may or may not want to? Do you get your tubes tied out of his request or benefit of your health for a man who asked for your hand in marriage but isn't your husband? That man now has had more babies with his new wife because changing of minds is real..

Who makes that decision?

We explore the notion of permanent decisions with temporary folks and situations...

What does your self care look like? What was this week's go to (s)...

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Bad parenting is a thing

Fri, 05 Mar 2021 04:23:12 GMT

Trigger alert!

This notion that elders are incapable of bad vibes or even bad intentions have to be dispelled. Even with that in mind, you can disengage with a parent and not out right disrespect them. You can stand up for yourself and not hit below the belt.

We talk about this culture of embarrassing children on social media channels. It's disheartening to say the least. I understand being a parent that children are from the Try it School of life. We as parents are not supposed to act aggressively towards them.

How do you heal from a friendship break up? I discuss this as a request from a friend. People may be seasonal even if that season lasted quite some time.

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Gracing Through A Pandemic and Life

Fri, 12 Mar 2021 08:10:41 GMT

This has been a year to remember. A year of loss and emotional ups and downs. The hardest part is not being able to see loved ones. Watching my children lose their social skills and being in the house for the betterment of the year.

The joys have been there as well. Although a large majority of my extended family had Covid-19 we were safe. Reminding myself of that point daily has been crucial.

This week's self care has been about honesty. Taking time out when necessary and doing it without guilt.

Grace we surely do need it. We need to give ourselves more grace because of the challenges of life, we have to do better at supporting ourselves better..

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Lookin For A Revolution-Accountability

Fri, 19 Mar 2021 05:16:03 GMT

This week we had to discuss the accountability of when parents go left. Also kids can go left too. Such as the perceived notion of the leaked snippet of Kirk Franklin and his grown son.

Can parents push kids grown or not too far? We discuss this as well as accountability of owning yourself.

This week I had a personal blow up that was seasoned from childhood silent treatment tactics.

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Spring is around the corner, so make sure that you get ready for this new season.

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The Lies Write Themselves

Fri, 26 Mar 2021 02:23:33 GMT

Its been an entire media storm this week. Derrick Jaxn has been living an entire lie. He is a "relationship guru" who has sold a lot of women the story line of what to look forward to when they find the man of their dreams. Yet he is a living and walking nightmare.

His wife is a victim. However in her eyes....listen in!

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National Reconciliation Day They Say?!

Fri, 02 Apr 2021 04:23:24 GMT

Listen forgiveness and forging relationships at the same level as before...it doesn't always happen.

We talk about counting up whether or not to forgive or not and what goes into the process and self-care through it all

Here is the blog that goes along with this episode:

https://toitime.org/national-reconciliation-day/

Also both vaccines complete how did I make out?

Happy Easter weekend!

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That's Ron Isley? Well Looka Here

Fri, 09 Apr 2021 11:00:18 GMT

We discuss the epic Verzuz TV battle between the Isley Brothers vs. Earth, Wind, and Fire. This was hosted by Steve Harvey who waited his entire life for this moment. Ya'll got to see Steve Harvey pretend he's the member of both groups

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Did you hear the Nick Cannon song, No weapon featuring Gospel's angel, Kierra Clark Sheard? It's a sample from Fred Hammond's No weapon. I also mention my favorite Fred Hammond song.

Self-care for this week may surprise you because it definitely shook me.

Also as a blogger of Toitime, https://www.toitime.org I had to retire my best tool-hear that at the beginning of the show-I was way too hype.

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Cheers to the weekend!

Humble My Eyesight

Fri, 16 Apr 2021 10:00:19 GMT

Sometimes we get so caught up in the admiration of others who we will are doing better than we are that we don't humble our eyesight. We don't know what someone has been through to get to where they are. We need to find a way to love ourselves a little more.

Our condolences to DMX's Family and friends. We said last episode that we would keep him in our prayers and sadly he has passed.

Black Lives Mattering is more than just an organization its about the actual lives.

What brings you joy? Let's find a way to do more of that this week and every week and day.

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Staying the Course

Fri, 23 Apr 2021 10:00:17 GMT

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Staying the course even when giving up seems too easy and comfortable. Like Beyonce says winner doesn't quit on themselves. So we talk a very personal story where I had no choice but to stay the course.

Self care go tos the week. What are they and how have I been managing.

RIP to George Floyd and a continued conversation and action plan for what to do next.

What is up with the integrity of Sean Puffy, P Diddy, Love? Why everyone telling the same lie?

My 5 podcast go tos:

Turn to your Neighbors

Dead Ass by Khadeen and Devale Ellis

Awaken the Awesome

Ratchet and Respectable with Demetria L. Lucas

The Reclaimed Podcast

Mother's Day Gift Guide: https://toitime.org/mothers-day-gift-giving-guide-2021-give-mom-what-she-really-wants-giving-with-a-purpose/

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Trauma Doesn't Have An Expiration

Fri, 30 Apr 2021 10:00:17 GMT

The world is in an uproar at least in the comment section about Oprah's newest book that is coming out. She is telling parts of her story that she has been reluctant to share. Apparently she is too rich to STILL have trauma. Which we know that is a whole lie and a half.

Trauma doesn't have an expiration-you carry the scars for life. We discuss both sides of the discussion.

Also Mendeecees stated that if the roles were reversed with Yandy went to jail for a few years, he's not sure if he could do what she did when he went to jail.

Steve Harvey clip resurfaces about whether or not men and women can just be friends.

RIP to Shock G aka Humpty Hump from Digital Underground.

Did you watch DMX funeral? Amazing send off!

Don't forget that Mother's Day is around the corner. Its the hardest time of the year for a lot of folks.

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Say No Like you Mean It

Fri, 07 May 2021 10:00:18 GMT

Welcome to a new week of Conversations with Toi. We talk about mental health, self-care, social media stories, and failures in life.

This week's podcast is sponsored by Real Sleep. They are giving all of our readers 10% by using the code POD at https://www.realsleep.com/discount/POD

Also check out my story with What to Expect: https://www.whattoexpect.com/first-year/postpartum-health-and-care/ppd-after-second-pregnancy-essay

This Week social media stories include Josh Duggar, Safaree and Erica Mena, as well as Khloe Khardashian. When we talk about social media it is always about a way to relate and the take a ways we can add to our own lives.

We also talk about my self care fails and greats of the week. Can not making a doctor appointment reveal where you are in your self care.

Lets love on all of the amazing and giving mothers this weekend for Mother's Day.

Lets also keep our loved ones who may have experienced lost in our hearts and prayers.

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Birthday Lessons and Foolery

Fri, 14 May 2021 10:00:17 GMT

Happy 40th to me. I reflect on the lessons learned. We also talk about those epic fails that took place too. The things we have gotten into that we don't speak on because we want to be appear less flawed than we really are.

We also discuss the self care fails and success that have taken place over the last week. Some you may remember from last week. Pray that I will have the self care fixed up by the time we come back.

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We will be taking a break and will be back on Friday June 4. Breaks are a beautiful thing

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Self Care Fails with Vera Fair

Fri, 04 Jun 2021 12:52:30 GMT

Self care is something we all need a daily dose of. We are attempting to do our best. Can you fail your own self care? Yes overthinking, not doing it enough, or not seeing simple things as self care.

We talk with Vera Fair. Vera Fair is a working mom with two amazing daughters (5 and 9 years old), wife to a wonderful husband who she has been with for 22 years, and volunteer in multiple organizations. She works full-time as a Senior Project Manager for the Office of the Chief Technology Officer and Boeing Research & Technology. In her 20 year career, she has held 16 different roles at the same company. Her educational background is in Psychology (UCLA), Computer Science (CSULB), Business (USC), and Project Management (Cal Tech). She is passionate about community involvement and is an active board member of Ascend Orange County (VP of Membership), Boeing Employees Community Fund (non-profit organization that provides grants to local non-profit organizations), Boeing Leadership Association of Southern California (VP of Professional Development), and Boeing Women Inspiring Leadership (Connect Circles Leader). She also volunteers with the local Girl Scouts group that her daughter is involved in. She is a certified speaker, coach, and leadership development trainer through the John Maxwell Team. Prior to the pandemic, she was a student pilot flying Cessna airplanes and also took acting lessons.

Let's give a listen and really try to do better and extend grace.

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Mustard Seed and Humility

Fri, 11 Jun 2021 10:00:16 GMT

Today's episode is sponsored by Relief Factor. Relief Factor is drug-free relief for those everyday pains. Who wants to be in pain daily? No one. Our listeners are getting the price from $70 to 19.95: https://bit.ly/3f5iKMo

This is the episode where if you need some motivation and a boost this is it! There's no way you are going to listen to this episode and not be inspired. We want to encourage you to allow grace to follow your steps. Beyond anything this is about pouring back into each listener!

We talked to Noel Davis of Paris Fit Studios. Noel Davis is an Archaeologist turned personal trainer and is now a gym owner. Over the years her business Paris Fit LLC has been able to teach at senior centers throughout Philadelphia, grade schools in New Jersey, Rutgers University, talk on panels, fitness expos and much more. Previously she has help raise money CHOP Philadelphia Walk/Run for Childhood Cancer , donated and hosted back to school drives and recently she collected over a 300 toys from her 3rd Cardio Holiday Challenge/Toy Drive. She is currently the official pageant coach for the state of Pennsylvania. In January 2020 Noel opened up her first fitness studio in Old City, Philadelphia where currently she is recording for her live stream classes during the pandemic. Working with company such as Macy’s, Oxygen Magazine, Boxed Water, NIKE and Under Armour has allowed her to expand her brand while creating new opportunities for her to grow. *For information about on-line classes contact: getparisfit.com

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What a way to start Season 4 with Noel pouring nuggets of wisdom and jewels into us.

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Who Said That? Gut punch of Truth

Fri, 18 Jun 2021 10:00:17 GMT

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Today we talk about those gut punches we need from time to time to stand and be accounted for our own toxic behaviors. We also tend to only focus on what someone said and not enough on what someone has done or is doing.

So much responsibility in being honest in what you can call out and deal with.

Also did you hear what Monique said? No not about bonnets and pajamas but about how your family and friends-mostly family view you? Take a listen so you can see what I am talking about.

As always the blog is available always as a source of help, advice, and entertainment, ideas at https://www.toitime.org

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On Beyonce's Good Name

Fri, 25 Jun 2021 10:00:16 GMT

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Trick Daddy is on some other level for the lengths he went to talk on Beyonce's good name. Its one thing not to like her singing if that's what you want to do but we don't have to do the most.

Panic attacks are real how to deal with them and recognize them

Place boundaries in all relationships. Being there for a friend and allowing them to dump all of their cares on you when they may need a licensed therapist is a fine line.

Get prepared for your kids this Summer. Don't let the "I'm bored" talk start. Also is it best to run your kids lives so much that they can't be their true selves...

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Summer Book suggestions: https://toitime.org/summer-reading-list-stepping-away-from-electronics/

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Happy and Whole Vibes

Fri, 02 Jul 2021 10:40:45 GMT

What a time this week has been? We got Cosby getting his sentence vacated as well as Monique staying in the media space by embarrassing other women to make a point of respectability.

It's the long 4th of July weekend and its a time to reunite with family and friends.

We talk about being happy and whole. The world is doing a number on our lives. We need to be renewed daily.

So what is stopping you from being whole and happy? It's not once you are whole (as that is a ongoing process) will stop bad things from happening to you. How do you walk in your wholeness?

Check out the guest host episode of Awaken the Awesome podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/awaken-the-awesome/id1293931065?i=1000527252953

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Entrepreneurship, Self Care, and How to Go and Ask for What You Want

Fri, 09 Jul 2021 10:00:17 GMT

Today's episode is for my entrepreneurs or those who want to live with excellency like a boss. Women have a hard time with getting investors. There are some things that you need to do to get into a room and own it. Today's Guest Podcast Host is Sydney Wong.

Sydney Wong is an author as well as the Founder and CEO of VenturX. Her literature work, written under the pen name of David Adams, focuses on helping others be more productive and efficient. Sydney’s successful journey of her professional accomplishments have been shaped around one thing: balance. She likes to do yoga and cook to relive her stress and take a break from her work life. Her core values consist of excellence, altruism, and drive, all of which have helped her be successful. With the current events happening and the world being on lock-down, Sydney has been committed to helping others stay on top of their game by coming out with How To Have A Good Day, a book which guides individuals on how they can keep up their routine while being stuck at home. Furthermore, she shares her best practices on her Medium blogs and through guesting on podcasts that share her values of excellence, altruism, and drive.

VentureX: https://www.theventurex.com/index.html

She talks about setting and ending your day with routine, how to get the investment and things you might not be doing that is hindering you, and how important self care is to being a successful Entrepreneur.

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Not Diagnosed, Under Diagnosed: Dealing with Adult Learning Disabilities with Alex Gilbert of Cape-Able Consulting

Fri, 16 Jul 2021 10:00:18 GMT

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Today's cohost/guest is Alex Gilbert

Alex Gilbert (She/her) is a New Yorker, a Mets fan, a yogi, and a brunch enthusiast. She also has dyslexia and ADHD.

After spending her career working in leadership development, she decided to start a consulting and coaching business that will help adults with learning disabilities and/or ADHD like herself who have been struggling in their careers. Her business, Cape-Able Consulting, was created to help them navigate their day-to-day workloads so that they feel supported and are able to reach their highest potential.

Her biggest goal in creating Cape-Able Consulting is to change the stigma surrounding learning disabilities/ ADHD by reminding people what they Cape-able of.

You can get a free 30 minute consultation at https://www.capeableconsulting.com/

You can find her on Instagram as Iamcapeable https://instagram.com/iamcapeable?utm_medium=copy_link

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Nothing Sexier than Freedom-What is Sexy?

Fri, 23 Jul 2021 10:00:18 GMT

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Today's guest is Helen Edwards. She is is an International Author, Mentor/Coach, Yoga Retreat Leader, Podcaster, Speaker ~ Cheerleader of freedom, self love, personal growth, and #protectthethrone LET'S GOOO!

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We discuss what it means to be sexy as well as her journey being a reformed cheater. Clutch your pearls we go there.

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Getting the Coins to Align

Fri, 30 Jul 2021 10:00:17 GMT

Today's Episode is sponsored by Early Bird. Early Bird allows you to invest in a child that you love. The app is easy to use. We're teaming up with EarlyBird to give our listeners a free $15 investment to gift to a child you love! Simply go to partners.getearlybird.io/podcast or the link in our show notes, download the app, and create an account today. Earlybird, build the nest and invest in the children you love: https://partners.getearlybird.io/podcast

Our guest today is Armond Croom. He is a Financial Advisor at his own firm, Croom Financial. His business is about getting people to have a Focused Life and Financially Awake. He is a husband and a father of 3 beautiful girls. He applied his own teachings and is continuing his financial freedom for his family as he leads them into financial success.

We discuss those hard lessons come from being broke and having to admit you have to handle your money right. Saying no to your mate when one is a spender and one is a saver. How to get the life you want financially but also taking financial accountability to get it.

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Finding Hope with Amber Jewell

Fri, 06 Aug 2021 10:00:19 GMT

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Today's Guest is Amber Jewell. Amber LMSW is a social worker, board president of National Successful Survivor Foundation, previous foster child, foster-adoptive parent, national speaker, and author of “Finding Hope: The 12 Keys to Healing Hardship, Hurt and Sorrow” [scheduled for release 8/31].

She has over 15 years of experience working with youth and families in child protective services, education and mental health services. As an educator and an advocate for promoting change for and value within people, Amber works to inspire and motivate others to grasp their own form of hope.

We discuss her new book as well as ways how hope can propel us to healing and changing our lives.

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Raising Other People's Children with Debbie Ausburn

Fri, 13 Aug 2021 10:00:19 GMT

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Today's Guest is Debbie Ausburn. Debbie Ausburn is a social worker turned lawyer who has worked with youth-serving organizations for more than 40 years. Starting in her teens, she has served as a camp counselor, juvenile court probation officer, group home parent, criminal prosecutor of crimes against children and litigation attorney advising youth-serving organizations throughout the United States. Her most important challenges, however, have been parenting foster children and stepchildren. She has never had biological children, but she has collected seven children and ten grandchildren. She has put the lessons that her children taught her in her recent book Raising Other People’s Children: What Foster Parenting Taught Me about Bringing Together a Blended Family.

We discuss the concept of Biological clocks and if she felt hers ring. From the trials of being a Foster parent and raising other people's children. Prioritizing needs of children and self-care.

You can find her book, Raising Other People's Children on her website as well as Barnes and Nobles and Amazon

She also has a blog called; Other People's Children that you can subscribe and follow

Debbie is on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin

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What's in A Lifestyle

Fri, 20 Aug 2021 10:00:20 GMT

What is a lifestyle?

We tend to focus on what someone has instead of parts of their lifestyle that you want. When I was a Stay at home mom, I envisioned a life where I could get out the house, do the things that I love, and still be there for my children. Focus on the lifestyle-see what Ashleigh has to say about building the Lifestyle!!

Today's episode is featuring Ashleigh Mayfield. Ashleigh is a unique voice in the world of business building and personal development. She helps solopreneurs and seasonal business owners build belief that leads to action and take action that reinforces belief.

She is online and also does in person and online events that encompasses her bold and inviting personality to motivate those around her.

So check her out on social media as well:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theashleighmayfield

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theashleighmayfield?

Website: https://www.ashleighmayfield.com/

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See you next week for a new guest!

Moms need a Couch

Fri, 27 Aug 2021 10:00:20 GMT

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Today's Guest is Gladys Simen. She is a Life Coach for moms who are trying to balance their work and family life.

She is a life enthusiast who lived in 5 different countries, mastered 2 languages, and changed several professions. It took becoming a fabulous mama for her to tap into some BIG superpowers within herself. Former quiet introvert, today is passionate about helping women live big, beautiful, shooting-for-the-stars kind of lives right now.

Gladys considers herself an advocate for the working mama!

Website: https://www.mylifecouch.com/

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Giving Yourself Permission

Fri, 03 Sep 2021 10:00:18 GMT

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Parenting is hard work. You have to be able to master yourself in order to give your children what they need. It takes a village and learning how to be open to what your village looks like is key.

Today's guest is Genielle Hall. Genielle is an author, coach and speaker. She has 4 demanding girls and describes herself as a warrior widow after losing her husband in 2018. She's passionate about supporting other mums regain their happiness and restore peace in their home by unlocking their parenting as a skill to magnify their greatness. She invites you to be part of the journey that would shift the way you parent.

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Hot Mess Momma No More

Fri, 10 Sep 2021 10:00:18 GMT

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Todays episode features Amy Cothren. Amy is the host and creator of the podcast Mama Mindset, which speaks mostly to stay-at-home moms (SAHMs) about the importance of working on themselves in order to raise the future generation. In addition to the podcast, she offers her 1 on 1 mentoring for SAHMs who need the support of another mama friend. “I want to build a community of like-minded women who are ready to find their value and their worth as a SAHM. I believe in living a productive and fulfilling life through continuous growth and effort, and that improving our communities starts at home. It starts with us, working on ourselves. After being home with my 3 daughters for the past 7 years without a mentor, I painstakingly went through the ups and downs which got me to a place where I absolutely love being at home.” Amy is now on a mission to share her experiences with other women and help guide them to a place where they to, love the role they are in with, a Mama Mindset.

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Resets and Start Overs

Fri, 17 Sep 2021 10:00:19 GMT

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Today's episode is for those who have ever struggled with anything. Start, stopping, start overs, guilt, and all of the feelings that come along with the ups and downs. This episode is for you. Your strength of getting back up and trying again.

Todays guest is Emily Carpenter is a website designer, entrepreneur, natural health blogger, and healthy body/weight loss coach. She helps people who are stuck to feel good about their food, weight, and body image and small business owners feel good about their website again.

Website: Whizbang

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Living Through Grief

Fri, 24 Sep 2021 10:00:20 GMT

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Emily Thiroux Threatt is the author of Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief: A Comprehensive Guide to Reclaiming and Cultivating Joy and Carrying on in the Face of Loss, winner of the Bookauthority Best New Grief Book and the Silver Medal for the Living Now Book Awards.

Emily has much experience in the grieving process and has learned to face life with love, optimism, and joy. Her mission is to comfort and support those dealing with grief and loss focusing on happiness.

Her website is where you can sign up for more information.

She is also on Instagram and Facebook

You can get her book, Loving and Living your Way through Grief on Amazon

Also as always you can follow me on my blog, www.toitime.org

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Dating While Living with Anxiety

Fri, 01 Oct 2021 10:00:19 GMT

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Dating is already a stressful situation. So mix that with anxiety and you have a dose of feeling like you're living in a disaster. But take caution with anxiety managing yourself is key and so is dating with anxiety.

Anxiety is debilitating at times but we are moving forward to not let it rob of us our joy. So learning to handle your anxiety in general is key to dating with it.

Should you tell your new love interest you have anxiety? How does one bring up anxiety without looking for feeling like you're being looked at with a 3rd eye..we answer those and so many more questions of dating with anxiety.

If you have a question that you want to be asked on the podcast, submit at toitimeblog@gmail.com

Living with and dealing with anxiety has a lot to do with mental health care and self care.

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Grace through your Mental Health Journey

Fri, 08 Oct 2021 10:00:19 GMT

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Mental Health is a journey. It's filled with ups and downs. From having moments of being overwhelmed and not enough support. To being full of love for yourself and trucking along. Give yourself the grace that you need to get through the down moments. This Sunday is Mental Health Day and many will share their stories for the first time. Be gentle with others because you don't know when you too will need that same grace

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Safety for my Ladies

Fri, 15 Oct 2021 12:15:11 GMT

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Today's episode we are talking about Women's safety as we travel. From the tools you need to secure your door at hotels to watching our surroundings when out and about. A woman this week stated she was at a hotel when a man violently tried to get access to her room with an key. Ladies do not be fooled that simply locking your door is enough. So what are the things that you should have whether you are traveling or even in your home.

Use the Amazon link to find the things I use to secure a room or for safety from the bag I carry when I attend blog events too.

Follow along on the blog as well. We talk about mental health and wellness, self care, etc.

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Hello Jack, The Kindness Show

Wed, 10 Nov 2021 21:41:18 GMT

Anchored around Emmy Award-nominee Jack McBrayer’s infectious positivity and whimsical humor, “Hello, Jack! The Kindness Show” invites preschoolers into a world where a little act of kindness can change the world. Alongside series regulars Jack McBrayer, Markita Prescott (“The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel”) and Albert Kong (“Westworld”) who is recurring, special guest visitors include Paul Scheer (“The League,” “Human Giant”) and Sam Richardson (“Veep,” “The Office"). Jack inspires kids to solve problems with heart. The series showcases stories where acts of kindness are shown through “The Three C’s” – caring, connecting and cascading – from one person to another. The series also features original songs from the Grammy Award-winning band, OK Go.

The interview and blog. Make sure you watch the series! It's truly amazing and a great lesson for kids and some adults too!

Let's spread more kindness!!

Ain't No Cheating-Growing in your Marriage

Fri, 05 Nov 2021 10:00:19 GMT

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We are back for Season 5 of Conversations with Toi. Thank you for your continued support.

We have guest host, Marques Storr my husband as we talk about having those defining conversations in marriage. Are you willing to accept the same things in your marriage that you did in the early years? As you grow, you learn about what you will tolerate and what you won't. Listen as we discuss the pitfalls from communication, mental health, sex, and everything in between

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Every Fruit has a Root-A Father's Blessing

Fri, 12 Nov 2021 11:00:19 GMT

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Today's guest is Papa Ray. He is a personal transformation coach. He has a passion for helping people be better by "Understanding Your Owner’s Manual."

One of the most powerful transformation tools he uses is “A Father's Blessing.” This is where he stands in the place of a father and bless them as a son or daughter. He's have been using this blessing to touch people's hearts and lives of all ages and backgrounds. He's seen families restored and lives radically changed after people received this blessing. After surviving two major depressions, the last time coming within 5 minutes of losing his life, he now teaching people how to change the meaning of what happened in their past so it will not be a part of their future. He has seen people have major life-changing breakthroughs in just a few hours using this method.

Website of Father's blessings: www.fathersblessing.info

Website of Personal Transfusions: www.ILAPnow.com

His book, Blessing to a son: https://www.amzn.to/3vD4FfD

Blessing to a daughter: https://www.amzn.to/3jtxDKd

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Papa.Ray.Hurst

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Black Girls Must Die Exhausted with Jayne Allen

Fri, 19 Nov 2021 05:00:16 GMT

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Today's guest is Jayne Allen. author of the hit new book Black Girls Must Die Exhausted (HarperCollins), which was recently named Target's book club pick of the month in October and was also featured on Good Morning America.

Jayne Allen is a Harvard Law grad, popular speaker, thought leader, experienced business executive, and noted author who writes fiction under her chosen nom de plume, Jayne Allen.

Notably, Ms. Sealey initially created Black Girls Must Die Exhausted as a self-published trilogy. Her independent release gained so much reader traction that it resulted in a highly unusual four-book deal with traditional publishing imprint Harper Perennial, a division of HarperCollins.

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Jayne's own life and the lives of so many successful black women. In the book, an infertility diagnosis kicks off the story. Addressing the topic of infertility—according to the CDC, approximately six percent of married women between the ages of 15 to 44 years in the U.S. cannot get pregnant after a year of trying. In addition, nearly 12% of women between 15 to 44 years old struggle with getting pregnant or carrying a pregnancy to full term. Jayne shares, "this is something that needs to be talked about both to provide information and to normalize the topic so that those affected can find support and understand they're not alone."

The blog featuring Jayne Allen can be found here.

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Journey as a Widowed Parent with Jenny Lisk

Fri, 26 Nov 2021 05:00:15 GMT

Today's guest is Jenny Lisk. Jenny is an award-winning author and widowed mom who is dedicated to helping widowed parents increase their family's well-being.

In her book, Future Widow, Jenny draws on her personal and professional experience to provide a real-life guide for surviving and thriving while raising grieving children.

As host of The Widowed Parent Podcast, Jenny has done more than 100 interviews with experts, seasoned widowed parents, and people who lost a parent at a young age. Her podcast brings much-needed resources to parents, helping them feel less lost and alone.

Also there is merchandise that you can shop and support as well.

For Grief Allies: https://pages.jennylisk.com/allies-download

Happy Thanksgiving to all of you and your families. I am super grateful for this community that we are building together. Sometimes the conversations are light. Often times they are heavy. However, they are all necessary.

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Adele Moment of Our Very Own

Fri, 03 Dec 2021 05:00:16 GMT

We can have our very own Adele moment. As much as I stan for Adele and regardless of a relationship status we are all capable of having an Adele moment of our own. Personal happiness is important and you can read every book and miss the lesson. It starts with action. So take action today to walk out of anything that isn't deserving.

Action plans don't mean hurt and pain won't temporarily travel because they will

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Anxiety and Joy

Fri, 10 Dec 2021 05:00:23 GMT

Today's podcast episode is sponsored by Stamps.com. Get a weighing machine and access to stamps that will make life easier as a business person. Use code POD and save with a no obligation trial, As much as anxiety in life there is also joy in life. We talk about some of the ways to increase self care and joy in your life.

I share a few things I actively do to help increase joy into my life daily. Also I am sharing at least one Christmas joy each week. Magic Nursery anyone?

Holiday stress and anxiety can be increased around this time so find ways of decreasing it by being aware of what you need before you go deep into an overload of emotions

All in Balance-Inside Work

Fri, 17 Dec 2021 06:52:07 GMT

Today's episode we have Janie Charlot is a Family Nurse Practitioner, certified by AANP, and a founder of Health and Weight Loss Clinic in Atlanta. With a Master of Science degree and many years of practical nursing experience including inpatient care, Janie has a unique view on healing, that combines a scientific background with a holistic approach.

In her newest book Capacity to Love, Janie and her Twin Flame and co-author Russell Bruce invite readers to awaken to the universal feeling of love and experience the healing power that can be found in connecting with one’s higher purpose.

We talk about what is a balanced lifestyle? How do you challenge yourself to achieve it? Is balance even attainable? What is a twin flame in reference to Janie's book, Capacity to Love!

Her website and social media:

https://nphired.com

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nursepractitioner_hired/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/janie.charlot

You Tube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1TsAPFH2PTeu2233THwuNPWQ9NmYnd7O

Book-Capacity to Love on Amazon;https://www.amazon.com/CAPACITY-LOVE-Awakening-Unconditional-Love/dp/B09K1TWQH5/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2X1RC8GAK1B5X&keywords=janie+charlot&qid=1639723528&sprefix=janie+charlot%2Caps%2C81&sr=8-1

7 Steps to Mastering Emotions on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Steps-Mastering-Emotions-EMOTIONAL-INTELLIGENCE/dp/B08RTJMG79/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2X1RC8GAK1B5X&keywords=janie+charlot&qid=1639723568&sprefix=janie+charlot%2Caps%2C81&sr=8-2

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Whatever is the Loudest

Fri, 24 Dec 2021 05:00:18 GMT

Christmas is here. You may be feeling all kinds of feelings we explore all of it.

When life is not what you want it to be from not being connected to someone, desiring to be parent and it seems as if the ship has sailed, to struggling with purpose we talk about tapping into the gift that knocks the loudest. You ever met someone multi-talented? They want to do it all but don't know where to start-we talk about it.

It's okay to not feel holiday joy. You may be grieving or feeling all kinds of feelings that you don't even fully understand. Let's talk about it!

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Grandparents Love with Gramps Jeffrey

Fri, 31 Dec 2021 05:20:56 GMT

Today's episode is with Gramps Jeffrey as he uses his book, "I don't want to turn 3" to help young children with responsibilities and social interaction. His first book, "The Secrets of Retailing...How To Beat Walmart” was written to help entrepreneurs and small businesses compete against the big guys. Here is a little more information about his book: Marc Joseph Book

Arianna Huffington read his book and then asked him to become a contributor to The Huffington Post. Here is a link to the close to 100 articles he has written for this publication: Huffington Post Articles by Marc Joseph

The articles are about small businesses, education, family, the homeless and several other nonprofit topics dear to all of us.

You can get his book, "I don't want to turn 3 on Amazon, Barnes and Nobles and on his website

He can be found on social media: Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest

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Kids in Cuff New Book by Ar'Sheill Monsanto

Fri, 07 Jan 2022 05:00:20 GMT

Ar’Sheill Monsanto has collectively worked in advocacy, public policy, and organizing for 15 years where she has been responsible for implementing strategies to create sustainable change. She wrote Kids in Cuffs: Striving for Equity and Empathy in Education because she is passionate about forging meaningful change through public policy for all students.

Her book, Kids in Cuff is available now on Amazon. For the month of January the book is available for .99.

Ar'Sheill Monsanto can be found on her website, Instagram. Pinterest and LinkedIn

Support Ar'Sheill and her body of work. Sign up for her email lists as well on her website.

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Preferences and Peace Talks

Fri, 14 Jan 2022 05:00:17 GMT

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We talking about preferences this week. The list of things we want from the opposite sex or the things that we tend to cling to. What makes a preferences a preference? Can you have a preference and not be rude and discriminatory towards others?

Everyone desires peace and sometimes in the pursuit of peace we take forgiveness and subject ourselves in situations that are unhealthy for our mental and emotional wellbeing.

How many times have we found ourselves in these moments and to save face we allowed too many things to slide?

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Spit Gate and Taking Responsibility for Our Actions

Fri, 21 Jan 2022 05:00:20 GMT

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We talk about Spit Gate the spitting session that went down with Pastor Michael Todd. Also personal accountability. Over the years I have had to take accountability over the things that I say and do. What about the friend or even you as a person who uses the line, "keeping it real" What happens when keeping it real gets real ignorant, real mean, and real unnecessary? We talk about all of that and more as we compare the Toi of of her 20s and the woman in her 40s.

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The Business of Happiness A Journey

Fri, 28 Jan 2022 05:00:19 GMT

Being unhappy and unfulfilled is a real debilitating feeling. From wanting more but not knowing the first steps and more the journey to personal happiness isn't as easy. There is usually a moment that defines a change. For some its a wake up call that ignites their lives for the greater good.

Today's Guest is Dr. Tarryn MacCarthy. Dr. MacCarthy is a Business Prosperity Coach, Motivational Speaker, Orthodontist, and Host of The Business of Happiness Podcast. She is passionate about empowering business leaders and leaders of their own dreams to strive for inner fulfillment. “In the first decade of her career she reveled in culturally recognizable success and drowned herself in personal turmoil and depression. She has since embarked on a quest for greater purpose and joy in business and in life.”

Dr. MacCarthy is an Orthodontist and co-owner of Mbrace Orthodontics in Maine. Using the techniques she teaches, Mbrace grew from a scratch start to the top 1% Invisalign Provider in the country within four years. Dr. MacCarthy coaches business owners across the globe on self empowerment, on empowering their teams to be ambassadors of their dreams, and how to redefine success to find happiness in work and, ultimately, in their lives.

You can follow her on her website, blog, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube

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Anxiety is Real with Caitlin Rose

Fri, 04 Feb 2022 11:50:41 GMT

Today's podcast guest is Caitlin Rose. She is a resilience coach with over five years experience helping people overcome panic and anxiety naturally and permanently. Her work comes from her own experience navigating complex PTSD from early life trauma. After living with and troubleshooting chronic panic and anxiety for over a decade, she eventually mastered the principles of nervous system regulation and emerged panic-free. Today, she coaches people using a three step process to shift the nervous system out of a chronic survival state, calm the fear centers in the brain and proactively strengthen the brain structures that allow us to make those shifts permanent. Take advantage of a free, no-pressure 15 minute consultation to find out if this process can help you regain ease and freedom in your life!

You can find her on Instagram or LinkedIn. Her email is caitlin@buildresilience360.com

Also as always you can follow me on the blog at www.toitime.org

Here are some blogs for anxiety mental health, self care, and therapy.

As always please if you are feeling suicidal in any way or form please contact the National Suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255

Slice of Social Media

Fri, 11 Feb 2022 05:00:17 GMT

What do you want your slice of social media to look like? We are on social media for various reasons. It's up to us to make it what we want it to be. How? Who are you following, subscribing to, or indulging in? It reveals who you are. We are responsible for what we subscribe and take in.

-Bloggers with no website? Blogging is a IT word these days

-Why are people doing think pieces on Rihanna's pregnancy? She is an amazing artist but we don't need a full essay on it.

-Galentine's Day is on Sunday-who is in your tribe? Friendships that are solid should be celebrated Friends are like the Framilly that you picked.

-Single for Valentine's Day as a married woman I don't tell single folks how to think or feel. I remember my own days of being single.

-Self Care check in-let's remember how simple self care can be. It is a daily way to check in and evaluate your needs

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Business Minded and Franchise Talk

Fri, 18 Feb 2022 05:00:19 GMT

Today we have guest host Steve Taylor. If you have ever thought about going into business this is your episode. Also you know we drop nuggets no matter the topic. If the woman on TikTok can sell sunflower seed soup-yup just like I said it you are sitting on your talents and gifts.

Steve Taylor is a former Navy Lieutenant and Naval Academy graduate who proudly served afloat and ashore for seven years following graduation.

Upon completion of his military service, Steve began a career in high tech and consumer electronics. While enjoying a healthy career, he began to look into franchising and small business ownership as a way to insulate himself from the vagaries of technology and large business. He purchased his first franchise during the ‘great recession, eventually building it into one of the top units in a large system, selling a majority interest in 2019

Realizing his passion and interests were evaluating and exploring the vast opportunities in franchising and then sharing this knowledge, Steve joined the FCC team as a partner. He genuinely enjoys “evangelizing” the American Dream as embodied in Franchise and Small Business Ownership while helping clients both visualize and realize a better quality of life.

As a franchise consultant, Steve is dedicated to providing his clients with the most thorough and honest guidance possible.

Steve lives in Pleasanton, California with his wife with their three children (including twins). In his spare time, Steve enjoys cooking, skiing with his kids and traveling throughout the state and beyond.

Steve Taylor's Personal Statement: I absolutely believe that the best way to transform our communities and ultimately, our country is by identifying, enabling, and creating a new class of business owners. In some ways, the franchise model and military veterans are purpose-made for each other. On one hand, you have a model that comes with a ready-made template for success - on the other, you have a group of people that know how to follow a process, persevere through adversity, and seize opportunities while remaining creative and focused. My passion is to identify opportunities and resources and match them with veterans and others that have a desire to change the trajectory of their lives and their communities while achieving something out of the ordinary for themselves and their families.

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Tools for Anxiety, Trauma and more with Rachelle McCloud

Fri, 25 Feb 2022 05:00:19 GMT

Depression, anxiety, and trauma shows up in people in various ways. It can be debilitating. Having the right tools in your life is key.

We have Rachelle McCloud, a Mental Health Therapist and Emotional Wellness. Through years of successfully helping clients move their anxiety, depression, and trauma disorders into remission, she has developed a program that empowers people to skillfully get rid of symptoms and heal.

She is also the facilitator of the Facebook group Releasing the Baggage of Anxiety, Depression, and Traumatic Stress where she delivers free training on leading interventions that work well for getting rid of symptoms, not just coping or managing them. Her mission is to empower people to do their own healing work effectively, safely, and skillfully.

She also has a YouTube page.

If you are in need of her services this is a great way to get ahold of her.

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Goodpods and Asking for Help with JJ Ramberg

Fri, 04 Mar 2022 05:13:01 GMT

This week's guest is JJ Ramberg, Co-Founder of Goodpods. Goodpods is your go to Podcast player. It's a way to build community. It's the Instagram of Podcasts. You can follow your friends, and Podcasters while learning new podcasts and enjoying the ones you learn.

JJ talks about building the Podcast player and learning to ask for help. She hit the ground asking others what they thought they were missing in a Podcast player. 700 individuals who either were a Podcaster or listened to them to build the Podcast Player that people really needed. To download Goodpods, do it now. Also we sat down on the blog and talked to JJ as well.

I also talk about Burnout. Burnout is real. It's the world of doing too much without taking a break and moving with intentions to take care of you. SO if you have dealt with BURNOUT-this episode is for you.

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Are we Really Supporting Women?

Fri, 11 Mar 2022 07:29:43 GMT

I'm here for supporting women. I am a woman who uplifts women all year long. Are we as a society really supporting women? Like Cindy Gallop said, don't empower me, empower my bank account. We need to pay women what they deserve. We run things and do it well.

Y'all feeling Kim Khardashian stance on what women (business owners) need to do to be successful? Are we more mad at the messenger than the message?

Mental Health/Wellness check in-are you consistent in your self check? Are you doing the things that bring you joy even when you have to do them alone. Solo trips? Planning a vacation? Carving time for yourself?

Friend check-do you support your friends for real? If you are the first in your group do you allow your friends to have their moments? Upstaging someone in their moment is a sign of jealousy and lack of true friendship-we checking our friends?

Lots of questions but they all start with a conversation.

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Money Talk with Sarry Ibrahim

Fri, 18 Mar 2022 04:00:17 GMT

Money is what we need to make life happen. Sometimes we think we need to make a certain amount of money in order to get the help of a financial advisor. Although we know we need to get a financial advisor we may too not recognize the warning signs of selecting one. Also what are YOUR financial goals. Often times we compare our goals with others and that's not the way to take control of your financial freedom.

We have guest host, Sarry Ibrahim. Sarry Ibrahim is financial planner and member of the Bank On Yourself Organization. He helps real estate investors, business owners, and full time employees grow safe and predictable wealth regardless of market conditions using a financial strategy that has been around for over 160 years. Sarry started this journey when he was in grad school completing his MBA. He worked for

companies like Allstate, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna Healthspring, and Humana before founding Financial Asset Protection, a financial services firm that focuses on one sole concept; the Bank On Yourself Concept, also known as the Infinite Banking Concept.

He can be reached on Linkedin or via email sarry@finassetprotection.com

Also we talk briefly about using or weaponizing mental health against others. It's inappropriate to do so.

This is the last episode of season 5 we will be back in 2 weeks. Follow me on social media as Toitimeblog and on the blog.

Princess Vibes and Spring Renewal

Fri, 08 Apr 2022 12:18:54 GMT

We are back for Season 6. We have a royal guest with Arielle Jacobs who plays Princess Jasmine in Disney Concerts. Disney Concerts is coming to a city near you. It is playing here at the Kimmel Center on Tuesday April 12th. Tickets are available. Come and listen to over 30 songs, background stories, and more. It's an experience for all ages and a magical way to relive your childhood and make memories.

Also since we are back and in a whole new season-Spring, We are talking about way to renew. Booking trips, experiences whether as a solo traveler or with friends too. Keep in mind if you are traveling with others what should you know:

Budgets
Ideals to do
Travel accommodations
Road Trips

What do you incorporate in your morning routine? If grabbing your cell is one to mindless scroll is a way you start your day, let's fix that. There are ways to use your phone for self care. How do you do at night routine too?

Drink of the day is a Blackberry Smash. Recipe included in the episode.

Tips for traveling alone!

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Easter Traditions and Family Gatherings

Fri, 15 Apr 2022 04:00:19 GMT

As we start the Easter celebrations this weekend are we still doing all of the traditions? Growing up it was church 2 times on Easter Sunday, poufy dresses, and no mentions of an Easter Bunny. Not that I didn't get candy but it was all about church.

As we grow up we make our own traditions that tend to make others uncomfortable. If this is your first holiday bringing a new love interest-prepare them for what is to come. Don't let them walk in to your family's space unaware. Also we dealing with uncomfortable questions like if you're getting married or having babies.

What is living with intentions? How are you truly embracing life? Are you waiting on others to catch up?

Kim Kardashian is back with her show but one thing about being a Mother and you have lived a little you can turn those uncomfortable stories into some help for your own children. One day I will have to share those clubbing, single days but I plan to be honest and use it as a teaching moment.

Today's drink of the day is a Buzzed Peeps Cocktail so if you like Peeps which I am not a true fan of but there you go. However this would be life for my twin. For my real life learning of making cocktails with Cocktail Culture Co. Take this cocktail making class if you are in the Philadelphia area. So much fun.

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10 Years of Energy Loss

Fri, 22 Apr 2022 10:58:09 GMT

Dj Envy and his Wife Gia are making headlines with their upcoming book. Gia talks about 10 years of faking an orgasm. That to me sounds like a loss of energy and passion for 10 years. Their marriage is their marriage but ladies this is not it. Married to on man for the rest of your life you will go through challenges and changes in your life. This is why the man or woman you marry isn't the same one during the phases of your marriage.

Do not think this is normal to do. There needs to be a line of communication that is given. You do not need to stroke your partner's ego (no pun intended)

We also discuss self care and the ways in which we can let that NO be a full sentence. I am changing some ways in how I pull back. I also mention that this week on the blog.

What are ways that you are showing up? Are you taking care of you?

I talk about the drink of the day being an Old Fashioned and in the blog Cocktail Culture Co. I give you 3 recipes for drinks. Enjoy and drink responsibly.

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Everyone's Mother's Day hits Different

Fri, 29 Apr 2022 04:00:18 GMT

Cue all of the stores trying to make a profit. Rightfully so the woman who gave you life deserves it all. However Mother's Day isn't filled with warm bubbly thoughts. It's a struggle for many. For those who loss a Mother due to death its one of the hardest days outside of Christmas to deal with.

There are some who Mother is very much alive but you are separated by a strained relationship or other reason. So it is a reminder of what you lack. We call them toxic Mothers. It can be devastating to realize.

As much as it can be a joyful day for many we have to speak up for those when it's not.

We also talk about Content Creators using these platforms and how owning your own piece of the internet is important.

As always self care through your days.

The drink of the day is a Boston Sour.

As the warm weather increases here are some solo trip must haves.

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Joyful Moments in Wellness

Fri, 06 May 2022 04:00:20 GMT

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Today's episode is about joy in wellness. What that means is learning to see the joy in taking care of you. It doesn't mean that life isn't hard. It doesn't mean that things don't continue to happen-it means that you are an active participant in what happens to you.

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Today's Guest is Sophia. Sophia is a Lifestyle Coach and Personal Trainer. Her mission is to inspire you to find the joy in your journey, through all the highs and lows. She loves sharing her relatable health, wellness, and self-development journey in hopes that you might relate and be able to flow and grow through yours. Her mission is to shift your perspective and provide actionable tips to help you align physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You can find her on Instagram and on her own podcast, Flow with the Grow on Instagram too

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From your morning routine or your night routine what are you doing to help your day start or end? What about the ways in which you show up for yourself? You don't have to do it all-you just have to be able to start. There are times when you are boggled down and need to see joy. I want to challenge you to find ways to increase self care and more.

Hairspray is Coming to Philadelphia

Fri, 13 May 2022 11:33:05 GMT

If you love Broadway than you will love Hairspray it's coming to Philly on May 17-22nd. Get your tickets because the show will sell out. It's coming to the Kimmel Center Campus and it will be an amazing time.

Things you will hear today are going to be about accountability, passion, mental health, and self care.

We interview Sandie Lee who plays Motormouth Maybelle as well as Jamonte Bruten who plays Seaweed Stubbs. We discuss diversity, what being in Hairspray means to them, self care, and how they show up for themselves daily. It's an amazing conversation that you don't want to miss.

How does Hairspray compare and differ now? Are there similarities to things happening in our present?

In the show the drink of the day is a Hot Toddy. In addition as we talk all things travel make sure you are traveling safely. In addition we do talk lightly on Kevin Samuels but not from the angle you think of.

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Burnout hits different

Fri, 20 May 2022 07:41:47 GMT

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You ever experience burnout and someone attributes it to you not being grateful? It's annoying right. You can have all of the resources in the world or none at all and we all experience the different stages of burnout in various ways.

We may not know or understand the ramifications that we all go through but it doesn't things in life any easier.

We have Holly Penney. She is a mom, finance enthusiast, speaker, writer, self-love advocate, 4-time ovum donor, travel addict, minimalist and lover of all things chocolate. Experiencing childhood trauma and then as an adult, Holly began to realize there were negative patterns in her life. One day, as she calls it a "low point," she decided to take matters into her own hands and dive deep into personal development. This was the beginning of her healing journey. Growing self-awareness, Holly came to realize that for the first 30 years of her life, she didn't know the meaning of self-care. After attending a retreat in 2019, Holly fell in love with herself and found a passion for journaling. Since 2019 she has made a commitment to prioritize self-care. Whether that's going for a run, taking a long hot bath or journaling. Holly started a successful professional bookkeeping firm (NovaRidge Bookkeeping Ltd.). Being able to support people was another passion of hers. Holly decided to make it her mission to support them anyway she could. She began creating a journal (launching June 2022) in hopes of inspiring women to fall in love with themselves. In 2021, Holly launched a book club called As The Page Turns, creating a safe space for like-minded women to talk about personal growth. She continues to share her story by speaking and writing. Holly is dedicated to supporting women on their self-love journeys by creating community through her workshops, retreats and journaling. Her new website will launch in May 2022.

Also as we start the weekend I want to challenge everyone to do something for themselves. Challenge yourself to do something that fills your personal. Fill your cup first so you can help others.

Going Viral? Then What?

Fri, 27 May 2022 09:12:12 GMT

Everyone is caught up in going viral. What is your message once you do? What are your goals? You get everyone's attention than what will you do? We are a society that looks for the next biggest thing that we forget that your purpose has to be greater than just these fleeting moments.

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In today's episode we talk about my visit to Kale my Name and Tabitha Brown. She is doing something with purpose with her viral moment. Instead of chasing moments she did the work, worked hard, and has purpose that is beyond her. If you are looking to do the same you got to be willing to pull your sleeves up. What is your message? Some of us just want likes and comments. In a creative space they are nice but you got to remember your why in life.

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Our hearts go out to those in Texas. The lives of the adults and children who lost their lives in the deadly massacre. Continue to lift them up in prayers. Hopefully we have real protection since school shootings are increasing. Here in Philadelphia, a child took pellet gun and shot 5 kids for no reason. What parent would be okay with their child handling any form of gun right now?

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RIP to my cat Tiki, we love you forever. This week we experienced a lost of love unimaginable.

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Today is National Road Trip day. Read the blog on some tips to help you on your next journey.

Also on the blog Part 1 of the BlogHer Health while in Los Angeles.

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Today's drink of the day is the Watermelon Mojito

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Memorial Day weekend is Summer's unofficial start and party. Be careful and have some fun. Don't forget Memorial day is about the celebration of those who gave their lives so we can have these freeish moments.

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What's your Call to Action?

Fri, 03 Jun 2022 07:02:12 GMT

You ever said or heard someone say "that's just me take it or leave it?" Or "that's just how I am!" These are phrases that we say when we want others to accept our bad behavior or unwilling to change something. As we grow and mature we understand that our bad attributes (we all have them) are not going to be acceptable by all.

Change that's the way I am with, I'm willing to work on that or willing to look into that. This is a pivotal change that will help you to do some soul searching. We all have been there on things we are unwilling to change.

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For those who are parents we know that kids will do what they eventually want to do but we have to get to the basics of respect. This week we talk about two incidents where kids have gone out of their way to disrespect adults and one story where a 10 year old girl shot and killed a neighbor.

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Staycations/vacations are they really worth the hype? Can a staycation center you? I talk about taking a branded staycation meaning a hosted trip with a brand and how it couldn't have come at a better time.

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Today's drink of the day is Blackberry Sangria. If you love a good red wine and blackberries this drink is your new go to for the Summer.

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Music is Love with M'Balia (MB) Singley

Fri, 10 Jun 2022 08:27:26 GMT

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Today's topics will cover music as a form of self care. What is your go to song when life hits in various ways? Taking care of self what that really means and small ways to increase it. The Kimmel Cultural Center is having along with Wawa Welcome America an Arts Block Party, Parents and Summer with the kids. Taking responsibility for your personal actions

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Today we have Singer, Songwriter, and Storyteller M'Balia Singley. M’Balia Singley is a Philadelphia-based performing artist who has been exploring and excavating the human condition through story, song and audience engagement for the last quarter century. She has shared her musical talents in such legendary music halls as the Jazz Standard and Smalls in New York City, and the World Cafe Live and the Kimmel Center in Philadelphia, and she can be heard on John Legend’s Grammy-nominated debut album, Get Lifted, Orrin Evan’s #knowingishalfthebattle, and her own self-produced albums, including her recent release, Halfway There. As an actor, M’Balia has appeared in First Lady Suite, Ain’t Misbehavin and The Vagina Monologues, and as an educator she has taught music to students of all ages

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Fathers Matter Too

Fri, 17 Jun 2022 07:03:44 GMT

Happy Father's Day to all of the amazing dads. The ones that are active, attentive, and present we salute you. To the ones who don't we have a lot to talk about on today's episode. I have my guest of the week as my husband, Marques.

He had a relationship with his Father up until the age of 18 due to his Mother making that happen. After that, his father hasn't been active in his life. We talk to him about how that felt as he stepped into adulthood, became a Dad and a husband.

We also talk about emotional responsibility. How do adults break generational curses in the emotional realm for themselves and their kids. For all those hurting around this time our hearts go out to you. Lastly what do Dads really want?

As always you can share, listen, and leave a comment on the podcast. Find me on social medias as Toitimeblog and also read the blog.

Joys and We Outside

Fri, 24 Jun 2022 06:43:08 GMT

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We have Kristin Sparks of Wrar. Kristin is an Author, Speaker, and Podcaster of Wrar with Sparks. In 2013 she suffered a fall that left her wheelchair-bound and later, battled and survived cancer. In 2021, she founded the Sister Wyrd Foundation, a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, that supports and celebrates women on their journey of self-transformation.

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We talk about Joy and what that means. Making mistakes or having regret and not pushing that on others while also taking accountablity for the things that we are doing or have done. Also ways to practice self care. How can we fill our own joys as life takes on many highs and lows.

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Drink of the day: Red, White, and Blue layered Cocktail.

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On the Blog: Increasing Joy to start you day

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Have a great day no matter when you are listening to this podcast. Nothing is by accident that you are listening to this episode. Listen, share, and leave a comment

New Goals, Real Plan

Fri, 01 Jul 2022 09:29:58 GMT

Happy 1st of July. As we start a new month sometimes all we focus on are the goals but not the plan. We need a plan of action in order to make life happen in real time. No more goal setting without a plan.

How do we simplify a plan? We talk about it on the show.

Internet stories: is the "baby" mom who told her "baby" daddy that he had to bring food for her other kids who aren't his right or wrong? Could it be a hoax/skit? I do a little digging

4th of July weekend is upon us. Whether you celebrate with family, friends, or by yourself stay safe. From injuries surrounding fireworks, driving under the influence and more you are going to want to stay and be safe

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Buddy that doesn't want to go home

Fri, 08 Jul 2022 06:46:09 GMT

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Today we talk our buddy that doesn't want to go home. For me its anxiety and sometimes its depression. How do you deal with a trigger? Is self care enough? If you don't deal with a buddy that doesn't want to go home-how do you treat those who have one? Are you judgmental? Rude? Expect people to respond the way that you do?

Themes of today's episode: anxiety, self care, recap of the 4th, violence that went down this past weekend in Philadelphia

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We talk about my personal encounter with the violent weekend for the 4th of July holiday celebration

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Do we think Brittney Griner is justified in what could be a 10 year sentence?

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Can we get to parenting more than being our kids friends? Are we checking into our children's social media? Do you know the lingo enough to know what their short hand texting mean?

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Today's drink of the day is Strawberry Smash

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Consistency is Really Key

Fri, 15 Jul 2022 10:01:30 GMT

Happy Friday and welcome to a new episode of Conversations with Toi. Today we talk about Consistency is key. We all know that but in a world where popularity seem to win, it's important to remember that consistency will take you places that popularity can't sustain.

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Mean Girls-I had another episode with another mean girl during this week's events. It gets easier as times goes by. For those who have ever met someone online who seems to be about empowering and when you meet them in real life and it don't match-acknowledge it. Understand everyone aren't' who they are. If you encounter them more than one like that-believe them. Believe that they are really mean spirited regardless if it "meant" that way or not.

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The response in the Uvalde shooting has been trash. The police were sworn to serve and protect and the newest revealed videos are giving coward energy. Prayers continuously to the families and friends affected by this tragedy.

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Elon Musk dad, Errol had a baby with his step dad. I am a stepdaughter and ain't no way I am sleeping with my dad. It don't matter if its blood or not its gross and wrong.

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Show up for yourself daily. Acknowledge when you need to take a step back to gather yourself but show up. Be consistent and make sure that you don't let the cares of the world take you so far down that you fall out the game.

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The Makings of Narcissist with Dr. Marni

Fri, 22 Jul 2022 04:00:18 GMT

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Today's podcast co host is Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro. Dr. Marni is an award-winning and celebrated author, speaker and educator. She earned her doctorate in education from Northern Illinois University and completed postdoctoral studies at Harvard after a very successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct graduate school professor. Marni’s life was forever changed after experiencing numerous trauma-induced STEs-Spiritually Transformative Encounters. Marni’s 2020 Best Books Award Winning Spiritual fiction “God Came to My Garage Sale” is prominently endorsed by James Redfield, best selling author of “The Celestine Prophecy” series of books and founding directors of IANDS (International Association for Near Death Studies). Marni’s latest prominently endorsed 5-book series is entitled: “True Deceit False Love” addresses Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Intergenerational Family Trauma. Marni is a lover of animals, nature, music and world travel who handles life’s challenges with love and compassion. She values honesty, integrity, equality and goodness and prays for peace on earth. In addition to her speaking engagements and various writing endeavors, Foderaro is a contributing author to numerous anthology books, including: “The Last Breath,” “The Evolution of Echo,” “We’re All In This Together: Embrace One Another,” “Passing The Pearls,” “The Ulti-MUTT Book for Dog Lovers” and “bLU Talks Presents” (Business, Life and the Universe.) In January 2022 Marni was inducted into the Bestselling Authors International Organization. Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro’s books, podcast and T.V. interviews, guest articles, speaking engagements, book signings and events can be found under “Happenings” on her website

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Dr. Marni's books can be found on Amazon or other bookstores that you frequent such as Barnes and Nobles

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We talk about narcissistic behavior from various people in our lives and more. This could be triggering for you.

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From Narcissist to Survivor: Moving Past the Traps

Fri, 29 Jul 2022 04:00:19 GMT

This is Part 2 to the follow up to Dr. Marni's First Episode

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Dr. Marni's books can be found on Amazon or other bookstores that you frequent such as Barnes and Nobles

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We talk about narcissistic behavior from various people in our lives and more. This could be triggering for you.

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The State of RnB with The New Delfonics and DoobieXNeezy

Fri, 05 Aug 2022 10:57:48 GMT

What a treat? We have William Hart's New Delfonics and DoobieXNeezy. Three gospel vocalists that have been influenced by sounds like Dru Hill, 112, Jagged Edge, Chris Brown & Tank. Come together in this 2022 revival of that classic RnB sound that makes everyone wanna get out their seats and groove!

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The group put out their first single ‘Whatever I’ve Got to Do’ which came out in May 2022 and most recently their debut single ‘Forever’ which just released in July 2022! Within the first month of going live on Spotify they have managed to surpass the 10k monthly listeners mark on Spotify, completely independently! Their new single ‘Forever’ has since been on the radio multiple times as well!

The dynamic trio is currently on tour as ‘William Hart’s New Delfonics’

You can find them on social media on their Instagram

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They also will be singing in concert for the Labor Day weekend with Donnell Jones and RL of Next along with other local talent. For tickets get them now. The concert will be held September 3rd in York, PA.

Also on this episode we talk about forgiveness as we wrap up the Will Smith and Chris Rock slap that has had the world on edge months ago.

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The National Day holiday for today is International Beer day so today's drink is to grab a beer of choice.

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As always you can find me online/socials as Toitimeblog or on the blog

Dear Evan Hansen and the Impact

Fri, 12 Aug 2022 05:27:23 GMT

We have Micaela Lamas and Nikhil Saboo. In this episode we talk about the conversations that Dear Evan Hansen will have in the car ride home and more. Conversations about what it means to belong, and mental health and how both affect our daily lives.

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Micaela Lamas-she/her is thrilled to join DEH fam. She is a recent graduate of the Texas State University BFA Musical Theatre program and a Texas native. All of the love and thanks to CGF, the DEH team, Tara Rubin casting, and every teacher along the way. Love to her friends, family especially mom, & her grandparents.

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Nikhil Saboo-is elated to join the tour of DEH-aligning in his purpose of creating space, opening others' perspectives, and lifting up all aspiring South Asian artist across the country. Prior, Nikhil was on tour with the Angelica Company of Hamilton and in the original Broadway cast of Mean Girls. Gratitude to Stewart Talent, the DEH company, and his tribe. Love to Mom, Dad, and Nisha. For Dada and Ama.

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Dear Evan Hansen will be at the Kimmel Center from August 16-August. This show will sell out so be sure to get your tickets now.

Thanks to my podcast collaborate/round table Tomika Bryant of Life in Pumps. She is a Blogger, that covers Lifestyle, Wellness, and Travel. and Whitney Alese of The Reclaimed who is a writer, podcaster, and culture commentator.

Special thanks to Hannah C. and Aliena W for setting this opportunity.

I can be found on social media as Toitimeblog or on the blog.

Stress in Life

Fri, 19 Aug 2022 06:58:40 GMT

We all deal with stress differently. So when stress comes how do you handle it? Do you take care of you in the midst of a stress cloud? We know that stress doesn't last forever but taking care of what we can is key.

We talk about ways that we can implement healthier ways of handling stress.

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Here are some blogs to help with stress while you listen:

Emotional Stress

Physical Stress

Mental Stress

This is episode 20 and the final episode of this season. Season 7 will be back with a bang in September. I will have a bonus episode come out so be on the lookout. In the meantime you can find me on social media as Toitimeblog

The Black Violin Experience

Sat, 04 Mar 2023 18:11:53 GMT

We have two timed Grammy winning duo, The Black Violin.

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Black Violin is comprised of Kev Marcus and Wil Baptiste. A concert performance that boldly merges centuries of music and unites audiences with a message of hope and possibility. Fans can expect to be immersed in a sound that transcends categories and celebrates ingenuity and ambition, proving anything is possible.

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Also Support the Black Violin Foundation. A non-profit organization dedicated to empowering youth by providing access to quality music programs in their community. BVF believes that music and access to music programs should not be determined by race, gender, or socio-economic status. Black Violin Foundation’s inaugural program the Musical Innovation Grant for Continuing Education will provide scholarships to young music students to attend a program of their liking that fosters musical creativity and innovation. Applications are now open for grants for music instruments and more.

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See Black Violin at the Kimmel Cultural Campus this Thursday March 9, 2023 at 7pm. Tickets are on sale now.

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Follow Black Violin on their socials: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok

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As always you can follow me on the blog and on all socials as Toitimeblog

Wellness Journey with Temper and Intermittent Fasting

Fri, 09 Sep 2022 04:00:59 GMT

Dalton Combs. Dr. T. Dalton Comb’s passion is understanding the causes and consequences of human behavior. First as a neuroeconomics PhD researcher at University of Southern California, and author of “Digital Behavioral Design.” Second, as a tech startup founder applying cutting edge neuroscience. Dalton explores how the brain mechanisms that underlie value, reward, and motivated behavior can be used to help people form healthy habits and live better lives. Dalton leads Temper with an unrivaled understanding of the brain, the future of technology, and the interaction between the two.

Credentials:

● PhD NeuroEconomics & BA BioPhysics from USC

● Coauthor of “Digital Behavioral Design”

● Founder CEO of Boundless Mind, an AI startup acquired by Arianna Huffington’s Thrive

Global

In the News:

● The Future of Artificial Intelligence: Virtual Summit. Finding Founders. (2021).

● Boundless Mind: Dalton Combs. Finding Founders. (2018).

● Sweetland Edwards, H. You're Addicted to Your Smartphone. This Company Thinks It

Can Change That. Time. (2018).

● Parkin, S. Has dopamine got us hooked on tech?. The Guardian. (2018).

● Wu, T. Subtle and insidious, technology is designed to addict us. Washington Post.

(2017).

● Shieber, J Meet the tech company that wants to make you even more addicted to your phone. TechCrunch. (2017).

We talk about what is intermittent fasting and how using Temper helps to achieve the goal of finding a healthier eating regimen for your active lifestyle. Follow Dalton:

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How to be an Ethical Slut

Fri, 16 Sep 2022 04:00:36 GMT

Grab your imaginary pearls as we discuss the production of the play, How to be An ethical slut. It's a one woman show put on, directed by, written by Brooke McCarthy during Philadelphia's Fringe Fest.

It was inspired by the 1997 book, “The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures,” by Janet Hardy and Darcy Easton.

This production will explore what it really means to live in your truth and own light. There are several showcasings happen get your tickets. The show is for ages 18 and up and has asked audience to come with an open mind as it's not about sexuality as much as it sounds as if it is. Owning who you are is the message. You can also donate to Fringe Arts.

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Red Headed Slut is your drink of the day.

The triggers blog is for anyone who is or will suffer one

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Fall Vibes and Seasonal Depression

Fri, 23 Sep 2022 04:05:19 GMT

Fall is here so I can finally sip my Pumpkin Spice Latte in peace. For all of those who were upset at those who decided to decorate early now it is our time to shine. With Fall we tend to do some fun things like hayrides, pumpkin picking and more. However as much as the Fall and Fall vibes can be there are many like myself who suffer with seasonal depression.

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Seasonal Depression can come on many and look differently for others as well. So when you think of Seasonal depression we talk about some of the common attributes, ways of dealing with it based on my personal experiences only. I am not a licensed therapist. Encourage you to seek the help you may need whether with a therapist and more.

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This has also been one cheating week from Nia Long and Adam Levine (allegedly) and more.

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Now that the court case has been dropped for Tiffany Haddish and Aries Spears what happens to them now

Drink of the day is Spike Apple Cider

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Mommyhood is work and love: Getting Back to She

Fri, 07 Oct 2022 04:01:15 GMT

Motherhood is beautiful but it's also a lot of work. From the struggle of this fake bounce back and more many women are in a tired loop of getting back to the she-that once was.

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What if instead of what was-we see ourselves in a new light. What if we made the journey into putting ourselves as a priority. This is a journey that goes well beyond a 12 week time to have sex mindset after a baby.

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A journey into what being a mom is while being a woman gets complicated but we talk about it, postpartum depression, single moms, and what are these partners we love to hold on so dear, role in Getting Back to She

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Join in the conversation because it's deep, prayerful, disheartneing, and frustrating at the same time

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Holiday Prep and Mental Health

Fri, 14 Oct 2022 10:33:13 GMT

As we get closer to the holidays prepping for it is now. How do you take care of your mental health during this time? From family budgets, loneliness, friends and more it can be overwhelming

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We give advice on budgeting your time with others, self care practices that may seem out of the box, and more. Also when was the last time you planned a girls/guys only trip? We give advice on that on the blog too.

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Drink of the day is an apple cider bellini

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Any other parents dong the high school shuffle? I am scared for my daughter and we talk about that too.

More holiday self care

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Breaking up is hard (Friendship Edition)

Fri, 21 Oct 2022 05:06:07 GMT

Happy Friday. Today we talk about breaking up with a friend. If you ever had to break up with a friend you know how extremely hard it can be. The ups and downs. The second guessing yourself and maybe even some gaslighting.

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Your friend may be in denial and even drop the times they were in your corner when no one else was. Both being supportive at one time and then dropping the ball can be real at the same time. You are allowed to change and evolve as a person and have different needs.

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What are steps for breaking up with a friend? Ignore them? Engage them? Ignore your own feelings until you blow up?

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Have you ever had a restaurant mess up a meal that you love? I had my first this week with Ramen.

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Drink of the week is Hot Toddy since I was sick for the majority.

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Dreams and Mindset with Kerry Fisher

Fri, 28 Oct 2022 10:05:24 GMT

Ever have a dream or goal? How did you make it happen? Definitely have to start with your mindset. Dreams are cool but making sure you are willing to work a hobby or side hustle until it becomes your main takes a lot of work. We have Kerry Fisher as our guest.

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Kerry Fisher is an American coach and teacher for athletes, and corporate and private clients in a variety of disciplines including peak performance, mental training, yoga, meditation, anatomy, physiology, and personal development. In 2021, she launched a book on personal development Tools for Extraordinary Living: The Snooze Button Sessions and will present a new work on peak performance in Fall 2022.

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Please find more about Kerry through her website, Instagram, and Facebook links.

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The holidays are here so make it what you want and work on balance to eliminate stress.

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I can be found on social media as Toitime.

The drink of the day is The Halloween Sparkle Punch. Add your alcohol of choice to spike it or leave it for all.

Rest and Choices

Fri, 04 Nov 2022 12:05:42 GMT

Sometimes our choices keeps us up at night and we can't find true rest. It's not that we aren't aware of the choices that we need to make its the courage to take them from thought to fruition.

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If you are struggling to rest, consider your bed. Add a pillow top cover, change your pillows, new sheets, using a diffuser at night or changing your night time routine altogether. Either way sometimes we need to learn to rest and let our body go into rest by letting things and people go.

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Accountability vs Resonsibility

Fri, 11 Nov 2022 05:00:40 GMT

Do you know the difference between accountability vs Responsibility? Can you be accountable without taking responsibility? Can you accept your responsibility in what you say or do but not take accountability? We talk about it today. Too many take responsibility or think they are but blame others for their actions.

No one can make you do anything. You are responsible for your actions whether you see that or not. This is a lack of accountability and sometimes if not always a lack of responsibility too.

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We are celebrating my 8th Blogiversary. With that I am inviting my blogger friends who have been supportive of my journey. I kept it under wraps (cat is out of the bag now). I can't wait to talk about the experience next week. However there were times that mean spirited people would have stopped my journey had I allowed it.

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Drink of the day is the Pink Moscato Cocktail.

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Thanksgiving Do's and Don'ts

Fri, 18 Nov 2022 05:00:28 GMT

Thanksgiving is less than a week away. You may be gathering with family and having to hear the uncomfortable questions that are invasive. Or maybe you are doing the Friendsgiving route and gathering with those you love. There are some do's and don'ts's of what to do and what not to do.

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From hostess gifts, to take home plates and more. So let's dive in. We also talk about the shameful death of Shanquella Robinson as she was beaten to death in Cabo by her so called friends. Thus do we keep the undercover frenemies around just to keep them around?

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Finally we celebrate my Blogiversary for my 8th year. From the food, fun, and drinks we discuss. The drink of the day is Bloggers Gonna Blog.

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Intimacy, Holidays, and Wellness with Juliette Karaman

Fri, 09 Dec 2022 05:01:13 GMT

We are back! After a 2 week hiatus the podcast is back and we have a special guest, Juliette Karaman.

Juliette Karaman is a certified mind and body coach, teacher, mentor, and writer on relationships, trauma, healing, sex, and intimacy. Decades of her experience with conscious sexuality and her ability to hold deep space has her clients regain confidence in their bodies, psyche, and relationship to themselves. She brings a different perspective on what pleasure really is.

She is a mother to 4 children in their early twenties who she loves fiercely.

She believes that the path to living the life of your dreams comes down to how deeply we embody who we are and our message.

Her work dissolves mental, emotional and physical barriers that may be pulling you out of alignment to your highest purpose and being in the full truth of who you are.

Her mission is to have those who come into contact with her remember the truth of who they are and bring in a life of ease and pleasure. Follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

Here is some wellness help for the holidays as well as some encouragement as you tap into therapy.

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Taking Care of you with a Little Joy with the Blue Man Group

Fri, 16 Dec 2022 05:40:11 GMT

Trigger Warning: mental health conversation

Oh what a week that has transpired. From the jarring and unfathomable death of Stephen tWitch Boss this week and everything else in between has been hard. I am not one where celebrity deaths touch me to my core as much as this one has. We all have continued to speak about mental health. There's no way of knowing the ins and outs of anyone's thoughts. This podcast has always been the champion of mental health. So tune in as we discuss not the particulars of his death but the way we can show up for ourselves and others.

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If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts please reach out by dialing 988

Love and blessings to tWitch's wife and children.

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Guest of the episode:

Mike Brown(Blue Man)has been Blue for over a decade and a half. It has all been a dream come true for Mike. His hometown is Boston, Massachusetts where he has the incredible honor of working and performing with all the talented people at The Charles Playhouse. He has also had the amazing good fortune of performing in New York, Chicago, Orlando, internationally in Berlin and Oberhausen, Germany, on the beautiful Epic of Norwegian Cruise Lines, two previous National Tours and is now absolutely thrilled to be on BMG’s brand-new North American Tour. For him,all these opportunities leave him just... speechless. He would not be here without the love and support of his family and friends. He is grateful for you all! Some of Mike’s favorite hobbies include playing board games, watching Monster House, drumming for Crash Smash Explode and ghostbusting. He hopes you all enjoy the show and that you each get a chance to pick up a good book this summer. Blue Man Group is coming to the Kimmel Center December 27-December 31st-tickets available.

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Here are some resources for you on the blog:

Therapy, Seasonal depression, mental health during the holidays

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Christmas Joys and Triggers

Fri, 23 Dec 2022 05:53:09 GMT

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all who celebrate. If you are in joy during this season-keep it and spread it to others. However Christmas may not be as Jolly as Old Saint Nick. You may find yourself struggling in a world where you're expected to smile and be happy.

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It's okay to not only not be okay but be honest about where you are. Maybe your title or those around you need you to be happy and that seems like pulling teeth you are not alone.

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Christmas is my favorite holiday of all times and I am struggling at times from missing loved ones, figuring out my tolerance to be around others and more-you are not alone.

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Today's drink of the day is The Grinch Cocktail

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Blog to help you with holiday mental health and other resources

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You can follow me on social media as Toitimeblog and I wish you a safe, and peaceful holiday

New Year Planning and Jagged Little Pill

Fri, 30 Dec 2022 05:00:39 GMT

New Year's Day is just a few days away. People always come down on people for setting resolutions. Whether you believe in them or not encourage others around you to let them be their best selves.

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So if you are looking to do a Vision Board we talk about the fact that they are not about a wish list. Vision Boards come with a plan and work to execute them. So goals can be achieved but let's take into daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals.

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Today's guest is Jade McLeod who plays Jo in Jagged Little Pill coming to the Kimmel Cultural Center January 3rd-January 15th. Jagged Little Pill is a jukebox musical featuring Alanis Morissette’s groundbreaking hits. It interweaves the songs with the pain of the fictional Healy family and ultimately tells their story of healing and empowerment. The Healys appear to be an ideal suburban family – but when the cracks beneath them begin to surface, they must choose between maintaining the status quo, or face the jarring truth about themselves, their community, and the world around them.Get your tickets now

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Celebrate the New Year with a great glass of champagne or a Winter Wonderland cocktail.

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Follow me on the blog and on social media as Toitimeblog-Happy New Year as we walk into 2023!

Taking the Band-Aid Off

Fri, 06 Jan 2023 05:00:30 GMT

Happy New Year! Difficult conversations can be laced with truth. So with that being said why my week go from accomplishing the goals to a fall from grace? So I decided I am going to clean house and deal with the reality of the situations.

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So don't think that you can still be accomplished and do your goals and be challenged. Having to dig deep into my therapy to make sure that my flight or fight didn't have me make bad decisions

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Taking the band-aid off is hard it makes you come to a reality of your own wrong doings, not discount what is happening, be honest about your feelings, and own your mess.

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Today's drink of the day is called Truth Serum

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Listen to your Voice

Fri, 13 Jan 2023 05:29:42 GMT

Welcome to our 2nd week of January. How are you in your goals? We have a guest today. How many of you listen to your voice? Do you trust the King/Queen inside of you? Olesya Wilson talks about just that today.

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Olesya Wilson is a certified nutritionist, functional diagnostic practitioner, psychosomatics, and energy healer.

Olesya has an interesting story of changing her life significantly. She had health issues from her childhood and by the time she was in her 30’s and ready to have a baby, she was not able to conceive. Olesya dug deep into gut health, and hormones, and discovered the role our minds play in healing our bodies. Finally, she healed herself and now has two amazing children.

Her unique approach integrates cutting-edge lab testing, the latest discoveries in biological science, ancient herbal medicine, and revolutionary psychosomatic and energy healing practices to help people thrive, reverse aging, and forget about chronic health problems.

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Please find more about Olesya through her website, Instagram, Facebook, and Blog and YouTube links.

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Drink of the day is Strawberry-Ginger Lemonade for those doing dry January or cutting back like myself.

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Blog of the week: https://www.toitime.org/healthy-lifestyle/

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A Solider's Play with Tarik Lowe

Fri, 20 Jan 2023 05:00:16 GMT

A Soldier's Play is coming to the Kimmel Cultural Campus from January 24-February 5th. Tarik Lowe (Private First-Class Melvin Peterson) is an actor/writer known for his versatility and dramatic depth. He debuted in Music of the Heart starring Meryl Streep. Film: the Oscar-winning Whiplash, The Inevitable Defeat of Mister & Pete, Pimp and co-writer/star in Supporting Characters, which premiered at Tribeca. TV: “One Life to Live,” “Major Crimes,” “Blindspot,” “Outsiders,” “Law & Order” and “Blue Bloods.” Get your tickets now.

Follow Tarik on Social media: Instagram

A Soldier's Play is on tour. If you aren't in the Philadelphia area check out the other tour dates.

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Tarik and I talk about the play, the history that was taking place in the 1940s where the story takes place, self care, the dynamics of the actors involved, and his life as a family man. Tune in and share.

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Today's drink of the day is the Buffalo Soldier Cocktail

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As we round out January goals make sure you take care of you and your mental health always.

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Feeling like your goals have been trash lately

Fri, 27 Jan 2023 05:50:33 GMT

Goals are great until you are sitting somewhere feeling overwhelmed, defeated, and lacking enthusiasm and will power to make things happen. It happens to the best of us. So what do you do when your goals don't seem like they are in reach...

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We have guest Podcaster, Ursula Eysin. Ursula is the founder of Red Swan, a consultancy focusing on the development of future scenarios. She is a trained ballerina, plays the flute, speaks 7 languages, does math, and reads chemistry books for fun. Besides that, Ursula is a mentor to various Austrian and international startups while also giving lectures at 5 universities.Her monthly column "Code Red" for Austria's biggest technology magazine E-Media is now also available on Substack: "Code Red - Technology, Madness, and the Future of Humanity.": https://bit.ly/3KUvSAxPeople get it directly and free of charge into their inboxes every first Sunday of the month if they like .

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So if you need a reboost in what goals look like, how to make it happen and more tune it in, save it, and share it with someone who needs it.

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Drink of the day is The Victory Lap Margarita .

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Joy and The Arts

Fri, 03 Feb 2023 05:00:57 GMT

With all of the tragedy that is going on in the world when was the last time you inhaled joy. How do you allow joy into your world? Joy is the prevalent even in the face of adversity. Sometimes we get so stressed and boggled down that you have to sometimes create joy. How you create joy is looking into the things that you desire or naturally gravitate towards. Finding ways to carve out that joy is something we have to be intentional with as well. We talk about joy, mental health, and creating space for the arts.

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On the podcast we have Josh Campbell, Josh is an award-winning teaching artist, arts administrator, and creative who has worked for arts and arts education organizations in New Jersey, Philadelphia, and Baltimore. Over the course of his career, he has worked with various populations including students in grades K-12, English Language Learners, and the creative aging community in a variety of settings including libraries, shelters, virtual rooms, and juvenile justice facilities. As a facilitator he has developed workshops focusing on the intersection of creativity, leadership, equity, vulnerability, and black artmaking traditions. As an artist, he works in the choreopoem tradition, blending spoken word, movement, multimedia, and musicality of the late 90s to create spaces that reimagine the possibilities of freedom and liberation. Currently, he is a member of Jouska Playworks, a Philadelphia playwriting collective focused on amplified stories of the African American diaspora. A Baltimore native, he is a graduate of the University of the Arts and Baltimore School for the Arts where he studied classical music and the tuba.

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MULTITUDES: A Multisensory Event Series Celebrating Women, LGBTQIA+, and Artists of Color. World Cafe Live, the nonprofit independent venue dedicated to live music, education, and community, and the Pennsylvania Academy of the Fine Arts (PAFA), the first art school and museum in the United States, are pleased to announce this new series, which features world premiere works from some of Philadelphia’s top performers commissioned by World Cafe Live, all inspired by PAFA’s current exhibition, Making American Artists. The performances will take place through four curated evenings that take place at both World Cafe Live and PAFA.

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Drink of the day is the Bizzy Izzy Highball

College and Reality with UNCF

Fri, 10 Feb 2023 12:58:18 GMT

College should be available to all that desire it. Whether you want to go to a HBCU or not the UNCF (United Negro College Fund) is providing assistance when it can to support the dream of many young people who wouldn't have had the opportunity otherwise.

The UNCF has been around since 1944 as a way to support private historically black college and universities. We have Richard Lee Snow, Regional Development Director, John Kirby Jr., Multidiscipline Partnership Development, Building Equitable as well as Leslie Patterson-Tyler, Vice President of Program Communications and Partnerships of Kimmel Cultural Campus as guests today

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Drumline is coming to the Kimmel on February 17th. Come experience the energy, dynamics, and fun of halftime at an HBCU (Historically Black College or University) 10% of ticket sales will go to UNCF. If you are unable to attend, send someone else or consider donating

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We round the podcast with therapy talk and goals for the weekend. Make sure you do something for yourself to fill your cup.

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Shadow Work-Doing what is best for you

Fri, 17 Feb 2023 10:47:20 GMT

Everyone deals with their wellness and mental health in ways that makes sense for them. No matter the tool that you need whether with Shadow Work, therapy, or more use what works for you.

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Sometimes in our healing journeys we rely on what we taught only to realize that there are times that we need to learn new skills and use new tools to help us along.

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What is Shadow work? Is it evil? How hard it is to do? All of these questions will be answered by Danielle Massi.

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Danielle Massi is a licensed psychotherapist, #1 best-selling author, CEO of The Wellness Collective, and the leading expert on shadow work. She is the founder of the SELF(ISH)philly Conference, and is an international keynote speaker, captivating audiences on the topic of holistic health. Danielle has been touted as this generation's voice on shadow work, and the most trusted source on the topic. Danielle has written for and been featured on New York Mag, The Cut, Shape Magazine, the Huffington Post, and Buzzfeed and a frequent guest on major news outlets.

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Selfish Philly is having a 90s inspired Galentine's Day Party on February 25th from 3-7pm. Come and shop with vendors and do some self work with shadow work and more. Tickets are now available. Selfish Philly is coming on September 17, 2023 and you want to be involved now. It's being held at the W Hotel and will be a weekend of fun, self care, reflection, and more.

Follow Danielle on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube and more.

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Where's the Village?

Fri, 24 Feb 2023 05:01:46 GMT

Have you ever thought where is my village? Not just in Motherhood but in life. What if your village looks different? Villages are support systems that are in place to help you as you matriculate in life.

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We have a guest today, Christelle Pillot is a career optimization coach, a founder of the Freedom Catcher Academy, and a mother of 3.

Christelle moved from France to Germany for work and experienced a different side of being an expat from the famous “Emily in Paris”.

Culture clash, missing her friends and family, bringing up 3 children without the usual “village” - was a high price to pay.

Christelle created a special program and has dedicated the last seven years of her life to helping her clients, especially women, to create profitable careers, rediscover themselves and live a fulfilled life, both professional and personal, especially as an expat.

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In today's episode we talk mental health, having a village, and getting the help you need when you need it most.

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Today's drink of the day is Sunshine Cocktail. We all can use a little sunshine in our lives.

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Cats the Musical with Yuka Notsuka

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 15:29:09 GMT

We have a treat for this bonus episode with Yuka Notsuka as she performs as Victoria in the broadway show, Cats playing now at the Kimmel Cultural Campus here in Philadelphia.

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Yuka Notsuka (Victoria) is from Fukuoka, Japan. Graduate of The Ailey School on a Scholarship program and trained at the Luigi’s Jazz Center under Francis J. Roach. Her credits include; National Tour; South Pacific (Liat) and An American in Paris (Ensemble), Walt Disney Production, Nai-Ni Chen Dance Company, Ailey Spirit Gala Concert at Lincoln Center and Universal Studios Japan.

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We talk about her role as Victoria and how similar and different they may be to her real life and more. Also make sure you get tickets to the show happening March 14th-March 19th. In addition check out the national tour to see when and where its coming to you.

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Nala, The Lion King and Self Care with Khalifa White

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 04:01:17 GMT

This bonus episode is special as we have Khalifa White who plays Nala in The Lion King Musical on tour now and coming to the Kimmel Cultural Campus on August 16-September 10, 2023. Tickets are on sale now. KHALIFA WHITE (Nala). "To whom much is given much is required." Broadway: Caroline or Change, Off-Broadway: Little Shop of Horrors (Ronnette), School of Rock 1st Nat; Aida (Aida), Ain't Misbehavin, The Bodyguard, Smokey Joe's Cafe, Dreamgirls, Beehive, Hairspray, HKDL|WDW(Nala/Tiana/Kibibi)/NCL, #TheSearchForRoxie, UCF Alumknight. Thank you God, family, friends & Dave. Check out “You Ok? (Black Girl)" on all streaming platforms. IG|Tiktok:@Lifaland, www.khalifawhite.com. -For Mommy, my Expressionist.In this episode we talk about her iconic role in the musical as well as what it means to live outloud including self care on and off the road and being intentional. To all of the women who are living or desire to live their dreams this episode is dedicated to you.Follow me on social media as Toitimeblog and on the blog

Could you Meet a stranger?

Fri, 10 Mar 2023 05:01:16 GMT

That is the question. We meet strangers everyday. However, could you take the time to go out of your way to meet someone new everyday? Rob is on the road to 10K friends. He meets people all over the world and learns about them. Meetings in coffee shops, concerts or more.

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This episode explores goal setting, pivoting, imposter syndrome and more.

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I was introduced to Rob online through a mutual friend and days letter we were meeting in person at a local coffee shop. Talking about the things that we have in common like both being PSU graduates to learning how we achieve our goals even when life doesn't go as planned.

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This conversation and chance encounter makes for one conversation where I learn about Rob's ambitions. He learns about my early days before my blog took place and the road to making the blog work.

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Follow Rob Lawless at Instagram and Tik Tok as well as on his website.

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Matters of the Heart

Fri, 17 Mar 2023 04:02:19 GMT

Out of your heart, the mouth speaks. At times when things are heavy it may seem overwhelming to move ahead. Today we talk about that. Also am I the only one who had a hard time with daylight savings? It took me all of this week to get my life together.

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In addition to a mental wellness check in, and encouraging everyone to drink responsibly for St. Patrick's Day we have a guest, Cris Agafi, is a heart intelligence coach and best-selling author, co-creator of HeartQ™ and the Heart Intelligent Lifestyle™. Cris guides others in finding the inner knowing of their heart, connecting to their innate heart intelligence and designing an aligned and fulfilling life.

Unable to be authentic and not really knowing himself in the past Cris didn’t realize this lack of trust in his own inner voice muted his intuition. He felt unclear, uncertain, confused, and lost.

After about 10 years of his inner journey, Cris was brought face to face with the importance of self-honesty and awareness of the shadows of his unconscious. He became intentional and dedicated his life to personal and spiritual development.

Cris learned to trust his intuition again and to distinguish between his heart’s true desires and the ego’s attachments.

Recognizing every interaction offers the potential to turn triggers into gifts, he has crafted a process that he’s eager to share with others struggling to know themselves.

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So sit back, enjoy today's podcast and let me know what else you want to hear by emailing me at toitmeblog@gmail.con

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Into the Woods with Josh Breckenridge

Fri, 24 Mar 2023 04:01:18 GMT

The Broadway show, Into the Woods is coming to the Kimmel Cultural Campus on April 4-9th. See it at the Miller Theatre.Topics on this episode: mental health, theatre, black men and mental health, self care, music, and more.......................................Josh is an actor and musician who has been in Come From Away, The Scottsboro Boys, The Ritz, Saved, Tour: The Book of Mormon, Christmas in Connecticut, Dave, The Whipping Man, Tales of the City. Also Find me: Truth, American Rust, Blue Bloods, The Blacklist, FBI, BFA: CCM and more. ...........................We talked about what to expect in Into the Woods, how tour life is treating him, mental health and self care. Black men are usually one of the ones who suffer thinking that it's not masculine to get help but that's not the case.......................................Follow Josh on his music career at J. Breckenridge. Music Download and listen on all platforms for music.............................Follow me on socials as Toitimeblog as well on the blog.

Kevin Ross Show and Prove

Fri, 31 Mar 2023 03:55:38 GMT

Being an underdog comes natural for Kevin Ross. The R&B crooner has had to come with the goods every time. Now that he is establishing himself as someone who is here to stay, he's done showing what he can do. .................................I spoke to Kevin Ross concerning what his journey has taught him, his work ethic, tour, and what the future looks like for this first time dad. We ended the conversation on what self care looks like pre and post new baby. Kevin Ross is preparing for a sold out homecoming performance at Philly’s City Winery on April 14, 2023. The chart-topping musician, whose vocals can be heard on the Creed III soundtrack, is available for interviews and media performances prior to his City Winery appearance.............................Kevin has more than 100 million streams across platforms and has collaborated with artists such as Jamie Foxx, Ty Dolla Sign, Nicki Minaj, Lil Wayne, Trey Songz, Tank, Lecrae, Toni Braxton, and T.I. His newest single, “Look My Way,” is currently number 20 on Billboards' Adult R&B Airplay chart. “Look My Way” will join “Show & Prove” on Midnight Microdose, the follow-up to Ross’ 2021 EP Drive 2. Drive 2 featured the hit singles “Sweet Release” and “Looking For Love.” The former track peaked at number 8 on Billboard’s Adult R&B Airplay chart; the latter reached number 9 on that same list. His hit single “Sweet Release,” released in August 2022, reached number 1 on the Siriusxm Heart and Soul Chart in September 2022, has been on the Billboard Adult R&B Chart for 22 weeks, and reached the top 10 in October 2022...........................Get on the waiting list for the April 14th show or go to the New York show April 6th. Follow Kevin Ross on Instagram and Facebook..........................Follow me on Social Media as Toitimeblog or on the blog

For Why: Living on your Terms

Fri, 07 Apr 2023 04:01:32 GMT

With Easter coming up we find ourselves doing things like eating or coming together with our family and friends. Many times we do not get along with individuals but for the sake of tradition or sparing someone's feelings we slide our feet under the tables of those we don't like. I would rather you eat Ramen Noodles and have peace then stress yourself over someone you don't like just cause they family, ............................................In this episode I talk about Easter traditions old and new. In addition we talk about stress management. It's never to glorify that we are in stressful situations. However what can we learn about ourselves that will help us to be able to eliminate stress. In elimination sometimes there is addition. There are things that we do to add to our lives or as the TikTok folks would say "living the soft life." With anything the minute you live in the truth that you are worth of having the good life there will always be someone to disdain your efforts..................................................Topics covered: relationship, parenting, singleness, Easter and holidays in general, stress, and healthy living.................................................On the blog I also talk about the Soft Life.............................................Find me on socials as Toitimeblog or on the blog...............................Drink of the day is a Peeps Strawberry Mudslide.

Black Maternal Health: Be Heard, Respected, Believed and Well

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 04:00:59 GMT

This episode comes with a trigger warning. I will be sharing various birth stories of my actual children and the times where the medical field failed me causing me to almost lose my life. .......................................I am talking about the way many women aren't heard and sadly many women especially Black women know all too well how making it home isn't always an easy task..................................What do we need to do to be heard, respected, and believed? Why are we taken advantage of when we speak about about what we need.................................Black Maternal Health blog. Find me on all socials as Toitimeblog and on the blogDrink of the day: Lavender Martini

Energy Deposits with Patty Oliver

Fri, 21 Apr 2023 04:00:45 GMT

Do you believe that energy matters? What have you been giving your energy to? What ways can you invest more time to you instead of allowing yourself to do too much for those around you? What is a way you refuel you cup? ....................................................On this podcast episode we are talking about the following:Internet Stories:-Why are children being shot at by adults for any reason but especially trivial issues-Chicago Adjacent woman goes belligerent and causes major damage to several cars and innocent bystanders-Philly: Come get your kids.........................................................................Guest Podcaster, Patty Oliver. Patty Oliver is an energy healer, author, and spiritual adviser. She teaches people how to change their entire life by learning to clear unconscious blocks and take back their power.Patty experienced a death of a spouse at a young age and later was diagnosed with breast cancer. Feeling like the world was against her, Patty realised that she was the only person who could help her to embark on the journey to re-empower herself. This journey led to a career in energy healing. For the past 12 years, Patty has been helping hundreds of people around the world to change their lives for the better.Follow Patty at YouTube Facebook Instagram...................................................................Earth Day is on Saturday April 22, enjoy a Watermelon Mojito.................................................................Follow me on social media as Toitimeblog and on the blog

Tapping through it All with Kat Richter

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 09:46:59 GMT

On this episode we talk about this week's internet stories such as honoring two icons who passed and speaking on the legacy of Emmett Till . In addition the episode covers how to keep pushing when life is throwing its best. May is Mental Health Awareness Month so what tool are you using to keep yourself mentally healthy?.....................................................On today's episode we have Kat Echevarria Richter, MA is a tap dancer, choreographer, educator, and dance historian. Her professional training began with the New Jersey Tap Ensemble under the direction of Deborah Mitchell and continued under Junior Laniyan of the London Tap Jam. In 2005, she received a scholarship to Oxford University, and later returned to the UK to complete her graduate work in dance anthropology. Kat co-founded The Lady Hoofers in 2011 with Too Darn Hot, an all-female, all-tap revue for the Philly Fringe Festival. Since then, her choreography has been praised by Lew Wittington of the Philadelphia Dance Journal for “tell[ing] great stories in tap and step idioms, less reliant on tricks and traditions and more on innovative tap artistry.” Kat also teaches dance history and all levels of tap technique at Stockton University, writes for Dance magazine, and regularly presents and publishes her tap research.......................................The Spring concert for The Lady Hoofers is coming to Philadelphia on May 13th. Not only should you get your tickets but you should also support their crowdfunding initiatives . Please also learn about the entire Lady Hoofers Team. .........................As always follow me on the blog and on socials as Toitimeblog

Red Riding Hood and Self Care with Ciera Gardner

Fri, 05 May 2023 09:49:14 GMT

Happy Friday. We have a new episode. On the episode we will talk about mental health, self care, personal happiness, and creating a safe space. ...............................Our guest is Ciera Gardner (they/them) as we discuss their journey in the Arts and their role in Red Riding Hood happening now until June 9th at Arden Theatre..........................Ciera Gardner, (they/them) is a local actor, mover, and collaborator in Philadelphia and surrounding areas. Credits include: Peer Gynt (Enchantment Theatre), Wine in the Wilderness (Philadelphia Artist Collective), Richard III (Theatre in the X), Peter and the Starcatcher (Theatre Horizon), The Gap (Azuka Theatre), Coriolanus (Shakespeare in Clark Park). Follow Ciera on Instagram ........................Red Riding Hood is a must see for all ages. Make sure you support the arts in every way. Thank you Ciera for your time and we are happy to support your career. .........................Review of Red Riding HoodFollow me on the blog at ToitimeblogSocials as Toitimeblog ...........................Drink of the day: Prickly Pear Margarita

Mothers Day and The Wave of Emotions

Fri, 12 May 2023 05:50:41 GMT

Trigger Warning-this episode talks about mothers and this is one of the hardest hit holidays outside of Christmas. We talk about child loss, loss of a mother, grieving a mother who has transitioned and grieving the desire to have children and can't.................................................Motherhood isn't always the most cheerful duty to do. It comes with a lot of responsibility and sometimes irritation. Mothers are expected to deal and not be honest about where they are and more. Understand how difficult it can be to do your duty if you aren't supported through it................................Mom may want to rest this weekend. A mom may want some time to herself or to validate the self care she has put on the back burner because being a mother and mom guilt is strong..........................................Follow me on socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog

Tarte Be Gone

Fri, 19 May 2023 05:19:21 GMT

May is Mental Health awareness month. Let's talk about ways to support others and acknowledge that its real and needs to be treated and more............................................If you have lived under a rock you may not have heard about the drama with Tarte and brand trips. Now it's not my place to say what exactly went down but I will say there are some things that we can learn from it.How do you voice your disdain for feeling as if you are being treated unfairly? If you aren't a content creator the same principles can applyDo you simply put it out into the world that you are mad? Phone another influencer? Speak to another PR to get feedback?Are you being gaslit to think that you aren't as valuable as your counterparts?.................................................Also is Nick Cannon and being spread too thin, Jerry Springer had Black kids he denied, and Is Beyonce getting to the bag but leaving her fans in shambles?..........................................Thank you for your support as always follow me on social media as Toitimeblog and on the blog

Getting it Done with Terri Banner Fitzsimmons

Fri, 26 May 2023 06:19:36 GMT

What would you do if you knew you could do anything? When do you start living? Our minds can trick us into thinking that when we fail that life stops. What if failing propelled you to your greatest triumph. Terri lost it all and in her late 30s decided it was time to live. How did she do it at almost 74 years old she still in the gym, encouraging others, writing books, and living life on her own terms and without fear. Terri Banner Fitzsimmons is the author, motivational speaker, and best-selling author of 4 books. She has been in the field of education most of her adult life as a teacher of all grades, a Sociology Professor for twenty years, and director of an Independent Study Program, helping adults earn their diplomas. She won many awards, including being recognized for initiating a girl power group, developing innovative career strategies, and working for United Way, helping parolees find employment. She has worked with various Indian Reservations, homeless shelters, and the Cal-Works program at a local college.Her biggest passion is helping women achieve their passion for life, to break free of all the doubts they cling to that stop them from recognizing their worth. She didn’t return to school until she was forty, and with the help of the counselors and professors, she could graduate valedictorian in her master’s Program. She went on to get her teaching degree and a certificate in special education training. She had adopted two teenage boys with fetal alcohol syndrome, so she could understand what the students in her classes needed.After the Camp Fire in 2018, which took everything from her, she worked in Medford, Oregon, with special needs until the pandemic................................As always you can find me on socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog

Self Care or Self Preservation with Tamar and Lane

Fri, 09 Jun 2023 10:05:36 GMT

This week's episode, we have Lane Kennedy and Tamar Medford, hosts of Laughing without Liquor. We talk about what is self care and self preservation. With over 37 years of continuous sobriety from booze, white powder, pills, and Snicker Bars, Lane Kennedy and Tamar Medford bring a wealth of experience and authenticity to their discussions on living in recovery.......................................Lane and Tamar are on a mission to empower women (especially mothers) to break free from drinking and reliance on substances to have more fun in life. Fearless and unapologetic, they address addiction, bad habits, and changing the internal dialogue women have with themselves. Their focus is on helping women embrace an uncompromised and alcohol-free lifestyle, leaving behind codependency and negativity.....................................Join Lane and Tamar as they provide a safe space for open conversations about living an alcohol-free life, longevity, personal growth, and self-preservation. Discover practical tips and strategies to reclaim your life, find joy, and experience a fulfilling and alcohol-free existence. Laugh, be inspired, and join them on this transformative journey of living life to the fullest without liquor. Check them out on their blog, Instagram, Facebook, and podcast. .............................Follow me on socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog

Vacation or Stay?

Fri, 16 Jun 2023 10:54:20 GMT

Do you need a vacation or do you need to shake the table of your life? Ever hear people need a vacation every 2 seconds? When in reality what they crave is a change in pace or location? What if they really just needed to make changes in who has a front seat into their world?....................................If this is you don't worry on today's topic we talk about mental health and learning the art of resting. Do you need to take a few breaks online and offline? If you take mental health break and step away from social media is it a real step back? You do know that not posting but checking everyone else on social media isn't a social media break? Stepping away is stepping all the way away to refresh yourself and gather your thoughts.............................For those who are planning a vacation are you keeping yourself safe? Do you post and tag yourself in locations while on vacation? Who knows your deets so they can in real time be alerted of your safety? Do you have the proper tools to be safe while away? ...............................Use the solo staycation blog to help you with tools needed for safety while on vacation................................Follow me on social media as Toitimblog

Letting Go to Enjoy Vacation: Disney Recap

Fri, 30 Jun 2023 05:57:22 GMT

Disney is the happiest place on the Earth. As soon as you step foot on the property the pixie dust takes over and the magic begins. However if you deal with anxiety and more you may find certain aspects of it to be overwhelming and it can cause you to struggle...........................Vacations are great for renewing your mind, body, and spirit but sometimes letting go to do just that is harder than it seems. Have you struggled while on vacation to let your mind truly take a rest? You can change your atmosphere but if you don't work on your mindset it will deter you from tapping in to a full vacation and rest............................Is Disney all it's cracked up to be? Listen in and tell me about your experience. .....................Follow me on social media as Toitimeblog and on the blog itself

Anniversary Vibes: Cheers to 3 Years of Podcasting

Fri, 07 Jul 2023 04:40:09 GMT

I can't believe that on Monday, July 10th will be 3 years of starting the podcast, Conversations with Toi. What a journey. From learning how to continue and use my voice, to being consistent and more. ...............................On this week's topics we talk about my cousin (in my head) Keke Palmer as we talk about the comment made by her son's father regarding her wearing too revealing clothes-do you know the mental health that women go through when they have a baby?-is he attempting to break her confidence?-why are moms held to a higher standard of what is appropriate and more............................Also the whys, passion, and more from the Blogcast and so much more...........................Thank you for rocking with me on these last 3 years. I appreciate the love and all that is being done. To help do 3 things:-listen to the podcast-share the podcast-review the podcast.........................Follow on the blog and on social media as Toitimeblog

Becoming Flawsome with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani

Fri, 14 Jul 2023 05:23:12 GMT

Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 17 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple’s apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. .....................................Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. She just released her brand new book - "Becoming Flawesome". #becomingflawesome

In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself. You can find more information about Kristina here: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and website..............................Follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog as well as on the blog. Today's drink of the day is Strawberry Raspberry Smoothie

To Be Heard with Aggie Jordan

Fri, 21 Jul 2023 07:43:14 GMT

Women should be heard. Our voices matter and they always have. On today's podcast we have Aggie Jordan. Aggie Jordan, Ph.D., is the former founder and CEO of Jordan-DeLaurenti, Inc, a training and contract management company. Since selling this business, writing has been her life’s work. A former small business columnist for the Dallas Times Herald, and Prime Women, an online magazine, and a writer for The View, the monthly magazine for the Sun City Shadow Hills Community in Indio, California. --------------------------Aggie has produced over 60 articles for these publications. Aggie has enjoyed traveling with her husband to over 75 countries. She has been a guest on many television shows, including the CBS Morning Show and ABC Good Morning Dallas, as well as a number of radio broadcasts. A native of West Pittston, Pennsylvania, a former nun, a teacher, and a relationship counselor, Aggie hopes to inspire women to have their voices heard whenever, wherever, and by whoever challenges their rights to human equality. She is the writer of the book "A Woman's Voice Should Be Heard."...........................................So what ways are you using your voice to help with the next generation? You can sound the alarm on social media, blog, podcast, speak up, talk to your senate and so much more. Follow Aggie on her blog, Twitter, LinkedIn FacebookFollow me on all socials as Toitime and on the blog. Drink of the day is called the Sun Kissed Soiree

Marriage is a Ministry with Keisha Bass

Fri, 28 Jul 2023 05:46:49 GMT

Marriage is not as easy as everyone paints it. What happens when you are at end of your rope? How do you know when its time to hold on or let go? Keisha Bass is a Wife/Marriage Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author, Healthy Marriage Advocate, and Founder of "Her Dope Marriage". HDM is a faith-centered coaching and consulting brand, led by Keisha Bass, who has been married for over 32 years. While Keisha has always had a strong passion for coaching women to be the best wives they can be, it was within the last year that she decided to take the leap and leave her six-figure career to follow her heart, her passion, and the direction of God. In addition to being a Wife Coach, she also coaches women on being whole within themselves so that they show up as the best versions of themselves in all areas of their lives, including their marriages....................................................................................In the past year, Keisha's following has grown by nearly 100,000 on Instagram to now more than 130k and her tribe of Facebook is faithful to her as well. She speaks with great passion and conviction and has a gift for helping women to excel in their partnerships with their husbands and, very importantly, within themselves.---------------------------------------So tune in on this insightful conversation and weigh in. .................................................................................Follow me on the blog as well as on all socials as Toitimeblog

Energy and Healing with Liz Peterson

Fri, 25 Aug 2023 09:17:26 GMT

Do you believe your gifts come before you are born? We discuss that with Liz Peterson as she discusses what happened right after her mom died......................Trigger warning: Talks of grief..............................Liz Peterson is a seer, seeker, spiritual explorer, intuitive energy healer, Reiki Master, spiritual coach, oracle reader, and podcaster who has been a lifelong student of healing, personal growth, and metaphysics. She is the host of the podcast Raise the Vibe with Liz. .........................Also since we have been on break let's catch up. Parents why are we leaving kids in danger? Back to school and Fall prep and so much more. Follow me on the blog as well as on socials as Toitimeblog.Drink of the day pumpkin chai tea latte

What is Cannonball and how does it fit with Fringe Fest

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 04:01:43 GMT

Happy Friday it's podcast day. Thank you for all of your support. Today's blog we will be discussing the following topics:CannonballFringe FestThe ArtsChildren and Mental health and more................................We have Sam Tower Program Manager and Performance for Young Audiences Cohort Artistic Producer as we talk about Cannonball Fest..............................Cannonball has doubled down on offering something for everyone this year. As the size of the hub has exploded, so has the hub’s ability to showcase programming for younger audiences. Philadelphia Fringe Festival goers of all ages will find a treasure trove of back-to-back circus, dance, theatre, puppetry, music, and interactive installations all month long . Audiences can find free outdoor performances at Liberty Lands, 913 N 3rd St, every Friday-Sunday September 8 - 30, plus sliding scale tickets for all shows at the MAAS Building, Icebox Project Space, and Fidget Living Room throughout the month.. Cannonball runs September 1-30 and truly features something for everyone. Tickets are on sale now. Tickets and more information can be found at the hub’s website https://www.cannonballfestival.org/cannonballkids. Tickets and more information about the Philadelphia Fringe Festival can be found at www.fringearts.com, by phone at 215-413-1218, or in person at the Fringe Festival Box Office at FringeArts (140 N. Columbus Blvd) August 28-September 24.Follow Cannonball Fest on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok and if you can't attend but want to donate please do. ....................As always you can fine me on socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog.

Manifesting and Laws of Attraction with Kurt Johnson

Fri, 08 Sep 2023 09:22:02 GMT

On today's podcast we will talk about the laws of attraction and what manifestation is. Also we will cover the following:FriendshipsInterpersonal RelationshipsSelf ImprovementMan who hit woman with a brick and a little more Today's guest is Kirk Johnson. Kurt Johnson - a Law of Attraction Master and a Twin Flame coach on a mission to reshape lives through a holistic approach. He stands apart from conventional online spiritual figures by steering clear of spiritual bypassing guiding individuals beyond mere manifestation techniques. He acknowledges that change comes from within and respects each individual's readiness to embark on their unique journey and rediscover their True Selves. Kurt Johnson offers an unconventional perspective, bridging the gap between science and spirituality. Kurt is on a mission to merge the realms of science and spirituality, drawing from his personal encounters with the unseen.Links:Official Webpage - https://www.newworldallstar.com/Facebook –https://www.facebook.com/groups/NewWorldAllstar YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/c/NewWorldAllstarFreebie - https://bit.ly/manifestationplaylistYou can find me on socials as Toitimeblog or on the blog itself where I curate at least 3-4 fresh blogs a week.

Mental Health and Your Inner Circle

Sun, 17 Sep 2023 13:21:24 GMT

In today's episode I talk about how your circle matters when you are going through your journey. Although your journey is personal keep in mind that who supports you and tries to stop your healing journey will delay or could delay your healing..............................Get the wrong friend who is encouraging you to not go to therapy because as a person of faith you should pray it away vs the friend who will pray with you that you find the therapist that will help, give you suggestions on faith based therapist (they do exist) and help make sure that you are set to your appointment matters. Your journey is yours for sure but you don't have to be boggled down with those in your inner circle doing more harm than good as you transition to your best self..........................Follow me on the blog as well as on social media as Toitimeblog

Oh Father....Broken but healing story journey with Athena Monet

Fri, 22 Sep 2023 04:01:30 GMT

In this episode we will be talking about:Kirk Franklin's documentary... Father's Day-possible trigger warning!Topics will include: faith, fatherhood, abandonment, healing, and redemptionOur guest today is Athena Monet. Athena Monet is an author, gifted intuitive healer, and spiritual guide. Born into a lineage of remarkable women, Athena inherited the extraordinary gifts of clairvoyance and clairsentience from her family. Fueled by a deep curiosity and thirst for knowledge, Athena immersed herself in the realms of art, interior architecture, and diverse spiritual disciplines during her studies at the Ohio State University. She explored the realms of yoga, astrology, philosophy, Buddhism, and anthropology, almost completing a minor in Anthropology—a path that would shape her understanding of human experiences and cultures.After spending a decade working at prominent commercial architecture firms in Washington, D.C., Athena felt a calling to break free from the corporate world. Following her heart's desire, she ventured to a tranquil coastal town, seeking solace and a new beginning. It was in this unfamiliar place, surrounded by strangers, that tragedy struck on Christmas Day—she experienced the devastating loss of her beloved mother. Overwhelmed by grief and loneliness, Athena's pain manifested into mysterious illnesses and chronic gastrointestinal distress, leaving her searching for answers and relief when conventional Western medicine failed her. In a fateful turn of events, a friend recommended that Athena seek the guidance of the local Medicine Woman. Little did she know that this encounter would bring about miraculous healing and transform her life forever. The profound experience with her shaman marked a turning point, granting Athena permission to embrace her true self fully and to courageously share the ancestral gifts that had coursed through her bloodline for generations. Athena continues to walk her sacred path, guided by the ancestral wisdom that flows through her being.Find her on Instagram, Facebook, and Youtube and her website:Seaside Shaman

Seasonal Depression Tools that I Use

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 05:04:53 GMT

Mental health is one of those spaces where one size doesn't fit all. What works for me may not work for you and vice versa. If you are encouraged by what you hear in this episode may it spark rejuvenation to one not give up but also fight for you. You are deserving of the life you seek. Use the tools that resonate to you, add a few more, but trust that as temporary and compelling as seasonal depression is, it doesn't have to define you..................................If you are of faith it's okay to have both faith and works collide so that you can live on earth in peace within yourself.......................Tools mentioned outside of things you can't buy is the:

.............................You can me on the blog or on socials as Toitimeblog Other Blogs that may be beneficial:Therapy and Things to Know Therapy and the Church Seasonal Depression Reemergence

What do you love?

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 07:15:51 GMT

Apart of your wellness plan should also include the things that you love and like. We talk about self care all of the time but adding joys to your world is important too. Often times when depression comes no one is prepared for it. ..........................October is Depression awareness and education month. Using our platforms to speak up about the fact that depression is silent. It doesn't have a certain look to it. You can be in a crowded room and interacting with others and still feel lost, confused, irritated, and more inside. ...........................One of the things that can happen when you are depressed is you lose interest in what you love. Although depression looks differently on others. Increasing what you love and like to help you get through those dark times is helpful. ......................Follow me on the blog and on socials as Toitimeblog.

Who Are you On and Offline?

Fri, 13 Oct 2023 03:33:43 GMT

In a world of pretenders its easy to forget that when the camera goes off who you really are has to shine through. A saying my mom taught me was "every actor has to lay that part down sometime."..........................What that meant was simply that eventually who you are shines through. I had to own who I was and not play the blame game when I was called out in my 20s. Now in my 40s I have learned to embrace who I am. When people meet me they say how much they appreciate that I don't flip flop. The reason is honestly I can only be me...................Do you struggle figuring out who you are? What about your online persona? Do they match? .....................We talk about that and Will and Jada marriage, Beyonce concert/movie, Content Creation, authenticity, and so much more......................Follow me on socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog

Team Hallelujah or Halloween

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 04:20:15 GMT

IF you grew up in my church night you either celebrated Hallelujah night in replace of Halloween. So no dressing up, no ability to go trick or treating either. I had been dressing up and trick or treating until I turned 10

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As an adult i get to set the standard for what I want to have happen. We choose trunk or treats for the most part. It's a way to safely experience Halloween. But always make sure that you check all candy.

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Jussie Smollett goes to rehab, live with Governor Shapiro, and so much more.Find me on the blog or on social media as Toitimeblog

Who ya'll dating in these streets?

Fri, 27 Oct 2023 04:00:33 GMT

We are covering in this episode:The infamous dating list for first dates. Hear my take since some of y'all forgot that dating in your life and stage does matter.Bryan Mcknight or whatever his new is gives a whole new meaning to toxic parent (s)Sleep we need it as we get ready to go into daylight savings this weekend in the midst of a sugar highThe holidays are approaching so let's talk about a plan before we get caught up in drama Subtopics: Mental health, Parenting, Dating, Holidays, and so much more ....................................As promised here's the toxic mom blogSleepphones should be a tool for you to use for good sleep. In addition to my Amazon store should you need a light therapy weighted blanket, or other self care items as we get into the colder months. ................................Follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog itself

Keith Lee Effect

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 04:00:21 GMT

Keith Lee is out here doing the lord's work. Keith Lee was on a food tour in Atlanta and Atlanta dropped the ball. If influencers did more work in being honest myself included we all would be helping in our own way. Restaurant industry is shaking and they should IF they aren't giving good customer service and don't plan on doing it either. .........................As soon as Mariah Carey thawed out we are all in a holiday mood or are we? For some this season will be hard. Not everyone is a walking elf. So here's my take on taking care of you during this season. The shame that comes to having to get help when it comes to your mental health I wish would be a lot less.........................I am celebrating my 9th blogiversary. Follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog

Boundaries are Necessary

Fri, 10 Nov 2023 05:00:18 GMT

As we dive into this week's episode boundaries are going to be your best friend. Whether in everyday life, for the holidays boundaries are good for all relationships. Did you catch the conversations with Jeezy and Nia Long? IT was more weighted than than simply listening in for whether or not if cheating is the reason why Jeezy and Jeanie Mai had infidelity was the reason for their marriage demise.

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Listen to it for your own and come to your own conclusions. In addition, Also I am celebrating my Blogiversary this month-9 years.

Thanks for your continued support. Make sure you listen, share, and review

Passion or Talent Track: Which is your go to with James Earl Jones II

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 07:54:00 GMT

In this episode we will discuss if its better to lean into something you are passionate about or what you are good at with James Earl Jones II. We talk about his career and what led him going into his career.

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James Earl Jones II (Harry) National tour: 1st Nat’l Come from Away, 1st Nat’l Gershwin’s Porgy & Bess. Regional: Porchlight Music, Goodman, Marriott, Court, Chicago Shakespeare, Writers, Lookingglass, Lyric Opera Chicago, SF Opera, Chicago Symphony Orchestra, Ravinia. TV/film credits: Maybe I do, Pokerhouse, Chicago Med, Chicago Fire, Sherman’s Showcase, 4400 & South Side. Thanks to friends, family, Stewart Talent, Tara Rubin Casting and the Company Team. Mom, Dad, J…always.

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Other topics in this episode is about Keke Palmer backlash, Diddy terrorizing folks-(allegedly) who is shocked, Thanksgiving tips to decrease anxiety while cooking or preparing for the big day, and don't forget to get tickets to Company coming November 28-December 10th at the Kimmel Cultural Campus.

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Holiday and stress help

Holiday Guide

Thanksgiving Podcast includes therapy session

Y'all not Capable of Duality?

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 15:04:18 GMT

Ever since the news and shock for some/confirmation for others regarding Diddy/Love accusations regarding Cassie came out people are unable to live in Duality. Victim shaming is at an all time high. Instead of people focusing on men in power to not abuse women they (unfortunately mostly men) would rather focus on how long it took for the woman to get enough strength and grit to speak up on the abuse.

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Most folks only went off what is revealed on social media and not the 30 pages of alleged abuse done to her.

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How was your Thanksgiving? I gave a few rules and some tips on how to handle not only Thanksgiving but the coming together of family and friends. People speak up on the pain and hurt of others but instead of rallying behind them make excuses. It's a pattern of excusing the violator to protect the while condemning the violated.

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Power of Writing with Sheila Bender

Fri, 01 Dec 2023 04:15:40 GMT

Have you ever thought about writing? Feeling like you don't know where to start this is your episode. In addition writing is therapeutic. It heals parts of you just from being vulnerable and willing to share your story. Today's guest is Sheila Bender.

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Sheila Bender is a poet, essayist, memoirist, and master teacher, who has helped hundreds of people write from personal experience.

She believes that when it comes to writing-in-progress, there is no bad writing only opportunities for good writing. She has served as a Distinguished Lecturer in poetry for Seattle University, taught writing at Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles, and for the Centrum Foundation’s Port Townsend, Washington writers conference among many venues. She founded WritingItReal.com, an online instructional magazine focused on writing from personal experience and speaks on writing to heal grief, overcoming writer's block, and writing craft skills for new and experienced writers and poets.

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Did you really show yourself as off as 2 left shoes talking about Beyonce being white? Are you watching the movie that is Beyonce, Renaissance. In addition we took the kids to see the Jayz exhibit which ends on December 4th.

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Back then isn't Our Right Now

Fri, 08 Dec 2023 11:45:58 GMT

If you ever had an old school momma or aunt or whomever in your life tell you about how back then used to be and the changes that we see now, this is your episode. We respect and love what back then taught us. We love the richness of the history but right now we also have to add in skills set to live that helps us be better people.

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With Mental Health often times people are scared to try the things that could help them because someone in their life with no knowledge on if that new tactic will work is discouraging them from getting the help they need. This isn't fair. Not going to therapy because you have been conditioned to keep things "in house" could be the dynamic that holds you back from living in your purpose.

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Current events talked about

Beyonce Movie

The Color Purple-I seen it and I have a small review

Jason Lee calling Jennifer EGOT Hudson Illiterate

Diddy Take that A... To court has a 4th case.

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The Gospel according to Jess

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 10:55:33 GMT

Oh how transformative gospel music can be. However when you are queer the church institution is one of the most isolating. Trying to water who you are out of fear of not being accepted is one thing but straying away from the faith seems to be the solution until Jess performed in the Color Purple Broadway show and it brought her back to it all.

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Tune in as we listen to Jessica Johnson as we talk about how the power of gospel music is so transformative. In addition catch Jess as she and the community in Norristown shines the light on the weekend of December 15-17th at Theatre Horizon. There are several performances to come out and hear the joy of the season in music.

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Tickets to the show are available here: https://theatrehorizon.org/holiday-concert-2023/

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I also talk about taking care of you during this holiday season, the rules of Christmas, and an adoration to not overspend and stay grounded this holiday season. Also for those who are grieving during this time or having a hard time you aren't alone and I talk about that too by also giving honor to my Great Grandparents: Mr. and Mrs. Sims who I miss dearly. I dedicate this episode to you both.

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Christmas Help: Controlling personal anxiety

Fri, 22 Dec 2023 11:57:31 GMT

Christmas is a wonderful holiday. Everyone is getting gifts and you may be thinking of what you don't have, missing those who aren't here, and so much more. While everyone is wrapped in joy you may be seriously in a place of despair. It may be a silent issue as you feel like saying that would damper others so you smile in rooms you don't want to be in.

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With that being said, here are some of the ways I use to help me:

honesty
take breaks
journal
therapy session

In the podcast I talk about the ways I use things to help me. How to manage my feelings and levels of anxiety during high stress moments is key. Changing the tone in how I talk to my family and friends helps diffuse things too regardless if I 'shouldn't" have to do all of that.

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Wishing you a great season. Also later on the blog today I list 5 journal prompts, 5 podcasts to listen to, and 5 more tactics to use during the holiday season.

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Ain't Too Proud...for a Show or some Goals

Fri, 29 Dec 2023 05:00:18 GMT

Goals and The Temptations? Yes on this last episode of the season and year I talk to E. Clayton Cornelious about his role as Paul Williams on the Broadway show of Ain't Too Proud coming to the Kimmel Cultural Campus January 3-21st. Tickets are now available.

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E. CLAYTON CORNELIOUS (Paul Williams) is a Grammy winning Broadway/Tv veteran actor of 25 years. He’s worked on the West End of London, has done 9 1/2 Broadway shows, and this marks his 10th Broadway national tour. On top of acting, he is now a 5-year Broadway Investor/Producer. He made his Broadway producing debut in 2021 and was recently nominated for his 1st Tony Award in 2023 as co-producer. He is a graduate of PPU and is currently getting his 2nd degree in Business Management at EGCC. He is grateful to friends, family and God.

Instagram: @Eclaycorn. Website: Eclaycorn.com.

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Goals are meant to have a plan with them. Resolutions and goals aren't simply a wish list that you write down and hope for the best. Make a list and a plan to go along with it that will assist you in making 2024 successful. Remember to sprinkle in some grace in your goals setting. We tend to be on the go to making things happen without adding some pauses into our lives.

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New Year Blogs to add to your world:

Getting Organized into the New Year

Keep A Few Things into the New Year

Stick to your New Year Goals/Resolutions

Supporting Black Moms beyond Black Maternal Health Week

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 10:12:13 GMT

What is the call to action for Black Maternal Health week? To save our black moms. All moms deserve to deliver safely, to be heard during postpartum care and more. But we know that there is a disparity. According to the CDC: Black women are three times more likely to die from a pregnancy-related cause than White women. Multiple factors contribute to these disparities, such as variation in quality healthcare, underlying chronic conditions, structural racism, and implicit bias.

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We can do our part by believing and supporting black moms.

Here is my story.

Resources:

Resources for Black Maternal Health Week:

Help with Black Maternal Health:

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If I could go back

Wed, 10 Jul 2024 03:40:41 GMT

Today is the celebration of 4 years of Conversations with Toi. In the 4 years of podcasting there is so much to say and so many wonderful people to think. On this episode I celebrate continuing on with the goal of creating this content.

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But it also serves as an encouragement to all who listen to know that in life you have to be willing to move forward regardless of what you want to do and know that when the hard times comes you will get through it.

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I would like to go back and encourage the Toi who back in the day never got the chance to see this unfold. So thank you for all of your support

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Here is the first episode:

Getting to know me

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Yes People with Amanda of Phillyfoodandbarrs

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 05:00:24 GMT

I love my Content Creator friends. So I will be bringing them on for a few weeks as we talk about different things in the industry. This is definitely something to tune in if you want to start something new (whatever your new is) but you are hesitant about what to do first. We have on today's episode is Amanda of Phillyfoodandbarrs and we talk about content creation and wanting to be on the scene and more.

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This episode is dedicated to my friend, Charisse McGill a jewel who's life and joy will radiate the community for years to come.

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Not a Content Creator and don't have a desire to be that's okay you will get lessons on pursuing your dreams, exercising your NO Muscles, learning to bet on you, and how to continue when you want to quit and that can be applied in all fields and walks of life

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Looking to be a Content Creator? Think you can do it better than the folks in the game? Come on in the room because the cadence, tenacity, tools, and dare I say NO Muscles that you will week is not to be played with.

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Looking for some tools in the game? Use my Amazon link to catch a few things (I get paid a commission)

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Research, Joys, and Clapbacks with Camille Mola

Fri, 02 Feb 2024 05:00:27 GMT

Unfortunately in content creation or blogging there is always room for clapbacks. We have Camille Mola of Positive Publicity as our guest as we talk all things writing, pop culture, and more. She shares how she got into the joy of writing. Whatever your joys are one thing is for your gift will make room.

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Camille is not only an amazing blogger, writer, but she has experience with PR and can sing her behind off. Oh and if that isn't enough she went to one of the most amazing schools, Penn State-We are!

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Follow Camille on her blog; Positive Publicity, Instagram, TikTok, Pinterest and Facebook

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In honor of my husband's birthday listen to the episode, Storr Love

There's Space for all of us

Fri, 09 Feb 2024 05:00:18 GMT

No matter what field you are in there's always room for more. I dislike when I hear people use tactics to be the mean girl/women and disinclude others. Often it's from their own insecurity but still its unnecessary in every way.

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We have this week Elle of Siponwhat as we talk about her moving into the Content Creator space, tips she's learned, forging her own ways, and friendships along the way. Tune in as we talk about that and aspects of being who you are online and off. In addition always talk about mental health and self care.

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Apologies and Going No Contact

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 05:50:30 GMT

Comedian Mo'Nique and her son, Shalon have been creating a stir this week. Since Mo'Nique's rise it's been no secret that Mo'Nique doesn't have a desire to be a wife or parent. Fast forward to Mo'Nique's appearance on Clip Shay Shay where sh talk about her lack of parenting with her son.

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Its easy to also note that Mo'nique has 2 other sons. Either way the exchange leads to what is no contact, and apologies

This episode:

Mental health talks
Accountability
Parenting

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Toxic Mothers blogpost

Your anchor holds your future

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 06:17:17 GMT

Have you ever questioned your past choices in life? We all make mistakes so this isn't about perfectionist. In life, there will be times when you realize later on aka your future self finally understands the past was building the good for your future.

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I also cover the 50 part plus Rissa Tissa, Wendy Williams, and leave you with some encouragement that I hope on your darkest day illuminates your path.

If you are looking for the viral Rissa Tissa story its on TikTok

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Spring Awakenings: Shedding Seasonal Depression and more

Fri, 01 Mar 2024 05:49:53 GMT

Is anyone else looking forward to shedding this seasonal depression and step into a Spring awakening? From travel since its National Plan a solo trip day to letting go of the things that holds us back I get into all of that this episode.

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Are we giving participation awards to parents and specifically dads? Lil Scrappy had a lot to say this week on why people don't mention the parenting he does as the mother of his kids leaves to do the things that she needs to do

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In addition is $30 to little food to send to someone's Cash App for lunch? A woman this week says it's not enough.. What say you? I say I am enjoying two lunches at Chipotle or one lunch and a next day breakfast too

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Staying Committed with Joris Kondija

Fri, 08 Mar 2024 05:00:16 GMT

What does commitment have to do with the Cirque du Soleil Corteo? Everything as we have acrobat Joris Kondija share his reasons for starting with gymnastics and how staying the course led him to the brand of Cirque du Soleil.

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We have to stay committed to something in this world that seems to want to encourage failing. So here's to you taking this conversation and sticking to your personal commitments in life. In addition we cover:

Ressa Tessa being signed to CAA
International Women's History Day salutes
Rising Crime in Philadelphia
Postpartum
Mental Health and more

If you will be in the Allentown area March 28-31st, get tickets now.

If you will be in Philadelphia come May 30-June 2nd, get tickets now

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Here are some blogs on travel, solo travel, and spring.

Struggle Love, Mental Health, and it's not a flex

Fri, 15 Mar 2024 03:33:57 GMT

I wonder if men knew that bragging about how strong your significant other was by staying in a relationship with someone is NOT a flex. Every relationship has their ups and downs. However, if you saw that by stepping over my boundaries multiple times and being okay with that is crazy work.

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How do we justify bad behavior time and time again? Men and some women, please understand that the mental health breakdowns that occur when you are betrayed can last forever

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Jessica Pettway's Life can save your life

Fri, 22 Mar 2024 04:24:44 GMT

No one I know wants to us their life to save others if there life has to be on the line. However we honor the life of Jessica Pettway by using it to help us save the countless of other women who need second opinions and more.

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Trigger warning: Cervical Cancer, death, misdiagnosis, and more

We talk about the death of Jessica Pettway as it pertains to the mishandling of her case. She leaves behind her husband and two daughters. 9 months since her diagnosis we know that the disparity in the medical field especially for women of color.

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Dr. Jessica Shepherd, OBGYN, Menopause Expert, Media Health Expert, Founder @modernmeno CEO @sanctummedwellness speaks up about the tragedy of Jessica Pettway life and things we can do to take care of ourselves.

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There is medical disparity for women of color in all aspects of health. Even I dealt with it when I was in the ICU for internal bleeding following the birth of my final daughter and child.

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Make sure you click on every link as they provide so much resources. If you are in the Philadelphia/Delaware county please consider coming to the screening of Aftershock on April 13, 2024 as the discussion on Black maternal health is done with resources, movie screening, conversation, and more

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Owning your Power even in your Mental Health

Fri, 29 Mar 2024 04:01:17 GMT

When you are living in your mental health often times you second guess yourself on all levels. After months and years of going through it many times you look for validation from others. Listen, no...We must find ways to validate ourselves. Learning to tell your story without waiting for those to tell it for you. Owning your power is key.

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On the podcast we talk briefly about Diddy but more on being embarrassed about the way your mental health has come forth. For instance having folks know how bad it can be for you and being around them. Your mental health journey is your own.

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Also some Easter memories for the ages. I hope that all kids grown and all get the Easter basket

Topics:

Mental Health
Wellness
Therapy
Family
No Contact
Easter

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Want to try Circles, It's like group therapy on the go. Use code TOITIMEBLOG to save. For Goggle Play and for those on Apple

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Blog support:

Easter and No Contact

Easter Ready-shopping and dining and more

Changing Therapist

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Joi and Grace with Joi Carter

Fri, 05 Apr 2024 11:56:16 GMT

On this episode we talk about grace and the challenge to give grace in the same way that we seek it from others. I learned a lesson in therapy this week that grace isn't always once and done. You have to remind yourself often.

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I talk about therapy, parenting, doing new things that are uncomfortable for you especially in your mental health healing journey. All things are meant to inspire you

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We also have Joi Carter who you may know from Ready to Love and on Own's Love & Marriage DC. She is coming to Philadelphia with her music on April 12th at City Winery. City Winery is known to bring one of a kind artists and shows for an intimate experience. Joi is coming to bring you the goods and has a few guests coming with her you do not want to miss. Tickets to the show is available now. Don't miss out.

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I hope your week is great and that you do all of the things that make you happy and content on your wellness journey.

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You can be both faith based and check in on your mental health

Fri, 12 Apr 2024 07:35:46 GMT

Mental health doesn't stop at the prayer line. It is important to be faith based in life but when warranted get the help you need from a professional. If you ever grew up under a faith based lifestyle many times you hear that you have to pray, give it to God,and move on.

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Moving on when your mind isn't allowing you to is hard. Moving on when you need to see a therapist or more need to take medication for your needs is not feasible nor can it be sustainable-let's be about both

This solar eclipse has brought out manic depressive behavior and other things that honestly was already there. We use these occurrences to excuse behavior and that simply has to stop

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On this episode we cover what has happened this week from Oj Simpson's death to the Solar Eclipse. In this episode there is talk about religion and the role mental health plays or the lack thereof.

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Other resources:

Therapy and the church

Therapy

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Beautifully Broken with Ella Shae

Fri, 26 Apr 2024 04:00:18 GMT

Sometimes in life we believe in order to inspire you have to have it all together. That is not the case. Today's guest is Ella Shae.

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Mental health advocate Ella Shae’s book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken, offers her first-hand experience on the importance of self-care and why taking time for yourself ultimately makes you a better partner, parent, companion, and friend. Her story begins with a traumatic car accident as a child that later manifested in an eating disorder. It provides relatable moments, encouraging readers to use their own voice to advocate for themselves.

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Ella's journey with mental health awareness began at an early age of 4 years old after a car accident that could have killed her, but instead left her with lasting scars. As the years progressed in her journey, so did the traumas and challenges with her mental health. It wasn’t until a compilation of many mental health struggles presented themselves as an eating disorder, that she finally received the proper treatment to work through 35 years of trauma. After years of therapy, Ella was finally able to reopen her old wounds that had been haunting her. She learned that trauma does not have to make you a victim. In fact, it was her grief that helped her to grow into the best version of herself.

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Get the Book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken on Amazon

If you purchase it from her website, she will sign your copy.

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You need balance and better communication with my Mom, Rhonda Allen

Fri, 10 May 2024 02:58:18 GMT

Happy Mother's Day to all of the moms. Its a hard job with no days off but when you are doing it right it is the most rewarding. For all of those who do not have their mom or have a strained relationship with their mom I am sending love your way

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With it being Mother's Day I wanted to make sure that I had the mother of all mothers on and included my mom. We talk about going no contact, the frustration of not seeing your mom from her perspective, the good. bad, and indifferent when it comes to motherhood and so much more.

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My mother was born in Youngstown Ohio. She is a wife, mother, daughter, and sister. She has always been involved in the arts with dreams of being a renowned dancer. She turned in her dancing shoes shortly after my twin and I was born. Through her various life lessons she has overcome homelessness, drug addiction, and more. Rhonda is also starting her new online encouragement and motivation called The Pit Stop.

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We talk about her being a single mom, her life as a mom to the twins aka me and my sister and her life with my brother. As a single mother at one point one recurring theme with self esteem and more kept creeking up

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It's also my birthday today. You can gift me with a free review on wherever you are listening to this episode on

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This week is also Children's Mental Health and it's important to support the young folks in your life.

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Kevin Ross starting Memorial Day off the right way

Sat, 18 May 2024 12:08:17 GMT

We have none other than Kevin Ross. He is a breath of fresh air. You may know him from his hit Long Song Away. He is a writer, singer, and producer. His songs are mesmerizing and his range undeniable. He is coming to Philadelphia to a sold out show on May 25th at City Winery. He does have tickets available for the Pittsburgh show happening that Sunday.

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We talk about his passions, what sets him apart, and a great conversation for Mental Health Month. What does Kevin do? He is selfish-listen in for more clarity.

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In addition on the podcast I talk about the birthday plans. It was a great surprise. Thank you to all that came and supported.

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Topics Covered:

Mental Heath

Music

Mothers day

Personal Happiness

We Outside but we outside right

Fri, 24 May 2024 10:55:30 GMT

It's Memorial Day weekend which means the unofficial summer has begun. We taking trips and using our PTO but we have to act right. What is your mental health regiment for flying or taking a road trip? I have mine that has been working. From packing a few weeks to a week before, arriving to airport 2 hours ahead to eat and have a beverage. There are things that we can do to help ease things like anxiety and more. Don't get on the no fly list trying to be funny-leave the jokes to the comedians

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We knew Diddy did it. Cassie isn't in question it's the ones who didn't believe her. No one is out here giving away free money

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Have you ever wanted to fire your therapist? I have (but not really). Therapy can be challenging. Listen in as I share my experience with my worse but best therapist yet.

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Topics discussed:

travel

domestic violence

mental health

therapy

wellness

anxiety

relationships

work/life balance

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It's a Wild Time in the World

Fri, 31 May 2024 10:12:48 GMT

The news broke of Trump being a 34 time felon while I was driving and talking to my grandma-what a wild time in the world.

As a political science major I do not argue folks down about who they vote for. It is not my business. However it does say a lot on both sides about people. So don't let the election take you into the arguing with people way it's not worth it.

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However having an ex president try to become the President again with felons is wild in a world where felons can't get jobs, housing, and so much more

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On the episode we cover the shocking news, mental health, and getting you and your family summer ready. What's your plan?

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We are half way into the year what is your game plan?

People Pleasing and Mental Health

Fri, 07 Jun 2024 05:03:01 GMT

If you ever been in your people pleasing phase then you know the toll it takes on your mental health. From being mad at yourself for always feeling giving in and not saying no when it needs to, from feeling as if your being nice is hurting you, and more, You know that people pleasing isn't where you want to be.

So like Melissa said, we not holding hands anymore. No more trying to get folks to see your side. Also we learning to use NO alone where only NO is strong enough to work.

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IN addition we talk about the Roots Picnic and a brand trip this week. Also Bad Boys Ride or Die is out

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The way these fathers are set up

Fri, 14 Jun 2024 03:28:04 GMT

Its Fathers day weekend and I am not sugar coating how these fathers are. However it is not in the way that you think. I share my own pain around my own biological father. What it means to have that Kirk Franklin' Somebody's son(daughter) experience.

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Why are some Content Creators so mean and full of drama? Yall just eating it up. Everytime you share bad content, controversial content, and more you help line their pockets. Share content that best sets well with you. If you are going to give examples of bad content creation don't even say their name

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Salute to all good dads. May the be blessed. Do what is best for you this weekend and beyond.

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Mental Health Doesn't get a Vacation

Fri, 21 Jun 2024 04:00:47 GMT

This is the last episode of Season 10. Do not worry I will be back. I love to incorporate breaks. But be on standby in case anything should happen. In addition, check out the many other episodes from past seasons until our official return.

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On this episode I am covering summer vibes. How to take care of your mental health during the summer. Summer may be light but mental health doesn't take a vacation.

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Solo trips, staycations, and filling your own cup is all on the line for you this summer. We not allowing everyone else to have a good time and depleting from us to enjoy the good times and more. SO more yes days to you

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Safe Spaces for Black Women with Chianti Lomax

Fri, 26 Jul 2024 01:36:55 GMT

Chianti Lomax took a jump for her life when she jumped out a plane. What that taught her about fear and so many other lessons compelled her to write the book, Evolving While Black. This book is for those who are ready to make changes while also acknowledging their own mental wellness.

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This conversation style book is life changing. Like Lomax has said being able to say things that Black women are familiar with made it easy to keep the flow of this project.

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Our conversation covers triumph, perseverance, traumas, truths and most importantly joy.

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As a season 11 opener this sets the bar high for what you can expect on the podcast including new segments: Fly on the wall, and what I am watching/reading these days

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Expect the energy to be high as we dive into all things of how Evolving while Black

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Who you are with matters

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 04:00:21 GMT

Relationships are beautiful. If you are with the wrong person it can be a detriment to your mental health. This week we saw stories of Triad wives and how the men who are in controlling your every move. The one in particular gave up Julliard to be with her now husband. They have 8 children where she wasn't allowed to have an epidural.

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Can a man that calls the shots be the same one that can be concerned and hands on with the way you take the time for your wellness?

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On this episode we discuss:

Politics burnout

Mental Health

Relationships

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The "Ok" Friend

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 04:13:38 GMT

Some of us allow the OK friend to exist in your world even when their lack of friendship was never okay. Everyone has a life but when a pattern of friendship is drier than the Sahara then it is time to call it. I know that we want more from ourselves and our friends so don't play games thinking you can revive a dead situation because you can't

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In addition,... what is your wellness plan? August is Wellness month and a time to shift your plan into getting to the best version of yourself. This makes sense since so many of us will be back to school or back to an after summer vacation routine

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It's national book lovers day. A day to celebrate the readers of the world who like to get lost in a great book. Here are some book recommendations

Bookstores to visit in Philadelphia:

Harriet's Book store
A Novel Idea on Passyunk
Black and Nobel
Hakim's Bookstore and gift shop
Uncle Bobbie's Coffee and Book shop
Julia de Burgos Bookstore

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Prepare Dem Babies

Fri, 16 Aug 2024 04:00:29 GMT

Welcome to another week and another set of topics. This week we talk about boundaries and how setting them is helpful for your mental health. This all stems from the uproar over Jackie Aina blocking people for saying underhanded comments over her possible nuptials. FYI Jackie has always stood on the blocking ministry.

In addition we are about to send these kids back in the classroom so while we buy sneakers, uniforms, and more, let's focus on their mental health:

Therapy for kids anxiety about going back into the classroom
Talks to see what they are feeling
Giving them tips to help them in many social situations

How are you preparing your older kids that are about to hit the adult world? Are you preparing all of your kids and not just them girls in how they take care of themselves and more.

Other topics include your personal journey. When your kids are going back to school, so do you. What about the switch from Summer to Fall-what tools are you using? Are you ready?

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Don't take the Bait

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 10:56:52 GMT

Welcome to another week of an episode of Conversations with Toi. This week we are on top of the social media stories that has been on the internet. From the 17 year old mom who was being put out due to not cooking food for her 20 year old. In addition there is a picture floating around the internet of young girls who happen to be high schoolers with bust down wigs, lashes, and more. So the conversation took a turn on whether or not the girls were "too grown."

Lastly displaced stay at home moms-are you all okay? Yes if you allow your husband to work and you don't have any income, no skillset, and more you set up yourself for anything in the future. This is coming from a retired stay at home mom so I do know what I am talking about.

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Don't take the bait-how many comments are you engaging with folks online matters? I am on a 2 comment limit with folks regardless. Even if I know them. I am not allowing anyone to take me there over the internet. Great practice to be about too during this election season too.

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Make sure you are registered to vote

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For my remote workers a little self care

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Lows of Mental Health

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 04:00:25 GMT

Sometimes the lows of mental health can be a lot. This week I felt like I had been hit so hard that it felt impossible to get through. I want to remind you that it felt like that, and I was able to push through. If you have moments when you feel like you are tested and you feel like you are losing, you aren't.

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Such tools as therapy, setting boundaries, retreating temporarily are helpful to help you gain insight and move forward.

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My heart goes out to the victims and in my opinion preventable deaths of the 2 students and 2 teachers killed at Apalachee High School. in addition to the many who were injured. May your healing and love be as close as the tragedy.

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You deserve the things

Fri, 13 Sep 2024 23:10:58 GMT

On this week we remind you how deserving of good you are owed. Life happens to all of us. When things go left remember that you are deserving of the life you seek. Do the work. Remain committed to the good.

Also Diddy the Diddler is at it again and this time with Danity Kane's own Dawn Richards. The abuse she alleges is heartbreaking. At this point I don't know if cancel culture really exists but if it did he would need to be the first on the list. Damaging harm to someone's mental health alone is absolutely horrible. The demeaning ways in which he controlled these women is astonishing.

Mental health has its highs and lows. You can experience joy and I pray that for you always.

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Who has your joy?

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 04:00:24 GMT

Who has your joy? Joy sometimes is what we give away-why. Joy is not for sale. You don't need to give the keys to your happiness to others. Often times we count on others to be happy. Your happiness is your job, Do it well.

What is your joy and happiness worth?

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We talked about P Diddy many times and this week he was charged and denied bail 3 times. What does that mean for his victims? His family especially the 4 Combs girls and his sons? What will happen in the coming months.

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Take us out of the group chat

Fri, 27 Sep 2024 04:00:18 GMT

Happy Friday and we have a new episode this week. There is a lot going on with Cardi B, P Diddy, Hoda KotB and more. So with that said let's dive into the episode of Keep us out of the group chat. If you think this is a bashing episode it's not.

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Topics discussed is the hits that many women take in their careers for our children. Hoda doing what she needs to do for her children is so familiar to so many. Whether you are a stay at home mom or working mom the struggle is real

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How many women have been hurt by a man? It becomes so real. So when a relationship ends so much of our emotions are tied. Cardi B is tired and also postpartum. So we will see how that ends. However there are some lessons for all of us

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Diddy saga continues: we will see what happens including the marriages and relationships that unfolds from it

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Other topics discussed: goals we not waiting for the New year just because we didn't do enough to honor ourselves this year. We taking the goals and starting them now.

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The Love Habit for Wellness with Rainie Howard

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 09:37:16 GMT

On this episode we talk about self care, boundaries, toxic relationships, and more with Rainie Howard

Rainie Howard is a renowned bestselling author, speaker, and visionary leader in personal

development. With over 17 years of experience, Rainie has connected with millions worldwide

through her powerful teachings on self-love, emotional healing, and relationship building. As the CEO of Love Book Store, an e-commerce business, and InspiredFlow, a leadership and life

coaching firm, she is dedicated to empowering individuals to live with purpose and fulfillment.

Rainie’s latest book, The Love Habit, is a transformative guide that empowers readers to

cultivate healthier relationships while embracing the transformative power of self-love. Her

groundbreaking work has been featured on major platforms like FOX, NBC, and ABC,

reinforcing her status as a leading authority on emotional intelligence, mental health, and

spiritual growth.

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Beyond her professional achievements, Rainie is a devoted wife, nurturing mother, and award-

winning humanitarian. Through her podcast, The Rainie Howard Show, she continues to inspire

and uplift audiences, providing insights that guide others toward holistic growth and a life filled

with joy and fulfillment. Rainie's mission is to help people awaken their inner potential,

encouraging them to embrace their unique strengths and lead empowered, purposeful lives.

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You can follow her on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and of course get her books on Amazon

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The Struggles are real

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 11:28:18 GMT

Welcome back from my very unplanned hiatus. I wasn't planning on taking such a long break and I make no apologies. As your resident self care queen, breaks are apart of self care. So with that being said we are back feeling great about the podcast and most importantly life.

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The struggles are real. Happy November 1st as we talk all things holidays and more. With the holidays around the corner there are many that will find themselves struggling more than normal. The absence of family and more make it hard. SO do what is best for you.

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Also in addition how was my Atlanta trip, what goals are yall setting without steps to complete them and so much more?

Holiday help:

Thanksgiving Survival kit from books, music, podcast listens and more how to make the day as pleasant as possible

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No Amen Corner Needed

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 05:00:25 GMT

This isn't about one candidate over another. This is about what you saw as palpable and how that translates to you. We collectively are taking a break. For many of us the self care is deep. A lot of us have to recharge.

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We do not need an amen corner. I will never argue with anyone over choices. I respect choices. So while I won't argue with folks it doesn't mean that I need agreement. No amen corner is needed to feel the feels. In this episode we will cover my personal thoughts regarding the election. In addition how can you or I create joy. What activities can you do to take care of how you feel. Did you lose family or friends? You may be hurting. Did you see people for the first time and it baffles you? Let's talk about it.

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Treat them people Right

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 18:59:43 GMT

Why are people so insensitive to others? Either way let today's podcast be your reminder to treat people right. Being dismissive towards people you see no value in is diabolical.

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What is your wins for the week? I am celebrating my 10th Blogiversary. Taking the time to write and do what I love is no easy feat. So here I am standing in 10 years and I am not stopping any time soon.

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Follow the blog and today's blog on the lessons that I learned in these 10 years

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Stop Lying

Fri, 22 Nov 2024 11:40:07 GMT

Since the elections there has been a few white women who stated that they were told that those who voted against Trump was going to jump women like her. If that is the case she wanted us to know that she and those who look like her ar ready for war.

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Stop lying-no one is jumping anyone.

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This week's books: Jaleel White, Growing up Urkel and Keke Palmer, Master of Me is out and definitely worth the read,

Lisa Rae is back and talking to Carlos King on his YouTube show about her life.

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The Internet is a strange place

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 06:27:35 GMT

I am back with a new episode after being off unintentionally from being sick. Now that I am back I am happy to do so. With that being said, y'all were acting up on these Internet streets. From waxings going wrong to not paying Content Creators again....here' is this week's episode

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Definitely have an explicit language warning as we dive deep into the world that is the Internet.

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Your Goals your way-New Year Preppin

Fri, 27 Dec 2024 11:32:37 GMT

It's almost that time where we celebrate the New Year. So many people are so mad at those who want to reset. First I pray that you renew in every way. It's hard taking that first step when doubt if you will complete it is in your ear. If you listen to the folks they will discourage you at the same time telling you to do something. The world can be a confusing place, right?

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As we shift into a new year and a new mindset know that goals are set by you or should be done as often as possible. Whether you believe in a vision board or not here's your chance to do what feels good for you,

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This is the last episode of this season. We are taking our official break. I know i had been gone due to being sick, I will be back with season 12 stronger than ever. So cheers to you and your family this New year.

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New Year goal setting blogs:

Prepping for the new year

Ways to get kids excited for the new year

Getting Organized in the new year

Jane Season 3 on Apple TV+

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 04:00:13 GMT

Have you gotten the opportunity to see Jane on Apple TV+? You are missing out but all is not lost. You can watch all of the seasons including the newest that released on April 18.

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Jane is an Emmy Award-winning, mission-driven series for kids and families inspired by the work of world-renowned ethologist and conservationist, Dr. Jane Goodall, DBE, founder of the Jane Goodall Institute and a United Nations Messenger of Peace. In Jane, Ava Louise Murchison (“Reacher”) stars as Jane Garcia, a 9-year-old budding environmentalist on a quest to save endangered animals. Using her powerful imagination, Jane takes her best friends David (played by Mason Blomberg of Shameless) and Greybeard the chimpanzee on epic adventures to help protect wild animals all around the world. According to her idol Dr. Jane Goodall: “Only if we understand, will we care. Only if we care, will we help. Only if we help, can they be saved.”

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Jane marks the second Apple Original series produced by Sinking Ship Entertainment, joining the acclaimed, Daytime Emmy Award-winning series Ghostwriter. From Sinking Ship Entertainment, Jane is a live-action/CGI blended series created by company partner J.J. Johnson, who executive produces alongside Christin Simms.

Creator, Showrunner, Executive Producer, Director, Writer. J.J. Johnson is the creative force and founding partner of Sinking Ship Entertainment where he has created and executive produced

17 series. Johnson is a three-time Emmy Award-winning director and three-time Emmy-nominated writer with over 550 episode credits. He has also won two overall production Emmys for programs he created –“Dino Dan” (2010) for Outstanding Pre-School

Children's Series in 2015 and “Giver” (2012) for Outstanding Education or Informational Series in 2018. Johnson has been listed on both The Hollywood Reporter and Playback's Top 10 lists and his groundbreaking series have sold to over 200 territories worldwide. He is also the co-chair of the Youth Media Alliance in Canada.

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🎙️ Conversations with Toi – Special Episode: VinylCon Philly 🎶

Wed, 07 May 2025 10:18:59 GMT

Join Toi as she sits down with Kobi to dive into the excitement of VinylCon! Philadelphia, the ultimate celebration of vinyl culture happening right in the heart of Philly. Whether you're a seasoned collector or just discovering the magic of vinyl, this event is packed with music, memorabilia, and a vibrant community of enthusiasts.

Tune in as Toi and Kobi discuss what makes VinylCon special, the must-see attractions, and how you can be part of the experience.

📅 Event Dates: May 10-11, 2025 📍 Location: 23rd Street Armory, Philadelphia, PA 🎟️ Get your tickets here: VinylCon! Philadelphia - May 10-11

Don't miss this episode—it's time to turn up the volume on vinyl culture!

Tent Anyone?

Fri, 17 Jan 2025 05:24:51 GMT

We're back with a whole new season. From my own ways of showing up and more here is to a new season and what to look forward to.

Could you sleep in a tent for love? I hope what we saw last week shows us that having standards and morals is serious

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Response but not Reactive

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 04:32:18 GMT

Have you ever had a moment where you felt so overwhelmed and you wanted to be reactive? A birth certificate sent me into a tailspin. That tailspin almost had me thinking the worst and when I stopped to think about it, it was my reaction to it that could have made it worse.

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All of these changes happening in our world is adding so much stress into the atmosphere. SO what are your short term and long terms of aiding you through this journey?

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Barely Escaping with our Edges

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 10:34:12 GMT

What a week. From the newest executive orders, DEI, rescinds and more how are you really doing?: This is an honest conversation about what to look forward to and how to manage the ups and downs without burn out.

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So here's to more calming moments. For those who struggle with your choices in the last few weeks trust me it's not gonna get easier. Here's to buyer's remorse and a helping of a new plan to move forward

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Here's a Little Encouragement

Fri, 07 Feb 2025 04:23:15 GMT

Life is life(ing) for all of us in some way. This episode is about a little encouragement can go a long way. When life hands you lemons you may know to make Lemonade but are too depressed, sad, or just feeling out of it to do so.

We have to find some joy

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This weeks blog, self care for tumultuous times

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Be My Valentine the Water Down Saga

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 04:48:45 GMT

Today is the love day. So you have some who are doing all they can to shower their person with love and trinkets.

You have others who are with someone who they love Valentine's Day with someone who doesn't even believe in the holiday. Can you be with someone who doesn't honor your love language?

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Today can also be a reminder of what you desire but saying that as a single or uncoupled person could be deemed wrong. Why? You should be able to be expressive

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Whatever you are dealing with today may your today be filled with as much peace as you would allow it

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Music Woes and Comfort

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 05:51:31 GMT

Happy Friday and welcome back or thank you for checking the podcast if this is your first time.On this weeks episode is about how music can be a point of comfort. This week my car slide into oncoming traffic and it was not only scary but it pushed on my anxiety.

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How can music help in your mental health?

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Pour more Love

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 05:00:17 GMT

Life is short. Why do we make things so hard. We need to increase more love to others. So many people are hurting. Have you made enough deposits into others before you come for others.

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On this episode we talk relationships. friendships, and how we can give genuine support to one another. In the world where everyone is going left, losing jobs, and more it's good to have someone who is willing to help you

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What we can learn from a group of friends who helped their friend through her postpartum depression

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As always thank you for your support

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Target who?

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 04:42:21 GMT

In this week's mental health moment the topic of burnout or depression. Experiencing both has been a challenge of discovery. As a PK (Preachers kid) I don't want to call things into my world that isn't there but also want to be honest about where I stand.

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Your girl is almost 2 full months of no Target shopping? So what happened to those mental health walks in all of the aisles?

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Caleb Wilson deserved more. Continuing praying for an answer for his family and friends.

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Not yall took do what makes you happy as a sign to really do what you want

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What Your Routine Say about you

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 04:00:09 GMT

🌟 Welcome to Conversations with Toi! 🌟 Ever wondered what your morning and night routines reveal about you? 🕒 Whether you're an early bird catching the worm or a night owl chasing dreams, your habits can speak volumes! Join us as we uncover fun facts—like how morning people are often go-getters, while night owls may be bursting with creativity—and share tips to make your daily rituals work for you. 🌙✨

I want to hear from YOU! What's your morning or nighttime ritual? Drop a comment below or tag me on social media @toitimeblog with your routine. 💬 Your insights could be featured in a future episode!

Hit that subscribe button to stay in the loop, and don’t forget to give this episode a thumbs-up if it made you rethink your routines. Let’s keep the conversation alive and inspire each other to build better habits, one day at a time. 🎙️

Here are some blogs to help with your morning routine:

https://www.toitime.org/defining-your-morning-routine/

Night Routine:

https://www.toitime.org/night-time-routine-sleep/

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The Dark Side of Content Creation

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 04:05:07 GMT

In this episode, we dive into the world of content creation and the unexpected drama that unfolded in Philadelphia. We explore the challenges faced by creators and shine a spotlight on the controversy surrounding Happiest Baby, a company known for its innovative baby products. Join us as we unpack the story of a content creator's experience with the company, the fallout that followed, and what it reveals about the relationship between brands and creators in today's digital age.

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Happy Spring! As the season of renewal blooms, I share tips on how to enhance your spring wellness and embrace fresh, positive habits. Don’t forget to follow me on all social media platforms as Toitimeblog—and check out my newly updated and refreshed website for even more inspiration!

Travel Therapy

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 10:51:47 GMT

"Wander & Renew" is your gateway to blending travel and wellness into your lifestyle. Whether you're embarking on solo adventures or group getaways, this podcast offers practical tips and insights to enhance every journey. On top of that, explore weekly wellness initiatives to help you recharge, refocus, and approach the upcoming week with intention.

From mindful practices to nourishing routines, "Wander & Renew" inspires balance and renewal—wherever life takes you. Tune in, subscribe, and leave a review—we'd love to hear how we're helping you discover your best self!

Tune in, subscribe, and leave a review—we'd love to hear how we're helping you discover your best self! And don’t forget to follow the journey on our blog at www.toitime.org and on social platforms as Toitimeblog.

Choices & Grace

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 04:00:47 GMT

Life is a winding road filled with unexpected twists, tough choices, and moments of doubt—but in the midst of it all, there is grace. The Graceful Journey is your space for real conversations about navigating life’s uncertainties, embracing the unknown, and trusting the process with faith and intention. Whether you're facing a major life transition or simply seeking wisdom for everyday decisions, this podcast offers stories, insights, and encouragement to help you move forward with grace and purpose. Because the journey isn’t about perfection—it’s about growth.

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Love Uptempo, Volume 1 with Kevin Ross

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 04:00:14 GMT

🎙 Conversations with Toi: Special Edition – Kevin Ross & Love Uptempo Vol. 1 🎶

In this exclusive episode of Conversations with Toi, we sit down with the incredibly talented Kevin Ross as he takes us behind the scenes of his latest project, Love Uptempo Vol. 1. From the creative process to the inspiration behind the music, Kevin shares insights into his artistry and what makes this new EP a must-listen for R&B lovers.

But that's not all—Kevin is bringing his electrifying energy to Philadelphia on April 12th at City Winery for two unforgettable shows at 6 PM and 9:30 PM. Whether you're a longtime fan or just discovering his music, this episode is your perfect prelude to an incredible night of live performances.

Get your tickets for His Love Uptempo Tour stopping at City Winery in Philly.

Tune in, turn up the volume, and get ready for an inspiring conversation with one of R&B’s finest

Missed Kevin's first two appearances on the Podcast:

https://go.goodpods.com/FvTnYa

https://go.goodpods.com/QCkvQi

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#kevinross #kevinrossmusic #podcast

Hope Rose's Hope

Fri, 18 Apr 2025 04:00:54 GMT

🎙 Conversations with Toi: Special Edition – Hope Rose: Turning Pain into Purpose 💫

Trigger warning for abuse, surviving domestic abuse

Sometimes life calls us to a purpose we never expected. That’s exactly what birthed Hope Rose—a movement inspired by its founder Hope, who has transformed profound loss and unimaginable challenges into a mission to help others.

Through her journey of healing, Hope has found purpose in sharing her story, including the trials of her son being trafficked. She is building a space where those in need of support, guidance, and healing can turn their pain into a beautiful masterpiece.

With decades of entrepreneurial experience, a background as a sponsored ultra-endurance athlete, and a self-published book on health and wellness, Hope has been featured on NBC Nightly News, the Today Show, and other major platforms. Now, she steps into a new chapter—one dedicated to uplifting and serving others, showing that even the darkest moments can lead to transformation and hope.

Tune in for an unforgettable conversation about grief, resilience, and the power of purpose—and discover how rising from the ashes can lead to something truly beautiful.

Follow Hope Rose on Instagram, Podcast, and YouTube

Also she does coaching

To get her journals and more shop her store.

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Need resources for you as you navigate CPS?

Autism Talks with Michael Pereira

Fri, 02 May 2025 03:39:03 GMT

Conversations with Toi: Navigating Life & Financial Planning for Special Needs Families

In this insightful episode, Toi sits down with Michael Pereira, Founder of The Autism Voyage®, to discuss the unique financial and life-planning challenges faced by parents of special needs children. As a dedicated financial professional specializing in insurance planning—and an autism dad himself—Michael understands firsthand the importance of having a proactive strategy in place.

His mission is clear: bridging the gap between insurance solutions and real-life challenges, equipping families with the tools to secure their future with confidence. No one understands the struggles, victories, and uncertainties quite like another parent walking this path.

Join us as we explore essential insights, personal stories, and practical advice to empower families navigating similar journeys.

📌 Learn more at www.TheAutismVoyage.com 📸 Instagram: @TheAutismVoyage 💼 LinkedIn: Michael Pereira

#autism #autismsupport #podcast #conversationswithtoi

A Love Letter to Moms—Reflections, Growth & Celebration

Fri, 09 May 2025 10:22:38 GMT

This week’s episode is a tribute to all the moms out there as we celebrate Mother’s Day—the love, the lessons, and even the bittersweet moments. Joined by my wonderful children, Naila, Marques Jr, and Noelle, we dive into the joys and challenges of motherhood, sharing memories, laughter, and real talk about the ways I can continue to grow as a mom.

For those who feel pain during this time, we acknowledge and honor your journey, holding space for the full range of emotions this day brings. Whether you’re celebrating or simply reflecting, this episode is for you.

Tune in as we talk all things mommyhood, personal growth, and the beautiful, complicated love that shapes us.

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A Spotlight on The Dance Ground’s Extraordinary Journey and Mental Health

Fri, 16 May 2025 04:00:28 GMT

In this inspiring episode, Toi sits down with special guests Liz Jovovich, Priscilla Garner, and Andreas to celebrate a monumental achievement for The Dance Ground, Bucks County’s premier performing arts school.

Their youth dance company—an exceptional group of 23 talented dancers aged 11 to 18—has been invited to perform at the prestigious Chita Rivera Awards at NYU Skirball Center in New York City on May 19, 2025. The Chita Rivera Awards, the only awards ceremony dedicated solely to honoring excellence in dance and choreography across Broadway, Off-Broadway, and film, is a glittering celebration of the past, present, and future of dance.

Join us as we explore the passion, dedication, and artistry behind this incredible opportunity, diving into the creative process of renowned choreographers André Jovovich and Priscilla Garner, the impact of The Dance Ground dancers’ performance, and their inspiring effort to raise $30,000 for the NYC Dance Alliance Foundation—a nonprofit that provides college scholarships to talented teens pursuing dance careers.

Plus, hear firsthand from our guests about the significance of being part of a ceremony that will honor Broadway legend Ben Vereen with a Lifetime Achievement Award, and what this experience means for the future of young performers in the world of dance.

This episode is a celebration of movement, dedication, and the power of dance to inspire the next generation. Don't miss it!

Finding Hope in Mental Health Journeys

Fri, 23 May 2025 10:40:57 GMT

In this episode of Conversations with Toi, we're diving into the realities of mental health and wellness. The journey looks different for everyone—some may struggle with deep anxiety, while others battle waves of depression. It's easy to compare our experiences to those around us, but the truth is that no two paths are alike. Despite the challenges, one thing remains constant: there is always hope. Join me as we discuss ways to navigate these ups and downs, find support, and cultivate resilience in our everyday lives.

Happy Memorial Day to all

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The Power of the Pause: Lessons from My Break, Boundaries & Breakthroughs

Fri, 13 Jun 2025 10:20:23 GMT

This week’s episode is deeply personal. After a two-week hiatus, I’m opening up about where I’ve been, what I’ve learned, and why stepping back was necessary. From the power of setting boundaries to the surprising breakthroughs that followed, I’m sharing the lessons that only silence and stillness can reveal.

We’re also talking content creation—not the hustle, but the heart of it. And the hard truth? Real success starts when we learn to genuinely celebrate others instead of feeding the jealousy beast.

Tune in for the honesty, the growth, and the encouragement to take your own pause when you need it.

Let’s grow, together.

#ConversationsWithToi #PodcastEpisode #MentalHealthMatters #ContentCreationTips #CelebrateOthers #CreativeBreakthrough #SetBoundaries #PodcastLife #SelfGrowthJourney #EmotionalWellness #AuthenticLiving #SupportOverJealousy

Anger Talks and Wellness

Fri, 27 Jun 2025 06:23:08 GMT

In this episode of Conversations with Toi, we’re unpacking one of the most misunderstood emotions: anger. Is it always a negative force—or can it be a surprising catalyst for personal growth? LaToi explores how acknowledging anger can be an essential part of self-care and how, when harnessed with intention, it can ignite motivation and drive. It’s not about suppressing the heat—it’s about learning to cook with it. Tune in for real talk, self-reflection, and tools to turn your inner fire into forward motion

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Also my collab with Instagram:

Here are the 5 powerful ways Instagram is helping through its Teen Accounts that I learned:1. Safer connections: Under 18 accounts default to private settings—no unwanted messages or tags from strangers.2. Wellness support: Teens get daily time reminders and sleep-friendly notification pauses between 10PM–7AM.3. Content filters: Instagram hides sensitive content, including topics like tobacco, alcohol, and sexually suggestive material.4. Parental supervision: The Family Center lets you approve settings, monitor activity, and receive age-related alerts.5. Protection while posting: Teens under 16 can’t go live without approval, and tools like Hidden Words reduce bullying and harmful comments.

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This is a movement toward guidance—not surveillance. Let’s raise screen-smart teens with trust, clarity, and care..👉 Learn more about Instagram’s tools and resources for parents, including Teen Accounts: meta.me/screensmart.#InstagramScreenSmart #metapartner

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More Joi with Joi Carter

Sat, 26 Jul 2025 17:43:23 GMT

🎙️ Episode Title: Joi Carter — Soulful Journeys and City Winery Vibes

In this vibrant episode, LaToi sits down with the powerhouse vocalist and performer Joi Carter for an intimate conversation that flows as effortlessly as her music. From the rhythm of her latest tour to the heartbeats behind her lyrics, Joi opens up about the life experiences that shape her sound and spirit. We dive into her creative process, the highs and lessons of the road, and what it means to stay grounded while chasing dreams.

✨ And if you're in Philly, don’t miss your chance to see Joi live tonight at City Winery Philadelphia—a performance you won’t forget.

Tune in for inspiration, soul, and a whole lot of Joi.

#JoiCarter #CityWineryPhilly #LiveMusic #PodcastVibes #SoulSessions #WomenInMusic #AuthenticVoices

Mental Health Agility

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 04:00:26 GMT

🧠✨ Mental Health Agility: The Power of Emotional Flexibility

In this episode, we’re diving into the concept of mental health agility—the ability to adapt, bounce back, and thrive through life’s emotional curveballs. Whether you're navigating anger, stress, or self-doubt, mental agility offers tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and growth.

🎙️ We’ll explore:

How to shift your mindset when everything feels stuck
Strategies to embrace discomfort and build resilience
Ways to practice emotional self-care with compassion
Personal reflections and stories that remind us we’re not alone

If you're on a journey to strengthen your mental muscles and stay grounded through the chaos, this one's for you. Subscribe, comment, and join the conversation—we’re growing stronger, together.

#MentalHealthAgility #EmotionalWellness #SelfCareTools #ResilientMindset #AuthenticLiving #GrowThroughIt #MotivationMonday #PodcastVibes

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From Streets to Sanctuary: Politics, Philly Tea, and Personal Wins

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 05:27:52 GMT

This week on Conversations with Toi, we’re stirring the pot and sipping the truth.

We dive into Trump’s latest executive order targeting mental health, drug addiction, and homelessness—what does it mean for our communities, and how should we respond with compassion and clarity?

Then we spill the tea on the Tea App, especially the Philly edition that’s taken over the App Store. Why is everyone talking, and what does it say about our need for connection and drama?

Plus, I’m sharing my wins of the week—because celebrating progress is part of the journey. And we’ll explore how finding your inner sanctuary can unlock a deeper flow of joy in your life and ripple outward into the world.

Tap into the Summer Abroad AR Tour for a global experience right from your phone:

Follow me everywhere @toitimeblog and catch all the latest on the blog: www.toitime.org

#teaapp #phillyteaapp #trump #politics #mentalhealth

Top Billin’ and Top Laughs with Bill Bellamy

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 04:49:28 GMT

In this can’t-miss episode, Toi sits down with comedy legend and cultural icon Bill Bellamy—the original coiner of the phrase “booty call,” and star of films like How to Be a Player, Love Jones, and Any Given Sunday. From MTV fame to unforgettable stand-up moments, Bellamy shares reflections on his dynamic career and drops gems ahead of his Top Billin’ Tour, making its way to City Winery Philadelphia.

Grab your tickets for Saturday and Sunday

Remember there are 2 shows for those 2 days so get in the building and enjoy.

Also follow Bill Bellamy on Instagram, Linktree, and his podcast, Top Billing

But this episode is more than laughs and legacy—Toi also dives into:• The great school supply debate: Who’s responsible and why it hits deeper than expected• How to handle folks who try to humble you—with grace, boundaries, and a little fire• The mindset shift that sets the tone for back-to-school season and beyond. It's equal parts inspiration, insight, and entertainment—seasoned with Toi’s signature storytelling. Whether you’re chasing dreams, checking lists, or confronting low-key shade, this episode is your back-to-school vibe check. Follow me on all socials as @toitimeblog and on the blog.

Navigating Your Personal Winter”

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 04:20:10 GMT

In this week’s episode of Conversations with Toi, we’re diving deep into the emotional seasons of life—especially the chilling, isolating ones we often call our “personal winters.” ❄️ I’m sharing my own recent joys as a reminder that light does exist, even when the days feel dark. From journaling and therapy to intentional self-care, I’ll walk you through the tools that have helped me survive and thrive during life’s toughest moments.

Plus, we’re unpacking the TikTok story that’s got everyone talking: a young woman’s viral confession about falling in love with her therapist. What does it say about emotional vulnerability, boundaries, and the search for connection?

Whether you're in a season of bloom or battling the frost, this episode offers warmth, wisdom, and a reminder that you’re never alone.

If this episode resonated with you, let’s keep the conversation going! Dive deeper into self-care, emotional growth, and seasonal wellness over on the blog at www.toitime.org—your go-to space for intentional living and real talk.

Follow me on all socials @toitimeblog for daily inspiration, behind-the-scenes moments, and updates on new content. Whether it’s a podcast drop, a blog post, or a dose of motivation, I’m showing up for you—just like you show up for yourself.

Let’s grow through what we go through.

Living Loud with ADHD — A Real Talk with Ron Souers

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 04:20:08 GMT

In this powerful and radically honest episode, LaToi sits down with Ron Souers—ADHD advocate, podcast host, and fierce kindness coach—to unpack the emotional truth behind living with ADHD. Ron doesn’t just talk about ADHD—he lives it, breathes it, and helps others navigate it with compassion, clarity, and courage.

Together, we explore:

• The emotional weight of late diagnosis and masking

• How ADHD intersects with identity, trauma, and self-worth

• Why being honest about our neurodivergence is the first step toward healing

• Practical tools for thriving in a world that wasn’t built for our brains

This isn’t just an interview—it’s a permission slip to be seen, heard, and celebrated. ADHD affects millions, but it doesn’t have to define us. Ron reminds us that with the right support and mindset, ADHD can be a source of creativity, resilience, and connection.

🧠 Listen to Ron’s podcast: Don't Mind Me, I Just Have ADHD

🌐 Visit his website: YourADHDGuy.com

📓 Grab his free journal: Self-Discovery Journal for Adults with ADHD

📺 Watch his YouTube interview: Navigating ADHD with Ron Souers

📲 Connect with Ron on social:

Instagram: @youradhdguy

Facebook: Your ADHD Guy

TikTok: @youradhdguy

💬 Whether you’ve been diagnosed, are still figuring it out, or love someone with ADHD—this episode is for you. Let’s make it cool to be different. Let’s make it safe to be real.

✨ For more self-care and wellness tips, honest conversations, and seasonal inspiration, be sure to follow me, Toi on the blog at www.toitime.org and across socials at @toitimeblog. Your journey to intentional living starts here.

Bad Days Don't Last Always

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 20:31:38 GMT

In this episode, I open up about a moment of emotional heaviness—when the schedule, the expectations, and the pressure to keep going became too much. From sitting in a locked car to pray and listen to music, to leaning into the joy of family and choosing rest, this story is a reminder that healing doesn’t always look like productivity. It looks like presence. It looks like connection. And sometimes, it looks like going to bed early.If you’ve ever felt like the world was too loud and your spirit too tired, this one’s for you.

Check me out on the blog as well as on social media platforms as Toitimeblog

#MentalHealthMatters #HealingInRealTime #ToitimePodcast #EmotionalWellness #AuthenticLiving #BlackMentalHealth #ADHDAwareness #RestIsResistance

When the Fog Returns: My Journey Through Episodic Depression

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 20:53:09 GMT

This week, I’m opening up about a deeply personal struggle—episodic depression. It’s not always visible, and it doesn’t always make sense. One moment I’m thriving, the next I’m navigating a wave of sadness, fatigue, and disconnection that seems to arrive unannounced. In this episode, I share what these episodes feel like, how they’ve shaped my self-care practices, and the tools I’ve leaned on to find clarity when the fog rolls in.Whether you’ve experienced this yourself or know someone who has, I invite you into this honest conversation. Let’s break the silence, build understanding, and remind each other that healing isn’t linear—but it is possible.

Follow my journey and read more on the blog: www.toitime.org Connect with me on all socials: @toitimeblog

Accountability, Character & Culture Shifts

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 04:00:17 GMT

In this episode of Conversations with Toi, we’re diving deep into the power of accountability and the role character plays in how we show up—in our homes, communities, and online. From parenting through the chaos of the first week of school to navigating the emotional weight of public figures making headlines, we’re unpacking it all.

🖤 We reflect on the passing of fashion legend Giorgio Armani and the legacy he leaves behind 🔥 We discuss Kelly Price’s controversial outburst and the importance of responsible dialogue 🎒 Plus, a candid look at back-to-school transitions and how they test our patience, planning, and parenting grace

This episode is a mix of real talk, cultural commentary, and personal insight—because growth isn’t just about what we say, it’s about how we live.

✨ Follow me on socials @Toitimeblog and visit www.toitime.org for more wellness content, self-care guides, and honest conversations that help you thrive.

Stuck, Shutdowns, and Street Shenanigans

Fri, 03 Oct 2025 04:00:12 GMT

In this episode of Conversations with Toi, I'm diving deep into what it means to feel stuck—emotionally, creatively, and collectively. From navigating the weight of a government shutdown to the everyday chaos that almost had me checking somebody’s child in these Philly streets (yes, it got real), we’re unpacking reactive behavior, emotional regulation, and the power of pause.This isn’t just venting—it’s a sensory-rich, emotionally honest conversation about reclaiming your calm, even when the world feels loud. Whether you’re parenting through pressure, advocating through fatigue, or just trying to make it through the week without snapping, this one’s for you.Follow me on all socials @Toitimeblog and tap into the blog at www.toitime.org for more resources, reflections, and real talk

The Power of Going to Bed

Fri, 26 Sep 2025 04:01:59 GMT

In this soul-nourishing episode, we explore sleep not just as a biological necessity—but as a radical act of self-care. When life feels heavy, chaotic, or uncertain, going to bed can be one of the most powerful tools in your mental health toolkit. We’ll unpack how quality rest helps regulate emotions, restore clarity, and build resilience during hard times. Whether you're navigating grief, burnout, or just the everyday overwhelm, this episode reminds you that rest is not a luxury—it’s a lifeline.

Tune in for honest reflections, science-backed insights, and gentle encouragement to honor your body’s need for sleep. Because sometimes, the most productive thing you can do… is go to bed.

Follow the journey at www.toitime.org and connect with me on all socials @Toitimeblog for more wellness wisdom and intentional living.

Self-Care Red Flags You Shouldn’t Ignore

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 23:33:54 GMT

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that your self-care might be slipping through the cracks. From the glorification of overworking and never taking a break, to constantly saying “yes” when your soul is screaming “no,” we’re unpacking the habits that masquerade as productivity but actually drain your emotional and physical well-being.

We’ll explore red flags like:

• Feeling guilty for resting

• Ignoring your body’s signals (hello, burnout!)

• Equating your worth with your output

• Using busyness to avoid emotional discomfort

• Neglecting joy, creativity, and connection

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the hustle with no pause button, this episode is your gentle nudge to reclaim your peace.

Tune in now and let’s talk about what real self-care looks like.

Follow me on all socials @Toitimeblog and visit the blog at www.toitime.com for more honest conversations, wellness tips, and intentional living inspiration.

Triggered But Accountable

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 06:17:36 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the tension between emotional triggers and personal responsibility. From Kevin McCall’s raw revelation that wealth doesn’t shield you from life’s unpredictability, to Gucci Mane’s candid conversation with The Breakfast Club about his mental health journey—we explore how healing begins with honesty.

I also reflect on the books I’ve read this week: Kamala’s 107 Days, A Promised Land by Barack Obama, and Matriarch by Tina Knowles. Each story offers a unique lens on leadership, legacy, and the emotional labor of showing up—especially when triggered.

Three ways to take responsibility even when triggered:

• Pause before reacting: Give yourself space to respond, not explode.

• Own your patterns: Recognize when past wounds are shaping present behavior.

• Communicate with intention: Speak from truth, not trauma.

Let’s talk about what it means to be emotionally honest and accountable. Because growth isn’t just about feeling—it’s about choosing.

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As well as on all socials as Toitimeblog

When Peace Is Disrupted: Reclaiming Your Calm

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 22:13:07 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the moments when life shakes our inner stillness—unexpected conflict, emotional overwhelm, or simply too much noise. How do we respond when our peace is disrupted? I share grounded strategies for reclaiming calm, setting boundaries, and honoring your emotional truth without losing yourself. Whether you're navigating a tough season or a tough conversation, this episode offers soulful reminders and practical tools to help you reset, realign, and protect your peace with intention.

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The Thanksgiving Prep you Need

Sun, 16 Nov 2025 20:23:38 GMT

As Thanksgiving approaches, boundaries matter more than ever. In this heartfelt episode of Conversations with Toi, I dive into the real talk around setting and honoring boundaries—with yourself and with others. Whether you're navigating family dynamics, protecting your peace, or redefining what the holiday means to you, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and actionable insight.

🎙️ What I cover:

• Why boundaries are essential for emotional wellness

• How to communicate your needs without guilt

• Tips for creating space for joy, rest, and reflection

• Real-life examples of boundary-setting during the holidays

This episode is your reminder that you don’t have to sacrifice your well-being for tradition. Tune in, take notes, and walk into the season with intention.

Subscribe for more honest conversations on self-care, emotional growth, and living authentically.

Follow me on the blog as well as socials as Toitimeblog

#ThanksgivingBoundaries #SelfCareSeason #ConversationsWithToi #HolidayWellness #EmotionalGrowth

Holiday Blues, Honest Feelings, and Simple Joys

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 21:27:59 GMT

Welcome back to Conversations with Toi. The holidays can be a season of light, laughter, and togetherness—but they can also bring up feelings of grief, loneliness, and the holiday blues. In this episode, I’m opening up about what it means to be honest with ourselves during this season, how to acknowledge the hard moments, and why embracing simple joys can help us reconnect with what matters most.

We’ll talk about:

• The reality of holiday blues and how to recognize them

• The importance of being honest about your feelings instead of masking them

• Navigating grief during a season that often emphasizes cheer

• Finding grounding in small, intentional joys that remind us of what truly matters

This is a conversation about giving yourself permission to feel, while also creating space for gratitude and connection. Because the holidays aren’t about perfection—they’re about presence.

The holidays can be complicated. In this week’s episode of Conversations with Toi, I’m diving into the holiday blues, the importance of being honest about your feelings, and how grief shows up during this season. Together, we’ll explore the power of simple joys and why focusing on what matters most can help us navigate the ups and downs of the holidays with authenticity and grace.

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Visit my website: www.toitime.org

Matching Pjs..Matching Spirits

Fri, 12 Dec 2025 06:27:09 GMT

The holidays bring out the cozy traditions—matching pajamas, family photos, and curated moments that flood our timelines. But behind the festive snapshots, not every couple or family fits the picture-perfect mold. In this episode, we unpack the envy and pressure that can come with outward displays of “togetherness,” and why matching spirits matter far more than matching fabrics.

I also share my thoughts on the recently released Diddy documentary—why it left me far from disappointed and what it reveals about resilience, reinvention, and truth-telling in the public eye.

Finally, we’ll explore the best gifts you can give yourself this season that don’t cost a dime: peace of mind, boundaries, rest, and the joy of being fully present. Because sometimes the most valuable presents are the ones you don’t wrap at all.

Follow me on all socials as @toitimeblog and on the blog, www.toitime.org

Own it all 2026

Sat, 20 Dec 2025 00:10:15 GMT

In this festive episode of Conversations with Toi, we’re celebrating the holidays and then diving headfirst into how to make 2026 your year of radical self-honesty. Forget the usual resolutions—we’re owning the hiccups that stand in our way and making personal development the main character of our story

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If you’re ready to move past surface-level resolutions and start doing the work that truly transforms you, this conversation is for you.

Follow me on all socials @toitimeblog and visit the blog at www.toitime.org for more intentional living, wellness, and real-life conversations.

Leaving Spaces Better

Fri, 02 Jan 2026 15:48:25 GMT

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, we're stepping into the new year with intention, clarity, and a commitment to growth. I’m diving into what it really means to leave spaces—and people—better than you found them. This isn’t just a cute saying; it’s a mindset shift that shapes how you move, how you love, and how you show up in every room.

We’re also talking about refusing to be anyone’s “build-a-bear”—no more letting people mold you into what works for them while abandoning what works for you. This year is about honoring your boundaries, protecting your peace, and setting goals that reflect who you truly are.

If you’re ready to walk into the new year with purpose and a renewed sense of self, this episode is your reminder that you get to choose how you show up and what you leave behind.

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Non Traditional Ways to Support your Strong Friends

Fri, 09 Jan 2026 17:51:29 GMT

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, we’re diving into the non‑traditional ways to check in on the “strong friend”—the one who always shows up, always holds it together, and rarely gets asked how they’re really doing. We’re talking about the subtle check-ins, the intentional gestures, and the everyday ways you can support the people who seem the most unshakeable.

This conversation is all about wellness, emotional honesty, and creating space for the people who pour into everyone else. If you’re ready to rethink how you show up for your circle—and yourself—this episode is for you.

Internet street segment: Pastors battling comments in the pulpit, sexual assault allegations of Donnie McClurkin, and Love to those who loved Richard Smallwood

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Running a Tight Program

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 16:04:27 GMT

In this episode of 'Conversations With Toi,' we're unpacking the idea of 'running a tight program' in relationships. Are we really as in control as we think? We'll also talk about processing grief following the loss of my aunt, and the complexities of navigating a relationship—or the absence of one—with my biological father.

And with winter on the way, we're wrapping up with some tips on prepping for the upcoming snowstorm—because a little preparation goes a long way.

Tune in, and don't forget to follow along at toitime.org and on social media @toitimeblog

Move and Shake Somethin'

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 11:30:12 GMT

This week on Conversations With Toi, we’re talking about what it really looks like to take a bold leap — the kind that shifts your entire life. I’m sharing the lessons I learned moving from a small town to Philadelphia, and how that transition forced me to grow, stretch, and trust myself in new ways.

We’re also getting into the truth about fear: how it convinces us to stay still, shrink, or wait for “perfect timing.” Spoiler — that timing rarely comes. Sometimes you have to move and shake somethin’, even when your knees are knocking. This episode is your reminder that discomfort can be the doorway to your next level.

If you’re navigating a big decision, craving a fresh start, or trying to push past fear, this conversation is for you.

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Weaponized Incompetence You knew

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 17:04:01 GMT

In this episode of Conversations with Toi, I'm diving into the concept of weaponized incompetence—calling out the ways people use it to dodge responsibilities and how we can set better boundaries.

We'll also touch on celebrating Black History Month, sharing clear Valentine's Day wishes with your partner, self-care tips for anyone flying solo, and a quick update on my latest adventures with my Hatch.

Plus, I sprinkled in some thoughts on how big cultural moments—like 50 Cent's Super Bowl DoorDash commercial—get us all talking about what really matters in our relationships and our communities

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The People’s Bishop: Faith, Wellness, and Real‑World Wisdom with Bishop Kevin Foreman

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 05:15:00 GMT

In this inspiring episode of Conversations With Toi, I sit down with the “People’s Bishop,” Bishop Kevin Foreman, for a conversation rooted in faith, wellness, mental health, and everyday common sense. Bishop Freeman opens up about why he embraces the title “The People’s Bishop” and how his mission is grounded in accessibility, authenticity, and serving people where they truly are.

We talk about the importance of emotional and spiritual wellness, the need for honest mental health conversations in faith spaces, and how practical wisdom and faith can coexist in a powerful way. This episode is heartfelt, grounded, and full of the kind of insight that stays with you long after listening.

Special Offer: Text “BISHOP” to 55498 to receive 10% off any of Bishop Foreman’s books and select items.

Connect with Bishop Foreman:

Website: https://www.bishopforeman.com/
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bishopkevinfreeman
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bishopkevinfreeman
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bishopkevinfreeman
X (Twitter): https://twitter.com/bishopfreeman

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Reframe your Wellness Journey

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 05:02:07 GMT

This week on Conversations with Toi, we’re digging into what it really means to reframe your wellness journey—not from perfection, pressure, or comparison, but from honesty, curiosity, and compassion. Wellness isn’t a straight line, and this episode explores how to pause long enough to ask: What is this moment trying to teach me?

We also get into a necessary and layered conversation about therapy, faith spaces, and the narratives that keep people from getting the support they need. From the idea that “therapy is the devil” to the recent story of a therapist walking away from church work, we unpack how stigma, burnout, and unrealistic expectations collide. This is a space for nuance, not judgment.

You’ll hear practical ways to:

• Reframe your thoughts when you feel stuck or overwhelmed

• Identify the trigger beneath the trigger

• Understand what your emotions are signaling instead of fighting them

• Give yourself permission to grow without guilt

If you’re on a wellness journey that feels messy, complicated, or overdue for a reset, this episode is for you.

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From an Empty Cup

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 23:44:04 GMT

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, I'm talking about what it really means to pour from an empty cup — not the cute Instagram version, but the real-life, real-time signs that you’re running on fumes while still trying to show up for everyone else. We’ll break down how to recognize when your cup is drying out, the subtle ways burnout disguises itself as “being strong,” and the emotional toll of constantly giving without replenishing.

I’m also sharing practical, grounded ways to pour back into your own cup — not the generic “take a bubble bath” advice, but the internal work, the boundaries, the rest, and the self-honesty required to refill yourself in sustainable ways. You’ll hear real examples from my own life, because if you’ve been here long enough, you know my life stays being the catalyst for these conversations.

We’re also getting into what I’m still learning: how to express how I feel without being petty, how to honor my emotions after going no contact with people who drained me, and how to navigate the messy middle between protecting your peace and communicating your truth. Growth isn’t linear, and I’m sharing the lessons as I live them.

If you’re tired of pretending you’re okay while running on empty, this episode is for you.

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Survival Mode is not a Lifestyle

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 20:17:49 GMT

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, I'm getting real about something far too many of us normalize—survival mode. It’s that constant state of pushing, grinding, and functioning on fumes, where you’re doing everything except actually living. But here’s the truth: survival mode may help you get through a moment, but it was never meant to become your lifestyle.

We’ll break down what survival mode really is, the subtle and not-so-subtle ways it shows up in your daily life, and how it quietly steals your joy, peace, and presence. From emotional numbness to over-functioning to feeling disconnected from the things you once loved, we’ll explore the signs that you may be stuck in a cycle you didn’t even realize you were in.

Most importantly, I talk about the path out—how to reclaim rest, joy, intention, and the fullness of your life. You deserve more than just “getting by.” You deserve to thrive.

If this episode speaks to you, stay connected with me for more conversations on wellness, intentional living, and emotional growth.

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Spring Transitions & Mental Health

Fri, 10 Apr 2026 04:00:00 GMT

Spring is here, but that doesn’t mean our minds and bodies automatically shift into bloom mode. In this episode of Conversations With Toi, I'm talking about the emotional reality of spring — the mood swings, the pressure to “be outside,” the social re‑entry anxiety, and the messy middle between wanting to grow and wanting to rest.

Let's explore why seasonal transitions hit so differently, how winter survival mode follows us into spring, and what it looks like to rebuild routines gently instead of forcing a glow‑up.

I’m sharing practical grounding tools, sensory resets, and small wellness practices you can weave into real life — especially if you’re balancing work, parenting, and your own mental health.

Spring is an invitation, not a deadline. Let’s talk about how to move through it with intention, softness, and honesty.

Stay connected with me on all socials @toitimeblog, and dive deeper into wellness, lifestyle, and community care on the blog at www.toitime.org.

Not all men-When Hard Truths and Joy Have to Coexist

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 10:31:37 GMT

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses sexual violence, abuse of power, and the recent CNN “Rape Academy” investigation. Please listen with care and step away if you need to. Your wellbeing comes first.

In this episode, we dive into one of the most disturbing and necessary conversations of our time. The CNN “Rape Academy” report has shaken many, and we unpack why these patterns of abuse continue to surface — and why the phrase “it’s never all men, but it’s always men” reflects a painful, recurring reality. We talk about accountability, culture, and the responsibility we all share in calling out those who harm others.

But this episode isn’t only about the darkness. We also explore pockets of joy — the small, intentional moments that keep us grounded when the world feels heavy. These two themes may seem like opposites, but they’re both essential. We can hold space for truth and still choose joy. We can confront harm and still protect our peace.

This is a hard conversation, but hard conversations are how we push for change.

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Are we even safe?

Fri, 24 Apr 2026 17:56:52 GMT

This week on Conversations With Toi, we’re starting with a real check‑in — the kind that goes beyond “I’m fine.” I’m sharing where I am mentally and emotionally as we move through a heavy news cycle and try to stay grounded in our own lives.

From there, we’re diving into the rise in viral violence against women and the emotional toll it’s taking on all of us. These stories aren’t just headlines — they’re reminders of the fear, exhaustion, and hyper‑vigilance women carry every day. We’re talking about the impact, the desensitization, the need for community accountability, and how to protect your peace while staying informed.

To close things out, we’re shifting into something a little lighter but still very real: Bran Flakes, Philly culture, and the influencer community. What does authenticity look like online? How does the Philly creator space move? And what can we learn from the chaos, the humor, and the lessons that come out of it all?

If you’re navigating the weight of the world while still trying to show up for yourself, this episode is for you.

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Educational Support with Amy Impellizzeri and BLOCS

Fri, 01 May 2026 15:16:13 GMT

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, we’re joined by the incredible Amy Impellizzeri to talk about her work with BLOCS and the powerful ways the organization is investing in the next generation of men and women. We dig into the mission behind BLOCS, the importance of educational access, and how community support truly changes futures.

We also highlight the upcoming BLOCS Speaker Series happening May 6th at the Rittenhouse Hotel from 6–8 PM, featuring bestselling author Marie Benedict as she shares insights from her newest book, Daughter of Egypt. Amy gives us a behind‑the‑scenes look at what attendees can expect, why this conversation matters, and how events like this create space for women to learn, lead, and lift one another.

Throughout the episode, we explore the power of women showing up—through donating, advocating, attending, and supporting causes that open doors for others. We talk about what it means to stand in your purpose, especially when your professional mission mirrors your personal values.

And as always, we close with a conversation on self‑care—the kind that goes beyond bubble baths and into boundaries, alignment, and honoring the parts of yourself that need rest while you continue to pour into your community.

If you believe in women supporting women, storytelling that inspires action, and the importance of showing up with intention, this episode is for you.

Get tickets to see Marie Benedict Tickets available https://www.blocs.org/marie

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Type A Energy, Perfectionism, and the Mother’s Day Reality Check

Fri, 08 May 2026 12:11:32 GMT

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, we’re unpacking what it really means to have Type A tendencies—the drive, the structure, the ambition, and yes, the pressure we quietly put on ourselves. We talk about how these traits can be both powerful and overwhelming, and how unlearning perfectionism becomes a necessary part of any real wellness journey. Because being “on” all the time isn’t sustainable, and it definitely isn’t the path to becoming a better version of ourselves.

We also shift into a heartfelt conversation about Mother’s Day—the joy it brings for some, the heaviness it brings for others, and the complicated middle space many people sit in. Whether you’re celebrating, grieving, navigating distance, or redefining what motherhood means in your life, this episode honors the full spectrum of experiences.

You’ll hear reflections on:

How Type A personalities can build healthier rhythms without losing their edge
What it looks like to release perfectionism and embrace progress
Why wellness requires softness, flexibility, and self‑permission
The many emotional layers of Mother’s Day and how to hold space for yourself and others

If you’re ready to rethink how you move through the world—especially during seasons that demand emotional honesty—this episode is for you.

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Doctor Who

Fri, 15 May 2026 03:27:06 GMT

In this episode of Conversations with Toi, I'm unpacking the recent drama surrounding Dr. Cheyenne Bryant—not to add fuel to the fire, but to highlight a deeper conversation we don’t have often enough: why working with a licensed, qualified therapist matters, and why your own clarity and flexibility matter just as much.

When public figures in the mental‑health space become the center of controversy, it can shake people’s trust in therapy altogether. But the truth is this: your healing is too important to hand over to anyone who isn’t trained, licensed, and accountable. And even with the right professional, you still need to come into the process with an understanding of what you need, what you’re working toward, and how open you’re willing to be.

We talk about:

What the Dr. Bryant situation reveals about the importance of credentials, ethics, and real clinical training
How to identify what you need from a therapist so you don’t waste time, money, or emotional energy
Why flexibility in your wellness journey helps you get the most out of therapy
The difference between reinforcing your wellness in every area of your life versus chasing quick fixes or viral moments
How staying the course—quietly, consistently—builds results that last

This episode is a reminder that your healing isn’t a trend. It’s a commitment. And when you choose licensed support, stay flexible, and keep reinforcing your growth in every area of your life, you create change that doesn’t need an audience to be real.

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